Life Uncut - ASK UNCUT - Help!! One night stands, morning breathe and your ex's family.

Episode Date: July 23, 2020

Happy Thursday lovers! It's time for ASK UNCUT where we answer your deep dark and burning questions.Coming up:How do I tell my one night stand I ain't down for spooning sleep overs?Morning sex is great, but what about morning breathe?Navigating complex friendships and can I stay friends with my ex's family?Keep the questions pouring in lovers and if you enjoyed please hit 5 stars and share the love, because, well, we love love. XSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hi guys and welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut. I'm Laura and I'm Brittany and this is Ask Uncut. Our down and dirty episode where we answer your burning questions. It's always short and spicy and you guys write your biggest life problems. And I love it because it makes me feel a hell of a lot more normal. And I hope it makes you feel a little bit normal too, knowing that everyone is going through their shit. Oh yeah, we have a load of problems.

But you know, we just talk about them in the main episode on Tuesdays. So that's fine. Laura calls me up this afternoon. She's like, hey babes, want to go for a walk? Did I say babes? No, you would never say that. Hey babes, let's go for a let's get our step count up. I went through a phase a couple of years ago of babes.

I couldn't help it. It was like, it just came out. Everyone was, hey babes. I'm glad that happened before we were friends. I was long before. You would have slapped it right out of me. Up there with the Lola Derbys. No, I didn't win on the Lola Derby thing though.

Like I tried to put a stop to that on episode two and I got fired by like every single person on Instagram. So like I, as you all know, you've all listened to the episodes. i have been like vehemently against lola derby locano lolacopter lollipop i don't even know what the rest of them are and then then it's just it kind of happened one day that everybody else was on board and i was like okay i'm joining the fucking party come here i remember the first time my old mom soul no that's it is an old mom thing that's what it is no cool person says it because I'm not cool evidently no I remember the first time you actually said it without thinking remember

it just came out in an episode I nearly died I was like yes this happened and you were like put a bullet in me Brit said to me the other day she was like if you had another girl what would you call it and I was like ah we were always tossing up between Marley and Lola like Lola's a name that I've always loved and she was like you know you can't call your daughter Lola because everyone's just gonna call it lol because of the podcast everyone's gonna call it like loladebby you she ruined it like that was my next name on my list and it was there and it was sacred and it was beautiful and it meant something to me and then she just sullied it don't you think it's more meaningful now come on it is it's cute now it has something to tie to me it's that or britney

you decide oh god coming off the back of i think it was the last episode we just made this mention of what happens when a friendship gets to a different stage so when one person has a child and the other person doesn't and we sort of Laura and I had this discussion on you need to adapt the friendship I think it more came from the fact that like we both went down the south coast you went snorkeling and scuba diving with whales and I had a babysitter for two hours and I was like my life is oh fine but it is and you and your life is going to be different and one of you are going to have to make some sacrifices for your friend that has a child and then one day that'll be reverse and I just thought today was a prime example of it so I get this call from Laura

wait what happened today hey Brit what you doing because we just live down the hill from each other I live down the hill okay actually this is a crucial piece of information I live down the hill a couple hundred meters from Laura just like just like a proper incline we live like 500 meters from each other it makes this whole recording a podcast and being like super close friends thing great she calls me she's like let's go for a walk brilliant I'll meet you in five minutes so I walk out the front of my house and she always walks past me and I we go together so she walks down and she's like oh thank god take the dog and I'm like oh okay great I'll take the dog very difficult to try and walk buster and push a pram at the same time so it was helpful so we get a

little bit further down and she's like oh do you just mind I'm just gonna do some shopping and I was like okay like that's yeah like cool you got anywhere to be and I'm like nah got so much to do just cancel all my plans I'm like no okay show me she's like oh great pass me the dog and the baby in the pram she's like just wait here and i was like okay bye guys i've got to get three things i can carry them in one hand so off she goes inside then oh marley started walking so she's trying to break out of the pram like it's jail buster's just hobbling around on three legs i'm out the front with this dog mom everyone like if i'm single i'm never gonna get a partner now because i look like crazy mom lady out the front that's what i look like every day then she comes

back like what feels like an hour later it wasn't with a full with a full shopping she's done a trolley she's gotten in there and she's felt like she's on vacay she's like running up and down the aisles she comes back with a full shopping trolley then we're like she's like oh I better get home and I'm like yeah we better get home I always like stop halfway up the hill and she's like oh I'm just so tired and I was like and also the pram was really heavy because it was full of all my groceries because it has the gross so she looks at me she's like I'm just so tired and I look at her for a second I'm like you want me to push the pram up the hill to your house don't you she's like yes that would be amazing thanks for offering I did not do that you offered I feel I feel

personally victimized here none of that okay like the grocery part happened that I asked did she mind if I whipped into Woolies for a second but they're pushing the pram up the hill part I offered yes because a it's fitness for me b I will do anything for you and you were tired you were enjoying my company and we were discussing the podcast and the funniest part was she gets why are you still talking listen she gets to the she gets to her the back of her door and we're two meters away down a hill and it wasn't even to be funny she goes i can take it from here babe it's pretty exhausting sometimes it was so trying to juggle a dog a baby and britney and a britney anyway so um i'm glad that we aired that and it was thanks for making me sound like an arsehole

dude i love spending time with marley i got my step can out and i was like i put pushed a sled up a hill so it's like so basically you should be thanking me you're welcome that was a very long-winded intro to us answering your questions but guys this week we have had actually the last fortnight while we've been away we have received so many questions from you guys and we we feel so grateful that you trust us with our advice and that you keep on sending them in and like you know some of them are really funny and some of them are really heartbreaking there's just so many different questions that we receive and it really makes us realize that everybody is going through different things so we're gonna kick it off because this is supposed to be our quick

episode of the week yeah but it still has to be a funny life episode all right I'll just get into it are you ready okay so sometimes i want to have a one night stand but i just want the sex part and then i want them to go home i don't want them to stay don't we all you're like i want my fiance to do that he's just got nowhere else to go this happened to me on the weekend and i need to know how to navigate it i had sex and i wanted him to go he just cuddled on in hard spooned harder and i just laid there like a salmon not knowing what to do help you can imagine her laying there like really straight like cardboard with her eyes wide open just being like how do i get out of this and him just like lovingly spooning behind her this is not a problem though this is not i think this is

this is a problem to her right now and if that's the worst thing that's happening to you i think you're doing pretty well but it's still a problem no i don't mean it's not a problem as in no it's a problem no one wants to be spooned if they don't want to be spooned like that's like don't get at your own side of the bed i mean there is a way around this that's very simple and that is you just have to play the away game what's the away game what's whoa hang on this could be life changing play the away game don't bring them home to your house you go to their house oh and then you leave on your terms okay I have thoughts on this I think that's all well and good but there are a lot of people myself included that like to be in the comfort of their own home and they like

to be in control because especially for a woman I think she likes to be in her own space with all her things because women need more than men right but that was all great points don't listen to me I thought you meant play the away game like um you have to go away in the morning actually you could do that say you've got to go away really early in the morning so they should go home see my thing was like I never and I never enjoyed inviting guys back to my house like I didn't want them in my space so that's why I would much prefer to go to their place so you can leave so then I can leave and I have full autonomy I can leave at any point in time if they make me feel uncomfortable if I don't want to be there like I can get up and go whereas like it does make it

harder when you have someone in your house to physically make them leave especially if they've been drinking have a little have sex have a cuddle they fall asleep and then you're kind of stuck with them for whatever reason if you're hell-bent on having them come back to your house and you've only just met them it's this is all you know you know it's going to be a one-night stand there's no like harm in kind of either beforehand saying I want you to come back to my house but you can't stay or afterwards being like I've got to get up super early in the morning you can't stay I I want to start I want to kick start my speech it's not a speech don't worry but I want to kick start this with um saying first and foremost women have a problem with speaking up when they're uncomfortable

and when they want to say no to things absolutely I've done it every woman I know feels like they can't say no or make someone feel uncomfortable if you do not want to do anything with anyone if you want someone to leave if you're uncomfortable don't feel bad you straight up can tell them I understand that confrontation is hard no one wants it you don't want to hurt people's feelings it's awkward it's embarrassing but don't do something like this girl did where she said I just didn't know how to do it so I just let him stay even though I didn't want him to you don't have to do that you can literally just say hey I have a really really early start I need to get some sleep so um why don't we call you an uber and I'll give you a buzz tomorrow easy as that

you don't even have to call them if you don't want but like that's your out you don't know this person so you can't be worried about offending them in a way like you not you selling them to go home after one night stand they're not going to be as offended as you think they are they're gonna be like i got used i got used i was used it reminds me from that scene from bridesmaid you know you know how she's in bed and he's like oh i don't want to be a dick but i really want you to leave and she's like oh okay well I guess that's a clear way of doing it I totally agree with what you've just said Britt I think that is I think that that's a point that needs to be driven home more often and I think that women need to have the confidence at any point at any time no matter

what they're doing or what is happening to them to be able to say I've changed my mind I don't want to do this I'm not comfortable you could literally be in the middle of having sex with a guy and if you want to get off and go home and change your mind you shouldn't feel so uncomfortable or fearful that you are going to offend that person the priority is you do what's best for you and you leave in this instance like you do have to kind of put your big girl panties on literally put them back on or just any panties just put any just put some panties on and verbalize that you're not comfortable and you want them to leave you're not gonna you're probably not gonna see the guy anyway so who cares if you offend him a little bit it is honestly guys the easiest line is hey

i have a really really early start so i'm gonna try and get some sleep that's it i i don't know if that's i think it's got to be more like i have a really early start and so i don't want you to stay tonight i think you need to be direct but the early start thing that's your that's your line to get out of it absolutely you can sleep until midday girl but that's you that's you're out i've got to work i've got to meet my mom i've got whatever it's an early start call him an uber tell him you'll call him tomorrow yeah and be be direct i think that sometimes we're too nice with our words And that's what gets us into these situations. Because if you're too soft and you haven't given someone a clear indication of what you

actually want and what's acceptable, then they might have misinterpreted you and think that you want them to say, oh, you've got an early start, so you want to get some sleep. Okay, we'll go to sleep now. The take-home message is you don't have to do anything. And please, please never, ever feel like you do. 100%. Boom. I love it.

We agreed. All play their way game. Either of those is fine. Oh, yeah. Just go to his house, otherwise. Question numero due. where oh look i'm just gonna add one more thing oh bloody hell we moved on i have to when you're in the past when you say if you're gonna go home to somebody else's house that you absolutely do

not know fine but just tell one of your friends where you're going or make sure someone in your life knows who he is or where you're off to or something about him or some way to contact you my sister has has me on her find my friends i didn't know that she knows where i am all the time I didn't know that she she she called me a few weeks ago she's like where are you I was supposed to be coming for dinner and I was like I'm two seconds away I'm sorry she's like well you're not I can see you're still at home and I was like excuse me she's like I put you on find my friends for this exact reason but she's like I don't care about your whereabouts at night time I just care about your whereabouts because you're always running late she said if you got kidnapped

I could find you brilliant so I mean I'm making fun of it but it's actually a really smart idea so anyway that was just a throwaway that I wanted to tag on to the end no I completely agree I completely agree okay question number two so following on from this is how to deal with morning breath I know it's a thing and not necessarily embarrassing nor am I necessarily embarrassed by it I try not to judge someone who has it but I need to know how to manage it in a chill way so that we can wake up and have sex and get it going without getting out of bed how the hell does one do this is this a legitimate question proper question she even put the blushy face at the end look blush emoji I love this okay I like that this is not very serious

um I it's a problem isn't it I think it's a problem I'm like really really I'm not the person to ask on this because I will not make out with someone someone being mad anyone I won't make out with this mythical random man who is my fiance I won't make out with Matt unless he's brushed his teeth in the morning it's it's not it's not sexy not sexy because I don't feel sexy I feel like furry and like I smell and he's furry and he smells and he has Invisaligns and that's even smellier just get up and brush your teeth and then get it on I don't know anyone that wakes up sexy and wakes up ready to go I mean there'd be a few people in the world but it's it's such a normal thing I think everyone has this you can't help it I actually don't think it's a bad

thing to get up and like in the morning you normally would go wash your face go to the toilet do whatever you want to do have a shower brush your teeth then go back to bed and you're crystal clear i don't think you need to have a full shower and like do your makeup and shit i know the makeup i just freshen up i think you just can like get up as though you're going to the bathroom to go to the toilet and then go to the toilet and also brush your teeth okay the question though is what if she does that but she has an issue with the guy because the guy just rolls over and he's ready to go but really he smells like a dumpster i think that's what she's saying too i i think that you can say to them like babe you have to brush your teeth I can't wait to have sex with you but go

brush your teeth or do you know the what the other thing is if you've gone and you've you've brushed your teeth and you've listerined your mouth you know how fresh and spicy that is then if you go back he will smell it on your mouth or he will taste it and he will register that he probably needs to do that that's what I think don't you reckon no I think you're being too generous I'm always like that aren't I I think especially if you if it's your boyfriend and you guys have been together for a little while or if it's guy that you're dating you both actually really like each other i think it's fine and not offensive in the morning because everybody knows that they smell to say how about we both go brush our teeth and go do that and then come back and get real

sexy because there's nothing like a bit of teeth brushing for some good foreplay oh that really gets my juices going okay so that's if you've been with someone you're comfortable with them what if you've just seen them once or twice how do you be like babe your breath stinks like how do you can't believe they said that yeah well I can't believe they said that in bed will be the next sub segment I kind of think if you've been dating someone for only one or two dates like you can't say oh you can't just be like your breast stings after a date no you can't do it after a date but if it's like repetitive it's going to be a turn off and so I think at some point if you really can't get into it because

it's too smelly like you could just roll over and be like babe you know what really gets me going when you brush your teeth Listerine say it like you're dirty talking to him I just want you to go and brush your teeth sorry that was really that made me feel uncomfortable I know you were panting like you actually panted if you really really want to think of something outside the box you could keep some mints by the bed yes but I mean then you're gonna be making out you're gonna have a mint in your mouth I think it's just much easier to get up brush your teeth give yourself a bit of mouthwash encourage your loved one to do the same and then get it on down to funky town I also think I'm having so many thoughts I also I was like I think we've covered

this one I feel like it's not such a complex question that we need to really dive into the mechanics it's great to play it out I think a lot of morning sex a lot of people don't get as passionate and kissy kissy as like a nighttime sex sometimes it's like a a spoony one or like you know I didn't think people pash as much yeah I mean like for some people it's like sleepy morning sex it's kind of on the side and like you know you don't even have to face each other you don't even have to kiss it's pretty woman style that's what I mean so I feel like if you could either just play play it that way for a little while until you're comfortable enough to tell him to brush his teeth I think that's what you do or um and then after a few days be like

hey let's do that thing where we crush our teeth where we do hygiene that hygiene thing and then we'll go back to bed so anyway I think we've covered that one I reckon that one has been exhausted all right question number three that was funny though I didn't choose that question but I think that's a great question because like everybody well not everybody but a lot of people enjoy morning sex and I think very few people would just roll straight over and get on top of each other maybe in the very early days but I think the longer you've been dating the more you're inclined to be like, I'm going to go do a week and come back. The longer you're dating, you're like, get the hell off me.

What is morning sex? You're like, what are you doing? It's not the 23rd of the month yet. Sorry, this is not, it's not 7pm right now, darling. Can you please stop? The baby's going to wake up. I have a group of really close friends and we all have known each other since primary school. 20 plus years.

We still catch up all the time. We live in the same suburb still. We celebrate birthdays together, weekends away together. I am beginning to realize though although I do think I've known deep down for a long time that one of the girls I just really don't align with we have different values different interests and really different lives outside of this close friendship group our values are so different that I just really don't know if I want to keep hanging out with her but how do I approach that when she's one of seven in our group I don't want to lose my other close best friends but I also don't really

want to keep spending so much time with her I've a lot of what she says and how she acts I find very problematic and I think most people would in today's climate what do I do how do I navigate this thank you and much love I think this is a really hard one um but my first question would be you say a lot of people would find that the things that she says or the things that she the way that she behaves questionable do your other friends find it questionable like are you one of many in that group who are unhappy with her behavior or is it just you in that group who's unhappy with her behavior and the things that she says because I think that that's a really important part of this not that you should go bitching about her and asking questions behind

her back but I think that generally when you're very very close to a group of friends you would you would get a feel or understand if there's been some sort of a rift or other people are not happy with somebody else in that group. I think you kind of just get a gauge for that. But I think it's amazing that you've been able to have a 20-year friendship with seven girlfriends. And that's a really, really special thing to be able to keep and maintain in your adult life. And you know, it's not abnormal that there's going to be one person from that group who you're not as close to or whose values don't align perfectly with yours. But for the sake of being able to keep such a wonderful connection with the rest of your friends, then you may have to continue

to tolerate her it's funny isn't it because like you just said it's not often that a whole group stays friends for like the 20 years or from school there's always like my best friend and I've been best friends since we're five and there's a group of us that are still in contact but to have a group so close still is abnormal I'm straight up gonna say it yeah that's wonderful though it's a really special thing it is wonderful but the point I'm getting at is the fact of the matter is you are different people now as adults navigating life than you were when you were 20 years old, 15 years old. So it just sounds like you two aren't in alignment anymore. And I don't think you need to be friends with someone that you don't agree with in any way in life. Having said that

there is a group of you and that's the problem. Yes. So I agree with this. I thought you were going to go down the trajectory then saying like, you don't need to be friends with people you don't want to. And I was like, well, Oh no, I do think that, but I just think it's difficult in this situation. I just think you, you can't really break away properly because it'll ruin the whole friendship, but what you can do is you go to the dinner and you sit at the other end of the table and you talk to the people that you're closer with. People always navigate to different people in friendship groups. And then you don't have to go and hang out with her one-on-one. Everything you do, you just sort of sit with the people you get along with more. And I'm sure if you think

you don't get along with her, she probably feels the same way about you. She probably doesn't agree with your beliefs either. So I don't think she's going to be offended that you're at the other end of the table. And I guess like, I'm curious to know like what, what is this mismatch in like beliefs or what is this mismatch in like your your moral sort of compass that you have with her like is she bigoted is she racist like are there things about what she's saying that are actually really damaging and and things that need to be addressed or is it just that you guys don't see eye to eye because if it's that you don't see eye to eye then maybe your friendships like the actual friendship group that you have is more important to stay intact than what it is to try and separate

and marginalize people because that will end up breaking up the group and there is a chance that you will end up being the one who's on the outer not her so that's a really important aspect of this to take into account I don't think it's fair to start excluding her or to not invite her to things but you are allowed to do things with smaller people from that group so if the group is seven why don't you why don't you start doing things with the two people you're closest with or the three people that you're closest with but make sure that you're not just excluding one person because that's that's a really mean way of addressing this situation I think something you just said then really struck me it does depend on what the views are that you're not

in alignment with because I know personally there are a few things I'm friends with everyone but there are a few things that I can't tolerate in a friendship and one of those is racism if I will not be friends with someone that's racist I won't because there's I just can't I don't have anything in common with them and that's something to me that I feel very very strongly about and with everything that's happening in the world right now I think that you can't be silent to somebody's if somebody's views are that conflicting and their views are dangerous then you can't be silent in that and and you know we've all seen from what's been happening in the world the Black Lives Matter a movement the importance of speaking up the importance of being anti-racist so I mean we

are just assuming that these are these this could be her issues that she's having but if it's not in that sort of like realm if it's purely that just you guys aren't aligned as people then I think that this is a really really tricky one because normally I would fully agree with the whole concept of like in your adult life you don't maintain friendships that don't give you something they're not fulfilling you and giving you purpose because we just don't have the time to waste on individuals who don't fill up our love cup basically but if she is a part of a bigger group and that bigger group fills up your love cup then I do think that there is going to be a level of tolerance that has to come in here yeah absolutely there's definitely ways for you to navigate it

like Laura said sit at the other end of the table do some things with a smaller group but not just excluding her and I think you can get on with it pretty peacefully unless she's really really making you uncomfortable of course then you can say something to her but you can say it you know you can say it diplomatically and you can say it in a loving friendship way too like I don't agree with what you said or have you even said that I've had debates with my friends on things we haven't agreed with and we've stayed friends it's just that two people can definitely have an opinion it just depends if there are other parts of your relationship that are fulfilling you if you're not getting any sort of fulfillment from her like it is so healthy to have a disagreement

with a friendship and well not a disagreement but to have different opinions and debate something I find that very healthy because that's what makes life and relationships interesting and you learn from each other you might go in really strongly with an opinion and when you hear her reasoning you might think to yourself I can see where she's coming from question number four I'm going to summarize this one because it was quite long but these are my words this is my words but her story basically she was in a relationship for 10 years with her partner they broke up he broke up with her and they have nothing to do with each other anymore nothing and she definitely doesn't want anything to do with him no texting no contact she doesn't want to know anything about him

but she was very close to his family and he has three sisters she wants to know if she can maintain the relationship with his family or if she needs to cut ties with him because that's inappropriate so she wants to be having dinners and hanging out with the sisters and seeing the parents and all that kind of stuff knowing she wants nothing to do with her ex so she wants to know if she can do that or if it's inappropriate what a little pickle tickle have you ever I've got some feels I so my ex relationship the one that I touched on in the last episode that very toxic and dysfunctional relationship the one of the best things about that relationship is that I was really close to his mum and we were very good friends like we were always speaking on

Facebook. She would call me more than she would call him. She just started dating again. And we would talk about her dating life and we were, we were super close. And then when I broke up with him, it made it impossible for me to be able to maintain that friendship because I felt like I was constantly being reattached in some way, even, even just because that's the connection. So for me, I needed to fully cut, cut ties and cut that friendship and not maintain that. But i do know that there's other people like i know for example brit you're one of your good friends is the sister of an ex of yours yeah yeah so you've met like laura's met her um i won't say name but she's one of my really really close friends she lives nearby um and this was my ex

we dated for eight years and he was a great guy and i was so close to his family so much like this girl's written in she was with him for 10 years i adore her and we have a very very strong friendship now but we have a friendship that is removed from our relationship I literally we don't talk about him or anything to do with that we see each other and we catch up like friends and I think that's a really important difference I don't go to their family home I don't hang out with them like that I don't look at her like my ex-sister I look at her like my friend and we've managed to do that and I understand that that's probably rare but I think we could only do that because I'm not in that environment anymore and I'm not pretending life's not going on like it

was just with him removed we have made our own life her and I as as friends down the track in different cities and and it's brilliant and I couldn't do it it's a it's not fair to your ex partner if he's trying to move on with his life too he can't know that you're hanging out with his family probably more than he's hanging out with his family so I think that's really hard and if he gets a new partner she it will be really hard for her and I'm sure she'll be pretty upset knowing how much his family's hang out with his ex-girlfriend I feel like it just gets too messy and there comes a time where you need to cut it and let it go I think you totally hit the nail on the head with this idea of like you can be friends with your ex's family with with members

from your ex's family but you don't get to be a part of the family anymore this part of your life that you're in right now is part of the breakup process. It's part of that weaning yourself off because you don't just break up with a person. You break up with your whole identity. You break up with their family. You break up with the person that you were as a couple and you break up with that person. So I think that this is part of the breakup process. It's part of what hurts so much about breakups. And yes, I think it's fine for you to maintain contact and maintain friendships with his family but I don't think it's fine for you to be to maintain being a part of his family it's also very different if there are children involved sure you're going to be a part of the

family forever oh yeah 100% absolutely she hasn't said that and I'm assuming there's not because I feel like she would have said that that's very different you have a tie then and a responsibility that those children grow up knowing their families and everything else so that's different but in this sense you just need to get on with your life imagine if we all stayed really good friends with every ex's family like it's messed up like collecting i'm just collecting families collecting but i mean like i get it when you've been with someone for 10 years it's such a long time and you do feel like you're breaking up with your own family when i broke up with um i was about to say his name i've never said his name keep that on the down when i broke up with him

after eight years I was beside myself and I remember my I told my mum and she burst into tears she was so upset and she said I just love him so much and I'm gonna miss him so much he was family he was at our house every day for eight years and he was the nicest human and my mum was like I feel like we are all breaking up with him and and it is you there is this loss and this mourning of of love and a second family and everything you've done together and memories and the ideas of the life you're going to have together. Like a breakup's not just a breakup and you lose one person.

You lose so many aspects of your life. There are so many people that are hurt in a breakup. It's not just you or him. It's all types of people in all the family. And I think you can stay in contact with them. I think you can check in, have some phone calls, text them for their birthdays. But I think it's time to slowly step away.

Yeah, I totally agree. And maybe there'll be people out there who have had different experiences. And if you have had a different experience then I'd love to hear that it's very important to kind of like Brit said to to draw a line in the sand between the difference of if you have children and if you don't have children because children are a whole different ball game but if you don't have children and you've managed to maintain a long-term friendship and connection with an ex's family without it being weird in

any way I would love to hear someone who's done that because honestly I don't know anybody who has managed to do it and without it just dragging up those intense and and hurtful emotions and prolonging that breakup process well guys that's it that's it that's us and our ask uncut special i mean i always say it's special but we do it every week but thank you to every single person who's written in messages if you have a question for next week's episode be sure to write into our instagram page it's at life uncut podcast just put ask uncut at the top because we get so many messages, which is amazing, but we have to try and filter through and figure out which ones are accidentally unfiltered and which ones are asking uncut. And now which ones are, I can't believe

they said that. Yeah. There's a lot going on in our inbox. It's wild. I have 26,000 unread emails on my phone. So you need to make this job as easy for us as possible. I'm just, I'm swapping up now. Does that make you uncomfortable? 26,411, probably more now. I've got 4,000 in one and 1,000 in the other and i've got 19 unread messages that have been there for ages i can't even just normal phone messages i can't even oh i have like 400 unread messages i saw it on yours the other day and i was like what if mine were in there guys i'm gonna send you a screenshot of what my phone looks like if i was someone who had ocd it would cause me wild amounts of anxiety but i actually just don't care i love living like this makes me feel wild and free enough of us guys we will be back next

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