Life Uncut - Ask Uncut - The Return Of The Huntsmans

Episode Date: January 26, 2025

Hey Lifers! Laura's past is coming back to haunt Britt and this time it's in the form of 8 legged creatures! Also just a reminder that this is not a national geographic podcast and you should take our animal facts with about a 50% accuracy assumption... Vibes for the week! Britt: Nektech MassagerKeeshia: Diddy: the Making of a Bad Boy on BingeLaura: An Update On Our Family Docuseries on Binge Then we jump into your questions! MY TWO HOUSEMATES ARE SLEEPING TOGETHERWe recently found out that two of my housemates are sleeping together and I can’t help but be a little pissed off at them. The guy recently had a messy breakup in the first week of our lease where his partner (one of my best friends) had to move out. The house is only just recovering from this. The girl he is sleeping with (our other housemate) has lived with us for two and half months so she was also living with the guy's ex. I’m finding it hard to be nice to them around the house but have been told by my partner for the sake of the house to be pleasant.What should I do? FINGER UP THE BUMThis was a hot topic out for dinner with my girlfriends…. if you man sticks his finger up your butt during foreplay/sex what does it mean? Is it for your pleasure? Because he wants the same in return or could it be that he wants to try anal? Or is it just a simple finger in the butt that shouldn’t be questioned? ROOMMATES CATS DAMAGING PROPERTYI live in a shared house with two other girls. One of the girls has adopted two cats that now live with us. The cats are damaging property in the house that belongs to me like countless houseplants and scratching/making pulls in the couch. Am I within my right to ask for financial reimbursement for damages to my property or asking her to replace these items? She doesn’t apologise for the damage or destruction/death of plants and instead blames me. How should I approach this and is it fair to ask for financial reimbursement? BOYFRIEND DOESN'T WANT TO TALK ABOUT EXESIs it ok For your boyfriend of 3 years to not want to talk about his exes ? I feel like for me it’s not a big deal. Your past is your past, which is something you should be able to share with the love of your life: It’s part of who you are and why and how you’ve grown? Why should it matter if you have moved on? Why can’t or doesn’t he want to talk about it? He is 32 and I’m 28? Any suggestions or thoughts? We spoke about the episode with Haven Shepherd that you can watch here! You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This episode was recorded on Camaragal land. Hi guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut. I'm Laura. I'm Brittany, and it is Ask Uncut, where you write in your questions, your problems, your predicaments. We do our best to answer them. Your deep, dark, and burning questions. Hey, I woke up this morning. Now, I live in Laura's house, old house. For anyone, you know where I'm going to go with this, don't you? No, I was just laughing because without context,

people think that you just like live in my spare bedroom. People don't know that Laura locks me in her basement of a night time. No, I moved into Laura's old house. So Laura moved out of her apartment and I moved in. And Laura had this like infestation problem with husbands. They're back. They're fucking back. Oh my God.

But they're back with a vengeance. No, they were there with a vengeance. I will never forget the day that I was sitting on the couch and I was like, oh, there's a huntsman on the blind. And I got up and I pulled the blind back and there was no joke about 70 fucking baby huntsmans that had just swarmed up the curtain with all these big ones. I put it on stories at the time because I was like, I need to burn this house down. We don't live here anymore.

I'm homeless. Find me. Help. Yeah. So it's escalating. So they've started. Maybe it's time for me to do another bomb or something. I don't know what you do.

You bomb it? I think you move. okay i think it's time to move you get a lighter okay so they've been around right the last couple of weeks because i've as you guys know i spend all my time trying to talk ben off a ledge about australia's not full of spiders and killer animals and lately they are coming more frequently every day there seems to be one and i'm like fuck this morning they took it to another level this morning i woke up and i took my eye mask off because i sleep with a satin eye mask and there's a huntsman just like hello yes there was a huntsman about six inches from my face and it wasn't just one

huntsman it was eating another huntsman it was eating it in my face and I was like well I took for a minute I looked at it and I was like really taken aback because it was so close but you know when a huntsman dies they sort of shrivel up a bit maybe they're just kissing no So it was shriveled and hanging off the wall and I was like, oh, it died on its own in the night time. That was weird because it was sort of stuck to the wall and then it moved and went blah, blah, blah. And then I saw that it had another one in it.

Well, maybe they were having sex actually. Oh, my God, they're procreating. Do huntsmen do that? Do huntsmen bone? I don't know. People don't come here for science facts. Remember that time I had to cut us saying that a turtle wasn't a reptile? Keisha, don't put that back in.

You're a producer for a reason. Can I tell you? hang on one second hang on yes laura it's not immaculate conception husbands have to have sex they don't just look at it are they how do insects breed just before you do carry on i have a confession to make which every so often i remember and it makes me feel really deeply stupid so i think it was up until i was like in my late teens early 20s when i realized that chickens had sex to fertilise the egg. I thought that a male chicken fertilised the egg after it was laid.

What the hell? That's why you could eat some and not eat others. I thought that there were like some that you could eat and some that you couldn't eat and some grew into chickens and others didn't. I think I was like 24. Hang on, you thought that a chicken would go and hump an egg? No, I didn't somehow inject into the egg.

Yeah, I didn't actually think that there was any chicken intercourse. You know you get to choose what you share on this podcast. like you just made a choice that's a choice that you can't take back I would like to do a call out what is the dumbest thing that you thought to be true and how old were you when you discovered it wasn't like that thing that you're like wow I am ashamed of myself mine's the chicken and the egg literally yeah what came first I don't know if this is like the dumbest thing but it's the first thing that came to mind it wasn't that long ago that I thought the earth was flat it wasn't that long ago that I thought the same you know nip it in the butt I thought it was nipping in the butt

like in your butt like nipping in the butt like so when someone's walking away you're like nip it and then they walk quicker it was shockingly recently that I discovered it was bud and it was even after that that I discovered it because you corrected me so anyway I have an update on how spiders reproduce just for everyone still uh still curious spiders reproduce sexually by transferring sperm from a male to a female you were right brit shock for them shock guys female then stores the sperm in a pouch until she's ready to lay eggs but she carries it around with our emergency sperm like that dress that you told us about yeah the condom condom dress well with all that really important stuff out of the way we did say we're going to keep ask uncut snappy this year

so let's get into our vibes and unsubscribes britney hockley what is your vibe for the week I'm coming in so hot with my vibe this week. This is going to change your life, blow your mind. It's called Nectek. It is a spontaneous purchase that I made last week at about 2 a.m. in my bed. That's what I do. That's when I do all my online shopping.

I got it from Amazon. It is like an at-home massager. Now, Nectek is like the brand and they sell different kinds of massagers like Flegs or whatever. This is this contraption that like and Keisha has now tried it. It drapes over your neck and it plugs in but it also has a car attachment. So if you want to plug it into your car while you're driving, it massages your neck.

That's great. I like that. It just sits over your neck and comes down to your hips and you can put your arms in it like a sling so your arms are relaxed in there and the pressure's taken off and then it has like different speeds and temperature. It warms up as well. And I always think these things are like gimmicky.

They are. Not this one. This will blow your mind. It is like someone is genuinely massaging your neck and you can put it on any body part. You move it down your back, you can lay it flat, put your calves in it, put your feet in it. It's probably the best thing I have ever purchased in my life. I have to double down on this.

When Brit first showed me it, I was like, oh my days, like what's this little, what's this little knickknack you got now that you're trying out? And then I tried it and then I went home. I couldn't get her out of my house. And I was like, we need to own it. What is it called again? Neck tech. we need to own a necktack. I'm so bad with things like this though like I bought that LED mask and

it's really good and I wore it religiously for about three months and I was like wow my skin looks great guess I'll stop using it now and then I've never used it again I'm just so bad at anything that requires long-term commitment. Well in the neurodiverse community we call that hyper fixation. Do you know what I do and this is what makes it easy right it just sits on my lounge and it's plugged in so when I sit down for anything if I'm going to sit and eat on the lounge, if I'm watching TV for a bit, if I'm on my laptop, you just put it on your neck. That's it. It's so easy. This is not sponsored. I bought it. Also, I don't know if it's on sale still, but when I got it, it was, it sells for, I think $150. And I think I got it for about a

hundred. I had like a $50 off sale. Amazon neck tech. We'll put the links. It just changed my life. I've never known you to be so excited about a vibe. So I'm here for you. I'm happy for you. Yeah. Also because I have, you guys know all my neck pain and my migraines and stuff. So I was extra excited to find something that I've enjoyed and I thought was actually working. So yeah, I'm passionate today. Tisha, what is your vibe? Mine is a bit of a darker vibe this week. It is the new binge doco. It's 90 minutes. Diddy, the making of a bad boy. So this was the one that was made by Peacock and there's been a lot and a lot of talk ironically on TikTok before it was banned and then it came back about what was going to be revealed in this documentary. And obviously since

he was arrested last year on charges of, I mean, horrible things, racketeering, sex trafficking. There's been a lot of podcasts, Britt, you've recommended one before. So I just wanted like a 90 minute package that kind of summed it all up. And I knew some of the information that was in there, but I really, really didn't know the extent of it. And so when the documentary started, I actually was initially questioning, oh, is this for me? Because they went through how when Diddy was three years old Sean I should say his dad was murdered and I was like oh I don't want the the backstory to tell me why this guy became a monster like that's I'm not in like I'm not here to sympathize it very quickly became a revelation style documentary so one of the parts that hadn't

really been reported on as much or at least I hadn't read about it was how did he actually kind of got shot into stardom and it was because he was the promoter of this event where they oversold tickets and nine people got killed in a crowd crush and he was kind of the face of it he took no responsibility for it there were accusations that Diddy's previous partner Kim Porter did not actually die of natural causes from pneumonia that she potentially may have been murdered and there was actually a list of people there are now suspicions of as to whether Diddy took them out because they you know had too much information on him and and one of them who survived I'll be sure He is in the docuseries and it's the first time that he has ever spoken.

There was a woman who appeared on camera and she accused Diddy of sexually assaulting her with TV remotes. There were allegations of him using employees to lure women into these sex parties. His mum was also accused of being involved in these like wild sex. It was very, very strange. And this came from people like his bodyguards, from people like the friends of his girlfriends, friends from, you know, childhood friends. The people in the documentary were very intimately involved in his life. And that's why I think it's quite interesting. It also led to a lot of

questions about people like Tupac and people like Biggie and whether or not Diddy had some type of involvement. There's been a lot of talk about that for decades, but this docuseries painted a pretty clear picture of what he would have had to gain from that situation. And I watched this off the back of you recommending it quiche and i think biggest difference for a consumer is these allegations are not new for years everyone has speculated that he had a hand in murdering these people so that's not new but it's hearing from the people in his life it's different when you hear someone that grew up with him question like yeah he definitely this is suspicious he definitely could have done it that's where it adds this extra layer of like hang on a minute i think also seeing

how you know we've heard about these sex parties and and how many celebrities have been involved in his orbit it was just really mind-blowing that he's 55 now and I truly cannot believe especially after Me Too that it's taken this long and it kind of just goes to show I guess how much power he had we're obviously going to be hearing a lot more about Diddy coming up in May because this trial starts on the 5th of May. So if you kind of want to get your head around what the reasons for that and all of the backstory to the media, it is on Binge and it is called Diddy, The Making of a Bad Boy. Awesome. Yeah. Well, I also have a Binge doco for everybody to go and watch. Binge is killing it at the moment. Binge has got some good stuff. Not sponsored. Wish it

was. Would love to have an account. Run at us, Binge. Okay. So this is a docuseries. I've only watched the first episode and that's because I think it's a three or four part docuseries, but they're dropping an episode each week. So it isn't all available yet. It is called An Update on Our Family and it is all about the Micah Stauffer story. You might remember this story. It was very prolific in 2020 and it centers around a little boy that they adopted from China named Huxley. So this family, the Stauffer family, had a massive YouTube channel. They were kind of of the high era of family vlogging, shared so much of their lives. And one of the things that really, really just catastrophically grew their engagement was that they went to China to adopt

this little boy Huxley and bring him into their family. And it kind of had a bit of that whole like white savior element to it. Now that happened in 2016. In 2020, Huxley had been largely absent from the family content and the family vlogging. And a lot of people were starting to ask the question, well, where is Huxley? Especially because he was the one that so many people were so interested in. And Micah and her husband got onto their social channels and did quite a vulnerable and emotional post about the fact that they had, quote unquote, rehomed Huxley to some other family. The reasons for this unfolded and it's because he had severe disabilities, disabilities that they weren't aware of during the adoption process, and they didn't feel that

their family was fit for it. Now, absolutely justifiably, people were furious, especially not just furious about the fact that they had given him to a different family but also the language that was used rehoming him like he was an animal and not a child that was accessory yeah and also the fact that like you know you could biologically give birth to a child that has disabilities and you make do and you adapt but they obviously never saw him as being as important or integral as the rest of their children or they would have adapted to be able to cater for a child who has disabilities the reason why I wanted to recommend this is because it's something we've spoken about on the podcast before this family vlogging and the ethics behind family vlogging

and in the docuseries they have other people experts in the field commenting on and talking about like the insidious nature of family vlogging and also how once that is the way in which you make your money in order to keep expanding your business you have to keep on having children and so they talk about this adoption as being not out of love and not out of being an altruistic opening up your family to an additional person but actually that it was a very like strategically financial move and it also allowed them to gain more followers because it's like a business decision yeah and and when you think about it they had 700 000 subscribers at the time the biggest family vlogging uh like i don't know the name of the family but the biggest one at that time in 2020

was 1.2 million so they were really high up there when it comes to being one of the biggest family vloggers in the world so you can kind of question the motivations as to whether this you know whether this was something that could have had a different outcome if the adoption had taken place not because it was motivated by profits this actually reminds me a little bit of the conversation that you guys had with haven shepherd she's the paralympic swimmer who was adopted from vietnam and she is a double amputee we'll link everything in the show notes it's such a fun episode if you want to go back and listen to it but it really provided a different perspective for me she was initially adopted into a family in America from Vietnam and that's not the family

that she ended up becoming a part of so the the shepherd family with a second family and I guess it just provided a different reason maybe like a little bit of context about why that decision might not have actually been the right decision yeah as awful as like you initially hear that story about these family vloggers and you just go how could you be so cruel but I don't know perhaps there is another side to it that Haven could give, you know, a bit of a perspective on. I mean, it's a fascinating watch and the first episode's out on Binge. Well, you guys can get a neck text, sit back and watch one of these Binge Docos. How about that? All right, let's get into answering your questions.

All right, question number one. We recently found out that two of my housemates are sleeping together and I can't help but be a little bit pissed off at them. First, the guy, he also had recently gone through a messy breakup in the first week of our lease, where his partner, one of my best friends had to move out the house is only just recovering from this the girl he is now sleeping with our other housemate has lived with us for two and a half months also living with the guy's ex and being friends with her i'm finding it hard to be nice to them around the house but have been told by my partner for the sake of the household to be pleasant what should i do i don't even understand what's happened there's about five different people in here that were sleeping

together broken up and moved out do you want me to like yeah so firstly he moved in with his ex girlfriend. There must be like four or five people living in this house. He moved in with his ex girlfriend. In two months of them living there, they broke up. The ex-girlfriend moved out. She's friends with the ex-girlfriend, right? I'm not following. I'm actually not following. What do you mean he moved in with his ex? They both shared a room. So him and his ex moved in as a happy couple into this house. Yeah. I think that's throwing me. A couple moved in. They weren't exes when they lived together. When you say he moved in with his ex-girlfriend, it makes me think you've moved in with an ex-girlfriend sorry a happy couple moved into a house okay great they

had an argument yeah they broke up yeah the girl moved somewhere else he stayed there is another woman who lives in this house as well she has not been living there for very long either however there was crossover between the couple and the other woman living in the house the happy couple and yes so the ex leaves and now the two of them are shagging yeah got it and now there's another person in the house. And your mum lives there too. No, but now there's another person in the house that's not happy. Well, no one's happy about it. Fucking this house. Is this like a backpack? Move out. Move out. Okay. Got it. It's not your business. That's the way I feel. It's not your business that if they're boning each other, you could be unhappy with it because you

don't want, maybe it doesn't suit you to have people in the house that are banging, but you can't be like, yo, you guys can't be having sex together. They're paying rent. They can do what they want in the house yeah so long as they're being very respectful of the space and them shagging each other is not like affecting your ability to live in the space because it's like you know flowing out into the lounge room for example they're fucking on the couch but if they're just living their best lives and they're keeping it kind of to themselves well it sounds like it's actually she's unhappy about it because she's has a friendship with the ex that moved out so it's a weird form of loyalty that you're feeling towards your friend that moved out but

you don't have any ownership over that like I feel like you're like hey she was my friend you guys were together now it's awkward that I have to see you be with someone else and it probably is really awkward that you're seeing them but if exactly that if they're not fucking on the lounge and they're not leaving condoms around and they're not keeping you up at night with sex and if they're just two housemates that are turning up and paying their rent but you know that they're hooking up then you can't do or say anything if you're that uncomfortable and unhappy I think you need to move out I don't think you can ask them to yeah and don't get me wrong like I understand why this is an uncomfortable situation. I totally agree with you, Britt. I understand why you feel

as though it's frustrating because this affects your ability to be in your house and not have anxiety and not be stressed about keeping secrets from your friend and X, Y, Z, but it's not a situation that you have any control over. And like, unfortunately your moral compass is not the thing that reigns supreme in this situation. I would potentially, because if, for example, the ex is your very very close friend and she will be very angry at you if she finds out that they're sleeping with each other and you knew and you didn't tell her I would probably have a conversation with the guy with the housemate or the girl as well and be like hey I know that it's not Sarah's business or whatever her name is I know it's not her business I know that this situation is not necessarily ideal

if it's going to cause dramas xyz for her but like I refuse to be put in the middle of this so if that's going to affect my friendship I'm going to have that conversation with her or you guys can because I don't think that you should be the person caught in the crossfire with this but apart from that if they want to have sex they can have sex the only thing have you ever banged a roommate no but I was banging a guy so I had a really good friend and we were going to move in together we were mates and we were looking at house inspections right like we were genuinely good friends and we'd gone to several house inspections we'd put in an application for a house and then banged and then we fucked and then we were like fuck we can't live together now

I was like oh we could still live together and he was like this is a terrible idea I loved toxicity at the time so I was like wouldn't this be exciting no and no thank god thank god the absolute lord that he had more sense than I did the same guy that ended up telling you he liked you while you're on the toilet and then you accidentally wrote back to him and said no no no no no I never had sex with him no okay yeah praise the lord the only thing I want to add to this is that firstly it can be a joy when your housemates hook up with each other if they're like suited to each other and like you know that they're meant to be and it's like they're dating and life is great that can be fun it can be an absolute fucking hellhole punish if your housemates

hook up together and it is just sex and then someone ends up being hurt like it's a recipe for disaster yeah they do say don't shit where you eat probably don't have sex where you eat either like both unhygienic unnecessary but it's the same thing that's what the same means and it thanks for breaking it down though and it happens don't shit where you eat and also on that don't have sex where you eat either thanks laura they don't actually mean literally shit where you eat god i've been doing it wrong this whole time nipping in the butt but i'm being serious it can cause lots of problems i don't think you're on your own with this no i just don't think you have any control over it and if it's pissing you off that much unfortunately you move out you're only

renting so yeah and that's that's actually a shit thing to say because when i say you're only renting I know how much renting a house can be like your home I've been there I've done that but also if your home is causing you anxiety then it's time to look for a new home yeah question number two Laura I think this one requires your expertise finger up the bum this was a hot topic out at dinner with my girlfriend I don't like it anymore if your man sticks his finger up your butt during foreplay and sex what does it mean is it for your pleasure or because he wants the same in return or could it be that he wants to try anal or is it just simply a finger in the butt that shouldn't be questioned?

I think it means you have a finger in your ass. I'm not sure how deep you need to go. Two knuckles. Doesn't he like a whole finger? Two knuckles. I don't know. That was just a joke. I don't know.

Usually it's just to the first knuckle. No, I think it's two because it's got to bend for the G spot. Well, bend. You have to bend. You need that joint. Wow. But then like that's. You need to go in and.

All right, look, I think if you're having sex and someone sticks their finger in your ass, it doesn't mean that they want you to stick your finger in their ass. I don't think it's as clear cut. I just don't. It could. Absolutely. If they're slowly nudging their asshole onto your finger, it probably means that they want you to do it.

If they sit on your finger, it's a subtle sign. If they grab your hand and shove your finger in their ass, they probably want you to do it. I think you should ask them. I think it's okay. if a guy has his finger in your butthole you can probably ask him if he would like it in return I think he can just edge towards it and he'll wriggle out of the way if he doesn't want it yeah he'll make it known either way in all seriousness this could mean many things this is

I am assuming he's doing this for your pleasure because the g-spot is in the butthole a lot of people find a lot of pleasure from anal play so he is probably thinking that this is something that could be great for you you may like it you may not like it but absolutely you need to tell him if you like it or not also it very well could be a sign like you we often say you know if you don't want to use your words which some people don't that you can show people what you want in sex by doing it like we always say that like you lead them down the garden path so verbal is not the only way to communicate with things and a lot of men would have trouble sort of verbalizing the fact that they want you to put a finger back in their butt and if they shouldn't like it should

be really clear cut when you're dating someone what you want sexually but we know that that is not the case people women and men have a lot of trouble verbalizing what they want to say especially in the moment like it's hard to be like push your finger in my butt like it's hard so he could be doing it so you do it back he could be doing it because he thinks you're going to froth it if you're not you need to tell him otherwise he might just be giving it a whirl he might not be knowing what he wants out of it he's just like oh i think this is what people do or he's had sex with someone else who really liked it and so he was like this is what chicks like i'm very big on just saying what you want in the bedroom especially if you don't like it but maybe you can start I

don't know how far you're dating but I think you could say to him like have you done butt play before like just ask him and he'll say straight away yes or nah it's not for me he'll just be like nah not for me and then you know it is interesting don't go willy-nilly now you know it is interesting though because this is not a finger in the butt during sex this is a finger in the butt during foreplay like that's really specific right no that's a foreplay thing yeah but usually it's a finger in your bum during sex no it's definitely a foreplay thing as well well i can't say that i've ever had someone going down on me and instead of fingering where they're supposed to they just stuck one finger in the bum like i don't think i

it's a g-spot sorry of course of course guys look it's been a while it's been a while keisha's over there like i was like is there a phone call what are you doing He's just over there with two fingers. One in the pink, one in the stink, of course. Now I know where that comes from. Pinky and stinky. Yeah. One of my most famous quotes in this podcast was that everyone likes a finger in the ass

and it's really haunted me over the years. Yeah. I love that this is the topic that you're having out at dinner though. I think that's great. But I, yeah, no, I'm not going to say that. Wait, got some dignity now? I was going to say, well, no, I don't have any dignity, but this one's not my storytell. So I just thought sometimes we've got to stop ourselves in our tracks.

yeah yeah some yeah did we usually boundaries no usually I just edit those boundaries out like as in like usually it happens and then I listen to the episode before it goes to air and I'm like oh we shouldn't have said that sometimes we all say stuff stories in the record we go home that night and then one of us will get a text to the other one that's like hey you know that thing I said just got that like we go home and think about what we've done it's like when you wake up after having a really drunk night and you have regrets about everything we do that but in podcast form where we tell everything put it all out on the table then go home and go actually can we edit that down I actually don't know if any of us have it about ourselves though I think we only ever have

it if we're telling a story that involves someone else because we're like oh actually maybe that's a bit on the nose I don't think any of us have ever self-censored properly oh no I've self-censored I've self-pleasured all right okay I know that we've been real hard on the cat content since coming back, but I'm here for it. So we're going to go for gold. I live in a shared house with two other girls. One of the girls has adopted two cats that now live with us. The cats are simply damaging the property in the house that belongs to me, like countless houseplants, scratching, making pulls in the couch. Am I within my right to ask for financial reimbursement for damages to my property or asking her to replace these items? She doesn't really apologize for the

damage or the destruction slash the death of my houseplants and instead blames me. How should I approach this and is it fair to ask her to pay for the things that her cat has damaged? I mentioned this recently so last week we were talking about cats as well believe it or not. It was another housemate cat thing where I'm hot for cats now guys. The girlfriend didn't like her boyfriend's cat. They didn't bond. They weren't about it and I made the same comment then that I'm going to make now and it's what she has said. The reason I've always said I don't get cats is because they do damage so much stuff. So do dogs though.

No, but I know dogs can in terms of like when they're puppies, they chew and stuff. But generally speaking, they grow out of it if they're not bored. But cats are little bitches that want to claw things like their entire life. And let me tell you, their life is like 20 years. Britt, I do want to remind you, when we did the shoot for Life Uncut for jumpers, Britt brought, we did it at my house.

When I say shoot, we put jumpers on and we stood in front of a wall in my home. When we did the shoot, the really big, yeah, that was Vogue. That high-end shoot that we did in my apartment at the time. You brought Delilah. Actually, I was in a house and I had a little garden at the back. You brought Delilah. And Delilah was being such a little menace at the time.

She was like one. Yeah, that's a puppy. So you put her outside in the backyard and we could hear her barking and we could hear her like scratching and stuff. Anyway, we'd take the photos. Brick goes on her merry way. Four days later, I go outside to hang the washing up And I closed the wooden sliding door.

And Delilah has absolutely fucked the door. She's been pouring at it to try and get inside, like scratch, scratch, scratch, scratch, scratch, scratch. And she's ripped all the paint down the rental of the door. And I was like, I hope they never notice that. I hope I have a really incompetent house, like rental inspector, whatever they're called. Rental inspector. I plead the fifth. She had attachment issues.

I've got a quote and that was $700 to get it fixed. Please pay me. No, it's fine. Was it? No. they never noticed you still pay you still pay my gas i am origin energy is fucking coming for me because i've not paid my bill so i paid the last bill for origin yeah you sent it to me that's right yeah so now you have to manage my gas bills you send me the bill and i have to pay it for

context on this as you guys now know we've established on this episode i used to live in brit's house i never disconnected the gas and i never connected gas and i am still paying for gas four years on so we're real close hang on you're such an exaggerator it's been like three it's three years yeah okay roommates cats damaging property let's focus what i was saying is get back to my point yes cats can damage stuff if this is your property and when you moved in there were no cats like if she moved in as just a catless housemate and now she has acquired two cats and the cats are damaging the property i absolutely think you can ask her for pat cash for sure if she's damaging your property lounges furniture like that some might call it cat cash sorry

it's not a thing that's not that's pretty good it's definitely it wasn't it's definitely not a thing so yes it's always an awkward conversation for sure but like hey can you buy me a new lounge because you can't put a hole in it especially when she's like she probably thinks oh it's just one scratch here it's not a big deal but to you it's your property that you've paid money for you've looked after I don't know if it gets a little bit different if you agreed to move in with said animal like if you already if the animal's already sort of on the lease do you know what I mean like that's a bit different but if you've moved in with her as a petless person she's got the pets and they're ruining everything then yeah you have to say like guys you're gonna

have to pay me for this like this is my shit yeah there's there's a couple of tricky ones here so like the death of houseplants the death of the plants is really annoying because like I'm sure the plant is not dead I'm sure it is just damaged right like it's ripped the bottom leaves it's bitten leaves off it like and it now no longer looks aesthetically pleasing which is annoying is there a way that you can move them to a different area of the house where the cats can't reach them like have you exhausted all of those options because if you have exhausted all those options and then it's still happening rather than just like leaving it there and then being pissed off that the cat's doing it like if you're not mitigating the issues yeah but you're not

going to lift a giant fiddle up on the kitchen bench like there are plants that you know you can't move 100 and i agree with that but there probably are some that you can if it's a feasible option i think the thing is is try and do all the things that are within your control first before you bring this up as a big issue the one thing that i do think is a massive problem is the scratching of furniture and the couch i even know from raspberry raspberry like cats fuck couches they just do because they claw they treat them like they're scratching posts luckily actually this is a recommendation for anyone who has a cat I have the koala couch like the koala sofa that has the removable covers it's not one that you can sleep on it's not the fold out it's

just like their big couch the type of fabric that it is it is so good at hiding cat clawing so you cannot tell that she has clawed the couch but she has she's really given it a fucking good nudge if I was in this situation it was a rental and the cat was not mine I absolutely would be pissed and I would be having a sit down conversation with my housemates saying, Hey, I love you. I don't actually have an issue with the cats, but this is the situation. And if my furniture is going to get ruined, I do expect there to be financial compensation for that. This is the cost of the couch. And when we move out, I'm not going to take a damaged couch with me to another house. I'm going to have to buy a new couch. So I don't think she has to pay for the entire value of the

couch because obviously items of furniture depreciate, et cetera, et cetera. But there should be some contribution to what's been damaged and you guys mutually have to come to a conclusion on what that looks like and if that is met with a lot of resistance and met as though she doesn't care then she doesn't care about your belongings she doesn't care about your happiness and satisfaction within your own home and so I would be questioning okay do I want to and I know that the answer shouldn't always be do I want to live here but when you're renting and you have to live so closely with other people you really need to find a space where you come home and you feel really comfortable and you're happy and if this is going to affect your ability to do that living

with two cats you don't want to live with then I would say it might come to a point where it's something that you might have to explore not just the financial side I also just one more potential solution for you want to ask if the owner of the cats has provided the right things to try and make them not scratch the couch and totally things you know scratch anyway you have scratching posts are they playing with the cat to kind of you know give it some entertainment like but are they doing the things that you can do you know like if we were to make this about a dog it would be like are they walking the dog are they giving it stimulation are they trying to do something is the cat scratching because it's got nothing else to do is the question i'm asking so like has your housemate

done what they can do to rectify the situation yeah but cats are assholes like that we've got a scratching post and raspberry looks at it and she's like why the fuck would i want to use that when I can look at that lovely couch that I can go and sit on and scratch. Don't call them that. You just call them an arsehole. Yeah, but I'm allowed to. She's mine. She's my arsehole.

I didn't say yours is. I just said cats are. And I'm not. I like raspberries. Yeah, I do too. I genuinely am not against cats. I do think they're beautiful. I just don't understand them.

She was in bed with me last night. I rolled over on top of her when I was asleep and I just had to go. But she didn't move. She just kind of like copped it and then readjusted herself. Did she sleep there when Matt's there? Actually, nah, not really. she sleeps on Lola's bed. So she goes wherever Lola goes. So when Lola comes into my bed, she follows Lola and comes into my bed with Lola. I've had enough of cats. Next question.

And next week on Ask Uncut, we're going to talk about what the best breed is. I'm actually going to put a cat band on next week at least. Just one. Someone has asked what my favorite cat food is. So we're going to talk about that next week. Okay. Last question. Is it okay for your boyfriend of three years to not want to talk about his exes? I feel like for me, it's not a big deal. Your past is your past, which is something you should be able to share with the love of your life it's part of who you are and how you've grown why should it matter if you have moved on why can't or doesn't he want to talk about his past he's 32 and i am 28 any suggestions thoughts or feelings i agree with

your partner like i don't think it's necessary if they don't want to but i'm not about it like fucking i want to know everything tell me pictures give me their instagram handle i want to know I want to know every detail I want to know why didn't it work out I want to know like how long were you together like what was great about the relationship what was terrible about the relationship what did you do good so I can do it better literally I just I want to know all of those details Laura morphs into the person they're like why are you so hair blonde and you've got a new job I'm a DJ now and everyone's like what are you doing Laura I'm yeah Matt's ex is a DJ yeah she's really hot too she's nice we're friends with her fucking Jordan's ex was the number one

golfer in the world how do you compete with that that's why you don't want to know I did I was like hey babe I picked up a new sport so I like to know this information it doesn't affect me like it doesn't you know it doesn't upset me or anything I just think it's really interesting and it makes me feel weirdly it kind of makes me feel more secure in the relationship because it's like oh you've chosen to share this with me and we kind of know everything about each other but also I've been with guys who have been like hey I don't want to know about your exes and obviously I'm a talker and I like to share things as well so sometimes I feel a little bit like oh but I want to tell you and they're like but I don't want to know and I'm like oh but I that's me too damn it

I don't want to keep it inside in my experience which is vast more men than women feel that I feel like more men don't really want to know the details about your past and women generally speaking want to know more I want to know everything but in a weird way I want to know but I don't want to see them so I was joking I don't like to look at Instagram handles exes that I don't even know what they look like but I know about them I wouldn't know them if they walked in front of me but I know why they broke up and how long they were together and what they were like in the relationship and what went wrong and I love to know all that and I also want to tell that like you said Laura and I've I've been really upset before like Ben for example doesn't want to

know about my past he's like I know you have it but I don't it I'm here now and where he now and let's talk about now in the future but for me the past is really important because I really believe that I'm a very particular person today because of my past the good thing is is that even though Ben might not want to talk about it you talk about it so often he hears it anyway yeah 100% but I remember getting really upset once saying like it bothers me that you don't care and I was Like maybe you can pretend to care. Jordan was the same though. Jordan didn't want to know anything.

Jordan was worse. Jordan was worse. Jordan didn't want to know. I didn't even exist. I was born the day that I met Jordan, like in Jordan's eyes. There was no history whatsoever. That's so weird to me. I respect it when someone is like adamantly like, please don't tell me.

I respect it. But Ben's not quite like that. He's just like, I don't care about it. But I'm like, I want you to know me better. To know me better is to know like what I've been through all my past. So I absolutely get that. It would bother me if my partner wouldn't tell me anything about them. I think it's a really fine balancing act between respecting your partner's wishes,

because if they adamantly say like, it will bother me knowing about it. And I genuinely don't want to think about you being with someone else because some people, it gets stuck in their head and whether it's right or wrong, when something gets stuck in some people's head, they can't get out of it. And you don't want to be putting that thought in someone's head. if they've told you if they've said like I don't want that to be something I think about and you push that on them and then it's all they think about and it becomes an issue yeah I think there's levels to this though firstly I think it depends on has he spoken about bits and pieces in

the past and told you because there's a difference between talking about it frequently rehashing shit he's already told you and just giving you the information in one go you know like I think that sometimes that line can be a little bit blurred so I'd ask the question do you already know parts about his past and has he spoken about it to a level that he was like, cool, you've got all the information you need. I don't want to talk about my ex-girlfriend because it's not something I think about every day. I don't think that it is an indicator of a person holding onto their past or holding onto their ex just because they don't want to talk about it. I think sometimes it is an indicator of emotional maturity. Some people who aren't able to compartmentalize

or think, well, if I talk about this, maybe they're going to think I still like her. And so they almost like repel in the opposite direction. I don't necessarily think it is as big a deal. However, I prefer it when I'm in relationships with people who feel comfortable enough and are able enough to talk about their past and can do it in a way that's not talking about it all the time by any means. But if a question comes up, they're not shutting me down or the conversation down because it makes you feel invalidated when you ask a question. And the answer is, I don't want to talk about that. That's where the disparity happens. And that's when people feel as though, oh, well, you're shutting me out from this part of your life. Well, no, it makes it worse.

When someone's like, I don't want to talk about it. You're like, why? Why? Exactly. What's the, what happened? It makes you want more. Yeah, I agree. And also, yeah, it makes you think they're keeping secrets from you. Like, well, what is it about that relationship that you couldn't tell me about? So I actually think it works against them when they think they're doing it because they're like, well, I don't want to talk about it because it's not important to me. It's like, well, the fact that you won't talk about it makes me think it is important to you well you've said why can't or doesn't he want to talk about it I don't think it's that left field I think it's quite normal for people to feel like they don't want to relive their past maybe it's traumatic and they don't

literally want to relive it maybe they spend a lot of time and energy moving on from something maybe they just give no fucks like some people just don't care as long as if it's really important to you all you have to do is communicate that and you can work out a level that you can talk about on maybe you don't have to give specific details maybe you don't need to see their pictures and instagram handles my advice is don't go to that level my advice is find out what you need to know in a conversation but don't go to the point of stalking their pictures and instagrams and because that's irrelevant and that's only going to add damage to your relationship we've spoken about that in the past it's unnecessary to go to that level to stalk someone's past it's not going to

bring anything positive to the relationship but i think if you're trying to just figure out more we've all been there don't shame them no but if you're trying to figure out more about who someone is and get closer to them in the relationship that happens via conversation yeah so yeah yeah i totally agree well guys that is it from us today on ask uncut if you have a question for us to answer next week slide on into the dms particularly if there's anything about cats i'm here for it that's a joke i think the cats are banned now you can slide on into the dms on our socials at life uncut podcast follow us there also our youtube channel tiktok we've got all the things Hit up the YouTube.

It's so good to watch it. There's long episodes, there's short episodes. Like we put all our little tidbits in there. It's cool and it gives a different vibe to watch it. And what a lot of people have been doing. You can see Brittany talking for a continuous stream with her arms in her air and her armpits out for absolutely no reason. A little bit of pot calling the kettle black, old armpit gal over here.

Everyone likes a bit of armpit porn, okay? Well, what I was going to say is, before you shamed me for the way I talk. No, I shamed your armpits, not the way you talk. A lot of what people are doing now with Ask Uncut, which I think is really cool, is they're putting the Ask Uncut on YouTube when they're at home. We play it. The questions are out. Couples are cooking dinner together. The question comes up. They pause it. Then they talk about the question together and the answers and what they'd say. Then they play it. I think that's really cool. I think it's a really cool way to listen to the episode, watch us, and have

those conversations with your friends or housemates or partners at home. Maybe you should play this if you're the girl that lives in the house. Actually, either of them. You can play it for all of them. Put on surround sound. Actually, speaking of this, we got a message this morning from someone who had listened to last week's Ask Uncut with the question about the girl who said, I've realized that my hinge match, I've slept with his younger brother. Yeah. So she sent her fiance a message and it said this, collecting data, would you date someone that your brother had previously slept with? And her fiancé has replied, um, no, full stop.

Why are you asking me? Then there's another message. I don't know how much time has gone in between these. And it says, is everything okay? Did you sleep with my brother? She's responded, oh, yes, yes, yes, sorry. Podcast question. I promise I haven't slept with, and I'm assuming that the name

is her fiancé's brother. So funny. I love that that's the data collection. Like you need context. If you're going to message your boyfriend and say, hey, Would you still date someone that slept with you? Yeah, you need to give context. I think it's fine.

No context. Just let them wiggle around for a bit. What, and think their brother fucked you? No. Don't take Laura's advice. All right, guys. Well, that is it from us. You know the drill.

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