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Episode Date: November 4, 2020

It's that time of the week again Therapy Thursday where we answer your deep dark and burning questions.This week we have some saucy relationship questions -Help - my boyfriend broke up with me after 6 years, but he still tells me he loves me everyday and misses me, and that we will be together in the future - he just need 5 years or so to figure his sh*t outHelp - I got ghosted, but he still watches my instagram stories... What does it mean?Help - I've been seeing this guy for 4 months, but he isn't ready to make it official... what do I do?We are also hot damn excited to have been nominated for the Best New Podcast in the Australian Podcast awards and would love you forever if you would take 1 minute out of your day to cast your vote here :https://australianpodcastawards.com/voteWANT MORE LIFE UNCUT? Of course you do :Pyou can find us on instagram @lifeuncutpodcast or join our Facebook group (you guessed it) - Life Uncut Podcast!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey guys and welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut, this is our Thursday episode, our therapy Thursday, our down and dirty, quick and nasty episode where we answer all of your deepest questions i'm britney and i'm laura and we're happy to be here why is it a nasty episode don't know that i was just rattling off some words and it rolled down like how much alliteration can i fit into this it just literally rolled off my tongue so i rolled with it but i nasty can be like nasty can be nasty yeah like nasty okay well they're mostly like relationship questions that we have for you guys today but thank you to everybody who's written in a question for ask uncut like we say every week we feel so eternally grateful that you trust us with our

years of wisdom and trauma that we bring to each and every episode and brit as always has picked out three and i really like these three questions we've got today one little thing i want to say before we jump in and that is just a big fat thank you to everyone that's already voting for us for the podcast awards we we sort of put on our instagram yesterday that we were trying to go for the listeners choice awards i may or may not have said i would give everyone a dog that voted for me i also like that you say we sort of put it on there no we groveled like we couldn't put it on there more we made it very fucking obvious what we want from you but so many of you are actually writing in saying that you voted done sending us your screenshots and we love that but

my favorite thing so far is that i've had people be like done from australia done from ireland done from dubai done from south africa done from countries i haven't even heard of and i'm like i can't believe we have listeners in those countries so we're just so grateful and so thankful that you guys are voting and you're listening and you're sharing all around the world having said that there's still three more weeks to vote so keep going i'm also really deeply appreciating all of the people who are writing and who are like hey i voted for me from my normal email account and then i also voted for you for my seven burner account plus i got my dad and my mom to vote for you too to whoever those people are who have written in i am so grateful i also

like question are these like prize piglet email addresses that you can enter like for multiple prizes on things or is this legitimately because you have burner instagram accounts in which case maybe we need to talk about that oh my god I didn't even think about that I need to vote from my work account yeah yes yes we need to vote from life on cart from Laura at Tony May from Brittany at Gmail like all of them okay all right we're just going to jump straight into the questions today guys we've just got three because it's short and sharp I'm going to start hit me I mean I always start well I can start pass me the phone no it's just the way I said it the way I said it was like it was something different all right guys we're going to change this up I'm going to start

today because as much as brit makes it out like she's the only one who knows the questions i also have them here so question number one i sent this one to you trying to take all of the royalties i sent this one to brit my boyfriend of six years recently broke up with me out of nowhere simply saying he doesn't love me as much as he used to he is my best friend and we still talk regularly he has said that he wants to marry me and have kids in like five or ten years but still says he doesn't want to be with me right now I love him I want to stay around but I don't see how this is fair on me any advice he also still texts me every single day says he loves me tells me he misses me but whenever I ask what the hell is happening in terms of our relationship and us

it's straight away I don't know I need time it's been three months since the breakup already boom wow okay your boyfriend ex-boyfriend is being a dickhead this is actually insane so the bit that jumps out of me at this question is he's saying i don't want to be with you now knowing that she's in love with him but also saying but i do want to have kids and marry you in five to ten years i'm i'm sorry he's asking her to wait even if it's inadvertently even if he's not saying wait for me for 10 years by him saying to someone that he knows loves him I'm ready for this in 10 years he's saying wait 100 that is the most wrong thing I have heard this week I'm calling it and there is a possibility that Donald Trump is going to be the president

again tomorrow so like so wrong there is so many wrong things happening in the world right now no but asking your partner to wait it is there is nothing fair about this relationship I feel i feel really really bad for you to the listener that's written this in because this is a horrible situation obviously you're in love with him but this is not fair and we laura and i probably two weeks ago now we did we talked about this we spoke about um breakups and how that you there needs to be something put in place and some communication about how that's going to happen and the timeline now the timeline was about four to six weeks not five to ten years that is actually insane let's just wind this back to the fact that you broke up three months ago the fact that he's still

contacting you every day and telling you that he loves you and telling you that he misses you is a massive play in manipulation whether it's intentional or whether it's inadvertent um I think that you know he's obviously confused he obviously doesn't know what he wants but that's not okay to take you along the ride it's not okay to like drag you down in his confusion because he knows he doesn't want to be with you he's verbalizing that part of it but he also it's you know breakups are hard and he's using you to wean himself off you at the same time because he doesn't want you to go out and meet someone else he doesn't want you to move on so he's kind of forced you into this purgatory and because you love him you're choosing to stay there so I think the thing that you need

to do now is you need to take ownership of this situation that you've been put in it's a situation that you don't want it's a situation that's outside of your control but the one thing you can control is that you can say look you've decided you don't want to be with me and in order for me to be able to heal and start to recover from this you need to stop contacting me you're not allowed to tell me that you miss me all the time you're not allowed to tell me that you love me all the time and you need to give me some solid no contact time so that way both of you can really figure out what it is that you want and you may find that in three months time you've actually been able to get over this breakup because it's impossible to get over something when you're still

hearing them from them every day. And you're still being given that little tiny bit of hope every single day. So this breakup has now just become the most drawn out, prolonged three month period of your life. Whereas if he had broken up with you three months ago and you had gone no contact, I guarantee you, you would be at a very different point mentally right now than what you are today. This is definitely, you're so right Laura. It's definitely a slow fade away. I don't think in all honesty, I don't think this guy plans on getting back with you in 10 years or five to ten years what's happening here is what happens in every single relationship when you have been with someone for a long time and you've been with them for six years what happens is you

have been your life has been consistently the same for six years you've had someone in your life every day you've had that energy that love that humor you've had someone to text you to be there with you at night they're your best friend so for six years consistently day in day out this has been your routine all of a sudden it's not and you don't know how to deal with that so your partner and he has actually said to you he doesn't love you as much anymore they were his words which is horrifying to hear in a relationship when you think you're going to be with someone forever he's trying to break up with you but emotionally he's being very selfish because he doesn't know how to do that he doesn't know how to be on his own now he doesn't want to be with you he has

said that and he's made that clear but he's not ready to not have his consistency in his life because that's what you were you were a stable base for him and you were a loving home for him he's not ready for that yet but he doesn't want to commit to you either so this is him slowly feeding himself back out into the wild but he's not ready he can't do it yet he's not ready to have that independence so he's holding on to you using you for support for contact every day to get his little bit of consistency again and his little bit of safety whilst he wings himself off you there is no way this guy I mean not no way obviously there's a tiny chance he could but no way that in 10 years time he's like okay I've had my time now I'm coming back ultimately like

Laura said you cannot move on or he cannot make an honest decision when you are still in contact every day you need to cut it you need to do your own thing and you deserve better and you need better so you need to tell him if you don't want to be with me you can't just have your cake and eat it too you can't take the bits that you want and not the rest that you don't want and leave me in this purgatory sit down have the chat with him say look three months has been long enough it is time for you to make a decision I don't want to put the decision on you but if you want to go into the wild and experience it without me do it without me and also like you do have to make the decision for him I that's the only like I believe I agree with everything you just said

and I love how passionate you're getting because you're kind of yelling at me and I'm getting scared of my pants and my hands were like Italian you know when your hands are like waving things at me she picked up a knife it's been very intense here people but I think the only part of what Britt just said that I don't agree with is the fact that I think you do have to make a decision for him because he's quite obviously not capable of doing that. You need to take control of your life now and put parameters and boundaries in place that make you happy. And of course, it's going to hurt to not hear from him. Of course, it's going to hurt to not hear him say, I love you. But all of those words, all of the, I love you's all of that. I miss you's

are all nothing. They're just words because his actions don't meet up anyway. So I guarantee you in the long run, you will feel better for it. The only thing I'm going to add to this, which I think we've really well-rounded covered it, like not to sound all doom and gloom and not for this to be like, you know, the bad news that you don't want to hear, but you are going to be a very different person in 10 years time. You are going to grow. You're going to have so many new experiences. You're going to meet so many new people. And the person that you thought you were going to be with 10 years ago, I guarantee you will be a very, very different. It'll be a different life. It'll be a different person. And if by the slight chance that this guy is your penguin and you do end up

with him in 10 years time, you're going to ruin that by slowly decaying the relationship now and, and making it toxic and torturing each other, basically emotionally manipulating each other whilst you wean yourselves off each other. This just is, it's so unhealthy what you're doing right now. I think sever it, give yourself that clean break, give yourself the mental space to move on if in the future you guys do rekindle things then you can do it from a place of being healthy and being independent you're not doing it from a place of codependency I have one more thing I'd like to add okay we can go to the next question now not yet um because I realize I'm very passionate about this I realize I'm maybe I did come in a little bit passionate and hot before

she's put the knife down people I'm going to take a more empathetic and softer route now I just wanted to add one more thing that instead of being very pessimistic about this there is a chance that he will come back to you and you guys are right for each other. And you did just need a break that that could happen. But what needs to happen for that is you do need to be on your own. He needs to know what life will be like without you to know if he wants that option. If he wants to take the path of life without you, he needs to have none of you. And he may just realize that holy shit, the life without her is not what I thought. The grass is not greener. I am madly in love with her. I just needed to check myself and reassess that. That is that is actually a

very realistic option it happens a lot but you won't know it if you constantly have the contact a hundred percent agree oh my god look they're so well-rounded we got there from the top to the bottom now we're here okay question number two let's do that is that eminem i think i have no idea who that was started from the no it's not started from the bottom now we're here that one no i just went from the top to the bottom it's kind of not the way it wasn't even a song was it no just i just peaked too early guys okay i've got another one now that i'm super passionate about and I think that you will find this one really easy to answer Laura. I've been ghosted on tinder by this guy but he still watches my instagram stories like instantly as soon as they're up

he's watching them. We were talking and then I asked if he wanted to grab a bite to eat with me because I've been seeing him watch my stories but then nothing but we still follow each other on instagram. I really like his vibe and I think we would get along great that dark sarcastic humor is so appealing but what do i do in this situation this is the easiest question to answer you do nothing maybe even unfollow him if you want to do something unfollow him girl he's bored i'm gonna say this someone watching your instagram stories does not equate to them having any interest in you romantically it could be that they're bored it could be that they're a bit lonely it could be that they're inquisitive it could be a whole myriad of all these different things what does

equate to them being interested in you is replying to your messages what does equate to them interested in you is investing time in you what does equate to them being interested in you is them actually being nice to you going out of their way to try and find out something about you or get to know you these are all things that you should be prioritizing and reading into don't read into somebody watching your instagram stories because i mean i still sometimes watch my ex-boyfriend's instagram stories purely out of curiosity because i'm like what is that loser up to i watch heaps of guys stories that i have zero interest in sometimes i watch them for lol but everything laura has said is true it sucks but i sometimes you also have to think i will go into instagram

and watch someone's story that i might watch laura's story without even knowing the next story pops up you don't choose that the next story is a guy and all of a sudden you're in it and then you're trying to tap out furiously because you're like i don't want them to see that i've watched that because i don't actually want to be watching it but then you tap out too quick you tap the right side of the screen all of a sudden you've gone through the whole story set and also not everybody like I know that there is a big portion of the population who does check this but not everybody checks who watches their stories right some people place a lot more weight and and importance in that than other people do like I look at people's stories all the time it never

even occurs to me that oh these people probably check who watch their stories because I don't check that stuff I never I never look at who checks my stories it doesn't that doesn't even register on my radar I always check to make sure you watch mine of course you're like you're like in my first five friends so every time I flick it goes through I actually hope you don't watch it's a great filter you use Brittany yeah thanks okay but I yeah look I mean that we got we came in brutal again we were still on a high from that first question so we're just going to tone it down now maybe you guys do have some chemistry you do have some bants whatever and and there was something there when you guys matched on tinder or on bumble or whatever it was but he clearly is

not in a place in his life where he's prioritizing you or any sort of relationship with you so don't read into the fact that he looks at your stories I do not think that it's an indicator of anything to come and I think that we can get way way way too caught up in people's tiny like micro actions on social media of that someone liking a photo or of somebody watching a story and what that means I think it means shit all and I think that real action in real life somebody actually sending you a message, going out of their way to call you, setting up a date, all of that shit actually means something. And you got to remember sending somebody a message takes minimal effort. So watching an Instagram story takes no effort. Move on, get back to swiping. Brittany's got her hand

up. She has some more to add. I would like to interject if I may. Go. I agree with everything you said a hundred percent. And I just said it myself, but what I also would like to add further to this conversation is that yes there can be a lot of flirting on Instagram 100% we do we've talked about before Instagram can be like a dating app 100% you can meet someone on Instagram you can flirt with them you can show an interest and you can receive an interest but that doesn't come in the form of watching a story that might come in the form of them watching your stories and starting to reply to them maybe it's a fire sign to like a photo of you maybe it's that looks fun what did you get up to like it's some form of engaging in communication that is where it's

an interest and that is where you should pursue it but like let's just call out the elephant in the room here you saw him watch your story you did absolutely the right thing that you would do when you're interested in someone and I'm all for it I always tell you to go and chase that approach it open the conversation and you did that you wrote to him after he'd seen your story after he had ghosted you on another platform and invited him out for food fantastic I love that you took charge he didn't write back he's unfortunately has zero interest in you because he would have responded to you and said yep that sounds great he wouldn't have ghosted you in the first place this guy is maybe still in some capacity interested in what you're doing but he's got no interest any

further than that and that sucks to hear but it's it's the truth and I feel like it's better that we know that now if if a man or if a woman or if anyone is interested in you you're gonna know they're gonna they're gonna at least respond when you ask them out and also like maybe he's seeing someone maybe he's got a girlfriend like you don't know where people are actually at in their relationships especially when you've only just met them sort of transiently online like there are a lot of dudes out there who are swiping away on tinder and they've actually got girlfriends or they're actually on their way to being in a relationship and they don't actually want to progress it into anything the girl's doing the same thing like you know we could be shit on both

sides of the gender pool. I totally agree with everything Bridget just said. And one thing that I really, really agree with what she just said is like, it's amazing that you put yourself out there. It's amazing that you texted and that, you know, you, you kind of followed it up. You've given it every opportunity to be something and don't be disheartened by the fact that he hasn't responded in a positive way because the next person will. It's a numbers game. That's what dating is all about. One other thing is I just wanted to add that I've just been really proud. i'm like a proud mom this week in the facebook group and on the instagram how many of you have been using my dogs running into people's dms i've got absolutely penises for fingers so yes like we

we're like proud moms we're like look at them go and like they've been really great responses to them so i don't know i feel like that's my life achievement this week there's this one one girl actually posted in in the facebook group that she's been using the the opening line of hey would you rather have a hat full of spiders and wear it every day for the rest of your life you can't take it off your head or have functioning penises for fingers and then she put the responses into the facebook group which is life uncut podcast if you haven't joined the facebook group it's real fun lots of lols to be had but also i realized i kicked myself in the shin because now i can't use my line that it was my line that worked now everyone online dating has going to receive that

and think that i copied it well you can start using the flaccid penises for fingers thing actually should I just have trademarked it can you guys trademark Brittany just like have my back just at the end of it just put at life uncut anyway there's probably gonna be some people listening to this who have no idea what we're talking about but if that's you then you should have listened to a few episodes ago and then you'd be in the know that's all on you girlfriend blame yourself all right okay question number three let's do this okay this is the last question hit me hard and deep and fast and fast jack hammer it into me we've just made our business decision today right now whilst I'm sitting on Laura's bed we're recording this and

it's we're on this really rickety desk and I can't even explain the desk to you it leans on an angle it's gonna collapse it and you can hear it listen can you hear that squeak okay that's the desk I'm gonna tell you about this desk though so I've had this desk since I was 19 years old since I lived with my first boyfriend oh it's definitely time and this was his mom's desk and we stole it from her bro you've got your ex-mom from 12 years ago's no your ex-boyfriend from 12 years ago's mom's desk i've got my old mother-in-law's desk in here she was great i really really liked her her name was mel no business decision mel we miss you but this this desk is going in the bin i reckon it's one leg is wobbly and it's falling off like we're getting you a desk okay all right

let's go question number three let's bring it home for the home run that's enough so i've been seeing this guy i've been seeing this guy since june we're friends with benefits okay she said we were fwb took me a while to figure out what that was friends with benefits last year for about three months and we broke it off because we both got feelings for each other but we weren't ready for the relationship we decided to see each other again just before melbourne lockdown 2.0 and have carried it out for the last few months we've talked about turning this into a relationship but he seems super hesitant and he doesn't want to be locked down he wants me to meet his friends and go to parties with him first we have a super we have a super healthy relationship and we talk

through things often but i can't help but think he's trying to test me first he's met my friends everyone in my life he knows my family they know about him but on his side i don't exist is this a good thing or a bad thing he balances me out so well and is the best thing to happen to me girl is this a good thing or a bad thing okay wait wait how long have they been dating for the second time round so they dated for three months as fuck buddies well she's yeah and now they've been dating since june she's yes and we're in november yeah so before lockdown 2.0 so we're gonna we're gonna say like four months like like give them the benefit of the doubt potentially five less than more than three let's say four between three to six i'm great with my math guys really excelled

at school. Okay. I have a few feelings. One, I hate that every single question we've come into and been really passionate and angry about, but I'm not going to stop now because I'm on a roll. Secondly, I think you guys gave this a shot for three months last year when you were just fuck buddies. And it was obvious that he wasn't ready to commit and you were catching the feels. Then you've reassessed, come back together to give it a second shot. And the exact same thing is happening. Regardless of whether you feel like you've been dating or you feel like this relationship has progressed more this time, the fact that he won't actually put a label on it and commit to you kind of just makes you guys still fuck buddies in my opinion. And I'm going

to say this from somebody who lived this for a year. I dated a guy and I've spoken about him before in our situationship episode. I dated him for an entire year. He's a great guy. I have nothing against him. He always made it pretty clear that he wasn't quite, he wasn't quite ready. he he wanted to but he just wasn't quite ready for the relationship I waited for a year my whole family knew about him he'd met all my friends and I had nothing I was no part of his life and so no I don't think that it's a good thing I think that he is kind of trialing you as a girlfriend and if you guys have been dating again for four months that's seven months in total that you've been a part of each other's lives you know each other you understand each other you should know by now

whether or not you want to be in a relationship with each other and if that's what you want and you're not getting it from him cut your losses girlfriend because he right now he has a girlfriend without any of the commitment okay i'm gonna we have been coming in quite passionate and aggressive i'm gonna come and try i'm gonna try like cute aggressive okay so coming from someone that has like a wide collection of red flags i know them when i see them now like this is a box and here all of the red yeah my room is like a mariachi bed my room is full of red flags and this is a red flag and a number one red flag to me someone that wants to keep you a secret i'm passionate i'm cute passionate about this because i did that as well for and i know you guys are going to be

like what the hell britney i did that for two years like i wasn't a part of my sociopathic ex life for two years this is episode number three if you need to go back and listen to it you haven't britney dated a guy who had a double life it's a really fucking big episode we highly recommend listening to it 100 i did not and i i'm ashamed to even say it out loud now and i only talk about it because i hope it helps other people it's insane i mean two years laura i did not meet one friend in his life not one i met his family once and i had to be introduced to them as a as a special friend and as if this wasn't a red flag poking my eyeball out he always played it off in a way that it was convincing to me that this was just like the best thing for our relationship and

i was so special to him and i was so i mean to be fair this was very he was a master manipulator but anyone that wants to keep you a secret means either they have something else going on in their life they're not proud of you or maybe they're embarrassed by you or they literally just don't want you in their life in that capacity and they're happy with what they've got so in this situation yeah or they're keeping their options open like that wasn't cute aggressive that was just aggressive it started cute you lost the cute part i did a hair whip but no one saw it no it got it got scary i got scared it's not it doesn't have to be about you that's the other thing like i think that oh no this isn't about her it's about him but saying like he's not proud of you or he's

not excited to be it's not about you it's about he is not ready to be in a relationship and you shouldn't be wasting your time with someone who's not ready if that's what you want where i was going with that if if you take it's like opposite day so everything i just said reverse that what that means is he should be proud of you he should be wanting you to meet everyone in his life he should be happy with you there should be nothing that's worth hiding that's where i'm going it's definitely nothing to do with you if he doesn't want to do that it's he's probably just really happy with what you've got going on which is you've got a connection obviously because you can't spend that much time with someone without it so that's 100 there obviously there's a level

of feeling there but he's enjoying friends with benefits he's sleeping with you with no other attachment and no other commitment and it doesn't seem like that's on the cards for him so that's something that you need to decide if you're happy with ultimately you're in charge here if you're happy legitimately happy to have him on the side whilst you continue your life and look for something else then go for it I think those relationships can be wonderful but what happens is when someone starts to develop feelings like you're doing now and you're wanting something more he's pulling back saying I'm not ready for that but I want to keep this up you need to decide if you're happy to take that on or if that's going to cause more pressure and stress and upset you

and that's you're in control so if you really want to be with him and he doesn't maybe you need to cut those ties and continue down another path and look for your penguin because he's out there for a hundred percent. We kind of glossed over the fact that you guys have just done lockdown. So like your relationship that kind of blossomed and the intensity of the relationship and the fact that you felt like, Oh, actually we're dating, we're boyfriend and girlfriend. Now being in lockdown would have really, really impacted that because there's no other distractions for him. You know, he wasn't able to go out and meet new people. He wasn't able to go out and go to parties. He was more invested in you than necessarily he is emotionally invested in you. And that's

physically because you know you could come around to his house you guys were having sex like there was a great connection there but that connection was unchallenged by the real world aka a situationship so that's what makes exactly that's what makes it a situationship so I think you know it's probably become very easy to romanticize it make it bigger than what it is especially because it probably felt like it is bigger than what it is and I have no doubt that he has probably led you to believe that it's bigger than what it is because that relationship was the only option during this lockdown period and now that things are lifting and now that life is going back to normal he is showing what he truly wants and he's showing his true colors by saying I don't want a

relationship right now I want to be able to go to parties I want to be able to see my friends I want to see how this fits into my life I'm not saying you need to call it day dot if you want to go to some parties with him if you want to go meet his friends and do that first before you say actually no you need to make up your mind but I think be very very wary if you feel like he's road testing you as a girlfriend and he's just prolonging this situationship then do what's right for you and call it because you know ultimately we have our intuition for a reason you can see those red flags there don't ignore them because you don't want to see them and you'll end up like me not necessarily also like brit's not in a bad place life is good okay okay can i say one thing and i fucking love

this i saw this in the facebook group the other day so brit's been kind of dating this parisian guy like we've talked about a little bit this french guy she made the comment that he's so hot and he doesn't know how hot he is and somebody wrote in the facebook group any man that rocks up on a first date with the unbridled confidence to wear a white turtleneck knows exactly how fucking hot he is and i was like thank you yes preach it sister i was like actually i feel your vibes on that and i have one little update that you're all gonna love but the second date he turned up in a white knit this guy which i also love but i was like oh wait till the group is about this this guy knows exactly how hot he is he's steaming yes 100 there is no man lacking

confidence who's like a little bit nerdy who's like a bit of a dork who's gonna rock up to a date wearing a knitted white turtleneck but you have to also remember you have to take this out of context that's a man with a that's some big dick energy right there but you have to put this in context if an australian guy rocked up from bondi on a date with a white turtleneck i would probably lolcano the hell out of it but this guy's french every second french guy every european were wears turtlenecks they all do it so for him he doesn't know he's hot he's just wearing normal clothes he knows he is hot oh gosh guys i can't wait to keep on updating you on this i bet you he comes to the next day and he's like hello britney i know that i am very hot he's probably

listening just keeps wearing white knits hey frenchie all right guys on that this is we're finished that's it that's our episode it's actually 40 minutes it's not that quick this is our quick down and dirty episode thank you to everybody who sent in questions for ask uncut we've had loads and loads and loads of very relationship specific questions coming in recently so if you have some things that are outside of that maybe some friend questions maybe some work questions whatever it is whatever questions you have send them on through send them to our instagram at Life Uncut Podcast. You can also send them to us on Facebook at Life Uncut Podcast, which is our group. Great to be involved in the group. Much support. It's so funny. Amazing people, many lols

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