Life Uncut - Ask Uncut: The 2AM Secret, A Credit Taking Boss & Giving Up Your Plane Seat.

Episode Date: September 20, 2026

Hey Lifers! Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer your deepest, darkest and most burning questions! Britt kicks things off fresh from a stranger's wedding, yes, she crashed one for work and cried the whole way through (obviously). Before the girls get into their vibes of the week and then straight into it: Naked sleepers with questionable bathroom habits, a boss who won't stop stealing the credit, a plane seat stand-off that has the group chat divided, and the etiquette minefield of ditching your friend's new beauty business. Vibes of the week:Britt – The Dropout on Disney+ (rewatch this before the new Elizabeth Holmes doco drops!)Laura – Charlotte Tilbury Airbrush Flawless Blur Concealer Then it's into your questions! Q1: MY PARTNER SLEEPS NAKED AND DOES A 2AM POO THEN GETS BACK INTO BED My partner sleeps naked, I do not. That's absolutely his choice and I'm fine with it. But he has a middle-of-the-night routine where he needs the bathroom for a poo, most nights around 2-3am, and then he gets straight back into bed with his bare bum on the sheets, post-poo. Is it ridiculous and immature for me to feel grossed out by this? Do I need to just get over it? Q2: MY BOSS KEEPS TAKING CREDIT FOR MY IDEAS I think my boss takes credit for my ideas in meetings. I've pitched two big ideas this year that got genuine traction, and both times my manager has presented them to senior leadership as his own thinking, with me sitting right there. I'm early in my career and don't want to torch the relationship, but I don't want to spend the next five years being invisible either. Do I talk to him about it, or go over his head? Q3: WOULD YOU GIVE UP YOUR WINDOW SEAT FOR A PREGNANT MUM WITH A TODDLER? On a flight from Sydney to Queenstown, myself, my husband and our 17-month-old (plus 31 weeks pregnant me) had two seats between the three of us, while a woman in front had an entire row of three to herself. I asked if she'd swap so we could have the row while she kept an empty seat beside her, she said no, she wanted the window. Were we entitled for even asking, or have we lost the instinct to simply help someone out? Q4: MY FRIEND STARTED A BROW BUSINESS BUT I DON'T LIKE IT AND WANT TO GO BACK TO MY OLD GIRL A very good friend of mine recently started a small beauty business from home and I am so proud of her, but I don't actually like the way she does my brows. I gave her another chance recently because I want to support her, and I still don't love the results; I feel it's undoing years of work from my usual brow girl. How do I go back to my old place without hurting her feelings or making her think I don't support her? TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — Intro: Britt crashes a stranger's wedding (and cries, obviously)3:09 — Vibes of the week!9:13 — Q1: The naked partner dilemma15:16 — Q2: My boss keeps taking credit for my ideas22:52 — Q3: Would you give up your window seat for a pregnant mum with a toddler?33:13 — Q4: My friend started a brow business... but I don't like it Keep your Ask Uncuts coming! Slide into the Life Uncut DMs at @lifeuncutpodcast on Instagram, or post anonymously in the Facebook Discussion Group. Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hi guys and welcome back to another episode of Life Uncutt. I'm Brittany. I'm Laura and we are A-O-K. This is Ask Uncutt where we answer your deep-burning questions, dark burning questions, every question you have. Your itchy questions. We ask them all for you. Laura, what, you tell me what I'm allowed to say because I've tried to say three things and you've... Well, it's only because... And you've told me I'm not allowed to say that. That's not true. It's not true. You're banned. Brittany's banned from the podcast now. No, I realized this in the car the other day. So, because we record this episode like midweek, the week before, right? Because, you know, it turns out we like to have a weekend too.

There's a bit of movie magic right there. So that's movie magic. It's not on a Monday. We don't record this the second it comes out and is given to you. But what we often do is we start this episode going, God, it's been a big week. And I put this on in the car last week and I was listening to the Monday episode on the Monday. And it was a weird way to start an episode when it was 9 a.m. on a Monday,

being like, fuck, it's been a long week so far. It's been a big Monday. It's been a big Monday. Do you know what I did yesterday? Tell me everything. I can't tell you too much, but I'll tell you just enough. Are you going to run me through the blow by blow of the day or just one specific part? So I don't know if you know my grandma has pigeons.

No, I can't tell you too much because it was like a big job that I've worked on. But I did go to a stranger's wedding yesterday. I was at a wedding all day, all night, with the most lovely couple. I loved them, but I didn't know them. I kind of love that. I do love a wedding. I would go to a stranger's wedding just to hang out and just eat good food. And I'll be able to show you more in the coming weeks. I think it's like I am dropping it in the coming weeks. It was just a really cool experience that I got to do. And I feel like I've always wanted to do that. I was basically a wedding crash up. Here's my question though. Did you cry? I actually had a tear in my eye. Yeah. I cry at every wedding. It doesn't matter whether I know the person or not. Like I've been a guest to a lot of weddings for people who I hadn't met before. Like I went with Matt obviously to his cousins. wedding and I hadn't met them at the time and I bawled my eyes out.

Did you cry at mine? Yeah, of course I cried at yours. Good. All of them. 17 weddings are cried. Bore my eyes out. No, I bore my eyes out and Matt was like, Laura, you don't even know them.

And I was like, it's so beautiful. Because we love love. Because we love love. I've just never seen anything as beautiful as this. She's a lifer as well. So like I did feel like there was a little connection there, which was really cool. This is a very, I don't even know how to describe it. Like you're giving just enough that it's confusing.

and no one really knows exactly what is you're talking about. You did a job. The job meant that you had to go to a wedding. The wedding you didn't know the people. And you're a wedding crasher and you cried. I'm really trying the lines. Mate, there is a movie in that. I think they've already made it called the wedding crashes.

I think they did. Well, we are here to answer your deep dark and burning questions. But before we do that, we have some vibes and unsubscribes. What are you vibing? You guys may have seen that there's a new documentary coming out. If you haven't seen this yet, you'll see it in the next couple of weeks. It comes out October 16th. It's called You Can See Everything and it's hosted by Nathan Fielder.

Oh, I'm already, the shorts that have come out that everyone's talking about with the crazy eyes. Yeah. All about it. So basically it's a documentary on the woman Elizabeth Holmes who was the CEO of a tech medical company called Theranos. And she's in prison for a multitude of charges. She's a fraud stuff. Yeah. And she was quite dangerous with what she did.

So the documentary that is coming out that the promos are leaking everywhere is Nathan Fielder spending three weeks with her before she goes to prison and then he continues to interview her while she's in prison for the coming years. It's like a three-year documentary. My vibe is if you don't know the story and you don't know the case, there is already a series with eight episodes on Disney called The Dropout with Amanda Safe Read. Now, that was, it's years old. Like it was done so long ago. But I rewatched that so I could get my head back into the right place to watch this documentary that's about to come out. So it's, it is a series on Disney. It's called The Dropout. It is all about Elizabeth Holmes and Theranos and it is brilliant. So if you're not across the story,

go to Disney and watch it. You will love it. You'll get completely across it. And she's such an unusual character that I think it'll give you a really good base jump for when this new documentary comes out. I find the story around this fascinating. I remember watching a doco a little while ago. She's in prison for 10 years, right? That's been, that was her sentence. I have a lot of lot of feelings around the fact that when you have three weeks left, you have three weeks left in the world with your children. She's a mum of two kids and you choose to spend that time doing around the clock documentary with a man you don't know who's going to spend time in your home. To me, like that's quite a shocking and interesting choice to make when you're a mum and you

could be spending those three weeks with your children before going to prison. I think that that even, which is the smallest part of the whole discussion around this woman, that to me just shows like how disconnected she is actually from reality and potentially what a true psychopath she is. If I knew that I wasn't going to have free access to my kids again for 10 years, spending three weeks with a fucking random man doing a documentary would be the last thing I'd be doing. Well, it's interesting because, so she did ask him not only to do the documentary the three weeks prior, but she did say, hey, move in with me. Yes, that's what I mean.

My family home. 24-7 with a man. And now, I don't think there's an actual diagnosis, but from the series, the dropout that I watched, it's sort of depicted that she's a sociopath, like that she has no real feelings and she doesn't feel the same way as other people, like she says that. Her emotions, she's quite manipulative. There are a lot of aspects to her character that were portrayed in the dropout. Now, I don't know how accurate they are to her, but even from the snippets that we have seen of her on TV, I do think that they are probably pretty in line with each other. And that would be why she's okay to be like,

I don't really care about spending time with my kids. I'm a sociopath. I'm going to have him come and tell my story, I think she still believes what she did wasn't wrong. I think, yeah. And I think she also believes that she can probably still manipulate the story, the way in which the story is told and have some sort of control and agency over it. Yeah. Fascinating. I am so excited of that doco to come out. And I know everyone's been talking about the trailer, like every other podcast has been talking about the trailer. We toyed with the idea of like, do we discuss this? But I was like, you know what, let's wait until the actual doco comes out and we can. We absolutely will once it's out. When everyone's talking about the same thing, sometimes we take a left turn and instead we

talk about women shitting themselves. So here we are. If we can't do the deep dive dive, we dive deep. All right, well look, I have a basic as recommendation for you guys. I'm not really a foundation galley, but I am a concealer galley. And I'm always on the hunt for a good concealer. I really like the Mac, they can get like a Mac pot concealer. Fantastic. But I've come across one, which I absolutely love.

And it was a, I guess, like a happy surprise. I wasn't intending on finding something new. No, but I really do. I think everyone has their kind of like go-toes when it comes to makeup. And rarely do I change it up. And this was like a very pleasant surprise. More often than not when I buy new makeup, I'm just disappointed and don't end up using it. This is the airbrush, flawless blur concealer.

And I've got the 4.5, which is like fair to medium cover, like color. The coverage is really good and it blends so well. And I... It's blending in those Botox bruises. Thank you. It's really concealed some Botox bruises that I have. But I love it. I think it's really great.

And like I will go in and just do like under my eyes, around my nose and on my chin. And that's enough for me in terms of coverage. And I think it's fantastic. That's all you're supposed to put concealer. Yeah, but instead of foundation. Oh. That's like I'll just go in with a bit of that and then chuck some bronzer on. And then bare face.

And I'm fucking done for the day. Wow. Must be nice. Must be nice. I'll roll out of bed and look like that. Well, I've got a lot of it on. Maybe you just use your concealer as foundation. It's like the same thing.

That's not a thing either. So, do it. Brittany doesn't trust me when I do make. vibes because I'm actually such so not a makeup girlie. It was from the time that she watched me put on my contouring one day and she has never slept again. It haunts her dreams. You've used lip liner as eyeliner. Bryni was like, why the fuck are you putting contouring on your eyelids? And I was like, it's a really nice bronze color. I do contour my eyelids as well. I do that. No, it's not that I don't trust you. I just find it amazing and you're very lucky that you can

just put a little bit of concealer on and then you still glow like a glowy glow goddess. Not many people get to do that. Thank you. But you did miss a little Botox bruise there. No, I haven't. I've got so much on the Botox bruise, but it's coming through. You were saying just before you just got an update of Botox and it was so painful, do you have your period? No. Oh, because usually a period makes everything, and people might not know this. Anything that you get done that could inflict the tiniest amount of pain is intensified when you're on your period or the day before your period. Of course it is. Yeah. Of course it is. I'm two weeks out. Oh no, so it's not that. You're just a pussy. Fuck you. I'm joking.

Okay, question number one. What did you just say? No. What was it that you said, Britt? She said she's got a sore butt. Yeah, I said not for what you think. Well, I was thinking squats, so I guess it was from anal. You got me.

You got me. You figured out my riddle. Riddle me this. It's from squats. It's actually from blupt bridges. Amazing. Like semantics. That is exactly what I was thinking.

Exercise. Oh, go. My partner sleeps naked. Help. My partner sleeps naked. I do not. It's absolutely a personal choice and it's absolutely fine. However, he seems to have a middle of the night routine where he needs to use the bathroom for a poo.

Sorry. I would say 80 to 90% of the time when I've stayed over or he has stayed at mine, he's up at about 2 to 3 a.m. using the bathroom. I almost always hear him get up. He scurries out of the bedroom naked into the bathroom. It's pretty obvious what he's doing in there and I just pretend like I don't wake up and I just doze in and out of my sleep. My ick isn't that. My ick is that he then gets back into bed with his bare ass on the sheets post poo. Is it ridiculous and immature for me to feel grossed out by this? And do I just need to get over it or is this a super normal thing to poo naked than just get

back into bed? Would anyone else be grossed out about it? I don't know how to answer this because like Firstly, yes, he may have done a poo, but he's not putting his butthole on the bedchie. He's not like laying down, spreading his butt crack. But this is like saying that if you've had a shower at like 8pm, you can't go to the toilet and do a poo if you're going to sleep naked at all. You can only sleep naked if you haven't done a poo. I don't sleep naked, so it's not my problem for me. If I have showered, I'm a real shower.

I will shower a lot. I really like to be clean. If I shower it and then I did a poo, I would shower again before bed. Absolutely. Absolutely. Absolutely. Hands down. And we know that you don't, Laura, because you shower once a week. I would not shower just because how big are you doing in there? It's just a cleanliness thing. What do you use a baby wipe if you need to? Why having a full body shower just because you did a shit? Because I like to shower. I love a shower. I will shower, even if it's a quick one, don't come at me for wasting water.

I'll shower three, four times a day if I've gone to the gym, then if I've gone to the beach, then if I've whatever. Yeah, absolutely. If I've gone to the gym, I will also have a shower. I'm not if I've just done a poo. I'm more curious about how many people have to poo in the middle of the night. That's unusual for me, because most people's bodies are on quite a body clock of like how long it takes you to digest. You eat your dinner. It's usually in the morning. Or digestion slows down at night time. Yeah. So it's, and I'm not, I'm not pointing any blame at him. I'm not saying anything's wrong. Maybe he's got IBS. I don't know. But that's unusual to me, like the clockwork middle of the night poop. Yeah. I mean, look, how do you address this? You could ask him to wear underwear to bed.

You're feeling a little bit like, I don't even know how you bring it up. Hey, honey, I know you like to sleep naked, but I have noticed that you're shitting it to in the morning. Can you please wear underwear? Weird. It's a weird conversation to have. I think you just have to accept that you're going to have to roll around in the sheets. No, I think it depends how close you are and how long you've been together for.

Like, if it's quite new, it might be hard. I don't know. Is he backing up on you? Is he backing up that butt crack on your leg? Like, I don't know. The more I think about it, the more I think that this is a silly ick. People are farting in bed all night. Your partner, no doubt.

is farting in that bed and he's nude. Yeah, if my partner was farting on me bare butt so that air was like I could feel it, that's an ick. I promise you, if Ben's naked in bed. He's not naked. He's not naked. He's not getting in bed. People, if you are asleep, you are farting in your sleep.

100%. People who sleep naked are farting in their bed. Like, it is happening. But you can't tell her it's a silly ick. It's her ick's can be silly. I validate your ick. I'm validating your ick. I am.

I'm with you. You can't tell me how to feel because it's my feelings. If Ben would do. I'll tell you how to feel. It's wrong. If Ben doesn't poo right before Ben, I would tell him to have a shower. Yeah, but what if it was two or three in the morning? Or I wouldn't know I'd be asleep.

But he doesn't do that. I know he's body clock. Yeah. I understand where you're coming from and I would echo these sentiments. I don't have to worry about this because we always sleep with underwear on. Like, Matt's not a naked sleeper. I'm not a naked sleeper. There's too many children in our bed to be naked sleepers.

Yeah, it's a dangerous thing. It's not okay. So it's not an issue that we have to deal with. And I think that if I was in your situation, I probably would feel the same. But I do think what I'm trying to say is when you break it down logistically and the fact that naked people are farting in the bed anyway, most people if they have a shower early in the night might do a poo anyway afterwards. I think that just because of the timing of it is what's making you feel weird.

And I think you're going to have to accept it. Or have a weird conversation with your partner about how you've been monitoring his midnight a shit. It's not the timing. But the more you think about it, there's something pretty gross about it. If you know your partner just got up for however long. He's done a poo and then walks back in with his butt open. I get it.

Sorry, why is his butt open? Because if he lays on his side, he's just done a shit. If he lays on his side with no undies and a bed he's small and you're going to be rolling around touching it. It's like, I get it. I absolutely get it. I think all you have to do is get some Kleenex wet wipes. Leave them next to the bathroom toilet and say, honey, if you're going to do a shit in the middle of the night, please can you use these? Well, then you can just say, can you put undies on?

Yeah, but not everyone likes to sleep like that. I think sleep, I was going to say sleep hygiene, but there's none of that happening. That's out of that we know. No, sleep is very specific. Some people like, you know, a certain type of material for their pyjamas. Some people can sleep naked, have to sleep naked. Other people need to sleep in underwear. Like, I feel like I need to have underwear on because I need everything to be protected

from the outside elements. Which is it from whom? What if there's a fire and I've got to run out of the house in the middle of the night? I can't be naked. You'll get more help if you were naked. I don't think so. If I was running down the street naked with three kids, they'd be. It would not be helping me.

They'd be mocking their doors and drive. Run! All right. Question number two. So glad we got to the little bottom of that one. Ha ha ha ha. Question number two. This one is quite a hard one to answer, I think.

My boss takes credit for my ideas in meetings. I've pitched two big ideas this year that got genuine traction. And both times my manager has presented them to senior leadership as his own thinking, with me sitting right there. I'm early in my career. I don't want to torch the relationship, but I also don't want to spend the next five years being invisible. I feel like I can't say anything because technically he is my superior, but it's getting to the point where I'm really resenting him and almost don't want to pitch

things or do my job well in case he just keeps on stealing my ideas. Should I talk to him about this or do I go over his head even? Was this Sophia or Lockheed? Do you know what? I actually don't think this is that hard. This, to me, I mean, this is really shitty. This is your thinking and someone above you in a position of power is taking credit for it. And it does put you in a position where you're like, great, if I say something, am I going to get fired? Is he going to treat me differently? Whatever. If it was maybe once, I'd probably try and swallow it and just be like, well, that was fucked, but play on.

The fact that it's happened twice already and that means it will continue to happen. I think I wouldn't say anything to my superior that's stealing the ideas. I think I would go above to the person, the senior management, who he has pitched them to. That's what I would do. I'd probably go on and say, hey, I know this sounds crazy, but this has really been bothering me. The last two really amazing ideas, like, I have brought, they're mine, like, and I have brought them. And I don't want to say this to start anything, but I just, I just hate the fact that, like, my creativity and the reason you guys have hired me is just not being seen. And somebody's taking their ideas that my work is theirs. It's your work.

It's your creative IP. And it's okay for your boss to take that to the superior. But what he should be saying is, hey, Sof came to me and we've been working on this idea together and it's a brilliant idea. It has great legs and we're developing it into this. But the fact that he's not even mentioning you at all is, I just don't think he's okay. I agree. I do think, though, context of the role, context of the leadership of the role and how your teams is structured is also something that could change my opinion on this, but we don't have that context. Oftentimes when there is like a leadership position and there is a team underneath, regardless of whether the leadership person brings the idea to a board meeting or whatever, it's recognized that it comes

from a team representative. You know, a marketing manager brings forward a marketing idea. They're not going to necessarily sit there and be like, hey, this is what every single person in this team contributed to this marketing idea. It's being pitched as a total. It doesn't necessarily mean that everyone thinks that that idea was theirs. But I do understand the visibility with this. And I think when it's happened twice now and if the full inception and conception of the idea was yours, then I understand why you feel upset that you're not getting. any validation for it and it will in some way affect your career progression if he is the only person that has visibility over the fact that you're the one who is coming up with this

type of like creative leadership thinking I guess. What I would do however is I would probably approach it a little bit differently though, Britt, I don't think I would go above my manager's head straight away. I think I would have a discussion with them first. And the reason for that is is because if it does filter back down to your manager, that is going to create a really difficult situation. Firstly, it's going to create a really difficult situation where they're going to have some animosity to you. But it's also not going to solve the problem because the next time you're in a meeting and you've pitched a great idea to him, what are you going to do? The next time he takes claim for your idea, you're going to once again email the superior bosses and be like, hey, I just wanted to let you

know once again that was my idea. Like unless someone addresses it with him, it's never going to change. So I would call a meeting with him. I would sit down with him and say, hey, I just wanted to discuss something with you. I know that we work collaboratively as a team. I know that, you know, it is my job to bring ideas. But when we're in that setting, I would really appreciate it if you make it known and you be an advocate for me and a voice for me about what I am bringing to the table because I don't think my abilities are being recognized by senior leadership. If he then continues to not do that, then I think you go above him. But I don't think you go above him as the first step. That's interesting. We definitely would approach it differently. And I just think the reason I don't think

I'd be able to go to him directly. Because I'm trying to put myself in it. And I'm like, what would I want to do? Would I go to that person and be like, hey, like, I know you're taking my ideas. It's not cool. He knows he's taking your ideas. Yeah, but once you have a conversation, it will, it will, if he's going to keep doing it if he thinks he can get away with it.

But if he's been, if it's been brought to his attention that you're not okay with that, I think he would stop that behavior. Well, you would hope so. The only other thing you could do is, like, next time he does it in a meeting. I don't know how your meetings go. Like, because the fact that he's doing is in front of you, he's bringing up his idea to the scene, to his singers in front of you and you're right there. Is there a way you can be like, oh, Tom, I'm so glad you loved my idea.

What else, you know, I was also thinking and you can add to it. Like, is there a way you can just throw a sentence in there so everyone in that moment knows, oh, it actually came from you. Like something like that. And that might not be the right dialogue. Like, Tom, I love that you loved my idea. What I, you know, I think it also has legs to grow in this direction or whatever. Is there a way you can just drop that in without having to have a sit down conversation to start with?

Do you know what? That could work really well if you were doing it in a way that doesn't come across in any way pass-ag. Yeah, like pass-ag. Like if you do, if you say, oh, look, guys, I actually, I don't want to jump in here. You know, I don't want to overstep. But when I brought this idea to Tom, one of the other things I was thinking about this is that we could add XYZ. So you've made it very clear that you brought the idea to him and he's now presenting it as your own. But also that you had the capability of developing that idea beyond what the original

concept was. That's, I mean, like, that's a very, that's a, but that's not going to work every time, though. The problem is, is if he's doing this on repeat, you've got to stop the behavior. Maybe it's enough. I mean, maybe you try that once and see his response. Maybe it's enough for him to be like, okay, I can read between the lines here. Like, she's calling me out a little bit without calling me out.

And maybe it's enough, maybe if he's a really good guy, he's like, I probably should credit her for that. And if it doesn't, then play on with whatever aspect you think is, I mean, read the room. I don't know what work environment you're in. I don't know what your direct bosses are like or you're, or your superior bosses alike, you'll know probably the way that they would respond to you separately. Is it going to be worse for you if you go straight to him? Is it worse for you if you go to the superior? Do you know the superior enough that he might, you think that that superior might

feed that back to him and have a chat? Are they a fair, really fair manager and fair boss? Or, I don't know, you know that situation, but I definitely don't think you should just let it slide. You've already said it's affecting your job because you're like, I don't want to pitch to him anymore. Yeah. The only thing, I guess for me, and I've learned this over the years, It's absolutely not something that came naturally to me at all in business or in, you know, I don't want to be in leadership, in staffing, in any of these things. But sometimes the easiest route is what feels like the hardest conversation. It is hard to go to someone and say, hey, this has upset me and I would like to discuss this.

Sometimes it's easier to have an indirect conversation via someone else. But actually the path that gets you the best outcome is sometimes having the most direct conversation. And once you've built up your skills to do that, it actually is really empowering because it means that the next time you have to ask for a pay rise or you have to ask for something else in a workplace. It's a really important skill to be able to advocate for yourself. So I think regardless of whether you feel nervous about this, like put on your big girl panties and I have a conversation. But I wouldn't just go above him because that's the easier route. I would try and speak to him about it. You also, it's important you know your value and what you contribute at a workplace.

and it's important that not only you know, but everyone else knows as well. Fuck yeah. Fuck yeah. Question three. Would you give up a window seat for a pregnant mum with a toddler? I already know my answer to this. So, we were recently on a flight from Sydney to Queenstown, myself, my husband and our 17-month-old daughter.

I should also add that I'm 31 weeks pregnant. So technically, there were three and a half of us. Loll. We had two seats between the three of us with another lady beside us. In the road directly in front was a woman around our age, so early 30s, who had the entire row of three seats to herself. Our flight was delayed for an hour on the tarmac, so I politely asked if, once we were in the air, she would consider swapping with us.

It would mean the three of us and the belly could have a row of three while she moved back with the other woman and still have an empty middle seat beside up. She was going to move from a row of three to still having two seats. How long's a flight? Well, Queenstown, so four hours. Okay, yeah. Three and a half, you fell asleep. Those three seats would have come in handy for that nap, though.

So she said no because she wanted the window. Now, I completely understand the argument that if we wanted an extra seat, we should have paid for one. And she was absolutely entitled to the window seat that she booked. I don't dispute that. But my question is, at what point do we look beyond what we're technically entitled to and do something small that would make life significantly easier for someone else? My husband and I were genuinely surprised because neither us would have ever hesitated in this situation if it was reversed. If I had a row to myself and I saw a heavily pregnant woman, her husband and toddler squished into two seats beside me, I would absolutely move in a heartbeat, particularly if I had an empty seat beside me.

Then came the part that really got us. We could see her texting her friends about the situation and blaming my husband. And now I want to defend him. He is a very hands-on husband. She was saying that he should have taken our daughter while I sat in front by myself to have a break because I'm pregnant. Tell me you don't have a 17-month-old without telling me you don't have a 17-month-old. The idea of telling our toddler that mommy is going to sit directly in front of her relaxing while she stays behind with Daddy for four hours is hilarious.

I can tell you exactly how that would have gone and nobody on that playing would have enjoyed it. So I'm genuinely keen to hear your thoughts. Were we entitled for even asking or have we become so focused on, quote, I'm entitled to this, so I don't owe you anything, that we have lost the instinct to simply help another person out. I feel, and maybe this will come back to bite me in the ass, I feel as though both people are right in this situation. You're going Switzerland. I'm going Switzerland.

And I'm going Switzerland for one reason. Because it's evident that the mum and the dad who has the baby and is pregnant, they didn't pay any extra to choose their seats. They were quite happy with the roulette lot of what seat they got allocated when they rocked up at the airport. You know, like with every airline these days, you can pay an additional. amount of money to choose your seat. And I think if you are someone, regardless of whether you have kids or you don't have kids, if you have paid that extra $45 to pick your seat, fuck, you're entitled to keep it. And I know that it's the kind thing to give it up because there's other people who are inconvenienced. But I do genuinely think that if you are someone, even if you have kids, even if

you're pregnant, if you are voluntarily going through the roulette of the seating plan on a plane, then you have to just be okay with what gets given and you can't expect that people are going to give up what they've paid for for you. Would I like to think that people are that generous and that is something that people would offer up? Yeah, I've been in terrible fucking situations on planes with like, Matt and I being separated, me having both kids, me being pregnant with, like, we've done every version of what has been terrible seating orientations on a plane.

And there's been times where people have been generous and helped us out and there's been times where people haven't. And I guess for me, like that's kind of where I land. Of course, you would hope that people are seeing. something that's inconvenient and they offer to help. But I do understand that when you don't have kids, you've paid for your seat and you've paid for the additional upgrade to have a window seat and you see that you're the only one being inconvenienced by the change. I can understand why your reaction is to go, I'm going to text my friends and be like, why the fuck doesn't the dad just stay there

with the toddler and let his pregnant wife sit in front? I understand why she doesn't realize that that's a problem. Yeah, look, I agree. At the end of the day, correct. She's entitled to say I don't want to move. Like I actually really like my seat. I paid for it and I want the window. A hundred percent. There's nothing wrong with that. If it was me, would I have swapped? Yes. There is no situation on this earth, whereas I had a row of three and I could let a whole

family have that and still have a spare seat next to me. Would I not do that for that family? It would be different if it was like a 24-hour flight to Europe or something and they were asking you to move from a window with spare seats to a middle seat that had people on either side, right? Like, I would probably be like, oh, dude, this is 24 hours and I pay, you know, that would be a much tougher decision. And I might not even do that. Like, I might just say I'm actually going to stay here for 24 hours. But I think for this very particular situation, yeah, I would have swapped. But I don't think you can hate on the lady for saying no. It's tough.

No, if you don't have kids and you don't know what it's like having a 17-month-old, the solution that she is writing and the text message to her friend, like why doesn't the pregnant lady just come and sit next to me? And then the whole thing is solved. Why do I have to go and move to a seat that I didn't pay for? I understand why that makes sense in her head. And to be fair, and to be fair, I know that you say that, like, has she never had kids, like a 17 month old split us apart? There has been loads of times where I have traveled with a 17 month old and Matt and I have been split. And you make it work. Like, yes, the kid wants to go from this seat to that seat to that seat to that seat. The woman who's sitting in the window will very soon realize

that that's the reality of the situation for a period of time she's going to have a toddler sitting next to her. Then the toddler will be back with dad. But it's not going to be the kid just screaming the entire flight. There are ways to mitigate it. You don't know what kind of kid she's got. Potentially, but I mean, there are some screamers and some real attachment issues for some kids. I've seen them.

I have. It's witness it. But then it just means that like you're going to end up having the little toddler sitting in the middle seat. I worry because I know that there is a bit of an attitude that happens at times. Across social media, I see it. It's this idea that when people are pregnant or people. people have small children, that we think that we're entitled to the world and that we should not

be the ones that are inconvenienced. People who don't have kids should be the ones that are inconvenienced for us. And normally I would side with the person who is pregnant or has small children because life is just fucking infinitely harder and I absolutely get it. I've done it and I'm doing it currently. But sometimes I do think that there needs to be some maybe leeway or compassion for the person who doesn't have children and doesn't want to always be the one to give up something for someone else. You know, like, there has to be sometimes where we're like, you know what, this is an unfortunate situation. We can see both sides of the story. Maybe I'm wrong. Maybe people will be like, no, Laura, that's fucking not it. But no, it's both. And I don't think,

I think it's a really fine line because I don't think people that are pregnant and say, I deserve more, I'm entitled. Do they, are they entitled to get on a tram and have someone give them their seat? 100%. Absolutely. Like, yes, absolutely. And people need to be. far better at that for sure. But this situation, she was a right to say no and unfortunately that's something you have to accept. I just would have done it personally because you've literally said would you have done it. I personally would have because there was still an empty seat. I know. So all this girl was doing was moving from a window to an aisle and she still had a seat.

So for me, I would have been like, you know what? It's going to make your life better. But I'm really being in calmer as well. But also think this through. Maybe she paid that extra $45 or whatever it was to get the window seat because she wanted to film flying into New Zealand. It's the most beautiful place to fly into, where you fly into, like, seeing all the snow-capped mountains. Maybe that was something that was important to her and she really wanted to do.

We don't know why she chose to spend money to purchase something for herself. And what you actually were asking her, you were asking her to throw away that extra money that she spent. So maybe if you'd offered her the money and being like, hey, I know you paid for a specific seat, I can pay you for that. Do you mind if we swap?

Then that might be different. But I don't know. It's sure hard to give up a whole row. That's like winning a lotto when you're like, I can just lay down here for four hours. I think the reason why this is the one that feels slightly different is because people are very specific on flights. People are very specific about the seats that they choose. They're very specific about the reasons why they choose those seats. My feelings towards getting up for a pregnant person on a tram, a bus, a train or any other sort of like public space would always be different to where I've landed on this one. But this very

specific example. I'm like, oh, fuck, I just don't think anyone was in the wrong. When Laura and I were going to Queensland just a week or two ago, we were not next to each other. I sat on Brit. Laura was directly behind me. And so I had tilted my head around and my head was squished behind the seats and I was trying to talk to her. And then the guy next to me was like, do you want me to swap? And so he gave his aisle seat and moved to a window so that we could swap seats. And I understand that we don't have kids and whatever else and it's still a seat for a seat. But he was just, he just saw that opportunity. nice. It's like, hey, I'll swap you. And we're like, yeah, great. So it's like, it just for him,

he was probably like, it's four hours. These two are going to probably fucking not shut up the whole time anyway. Like, I'll just give them the seat. I have a question for you. What do you think is the supreme seat? Is it the window or the aisle? I'm an aisle girl. Personally. But I get anxious on a lot, if it's a, if it's to Europe and it's like the long haul, because I have a really funny tummy. I've got like allergies to really certain foods where it does not do me well. And so if it's 24 hours and I'm like, oh, if I'm going to have to go to toilet loads. I don't want to constantly be like trying to leap from the, you know, but I like being able to lean against it to sleep. So it's a, I have done some high jump over multiple people

before in that row. It's a real gamble. What do you do? I'm always a window. Yeah. I'll ask you people. Because you're passed out within three minutes. Yeah. And I can do an entire 24 hour flight and not do a poo. I'm fine. I'll literally sit there, not move, sleep the entire way. I feel like every time we get on a plane, you say, I've got to do a poo. Every time we get in a studio, you go, I've got to poo. You do more poos than anyone I know, actually. You do and you know it. That's why you're giggling. All right. Anyways, next question.

Number four. Quattro. You ready? Brilliant. Okay, my friend started a brow business, but I don't like it and I want to go back to my old brow girl. It is tricky. It is tricky.

A very, very good friend of mine has recently started a small beauty business from home. And I am so proud of her. After having kids, she's finally getting back into something that she genuinely loves. And I would love to support her. The problem is. I don't actually like the way she does my brows. I went to her once or twice last year, but since then I have been going elsewhere, which she knows. I recently thought I'd give her another chance because I really do want to support her, but I still don't love them. I actually

feel the way she's doing them is undoing some of the work my usual brow girl did and has been doing for years. She's really into mapping, encouraging certain hairs to grow back and creating a particular shape. So now I want to go back to my usual place, but I feel so guilty. How do I navigate this without hurting her feelings or making her think that I don't support her. And before you say, communication is key. Yes, I completely agree. Don't say it like, that's what we say on every episode. It's the basis of the human connection. Hey, guys, if you've come here for any advice, communication is key. No, we will tell you to also wear undies in bed.

But I genuinely don't feel comfortable telling a friend that I don't like the way she does my eyebrows. Please help. Just don't tell her. Just go back to your old place. Just never talk about it. It's so. Avoid tricky. No. You can avoid it. You can avoid it. I'm actually going to go with don't avoid it. I think you can avoid it.

You don't have to discuss this. This is fine. Okay, so this is where I'm going. This is the real. Let me, hear me out. This is why I'm going to disagree on this one, which is also fine. Laura and I have very different styles of life. Communicating.

Of life. Of communication is key. We have different styles of the brow. Laura doesn't do them. No, I'm joking. I don't. I just draw them on in the morning. You also don't need you.

You're one of those people that needs to do the least amount and just nails everything. It's what you do. You don't, you just were born like Adonis. I, thank you, like a man. You were born like a man with a dick. Like a glistening man. Perfect. There's worse things to be born like.

Than a man? Take a dog. Not in this fucking day and age. No one likes them. Take Adonis. No, the reason I think this is different, it's really tricky. I feel like everyone might have come across these situations in life. Usually we get these stories about hairdressers.

Like your friend might be a hairdresser, but you just don't like the way they do the hair. And that's a really big thing to go elsewhere because they, hairdressers notice. If you've gone somewhere else, they're like, well, I didn't die from black to blonde, so like, yeah, you're cheating on me. It's tricky because, like, you don't want to hurt your friend's feeling, and you do want to support them. But I do think you should say something, but I think it can be done in a different way. If she has just started a small business, if you don't think she's doing, if you're like a brow connoisseur and she's not hitting the mark, she is new to this business. And that's why I think it's really important for her that you give her the constructive criticism or the feedback to make her better so that every other customer that she has doesn't.

take their business elsewhere. It doesn't sound like she's new to the business. She's getting back into something that she genuinely loves. Sounds like she used to do it. She said she just started a small business. So I don't know. I'm assuming when you say she's just started a small business, if that's the case and she is new to this, like maybe she's been a beautician for ages or whatever it is and now she's hyper-focusing on eyebrows. Whatever, if that's the case, I think it's really important to give feedbacks to your friends because you want them to be successful. And I have a business launching soon, which I'm going to tell you guys about soon. I love the little breadcrumb.

It's been, I have been working on it for so long and I'm really excited to tell you guys about it. But I want people to give me the feedback. And I did some samples with Laura and she gave me feedback and we swapped companies. And I had some other friends do the same. That's what you want, right? And when I launch, I still want that feedback because you constantly want to make sure that what you're putting out is great.

I truly think your friend would do that. And I think you can do it in a nice way. Like, I think you can talk to her about it or. maybe it can be like, hey, have you learned how to do this, whatever it is, whether it's mapping or whatever? Because I had my brows done last year by this amazing girl that did this cool mapping. It could be cool for you to bring that into the business. I think there's ways you can do it because if you just go somewhere else after having gone back to her and you leave and you're still friends, I just think that that's an awkward dead silence where you both know

and you're both wondering and I think it can cause a bit of a rift. I don't know. For me, I think there's a way you can do it. I think it's fine. And I say this as someone who does does run a business, and has for a very long time. The amount of friends I have that come to me to get their engagement rings made is equivalent to the amount of friends that go somewhere else. I'm talking like best friends who instead of coming to me to get their engagement ring went to another place. I'm not like, hey, why did you pick that person, not me? They don't need to explain it. It's not a big deal. It doesn't matter. I think it's different if they came to you to buy a product and then they're like, oh, I'm not going back there to buy again. And you would, and you've even said to me in the

past. Hey, give me feedback on the, like, brand, you know, like, I don't know. I think it's different. But it is that. I mean, I have friends that have loads of Tony May jewelry, have bought loads of things, but they don't choose me for their engagement ring, even though I have other friends that have hardly any Tony May jewelry, and I'm the first person they think of when it comes to designing their engagement ring. And I think that people are allowed to be really specific about what they like. You are supporting your friend. You have supported her. It doesn't mean that she's the only person that you have to go to for the rest of your life. I also think that sometimes mixing these kinds of things, mixing your hairdresser with your best friend.

If you don't like what they do, it actually makes it really, really hard to then leave later on. You've done a couple of them. If you go back to your old beautician, you don't have to have like a sit-down conversation with her about it. I personally wouldn't. I would book him with my old beautician. I wouldn't make it a big deal. And then if she ever brings it up, you could say, do you know what?

There was a couple of things that I feel very specific about. And my friend who I've been going to for like the last few years, I've built such a relationship with her. I also felt really conflicted about who to choose. And I think that you can navigate this pretty easily, is my opinion. If you do want to go down the track of having a conversation with her, my only thing is, if this is a business that she has worked in, if she's a skilled brow technician has been for a really long time and she's just starting her own business, I think be careful about giving her feedback on the aesthetic of the way that she's doing her job, because people just sometimes have a different art form, right? Like some makeup artists are different to

makeup artists, they like to use different types of product. They might have a heavier touch than someone else. We all have aesthetic preferences with these things. So I think it doesn't always have to be personal, even though it feels personal. And I am quite avoidant. So as much as I say, have communication, when there is conflict, I fucking hate it. And Laura knows this. I go into a shell. I don't talk. I'll say, I'll see you next week. It's very annoying. It's really annoying. I'm the opposite. I'm like, if there's a problem, just talk about it. And then get over in five minutes. I don't hold a grudge. and so I get over things super quickly, but it has to be aired.

I don't hold a garage either. Sometimes I don't need to talk things through, and I just internalize it, deal with it, and then I... Healthy. And then I move on. But this, I don't think is this big deal. I don't think it's this big confrontation about, like, we need to talk about the brows.

I think there is a way you can do it because if you're that close and you've gone to her, then you've left, you've made a comeback to her and then you fuck off again. Whether you think it or not, she's going to be like, have I done something wrong? Is my business shit? Does she, like, maybe she won't voice that to you, but she's going to think it.

Up to you whether you care about that. Maybe she will just play on and never ask you again. And that's also fine. Like, you know your friendship. But I do think there's a way that you can, like, slide that into the combo. Or don't do your brows for a while. And then when a little bit of time goes past, go back to your old play. I'm trying to think if there's ever been a time in my life.

I don't see, like, I don't use friends for specific jobs. You know, like if I have a makeup artist or a photographer or a hairdresser. But usually what happens for me is that those people, become my friends. So I would find it really hard. For example, like my photographer now who I use for all of our Tony May shoots or my makeup artists who I use for anything that's to do with work or TV or the very few times I get my makeup done. I would find it hard to book someone else, even if that person was my friend because I have become friends with the people that I use. So like in this instance, the brow person that you have been using for the past couple of years, don't you now have a relationship

with that person? Aren't you like friendly with them? It's even... Well, they just might be the brow tech, Because quite often you go when you get brows and lashes, quite often you go and just lay it on the bed and go to sleep for an hour when they do it. When I was getting my lashes done all the time, we talk about everything. I felt really connected to her to kids and a family and having a little chat in a back room. I know so much about my brow lady because she's also a lia-fi. She's been dying to get you in. I'll say that. She'll listen to this.

She's been like, please send Lauren. She's like send Lauren with her fucking scraggly-ass lashes. To be fair, I have a bone to pick with tubular mascara. Can I say this? She wants your brows, not your lashes. Oh, good, okay. No one wants my lashes. They're hanging on for dear life. I love tubular mascara. I have vibed on the podcast before. I think Zoe Foster Blake once was like, tubular is where it's at. And I was like tubular. And you're like, rock on. And I was a rock on. And I've only ever used it since.

But I actually think since using tubular mascara, my fucking eyelashes are just all falling out. Because you know how you have to pull them all? Yeah. Yes. Is that all stress. Anxiety. Your hair is falling out too. That's postpartum. It's the depression. It'll get you. Now, before we get too deep into depression, we got a wrap. It's time to go. Guys, you know what? There's some homework first. Plug-y, plug-plug.

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