Life Uncut - ASK UNCUT - Hens parties, bi-curios and friendship breakdowns

Episode Date: January 19, 2022

It's ASK UNCUT, where we answer your deep dark and burning questions.But before we start, we want to chat about Leonardo DiCaprio and his light sabre. The dating world is tough, and we are unpacking some wild and terrible first date stories.Then we get stuck into your questions I have a close group of girlfriends but I don't like some of the girls that much, do I have to invite them to my hens? I love my boyfriend, but I'm bi-curious and the sex is boring... I'm falling out with my childhood friends, should I stick it out If you have a question for ASK UNCUT slide on into the DM's @lifeuncutpodcastSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hi guys and welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut. I'm Laura. I'm Brittany and it is therapy thursday it is our very first ask uncut back here off the ranks ready to roll answering all your deep dark and burning questions and we do have a couple of cracker questions for you coming up later in the episode but laura wants to bring a bit of an article to kickstart i mean this is like the most lowbrow article that we're ever gonna get sometimes we unpack really important things and sometimes they're really unimportant well she's been sitting here giggling for the best part of half an hour and i'm like are you gonna tell me you're gonna preface what this is so I actually can get my head around it and she refuses to.

So please, please share with me. So there is, there's an article that's come out and it's around Leonardo DiCaprio. But I just want to give you, I want to give you the quote first because that's kind of like where this all stemmed from. It's got to be about him dating like a 20-year-old supermodel. Breaking news. Leonardo DiCaprio's ex-girlfriend, Camilla Marone,

details the worst date of my life with the actor. He rented out a whole cinema and made me watch every single Star Wars movie while he ran around with his lightsaber pretending to fight bad guys what hang on how is this breaking new and hang on hang on how is this breaking news and me i'm pretty sure that camilla marone is his current girlfriend not his ex girlfriend so apparently this was originally posted by a satire instagram page called i'm gonna butcher this because i can't speak french but i think it's lasagne files if it's not for

If it's not that, then don't come for me in the reviews. But it was posted by a satire Instagram and a whole lot of very reputable news sources actually picked up this post from like retweets and everything else and ran news articles around it saying that Leonardo has actually rented out this cinema, forced his girlfriend to watch him run around with a lightsaber. And people are reporting on this that it's a fact.

Yes, to the point where Leonardo DiCaprio has had to come out and say that he never did that. it's all fake news imagine having to put a statement out saying I didn't make my girlfriend run around in a private cinema with a lightsaber you know what this actually reminds me this is actually funny and this is probably the reason that that satire story had legs because Jonah Hill who is a friend of his they've just done a movie together don't look up I think it is I only got through half of it I couldn't do it I've only started a tube don't at me was confused by the whole thing but jonah hill had put out a statement as well obviously i don't know if he was taking

the piss too but he said that leo made him like get really involved in the mandolin franchise and like have lightsabers and stuff as well so there's obviously like a star warsy lightsaber trend going on so now people just think leo's crazy but also i feel like actors are a bit kooky so if you read that you'd believe it you believe it like it's fine and also if leonardo dicaprio wanted to take me on a date and force me to watch eight hours of star wars i'd fucking do it yes if i had to wield a lightsaber as well with Leo in a private cinema sign me up where's the ticket I think it's the last part of it while he ran around with his lightsaber pretending to fight bad guys that was the bit it sounds a bit sexy doesn't it too he got a private cinema and he's running

around with his lightsaber oh I don't think it does but okay do you know what I really wanted to throw this out because I was like we've all experienced bad dates and I know that we're here to answer your questions but before we get into that I chucked a thing up on my Instagram after reading this and I was like I just want to know I want a couple of stories I thought there's going to be a few of you who have had dates that are actually real dates not satire dates that are probably just as bad as this one anyone that hasn't had a bad date you are not living you need to go out there and get yourself a bad date I mean we've heard mine over the last two years I've had some hectic dates I feel like it's the only way that you appreciate the good ones and let me tell

you there was some fucking crackers that came through okay I'm gonna read a couple of these out to you, but I actually think I received hundreds and hundreds, if not thousands of messages. So I'm going to spend my day today going through them. And I think we actually need to do a bonus episode of all of these. We definitely need to do a bonus episode of this. Maybe we need to do one every two months or one a quarter, like one bad date episode a quarter. Because they never stop. Okay. So here are a couple that had me chuckling on the couch last night. I went on a double date to see a movie. It was all going pretty smooth until halfway through. he just ghosted me like literally in person it was not experience watching the last half of the

movie in silence and then leaving the cinema by myself he went to the toilet and just never came back oh my god well did anyone check on him maybe he passed out in the bathroom he just left okay a guy picked me up to go on an adventure which involved actually just going to the police station to pick up his lost phone we waited for three hours at the police station did i mention that this was a first date also by the time we got his phone back we then went to go get messina and it had closed so literally just spent three hours sitting at a police station and then never heard from him again he just wanted a ride to the cop shop so bad also i feel like these give you a little bit of sense of like comfort you're like fuck somebody else is doing it worse than i am

i literally had a friend come over here two days ago sat right where you're sitting laura and she had just been on a date she's like i fucking need to tell you how bad this day was she'd been talking to this guy for a while online and they finally decided to meet up because he was pretty boring as fuck and he never wanted to do anything she's like fucking just finally meet me so they finally met up they went on a ferry ride that's what they did random they went on a ferry ride then they got back he was really really boring he was really really rude they get back and he's like oh i guess we could have a drink and she's like this is night time in the city in sydney and she's like oh okay like i guess whatever if i have to she's like well how about we go somewhere a bit closer to

like my home and he's like oh no that's really inconvenient for me let's just go somewhere closer to my home she was like okay and i was like why are you agreeing to this so they find this random bar in the city they walk in and he sits down and says to her uh just get me whatever you get so first of all he makes her go get the drinks so she goes and gets the drinks brings them back sits down he goes I'll have two so she got him two drinks and she only got one he smashed the two drinks she's only halfway through one night time in the city he gets an alert on his phone that says the last train from Wynyard is leaving in five minutes he skulls the rest of his drink goes you'll be fine to get yourself home won't you and left and walked out left her

alone in the city with her drink that she had just bought him that's it I was like what the who does this who who does this you know what I think that we all need to have a little bit more confidence in saying no and if you're on a terrible date sometimes I think we are scared about hurting someone's feelings so we sit through a bad date or we sit through an uncomfortable encounter because we don't want to offend someone you don't know them if you don't like them I think that there needs to be a little bit more of it being okay to like momentarily offend someone if they're making you uncomfortable if someone's being rude if you don't feel safe if you don't like it if you don't like them if you know that there's absolutely no vibe just being up front

and saying hey do you know what this isn't really what I expected I don't think that this is going to be anything and leave or go to the toilet and don't come back yeah I mean like maybe address it but just leave don't stay at a first date longer than you need to if you're absolutely not interested in it I just can't believe what gets me is and like I don't know why I'm so shook because I've been on these dates i have been on these dates but i'm so shook that a man would leave a woman alone in the city at night by herself instead of just all he had to say is hey the train's gonna leave i'll just make sure you get back to the station i'll make sure you get on the train i mean they say chivalry is dead but sometimes it actually is dead it is dried up

and dead i have two more that i want to share with you before we actually do a full episode Okay, so this is the bonus episode. Laura. I've had a few really strange dates, but this one takes the cake. It was my first date with a guy and I went back to his place to watch a movie, you know. And while we were watching it, I heard... I heard a chickabang bang. Well, that's what you would think.

But anyway, she was in for a surprise. She hears the microwave go off. Ping! The guy gets up, then emerges with a bowl of steaming hot water. Then he reaches for a tea towel and performs a steam bath to cleanse his sinuses. Then he collects his nasal irrigation device and cleaned out his sinuses in front of me on the couch. Finally, as he sits down again with me in absolute horror,

a cockroach flies out of his blinds and onto his shirt. If there's anything that's going to put your panties back on, it is cleansing your sinuses. And a cockroach. So she gets up and leaves. Okay, and last one. Went to dinner with a guy and he flirted with the waitress straight off the bat. Made me feel really guilty about how much the dinner cost,

even though he chose the place. and i offered to split the bill we then went for a drink afterwards why i don't know he asked me and i just said yes to be polite once again stop being polite and while we were drinking our beer he leans in really close to my face inspecting it and then says have you ever broken your nose i haven't oh okay enough of that let's get into the more important part of this episode let's get into ask uncut all right ask on a cut i'm gonna come in hot with number one i'm engaged and my bridesmaids have recently started planning my hens and asked me who i want to invite

i know that typically people invite their close friend groups however there are one or two girls in this group who I'm no longer close to and one that I really don't get along with anymore and I don't like to be around should I invite the whole group for the sake of not making things awkward for the group or should I only invite the people I really want to and really like even if it could make things super awkward you're right this is awkward as fuck this is so awkward especially if it's one person it's like one particular person okay what do you think it's really awkward if there's only one person in your whole friend okay I'm like I have two opinions and two pretty strong opinions I really think for hens engagement parties weddings everything to do with your

really big special day I don't think you should have to have people there for the sake of other people's feelings and the sake of keeping peace I think it's your special day if you end up inviting people that you don't like, it's going to affect you in one way or the other. And ultimately at the end of the day for a wedding, you're paying for it. You're paying person per head. This is the hens party. So I feel like it's a little bit different and you haven't said if this person will be going to the wedding or if this issue is the same for the wedding and the hens. Are you trying to decide if you invite them to the wedding as well? If it's just one person in the whole group for the hens I'd probably lean towards that you should probably just invite them and if there's

enough people there you might not notice it but I don't have the same sentiment with the wedding I think people can come to your hens that don't come to your wedding I'm a big believer in that I look at a hens as like a big party I don't think everybody has to go to the wedding and I know people will disagree with that but in this situation imagine how much more awkward it's going to be when you invite 19 of your 20 friends and that one girl like what are you even going to say to her I have to be honest I'm shook that you think that you could invite people to your hen's party and they'll not invite them to your wedding absolutely isn't that weird isn't that weird to be like hey come to my party but I don't like you enough to come to my wedding not in this

day and age because there are a lot of caps on weddings and things like that so I feel like it's like hey I'm gonna have 30 people at my wedding but I'd love you to come and celebrate and like send me off into the married life and let's all get drunk and party like that's what I think I think now you can differentiate the two I've always found it weird when people invite you to their engagement party but don't invite you to their wedding that's a bit more weird but for the hens it's like let's just party yeah because I'm like okay so you want me to come to your engagement party and bring you a present but you don't like me enough to invite me to your wedding uh okay cool know where I stand in the ranking of our friendships I guess the only thing with

this that I think is a bit difficult I would understand if you had had a fight if there's been like a reason that you've had a falling out or if there's like something that she does maybe she gets super drunk and is really inappropriate and it's just a total liability in which case totally understand why you wouldn't want her there if it's just someone in your friendship group who you don't like as much as the rest of your friends and like it's a tight friendship group I'm not talking about like you know you've got a big open acquaintance kind of group if you've like a tight-knit group of girls and there's one person who you just don't mesh with as much as the others I would personally still invite them only because for me the drama of not inviting them

what that would cause would be way more stressful than just like having them there on the day so I think that's the thing you got to weigh up right like what's going to be the bigger issue the drama that could follow on what could be the byproduct of not inviting them to the hens verse having them there in the first place that's it and it's different if there were like five or six or seven people that weren't invited and you were just saying look I've just got a cap numbers you know I love you but I have to have a smaller group but it's just one it's one or two and I feel like it's just it's going to create way more trouble than it's probably worth because she doesn't know you don't like her and you're going to have to give her a reason yeah that

that's like a really that's a statement that's the line in the sand that's you saying I don't like you like that's not really something that you can come back from so if you want to make a really clear definitive line in the sand as to where your friendship stands, which is we don't have one. Yeah. This is your perfect opportunity. I don't know. I just feel like I know that not everybody's going to agree with this because I do agree with what you said, Britt. I do think that when it comes to weddings and engagement parties and everything else, you can be a little bit selfish. I just worry that sometimes we use those big events and they can create more issues. They can create more stress which actually means that on the day it's not as enjoyable because you've

been so stressed out and so upset about all your family and all your friendships and connections that maybe those issues could have been avoided a little bit let us know what you do i'm uncomfortable brit like when brit gets uncomfortable she doesn't know where to put her hair i don't she's like just sitting here with her hands in the air for you because i really involve myself in this situation. Sometimes she masturbates. Ew. I transport. That was so random. I was trying to think of something you could do with your hands. I mean, there's a multitude of things I could do other than masturbate over someone's ass gun cut about a wedding. Oh my gosh. Do you know what though? This is a total sidestep. We received a message recently. It was a confessional and I'm

just going to slide it in here. One of our listeners sent us a confessional saying that they masturbated in their car listening to the episode on kinks and i forgot about it yeah and you just reminded me i'm so here for it i love that you did that i love that you told us you did that well done you're living your best bloody life still shocked though i'm still pretty shook by the whole thing anyway as an update i feel very uncomfortable for you i think not the masturbating girl no getting married for both for all people involved okay i think we need to go on to the question number two all right question number two this is also a friendship related question and there were honestly so many friendship questions that came in across the dms

over the christmas break over new year's and still now and i think it's because january december it's a very transformative time i think it's a time of a lot of self-reflection where we kind of look at different parts of our lives that aren't necessarily making us happy and that definitely goes for this one. Okay, I have been going through a bit of a falling out with a group of childhood friends. There are three of them and I've known them since primary school. I'm 23, hustling and working full-time and I often do make time to meet up with my friends. However, I've noticed that I have not been enjoying the last few times we've hung out. I feel as though they do not respect me anymore. For example, they would shame me if I do not have time to meet up as I do prefer some

downtime and being alone after a long day of work they sometimes talk about my salary in a degrading manner the way they talk about my boyfriend of three years mind you is super disrespectful like they forget his name they judge his looks i'm also seen as the quiet and clumsy one in the group my other group of friends make me feel so happy and content but i'm fed up with this bunch and have made excuses about covid to avoid hanging out with them recently what should i do thank you next i mean no oh no laura what two minds is that i'm sorry if your friends are making you feel shit if your friends don't remember your partner's name of three years if your friends are bringing you down because of your salary that you're earning in your job that you work

bloody hard for they are not your friends spoiler they're not your friends preach yeah so you're not the fence anymore are you? No okay what I'm on the fence about is just dumping a 20 something year friendship what I mean is is like no they're not being friends they are absolutely not living up to the standard and you're not being treated the way that you deserve however is it warranting of a conversation can you sit down with them and tell them how they're making you feel tell them that you feel like I feel like when you constantly make jokes about me being the clumsy one or about being this or about being quiet like it makes me feel inferior it makes me feel just a bit shit about myself and like you're always picking on me I don't feel like you know you have

understanding around my work or that you have respect for my work and maybe by explaining those things to them a little bit they might surprise you that's all I mean I mean instead of avoiding it and being scared of having those conversations giving them the opportunity to prove you wrong and if they don't then kick into the curve yeah see I totally get what you're saying but I think there comes and I think this comes as you get older as well I think there comes a point in your life where you shouldn't have to sit your friends down especially if they've been 20 years you shouldn't have to sit them down and say hey just so you know you're disrespecting me everything you say makes me feel like shit like it's the fact like literally like you shouldn't have to have

the fact of the matter is and it's a part of life it's a part of human nature it's a part of growth we grow and change throughout life and the friends we've had like I'm very lucky that my ultimate best friend of my whole life I have been best friends with for nearly 30 years since we were five years old and we have never had a fight we just have the most beautiful her name Shannon I know you listen so shout out to Shannon hi Shannon and we're in such different points of life she's married with two kids we don't get to speak all the time she's in another state but we will never ever ever have any disrespect for each other or anything but love and I'm lucky but there's a lot of other friends that I would still be acquaintances with and you still like them as

people but you grow and you change like the people you are at five years old 10 years old 15 20 25 30 you change and it's very rare that you all change in the same direction sometimes this is really hard to understand that some people come into your life for a period of time and a point of time and i think we feel inside a bit sentimental about that like we need to really hold on to something because it has been 20 years or it has been 10 years but that doesn't mean you have to keep going in that direction you have to keep that friends group because you've shared some memories you can keep those memories and think fuck we had such an amazing teenage years into our early 20s and now we're in different places you've obviously met this new group of friends you really gel with

and you feel comfortable with and they feel like they support you I think it's okay to do a soft fade from your friendship you can still be in contact with them and catch up with them and hang out with them but if you're trying to force something just because you have a history but they make you feel shit every day I think you just need to have a little bit of self-reflection and understand that life changes life has ebbs and flows and it might be time to take a new direction yeah it's that whole saying of like a reason a season or a lifetime when it comes to friends that's what they come into your life for a reason a season or a lifetime but I totally get I get why it can be so hard to walk away from the friends that you have in your life that know your

history ultimately they know so much about you they know where you've been they know who you are and that can have its pros and its cons I guess the cons that can come with that is that sometimes that they can put you in a little box and be like oh well you're that person that you've always been and sometimes we want to be viewed differently you don't want to be viewed as the clumsy quiet girl and we do change as we get older and I guess you're like I'm fucking cool now I haven't fallen over in like four weeks the biggest thing here is respect like and I think you nailed it Brit like regardless of where you are in your friendships and how long you've been friends with someone You are always ultimately deserving of respect. However, the issue is, and it's the same thing

that happens in romantic relationships. Sometimes we take the things that are closest to us for granted. Sometimes they can be the people that we treat the worst because we think they're always going to be around. I mean, I know a lot of people listening to this will have been guilty of doing it in their romantic relationships. Sometimes you might be having a shitty day. You'll take it out on your partner. You'll speak to them badly. You won't treat them necessarily with the love and respect that they deserve to be treated in because you're like well fuck they're always there it's fine sometimes I think we treat it's just clumsy Sally it's okay totally it's just Maddie J no but like sometimes I think it happens for our friendships as well and that's what I mean by

if it is a relationship that you want to salvage it is warranting of a conversation you would give a conversation you would have a conversation with a romantic relationship you would sit down and say hey I don't feel like you're respecting me I feel like you're not treating me the way that I want to be treated I love you but this is not working for me right now you can do the same thing with your friends you shouldn't have to no but you can see what I would do is I agree like of course you can have that conversation because and I'm not saying you dump the friend group and you move on and you kick them to the curb I'm just saying you're putting yourself same thing with dating Laura like you go on some dates whatever you're in a situation you don't like they make you feel

shit you remove yourself from the situation maybe you'll still text them sometimes I think with a friendship group like this is you don't dump 30 years of friendship unless they're being I mean unless they are making you feel so so so horrible and they're so toxic I think you just soft fade them you don't and you said that you're already making excuses so I think you don't dump them you don't have to have a big fight but you just start to fill your life with other things your work that makes you happy the new friendship groups hobbies that make you happy you can still catch up with them for sure totally if the times that you're catching up with them as a group if you haven't seen them in a while you go and catch up with them and they still

make you feel like shit then you don't need to catch up with them anymore you don't even really need an explanation like you can just soft fade you run into the street you're gonna say hey how are you that's fine but I think don't put so much pressure on yourself ultimately we get this one little life if you're filling your days with people that are bringing you down like you are a product of the five people closest to you so if these are the people closest to you and they're making you feel like that you're gonna take that energy into your life every day so you surround yourself with people and things that make you feel good at the end of the day that's life totally and like that like exactly I'm very passionate about this but I'm so here for it I fully agree

with everything you're saying and like the whole concept of like we don't have that much time like you're saying that you're hustling everybody works hard like every like well not everybody but a lot of people time is really something that's so valuable so don't spend it on people that make you feel crappy about yourself that's like ultimately the big take home yeah should we go on to question number three yeah but let's do it okay question number three this one's a little bit saucier I love my partner he is my everything I'm 22 and we've been together for two years now I know I'm young but trust me when I say that I know he's my person the only and I mean literally only thing that isn't perfect in our relationship is the sex although I have dated a lot of different

men I haven't explored sexuality and sex in the way that I want to now finding my forever person at 20 surely wasn't my plan in the past two years since being with him I've been exposed to so much more sex positivity and I want to try and explore different things I'd love to go to sex parties I'd love to try a threesome and scratch this bi-curious itch I have I have hinted to my boyfriend at perhaps having a threesome with another girl but he is very certain on monogamy in our relationship I love him and the sex is still pretty good but I feel like if this is really what the rest of my life is going to be is this going to be a problem probably yes this is an interesting one and i do have some feels about this stoked if you've met your penguin

that's fucking so fantastic like i i love love i love penguins and anyone that meets their penguin is that's amazing sex is not the be all and end all no but i do think it is very important in a relationship I think that you need to be on the same wavelength or you need to be really happy and content that you're not on the same wavelength so you're either on the wavelength or you're okay with the fact that you're never going to meet in the middle for you and I know from experience I'm in my 30s there are so many chapters of growth and the way you evolve within yourself within your sexuality within your thoughts on life and relationships that is going to change so you're entering the next stage where you are more curious you said you have a bi-curious itch you want to

scratch the question that you need to ask yourself is are you going to be okay to never ever scratch that itch because your partner has said it is not absolutely not in the cards for you for him for them for your relationship are you going to be okay to live the rest of your life without exploring that and without knowing and without wondering or is it going to drive you to a place where one day you're in a situation where you do the wrong thing in your relationship because you're like fuck it I'm out now this girl's interested this guy's interested I'm going to try it and then you're going to regret that later you need to decide within yourself if you're happy to just have that as a fantasy and never actually know and stay in your relationship or if you're going

to want to scratch those itches if you think you're going to want to scratch those itches you need to have a really I mean it's going to be a really hard conversation with your partner but you need to say this is something I think about all the time it's definitely something I want to try how can we as a couple work it out or how can we try these things together or explore some new sexuality together because there are plenty of ways you can do that as a couple you don't have to just say it's over I'm going to go and be with other people you can do that as a couple maybe if he understands more about your relationship and about what you want to explore he might be more open to it but going to him straight away and saying let's go to a sex club and have a threesome

that's zero to a hundred that is really really overwhelming for him oh yeah when i when i read that i was like okay like i get it i get the wanting to explore i was like that's probably a lot for your partner to process going from being like happily monogamous to being like i want to go to a sex club which i get it like fucking go for gold like there's no judgment like and if he was open to that and receptive to it then that would have been best case scenario but i understand why he has hesitations towards this i totally agree with you brie i think you know what if you're bi curious if you're not sure about your sexuality and you are at the moment in one very specific lane and you don't have the opportunity or the option to go and

explore something that feels innately true to your identity there's a good chance that you're going to end up you know and I hate like this whole stereotype of like people who are bisexual will cheat because I don't think that that's it but you may end up cheating if you haven't had the opportunity to explore something that feels really overwhelming for you, like really powerful for you. So I think those very honest conversations need to be had. And maybe instead of just like being like, it has to be all or nothing. Maybe you can talk to your partner about just spicing the relationship up in a way. Maybe it's watching porn, girl on girl porn. Totally. Maybe it's getting sex toys. I don't know. Maybe it's a bit more exhibitionist sex, whatever it is that you

feel like might bring a bit more excitement to your relationship but also isn't done in a way that's going to fully not just scare your partner but also make your partner feel a little bit like intimidated and inferior in your relationship there are things that you can do to ease into those things too and so recently for example lubrication yeah yeah ease on in slide on in there are things you can do like recently we spoke to Sally Hepworth an amazing author and she spoke about how she was doing some research for a book if you haven't listened to that episode a few weeks ago but go back and have a listen she was doing some research for this book she was in a monogamous relationship with her husband but it was like a very sexy book so she decided to go to

a sex party with her husband now they went and they were never going to engage in sex because you can go to these parties where you are just you're participating in terms of you can speak to them you have conversations you can watch what's going on you learn what's going on it's like a real it's your lawyer it's an introduction it's a real easy and there are things like that you can go to sex clubs we've spoken to people like Chantelle Otten before you can go to sex clubs where again you don't have sex you can go to clubs this sounds hectic but you can go to sex clubs where you can be almost in a private room and you are watching on you are watching another couple have sex now the other couple know that you're there it's very consensual they're

exhibitionists they like it you don't want them to know who you are there are so many things that you can do together as a couple to ease into that so maybe you just need to have those conversations maybe he was just overwhelmed at the start but there are so many things as a couple before you have to end a relationship that you can try first if you bring these things up like laura said you can start from smaller things the porn and exhibitionism or anything else voyeurism exactly like brit's talking about yeah there's so many little things you can try like there's a whole spectrum of things so I think have those conversations first really convey that these are things that are important to you and that you do want to try and you do want to try it with your

partner you don't want to up and leave you want to make this work at the end of the day if they're that important and he's adamant that it's not part of his life unfortunately you have a really hard decision you have to make totally and I agree like I think sex is such an important part of a relationship it doesn't mean when I say sex is important I don't mean you have to be having sex but you've got to be on the same page when it comes to sex. And right now you're not on the same page. So I think the more that you talk about it, the more that you can work towards getting on that same page will mean that the relationship will work out. But right now, if you're feeling like this and you're feeling like this is just such a huge, like void in your

relationship. I don't know. I think it's really something that you guys have to work on. It's really something that I think first it's communication around it. And then it's actually actioning some of this stuff can you also yeah i also want to hear what happens in this like we really love getting updates from you guys on these questions we love following through and seeing what happens and what the end result is well we've been trying to do a follow-up episode on some of the ask uncuts but y'all don't tell us you take the advice and run so we'd love it if you came back and told us just how everything worked out whether it was a positive outcome a negative outcome whether you implemented the advice i don't know we're here just being your big sisters living

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