Life Uncut - ASK UNCUT - Here we answer your burning questions for the week

Episode Date: April 1, 2020

It’s Thursday lovers and you know what that means! ASK UNCUT!This week Laura has developed a new exercise habit, while Britts new habit includes eating everything in sight. Jump on board as we chat iso-relationships and what to do if it’s not quite going to plan, finding out your partner is having ‘sleep overs’ with other women while you’re away, and what to do if your friends think you’re settling.Keep your questions coming in and share the love because, well, we love love xSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Guys, hi, welcome to Life Uncut Ask Uncut Edition. it's our favorite little edition of the week i'm britney and i'm laura brit why don't you just let everyone know the song you were just singing i just made it up on the spot laura said um laura said oh i'm so tired and i was like let's get some big dick energy get some big dick energy that's worse than what it was um yep so this is our our very uplifting podcast with some big dick energy thanks to britney do you know i've never heard that term big dick energy until you said it in one of our podcasts did you actually coin the term or is it a term i can't take credit for it although i would like to because it is such a good saying

you know what big dick energy is right i had no i had never heard of it i've just rolled with it pretending on you but well for anyone who doesn't know it is when a man walks in a room and you're like that man is got something some aura about him and it's because he has the aura of a man with a big dick. Oh, see, I would have just called that swagger. Yeah, that's exactly what it is. Some swagger, baby. I like that better because it's not a swear word. I know. I feel like we just started this podcast with a really, this is a really crass intro. Yeah, it is. I think we're going to have to take the song out. Sorry about that, guys. Anyway, Britt, how's your week been so far? Yep. I have just eaten my way through the week, to be honest. I'm carrying a little

bit of weight this week this is just isolation's being good to you honey i'm carb loading i'm getting ready to hibernate through the winter and i feel like i can't but i hope i'm not the only one no i we were talking about this on the way to the podcast studio i haven't been eating my way through um isolation i've been drinking my way through isolation matt even said to me yesterday he was like laura i think we need to talk you've been drinking wine every single day and i'm like it's just one or two glasses like it's fine did you say i'm sorry what what do we need to talk about it's i was like what's your problem where what's what's the point is it because we're running out of wine we should go get go get more don't worry it's still open put an express order

in they're coming oh anyway it's because i get to dinner time and i'm cooking dinner and then and now it's just become a little ritual i i open a bottle of wine i pour myself a glass and i have my glass of wine while i'm cooking guys i'm not an alcoholic i honestly i'm having two glasses of wine but i know that even two glasses of wine a day is probably a bit excessive well the benefit of not isolating with a partner aka me is that no one polices my drinking so i don't necessarily stop it too we're not endorsing this or encouraging this but you know what it's got us good so far do you know what gets me through i i put a splash is it your big dick energy song it's not that but i put a splash in like whatever i'm cooking then i'm like i'm cooking with the wine i'm

drinking it. A bit of wine for the pasta, a bit of wine for Brittany. Well, otherwise it's going to go off and then you're just going to have vinegar. So you just really, it's saving. And in these crisis times, we can't have any waste, can we Brittany? No, I need to be serious. I actually, I'm not just saying this, I'm not being like cutesy. I can't stop eating. I can't stop eating. I don't know what it is. I'm an animal. I'm like an animal that has been locked up. It's like I need to think, it's like I'm thinking, I need to eat all the food now and store it up in case the world runs out. Some people are stockpiling in their pantry and Brittany's just

stockpiling inside. I am. I'm self stockpiling. It's really bad. Um, but you know what? I'm just like, I'm just going to roll with it. I'm going to be motivated later on in my life. And for once in my life, I'm like, okay, I'm just going to stack up a few layers. Well, if there's ever going to be a time to go ham for choice of a better word on this whole situation, it's is there a chance to go donut it's now it's now it's now you're not gonna see any guys you're not dating like you're in isolation you don't have to like front up or look good or do anything you can be the ugliest that you've ever been and just go wild you do your thing thinking of putting a little photo up and just sending the daily mail wild because i actually my i bloat i have been

bloating because i'm allergic to gluten too but all rules out the window right now i've been eating everything i was thinking putting a photo up and just look i look pregnant sometimes so i was thinking of just running with that yeah go for it i think it's fine we can send some photos to daily mail and really start some conspiracy theories i actually need some more money in this time so i could try and sell it i am i am having to do some more instagram sponsored posts guys if you see an article that comes out in the next couple of weeks about britney being pregnant it's because she's sold it to the daily mail instead of having to hawk some skincare products on instagram and you know what doesn't help the situation laura what your skinny little ass sitting

across from me no i posted a video yesterday of matt and i like trying to entertain ourselves during this whole thing of self-isolation and everyone was like why are you so thin after having a baby guys i'm not thin i am haggard i am so tired this is the skinniness of someone who is exhausted i mean it's got nothing to do with exercise it is this is this is exhaustion that's what that is one of the most positive things that has come out of this whole self-isolation thing is that, and guys, for anybody who wants to get on board with this, I highly recommend Sam Wood is doing a 9am free live exercise, 28 days. There you go. There's his plug because I've been jumping on board. Not, not sponsored, just really fucking good. I've been jumping on every

morning, 9am. I clear the coffee table out of the way. I put Molly in the high chair, give her some banana bread. She's also stockpiling inside. And I do a little Sam Wood workout. So if anyone's been sitting at home thinking I hate that you know my routine's gone out the window well I've got a new routine for you come and do a live 28 days workout with me I did put a post up the other day a few days ago as well because I think this is really important to highlight I'm so in my health and fitness you don't know someone more motivated than me I'm addicted I exercise every day I froth it yes I wish you wouldn't use that word but yes you really do I don't know anybody who exercises as frequently as you do.

But I genuinely love it. Great legs. Thank you. Thank you. But my point of this, that's not my point. My point of the post is I've never been less motivated in my life than what I am in this isolation. So everyone's going the opposite.

Everyone's like, I'm so motivated. I'm doing all this stuff at home. I'm the opposite. I'm not working out. My health, what I'm eating, what I watch has gone out the window. I don't know what it is. I don't know if it's because I'm still working a lot and I'm stressed. I feel like there might be some emotional eating involved.

But I just wanted to put it out there too. If you're struggling in that sense and you're feeling down and you're feeling unmotivated, that's totally fine as well because there's a lot of people on Instagram right now that are like OTT with their exercise and their encouragement, which is fantastic. But also if you're having a down day and you don't want to get out of bed, that's also okay. You can lay in bed and eat chocolate and watch movies because there are no rules in isolation. It's like Netflix when Netflix says to you, are you still watching this?

You're like, yes, Netflix. of course I'm fucking still watching that for the fourth time today what else could I possibly be doing Netflix I haven't forgotten I want to watch the entire series now it's 4am it's been 17 hours that you've been watching it this is this is my life but also I think like what you just said there is the whole spectrum at the moment and I think every emotion is completely valid maybe you're trying to use this time to be super productive read lots of books facetime your friends and maybe you've gone the other end of the spectrum where you're kind of just like in a bit of a self-isolation hole all of that is fine but I think at some point we have to kind of

like rebalance and figure out what our new normal is in this situation because if this is going to be going on for god who knows like three months two months six months then I think we just have to adapt and figure out what is like a comfortable and sustainable lifestyle in this and for me it's 9am workouts for 28 days and for me I'm almost through my emergency snacks so it'll end soon hey i did want to ask you something what what have you been watching what's something you can recommend have you watched anything good on netflix for for the people the iso people oh i the only thing that i can recommend is something that everybody has already seen i think i was late to the party have you seen tiger king you're like joe exotic joe exactly i was gonna ask you that

it's trending i watched one episode i've only watched one episode it's so good it was so slow What? Yeah, I was like, okay, like when does something happen? The first episode is so long and it's like, I love tigers and that's all he says. And I'm like, okay, like what else happens? And the tigers are on me. I am the tiger.

That is definitely not how it goes. But I know, that's what I've been watching. The morning show, is that the other one? Is it called the morning show? Like the news? No, not the morning. Jennifer Aniston. Not the shitty morning show that's on our TV.

The Jennifer Aniston one. Have you, like, been tuning in in the morning? I was like, that's great. Getting my Spal Stefanovic. Is he even on the morning show? Yeah, he is. Yeah. That was terrible.

Anyway, no, I've been watching the one with Reese Witherspoon and it's really good. Okay. But I'm only a few episodes into that one. So I just binge watched Elite. Have you seen Elite? No. Okay. So guys, given it's dubbed because it's Spanish, but it's like the modern day Spanish version

of Gossip Girl. And once you get past the fact that it's dubbed, you'll love it. Absolutely. I don't know if I could. I tried to watch another series quite a while ago that was, like, voiced over, like, voiced in English, but it was obviously, like, well. Another language?

That was so. Wow, I really shouldn't have had that half bottle of wine before I came. Yeah, and I couldn't get into the fact that it was, the voicing was out of sync. Like, that really, really irked me and I couldn't get over it, so I couldn't get into it. I feel like you will in this one. all right i might give it a try although your last recommendation of love is blind i still

haven't gotten on board with that so there's another guys if you haven't seen love is blind brit was was raving on about it it's one of the only reality tv shows that actually makes sense in isolation at the moment yeah so well speaking of that so we mentioned in the last episode that the bachelor was going to be put on hold what were they going to do and we sort of hypothesized i was going to bring this up to you so one of the posts i put out on instagram yesterday So, Lockie, a.k.a. The Bachelor, he messaged and left a comment on it. And I was like, I'm sorry, you're supposed to be in fucking lockdown. How do you have a phone?

And he's in the wild. Yeah. So, it turns out that all of the girls and Lockie are all home. They have to be very restricted with the things that they're allowed to do, like the messaging and everything. They're tied up in their bedroom. No, but they're home. They've got their phones and they can still, like,

walk around and be part of the normal world and as much as anyone else can and so they've totally stopped filming and they're gonna go back to it it's nuts it's nuts it's my mind is blown it's like we are in uncharted territory people this has not been done before i don't know how i feel about it because once they go back like what if they contact each other no rules apply anymore like if the bachelor is stopped filming and these people are like roaming around in the wild Anything goes. Anything. Anything goes.

So the issue that I have with this whole concept of the fact that they've been in isolation together, they've been in lockdown filming and now they're out in the world but they have their phones and they can all contact whoever the hell they want. My question about this is the whole concept of The Bachelor is based around Stockholm Syndrome. So Stockholm Syndrome is basically when a person falls in love

with their captor, which is exactly what happens. You know, you have no other... He's your captor. I'm still trapped. help me so what happens is is that because you are in this lockdown environment where all the girls are in one house and the bachelor's in another house you have no outside stimulus so you can't watch the news you can't read a newspaper you don't know anything that's happening outside you can't see any other men except for soundies and and like you know the mic guys some of those

guys are really cute too well they're not really but they become cute because there's no one else to look at so it's it's based on this concept that you are every other distraction in life is taken away from you so that that the bachelor ends up being put on this pedestal and he becomes the holy grail and the only thing that you can focus on but now that this filming has been interrupted and the girls are able to be back in the wild and they can on the internet and they can do whatever they want to i think it's going to really interrupt this whole idea of of building this this fantasy around who Lockie is and I imagine there would be very strict rules in place like no contacting each other no contacting like the girls each other or Lockie but I can't imagine

at this point of the game that they're not going to contact each other especially they're about halfway through filming so they would want that would that'd be forming connections totally and if you've got your phone in hand who's to say you know you can always download you can you can do it on WhatsApp and then delete it. Those, those messages are encrypted. So I just think this is going to be such a wild and crazy season, something that we've never seen before, but apparently they're going to steam ahead with it. So let's just kind of hold the phone caller and figure out what they're doing with that. Yeah. Mind blowing. Well, maybe we should get into the episode, which is guys, this episode is, uh, well, you know, we do it every week, but this is our

Ask Uncut episode where you guys write in your deep, dark and dirty questions to us and we do our absolute best to try and answer them for you. We are not qualified, but we give you very, very heartfelt advice. Think of us like the big sister or the friend that you don't have or you have. There you go. We're here. You say we're not qualified, but we've been doing this for nearly a year and you can get like a TAFE certificate in that time. I reckon we could be nearly qualified. Do you reckon they're going to start giving out TAFE certificates for our shitty dating advice do you know there are degrees in like the netherlands and stuff now that are a bachelor of influencing i'm not even i'm not even kidding i'm not even pulling your leg do you know

it scares me though it scares me that kids are going through school these days and instead of them wanting to be rock stars or movie stars they want to be influencers like that's what some children are aspiring to be which is scary it is frightening because i mean at least for example like in the whole sporting arena, for example, there's now there's, because like there was so many people who are coming out of doing professional sport and not having careers after they hit 35, right? Now there's so much care that's put into making sure that people who are in professional sports also have education in other fields so that they can go into doing like physio or sports science or something else. So they have transferable skills. The issue with

being an influencer is that there are very limited transferable skills. And if you're one and only reason that people are following you is because you're hot and you can take a good photo in a bikini. You're not always going to be hot. Holy shit. What is going to happen when you are 35 and haggard? Excuse me. We're not that far off. No, that's what I mean. I'm talking about myself. Like, you know, like, yes, sure. I do some influencing jobs, but I have to have another job as well. Handy, handy, handy, handy, handy, handy bra. That's what the kids the same you're so cool all right hit me with the first question okay my boyfriend and i have been seeing each other a few months when all of this corona started to go down he lives interstate and

we decided to self quarantine together so he drove to my place in sydney meaning he crossed the border now i'm going crazy and think that i made a mistake it's all too much i find myself getting annoyed at every little thing he does and i don't even want to sleep with him now what do i do do you reckon this is normal can i ask him to leave do i stick it out do i fake it do we break up help this is such a good question i reckon there's a lot of people in this position right now do you i think the the whole like quarantining with a partner it's it's really made these relationships fast forward and like progress quicker than what they were supposed to and it's put the pressure on for these people to go from like figuring out how they feel about each

other to being you're together. Yeah. Zero to a hundred real quick. Yeah. Like a total pressure cooker. Um, I think this is a really shit situation and, and absolutely like you're allowed to change your mind. Like if you're not happy in that and you think that you've maybe jumped the gun, like it's unfortunate and it's very disappointed to someone else. And yes, you've put their life out, but assuming he still has a home to go back to, like, it's not like he's put his whole house up for rent or something. Um, you know, you have to have a conversation and say this isn't what you thought it was going to be and you're not happy like maybe you could don't pity fuck the guy or do just get one more time in there because girlfriend you don't know

how long it's going to be until you can go on another date no but seriously I think if you're unhappy and this guy is in your space every day it's a lot of pressure for even a couple that's been together for a long time um it's probably a very natural thing to feel a little bit freaked out don't make any rash decisions straight away I think like give it a week to decide how you actually really feel but in a week's time or two weeks time if you're still uncomfortable and you still feel like you've made the wrong decision then you know sooner rather than later because we don't know how much of a lockdown this is going to turn into you need to have a conversation with him which is very clear like I'm sorry this isn't what I wanted this isn't what I thought it was

going to be I'm going to give you some time to work out other arrangements but just because you were in isolation, does it mean that you owe this person your life? I guess the other thing is too, just because you're not getting along right now and just because it's not smooth sailing and perfect right now, that doesn't mean that you two aren't right. That might just mean it just happened too quickly and you weren't ready for it and you haven't gone through the motions of a normal couple dating. So maybe it's just all intensified too soon, too quickly. But I think you just have to have a chat to him because who knows, maybe he's feeling exactly the same thing and just also doesn't know how to say it.

And moving in together is such a, like for some couples, it seems to be super easy. And then for other couples, it's just such a huge process because you're getting to know each other's idiosyncrasies. You're getting to know each other's bad habits and all of the things that you would normally be able to kind of like gloss over and be okay with

during the honeymoon period, all that shit comes to the surface. You've got to be really okay with the fact that maybe they're going to do stuff that pisses you off and be a little bit more flexible because it's no longer just your space i actually saw this really great meme the other day and it was like for couples who are working from home and spending all of their time together they need to come up with like an alter ego like an alter character to blame stuff on like oh fucking

karen left the cups out again why didn't karen come in and do the vacuuming aka get your shit together and vacuum yeah but instead of having constant bickering you can kind of like make a joke about it but obviously the joke is like passive aggressive because you really want them to stop leaving their shitty coffee mugs all over the place. Yeah, so I think you just have that chat and also I just had a point. It's gone. Good one, Britt. Yeah, bring that advice.

I guess it depends on if he has somewhere else to go because if he literally has nowhere, like if he was out of a rental or between houses or he can't get back across the border because they are doing that now, that's a different story because we all now need to be helping people out. We're all going to be putting ourselves out to help others out. that's just that's part of what life is right now and everybody needs to get on board with that if he's got nowhere to go yeah you're probably gonna have to suck it up but you could still do it as friends if you absolutely don't want to be with him and you don't feel anything romantic

have the chat and say let's co-habitate as friends and you know what realistically he's probably gonna be a bit uncomfortable by that and he's probably not gonna want to just hang around and be at the house if you've made it clear that you don't want to be with him he will probably try and figure out another option. It's not like we're not in such a severe lockdown right now that he can't leave. Yes. I understand that maybe if his house is in, it's in Queensland, right? Yeah. He's in Queensland. So they can still get home. You have to apply for a permit. It takes a bit of time, but he can still do that. He can still get home and isolate. I think it's 14 days. So there's options here. You don't have to be in a relationship that you don't want to be in.

That's not, that's not an acceptable solution to this situation. If you are not happy, make some changes but like don't allow this to just be an excuse to stay in an unhappy space however i think just give it a week to figure out if it's actually how you feel or if it's just because you know you've been thrown into this intensity a little bit prematurely and maybe take some space within your own home i know that sounds crazy but there are a lot of couples um i know my sister's been doing it a little bit with her partner um they're taking their own rooms and they're getting their work done in different rooms like they're in an office i try and do that and then matt will come in after 15 minutes and be like i miss you what are you doing

classic matt you're like i'm trying to earn the bacon baby you're the stay-at-home dad now and i am the one who is working leave me in my bedroom office exactly me just sitting on my bed facetiming like my colleagues like me yeah facetiming my sister and feeling like i'm 16 again because i'm sitting in my bed doing it it's ridiculous all right next question am i reading it yeah you're reading it i don't have my phone's dead okay so i have been with my boyfriend for almost two years and in the past there has been some times that he's been caught messaging other girls in a flirtatious way recently he stayed at a girl's house with all of his mates while i was on a holiday and he tried to hide it he only told me about it when i asked heaps of questions about

it and he tried to hide the fact that he slept in a bed with just him and two girls when he knows i'm not comfortable with that the other night i confronted one of the girls to ask if anything happened and she basically started crying in front of me but she denied anything happened so my question to you is would you trust them when they say nothing happened he's given me reasons in the past not to trust him oh no no get rid of him yeah i agree but i probably would have been a bit more diplomatic no i i think you you know you know the answer to this you know that if you're saying you don't trust him you don't think like he's giving you reasons that are untrustworthy what you're wanting is someone to give you that silver bullet and tell you what to

do and i'm telling you what to do don't be in a relationship with someone you can't trust don't be in a relationship with someone who lies to you don't be in a relationship with somebody who makes you feel insecure or who's flirting with other girls all of that behavior is black and white red flag do not be in that relationship and get out i mean for me there's one huge red flag here And that's, you've been with him two years and he is sleeping in a bed with two other girls while you're away. Oh my God. If Matt went to a house party and slept in a bed with two other girls and didn't tell

me about it and then lied about it, whole, wow. But not even if he didn't tell you. He would be hoping that he was isolating by himself because I would make his life hell. Even if my partner came and told me he slept in the bed with two women, I would be off that. And yeah, there's boundaries in a relationship. And if you've made it clear that that's something that you're not okay with and that's, that crosses your boundaries and he's done that and he, and then has also lied about it.

I just think this guy is not deserving of you. You can find another relationship where you are treated way better than this, a relationship where you trust the person. And yes, it might mean that you'll be alone for a little while. And yes, it means that you have to go through the shitty part of breaking up with someone, but this is not somebody who deserves you. And unless he's going to make some huge changes to his life, then this is not a relationship for you.

And maybe you need some hard love because I think guys, if you, if you're constantly catching your boyfriend, sending flirty text messages to other women, because they need constant drip feed of attention from other people, it's just not a space or a relationship you ever want to find yourself in. So get the hell out. I think deep down.

Wow, I feel really passionate about that one. That one really hit a chord. Yeah, I know. It really did, didn't it? Because it's just like. I've been there. Yeah. well amen we've all been there not everyone but yeah just just the unlucky ones but i've been

there and i've been this person before and i and i feel like i have sent that question to a friend you know and did you write this in laura yeah guys no matt's an angel matt would never do that but i i have sent this sort of question or had these questions with my girlfriends before and they've said to me like no it's not okay but what happens is like it starts to become normal like you start to accept this bad behavior because it's happening more and more and more. And so, you know, they, they do one thing and you accept that they've done that. And then that kind of clouds where your boundaries are and then they do something else. And it keeps it, you end up getting to a point where you're like, how did I ever accept this bad behavior? Because it's your

new normal, but it's your new normal. And it's happened a little bit by a little bit by a little bit. So the fact that you have written all this out into a message to us, and you can read that clear as day what he's doing it is a big fat red no you definitely know deep down the answer to this you you 100% know you're looking for somebody just to say that you're on the right path and you're on the right track and the one thing that I want to add I agree with absolutely everything you said Laura I'm just as passionate about it as you are I hate him and you are very passionate right now Laura is like on fire in this podcast room right now I actually haven't seen as much energy from you in a long time guys you really got me good that time I think that the main thing

here is to go with your gut instinct you would know deep down you know if he's doing something wrong you know what he's doing is wrong you know if those girls a girl about it and the fact that you even had to approach a girl but the fact that she even had to ask her because you don't trust your boyfriend is reason enough don't be with somebody that you don't trust relationships that don't have trust in them are going to make you go crazy they're going to make you mad i'm sorry i cut you off Brittany I'm gonna calm down that's okay love is very passionate I did I had a really um I had a really great speech but don't worry um look I had a lot to say but Laura has said it so I'm sorry we're on par with that one we're on par like a game of golf I is that a thing I made that

up now too I'm so fucking good with making these up is par even in golf isn't it par yeah I have no idea i like golf is my least favored sport to watch i have no idea it's super fun to play what about putt putt mini golf they don't have pars in putt putt oh there you go learn something new every day every day on the school day guys the big boy court i mean it's not called a court this is just getting weird can you please go to the next question okay hi guys is it disrespectful if my friend's partner constantly asks me when the last time i had sex was my response previously has been wouldn't you like to know and more recently my friend has told him to shut up and stop asking about it it makes me feel really uncomfortable i talk about this stuff with her

because she's my friend but i don't think it's appropriate for him to be asking me god guys it can be so weird that is so weird i'm sorry that is so weird who is he to even ask that like he's obviously doing it as a joke and probably thinks that you guys have this funny banter or is Is that a joke? Well, imagine if I came to your house and Matt was like, hey, Brit, when did you have sex? Like it's not – I'd be like, what? That's not funny.

Yeah, but some people don't really understand the premise of a joke, which is the fact that people are meant to laugh and it's meant to be funny. He clearly finds it entertaining or amusing. I think in this situation it's totally weird. It's totally inappropriate. You should speak to your friend, which you probably already have, and your friend needs to speak to her partner separate to you being there, not just calling him out on it when you're there but separately say don't ask that question it

makes everybody in the situation uncomfortable except for you clearly so stop it and also i just think it's so in your right to next time he says when's the last time you had sex you can say well i don't think that's any of your business show me how big your dick is yeah have you cleared your rash up you could but like no you can definitely say to him i'm sorry that's none of your business or if you really want to, I mean, it depends how confrontational you want to be, but you can say, you need to stop asking me that. It makes me uncomfortable. I think sometimes we can be so, like, you know, in the very Aussie way, like, oh, make a joke about something that makes us uncomfortable. And like, of course you want to make a joke about it because you don't want it

to turn into this big thing or to be seen as though you're not able to take a joke. But I think if you've already said something once, which was taking it a lighthearted way and it's still happening and he's still doing it. And, and your girlfriend is telling him to stop. I think you're so well within your rights. I mean, God, you were within your rights at the very start, but now you're so within your rights just to say, do you know what? I actually hate it when you asked me that it makes me really, really uncomfortable. So I'd love it if you would just never, ever, ever ask me that again. Absolutely. He will take it. It'll, it'll shut him down straight away. He'll be like, Oh wow, shit. I didn't, I didn't realize he probably doesn't

realize how much it upsets you and then you can be like no look it's cool like play it off like it's cool but i just don't want to talk about it with you like you don't have to make it a big deal but be like yeah it's cool i just it's not a thing so let's not make it a thing and and like why is why is it okay for him to make you feel uncomfortable like it's okay for you to make him uncomfortable for a change so if you have to say to him you know what it's none of your business and i don't want to talk about it yes it's going to make the the it's going to make him go oh okay what's up with her but it's okay for him to feel uncomfortable because he's doing it to you so take that take the ownership of that and you know flip it on its head and it can say it

in a very curt and very direct way but that's okay like I think it's fine to call him out on it yeah there's never ever a situation that you need to feel uncomfortable in ever you can always leave extract yourself or say something always voice your opinion we're very big on that okay we have one more question well do we have time for another one I gotta go home and edit this have you got somewhere to be we are yes so we're recording it guys if you listen to this tomorrow which is the day that it comes out thursday we're recording this at 7 50 p.m on the wednesday i gotta go home and edit the shit out of this and make it sound good yep for your ears yes so get it in and around your ears i mean you already have we're at three quarters away through i'm gonna leave it up

to you do you want another question or you want to wrap it no give me another question i knew you'd say that i'm just here for the people you're so here for it okay last one i have been seeing a guy who I have an amazing connection with. We get along so well. He makes me feel so special and he has amazing qualities. However, my best friend has made it very clear that she thinks I'm settling for him and she thinks that I could do better and deserve somebody who ticks all of my boxes. It's obvious we're at different stages in our lives. I have graduated from uni. I live out of home. I'm very independent and I have savings for a house. He, however, is still at uni. He goes out a lot. He lives at home a lot. He has more interest in living it up rather than slowing

down and saving for the future. Am I settling? Are they right? Do you know what? I think it sounds like both of these people are relatively young. Like it sounds like she's just come out of uni and he's still at uni. So I'm going to guess that you're in your early twenties. It's okay to date people just because you have a really amazing connection with them without thinking about where you're going to be in the next seven, 10 years time. So I think if you think that you really, really love the guy or you love being around him and he makes you really happy at this point in life if he doesn't have all his shit together he's allowed to be afforded a bit of time if he's only in his early 20s like that guy's it's okay that he doesn't have everything together yet I think

so I want to add that she did finish it by saying I can't imagine my life without him but I can't help and think am I settling do I give up on this amazing connection in the hope of finding someone more on my level so the bit that sticks out for me is I can't imagine my life without him if the only reason is you need to find someone on your level which is ready to buy a house I don't think that's a reason he's he's at uni he wants to live his uni life you guys could have a mortgage for the next 50 years I think it's okay to be at a different place if he's still treating you well and you're still getting the respect and you trust him and you're still spending enough quality time together I think is really great for partners to have different interests and different hobbies

and want to do different things I don't think you need to live on top of each other so if he's going out and it's not actually bothering you because you trust him I don't I don't think that's the end of the world and also like I think just to add on to what Brittany has said like there may come a point in the future where the fact that you were on very different trajectories is is like the gap is too wide like you can't ignore that anymore but if that's not there yet then why not just enjoy it for what it is at the moment. Explore what it is. There is a chance that he will man up and get onto your wavelength and he will want those things as well. But in the meantime, when you're kind of like sussing things out, it's, I really do feel like it's, it is okay

to date people that, you know, kind of deviate from these very specific set of rules that you have for yourself because people progress at different stages. They progress at different speeds and you know, he, he may get there and you guys may have an incredible life together, but you can afford him a little bit of time to get there i'm making the assumption that you guys are young it's obviously a different level if you guys are 30 to 35 oh yeah no no wrap that up yeah he's going out and he's at uni good on him for being a mature age student but also like you definitely need someone on your level but if you guys are still young bloody party it up go out with him go and have some fun because one day you're gonna have a baby you're gonna be stuck at home you're

to be 40 and be like where did my life go it's not that bad right no it's not but that's what will happen but i i think that's a really really important point and i think that you know we we need to drive that home a little bit age does play a massive part in this and so if you are young then i think there is no problem and also like you know it's nice that your friend cares about you and wants has your best interest at heart like i really like i love that from her but at the same time i think it's okay for you to have a relationship where it may not be end goal like you're allowed to just experience love and and explore what love is at a young age when you get a bit older and when you are in your 30s and you do have goals that you want for your life

it is really important that you find somebody who is on the same trajectory as you and wants the same things because otherwise you're going to waste time and then it may mean that you may never get the things that you want in life so if you waste the better half of your late 20s and early 30s and into your mid-30s with a guy who doesn't want to settle down or have kids then it may mean that you will never get to settle down and have kids. So that is really, really important. But I am like you are assuming that this is a person who's quite young, who's just fresh out of uni.

Girlfriend, you enjoy that man. Have some great old young people's sex and have a good old time. Young people's sex. What is young people's sex? That's when you actually put effort in. That's when you do like more than one position. Or when you're awake. When you're awake.

No, I'm awake. I'm just definitely not doing multiple positions anymore. No, the only other point that I actually on a serious note want to drive home is I think the age is the important thing. The other important factor is how his actions are making you feel. If you're okay with it, I did mention before, if you're okay with it, you trust him. He's not making you feel shitty. He's respecting you.

Then that's fine. If it doesn't bother you, that's fine. If you're laying awake wondering where he is and what he's doing and you're upset by it and he's not giving you attention, he's not giving you respect, that's a different manner. So just see how you feel and I think you need to make your decisions accordingly. Oh, God, I love it when we agree on things. Look at us and our cohesive kind of makes sense advice.

Wow, go us. We were very passionate today about some of those, weren't we? I think they hit home and we're emotional. I also feel, yeah, well, I think emotions are just heightened in general at the moment, but I do feel that this is the one real chance that I've had today and actually in the past couple of days to speak to a human like an adult human oh i'm glad you look at me as an adult yes you are an adult human i have been stuck inside with marley with nobody to talk to i facetimed my sister that's the only conversation i've really had and then obviously i speak to matt

but i speak to matt all the time every day and it you know like it doesn't count so this has been good for me i love this for me this has been good for me too because all day all i do i know everyone is doing and thinking and hearing and speaking about corona at the moment but i guess because i'm in the hospital in screening process with it it's literally all i do all i see all i think about is like proper consuming so it's so nice this is like therapy for me right now well this is also therapy for all you guys so please keep your questions coming we love answering all of your like life dilemmas so if you want to send us a question for next week's episode slide on into our dms at life uncut podcast and title it ask

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What does it mean for couples who are stuck in isolation together? And just really unpack this whole idea of what the dating world is now. It's that everything has changed. It's uncharted territory. We haven't ever experienced it before in the whole world. I'm excited. I just want you to get out there and do it, but you can't because of Bachelor in Paradise.

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