Life Uncut - Ask Uncut - Who Is Making S3x Tapes? 🎥 🎞️

Episode Date: October 19, 2025

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deep and burning questions!Keeshia had a bit of a nightmare commute to work this morning and it led to her disclosing some of our BTS secrets. We somehow ended up speaking about trigger warnings and the research that suggests they’re not as useful as we have been led to believe.Vibes for the week:Keeshia - Emily Henry “Great Big Beautiful Life” Britt - @parkergetajob  Then we jump into your questions! THINKING ABOUT MAKING A SEX TAPE FOR MY BFMy partner and I are thinking about making a sex tape. He is FIFO week on week off swings. We can’t really talk on the phone or FaceTime. Because of his job he is around people all the time and sleeps in a swag with everyone else around him so people would hear if I call him for sexy time. I trust him and don’t have any fears that he will show anyone or anything bad will happen. However, am I being stupid because things live on the internet forever and it could always get out somehow. The person you date if not the same person you break up with, maybe it does get out one day. Do I do it or not? Also have either of you ever done it? I love you girls so much and couldn’t think of anyone else I could ask this question to.   HOW TO DISCUSS FINANCES/DEFACTCO WITH NEW BF - I EARN MUCH MOREI’ve been seeing a guy for about 5-6 months. Everything is going great and he is a walking green flag. I’m starting to feel myself get a bit more invested but still not 100%. My problem is a financial one. I have a relatively successful business (I’m talking 7 figures) which he is aware of. I understand that there will come a time where we have to discuss what this looks like going forward and when we are classed as a de facto relationship, how finances will look. I know that there are some criteria that have to be met before being classed as a de facto relationship and what he may be entitled to, should we continue on this steady path. In my opinion, everything that I have earnt before him in my business and property purchases, is considered my own and I worry that he could be entitled to that when we are considered de facto (not that I think he would take anything from me, but you never know)! The thing is, I’m unsure of when I should broach this topic with him. Part of me wants to discuss it now so I know we are on the same page, rather than getting another 1-2 years in and he is unhappy about it. If he’s unhappy about it, that’s a big red flag to me. Is it worth having this conversation sooner rather than later, and if so, how would you go about discussing it ? We are quite open with everything else and we each know what the other owns and salaries etc. He also partially owns a property and is on a six figure salary.   MY DAUGHTER HAD A SLEEPOVER WITH A STRANGER WITHOUT US KNOWINGI'm married with a 6 year old daughter from a previous marriage. My new husband is amazing and adores my daughter. We are having another baby in November. My in-laws were great for the first few months but have had a few issues come up and I want to know what your opinion is of this particular scenario. My daughter was having a sleepover with my in-laws, who she adores. I found out whilst they had her that my husband's mum's nephew had come over and had a sleepover too. He is 9 and we have met him maybe 2 or 3 times. They slept in the same bed upstairs whilst my partner's parents were sleeping downstairs. We were incredibly uncomfortable with this. When we confronted them, it was basically implied that we were being over dramatic and they refused to accept that we weren't okay with it and did not apologise. Do you think we were being over dramatic? When my husband picked her up he walked in the room and they were watching movies and TV shows in the bed together, not supervised and the nephew didn't even recognise who my husband was so we are definitely not close family.   You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This episode was recorded on Camaragal land. Hi guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life on Car. I'm Brittany and I'm Keisha. Keisha, please tell everyone what just happened. This is something that if you're the type of person who has a bit of a queasy stomach, like it feels me too so i won't go into too much detail but as it was happening okay so as i was driving here this morning i got to this certain part of traffic and something that i don't know if i've said this on the podcast before but i have the most raging motion sickness like i just i don't know what happens it just takes over my body in any form of like transport i

piggybacked you one day and you vomited that was wild ride wasn't it remember that time we went to the Great Barrier Reef and I was so excited. I'd never seen it before. Remember that time I took you on a helicopter and you vomited with about 30 centimeters away from me the whole time and all I could smell was vomit. So I sympathy vomited. How could I forget? I feel three vomit bags that day. Yeah. It's a real problem and travel sickness meds don't work. I can know everyone would be like, just take some of those. Firstly, they make you super drowsy. Secondly, they don't work. There was one time i was going to see uh you know the blue grotto is it in blue grotto yeah yeah in capri yeah i was so excited but i knew i was going to be on a boat all day so i took seasickness

medication i fucking slept through the whole thing they made me so drowsy that i missed it i woke up and i was like are we there and they were like she's been pretty much passed out the whole time you're back in the hostel you're back on the bus this is a dream anyway it's a problem that I face a lot, but usually when I'm driving, it's not an issue. You also were sick. I don't know why we're rattling every time you were sick off. You were also sick on our tour bus when we were touring in Australia. Who are we? When we're touring, when the Lifeline Cut Show was touring, we weren't like rock stars, but you were sick on that too. Yeah. You don't do well with anything. I really don't, which doesn't match my personality because I really like the adventures. I like the

activities. Yeah, but you need the adventures on foot. On ground, on level ground. Anyway, I was driving to work this morning and I was in a little bit of traffic. So it was a little bit stop starty, but there was just the strangest thing happened. It just took over my body. And I was like, oh my God, I'm going to throw up. And I panicked and I looked around and I was like, what can I throw up into? I'm going to need to throw up. Anyway, the closest thing I could find was my Frank Green drink bottle.

This is not sponsored. Not sponsored. Someone has commented on our YouTube before that my drink bottle and all the dints on it really pisses them off, so sorry about that. And if Frank Green are sending them, I would like one too. Anyway, I looked at it. The panic was taking over. The water bottle was full.

But I have this little silicon thing on the bottom of my drink bottle so that it doesn't get banged up as much. It's also so that in recordings I can put it down and it doesn't bang the microphone. Why did I always think that that was like an inbuilt dog water bowl? It can work like that. I do use it for the girls. however this morning i like ripped this thing off the bottom but it was a little bit too late and

some of it had already started to like come out so you threw up in your frank green drink bottle well i threw i kind of like half threw up on myself and half threw up into this little sorry did we just brainstorm frank green's new marketing campaign for when you get sick morning sickness maybe it's yeah it was motion sickness strange and i still don't know what it was. I don't know if I ate something bad last night. I hadn't had coffee yet, so it couldn't have been that. I was doing burnouts this morning. Doe is in a circle. Maybe it was that. I back flipped my way into the car. It was very bizarre. But anyway, this might be a little bit of behind the scenes and I could be giving away some of our secrets. I kind of threw up onto myself and I was

like, this is really embarrassing. I'm 32 years old. Why is this happening? This happens to children. No, because it obviously wasn't motion sickness or something. You've obviously had like a bad prawn. I don't know what you had, but like something didn't sit right with you because that's not normal. You don't just usually drive and bam, far out the side. Yeah, certainly not when I'm driving. I reckon I might've had some salad leaves last night that were probably a little bit too old if I'm being honest. I think they've been in the crisper for too long. I don't know if lettuce does that to you. I reckon salad can actually make you quite sick. It can harvest bacteria and stuff, but I always thought that was from like the water that anyway whatever you know this is why I

shouldn't eat salad anyway I had a change of clothes in my bag because sometimes when we have multiple recordings on the same day we try to you know bring a different shirt or something just so that it doesn't look like it's been on the same day this is why you don't eat salad this is why you have my diet and you eat dino nuggets I've never been sick no that is the BTS we we do often to do multiple interviews in a day. Like yesterday was one of those examples. You know, we had a 10-hour day or something and we bring changes of clothes to look like they're different days, but they're not.

But I did walk in today and Keisha's like, am I giving Hawaiian dad on holiday? It is very Hawaiian. I was like a little bit, but it's cute. Well, it's also going to be for multiple recordings today because my other shirt has literally got stuff down the front that makes me look like I'm a child. I'm so lazy now that my outfit changes.

I just layer. And so like, I'm just going to take the jumper off. I've got a shirt underneath. And then the next one I take it off and I've got a singlet, the same skirt and boots. And I just like take it off. That's brilliant. That is so funny. Sorry, guys.

I know it's Monday morning and I just hope that you're having a better commute to work than what I am. You know what is funny? Can you remind me? I cannot think of the comment, but we laughed about this. We probably shouldn't laugh. But I just want to say something because someone's going to write to us on this as well. Trigger warnings.

We will not be doing trigger warnings when we are talking about egg icks. we are not going to be doing trigger warnings when we speak about Keisha vomiting and what was the one someone wrote in to us it was ridiculous someone wrote in a couple of days ago of something we spoke about and they were like hey guys would it be nice to have a trigger warning and it was so funny I think it was the eggic no no it was actually from last week's ask uncut and it was the question about the father-in-law that was pet sitting but also was quite dirty and he had a stormer bag and so sometimes like when he was emptying the bag he would spill it and so we were talking about stuff going down we were talking about fuses going down the front of the

toilet bowl I'm sorry we can't have you know that this is going to be a really I know that this is going to piss a lot of people off it's controversial trigger warnings there has been research done on them they don't work it can make it worse it actually can put people into a state of anxiety there has been actual research done on this and every now and then when we're talking about something that is like particularly heavy or particularly triggering for you know I'm using that word uh for people to listen to we will occasionally do them I'm not putting them on the front of every week we would have put a trigger warning on the front of something that could trigger anybody we would literally have to do it for every single conversation we ever have

but it's a bit ridiculous like guys we're not going to trigger warning a stoma bag and someone accidentally spilled their poo I'm sorry and like sometimes it confuses me when it's in the title as well like when it's in the heading I was about to say I was listening to a podcast the other day that was talking about this and they said the same exactly that they were like someone had written into them and said would it be nice to have a trigger warning and they were like it's literally the title of the episode like for example it might have been like the day I lost my dad or something and I've just made that up right but someone's like hey it would be nice to have a trigger warning because I've lost my dad and they were like but it's the top like you

know what it is. It's the title of the episode. It's in the bio, like this idea of everyone being so triggered by stuff. If you're triggered by poo, you need to figure your shit out. And that was no pun intended in that actually, but that was brilliant. Yeah. Look, obviously we're talking about things that are a little bit more frivolous or a little bit more surface level. I understand that there are genuinely things that people feel as though it takes them back to a place where something really horrible happened to them or an experience that they didn't necessarily want to think about in that moment I understand that there are uses for them and we try to use our discretion for when that might be but also it's kind of hard to understand what will cause

everybody to flash back to an experience that is really triggering for them so yeah like the reason I'm saying that is because I don't want it to make it sound as though we're like trigger warnings are fucking useless like get over yourselves it's just that if we were to put a trigger warning on everything that we are asked to put a trigger warning on, you would have an episode that was just like trigger warning question, trigger warning question. But the problem is too, and now that we're just going to get sitting this and get serious, because we may as well, like we may as well unpack it a little bit. The reason we battle with it and the reason you might hear a lot of people battle with it, there's probably a lot of broadcasters and podcasters

and people that you think should use it that don't. And we battle with it because we have always used in the past and tried to use trigger warnings for things that we deem to warrant it and to be serious enough. We laugh. We're never going to do it for things like poo, right? Or Keisha vomiting or the egg egg. Like that's fucking ridiculous. But the reason we battle with it is because we take it very seriously. So like we looked into the research behind it and the science behind it. And just so, instead of just saying like, you know, there is research, just so you understand, for example, like you can Google this and there are so many research articles, but Psychology Today has literally an article on anxiety.

The heading is, Do Trigger Warnings Work? Research finds trigger warnings may not help reduce negative emotions. It goes on to say, they do not serve their intended purpose. They don't reduce the emotional distress of experiencing graphic content. And they also don't lead people to avoid or opt out of graphic content, but they do lead to more anticipatory anxiety before viewing the graphic content. So just so you guys know, sometimes if we don't put it on, it's because the research says we shouldn't. And I know from the outside, if you haven't heard that research, you're like, well, that's not cool.

You should be trigger warning. But we've actually done enough due diligence to say, well, you know what, the science says it's not actually helping you. And there are situations that I think they are needed. And we still do it for some, for sure. But that's what I mean by it's our internal battle is like we want to do it because we want you guys to know we're thinking about it. But on the other side, we're saying, well, what are you supposed to do if research is literally saying that by doing it, you may be making things worse. So it's a tricky battle.

Yeah. And I kind of battle between this idea of being in a bit of a cowboy and just like cutting loose and then- Oh, a trigger warning cowboy. Do you know what I mean? You get a trigger warning. You get a trigger warning. Do you know what I mean?

I don't want to say that they're so ridiculous. We're never going to use them because I also don't want to cause anyone emotional distress. I just think that's interesting. It's interesting for you guys to know that research behind it, and I encourage you to go and have a look at that yourself because it is fascinating. I agree. Should we get into our vibes for the week?

Yeah, you kick it off, Hawaiian dad. Multiple recordings. No, I'm joking. I actually love my shirt. I am vibing bringing a change of clothes to work in case you throw up on yourself. Can I just say one other thing? Keisha does the socials, right? So she did our stories last week, and the vibes and unsubscribes,

the number of people that messaged me. They totally stitched you up here. A number of people messaged me saying, are you vibing yourself? Because Keisha goes, Brit's vibe, and it was a picture of me. That was it. No context. Brit's vibe, me, like looking hot at my hands. That was it.

And I was like, bro, you stitched me up. Keisha's was like, mine is an academic paper. Brit's vibing herself. I was like, fuck you. I was like, sorry. And the number of people I had to copy and paste and be like, hey, I'm not actually vibing myself. If they clicked the link, they would have seen that you vibed the necklace you were

wearing in that picture. People don't click it. You've just put, you set me up for failure. You made me look like a narcissist that is feeling myself. Maybe we should have put a trigger warning on that vibe and said she's not actually vibing herself. Yeah, no, sorry. I actually did fuck you over there.

That's my bad. I will put my head in the air. Yeah, Kisha's like, whoops. I will make sure I label it more clearly next time. my vibe this week is it's actually like a fiction book like a novel I am not a reader as you know I am an audiobook listener and every now and then I would just get to a phase where I listen to a lot of podcasts like probably about three hours a day I tend to have them on a lot and every now and then I'll just get to this point where I'm like I think I need a little bit of sugar I need a bit of like

a nice story to listen to and I've vibed Emily Henry before she is an author that I really really like. This particular book is my favorite one that I've listened to. I was going to say that I've read of hers. It's called Great Big Beautiful Life. So it was actually one of the Reese Witherspoon book club picks as well. And it's about two writers. I'm going to read you like a little sentence blurb for you. Two writers compete for the chance to tell the larger than life story of an heiress who has been in hiding for decades. So what I love about Emily Henry books is that you kind of have the main storyline and then there's all these kind of intertwined storyline this is probably about every I was like is it not just a book I think but the thing I love

about her as an author is she writes well there's like there's a lot of different generations of stories that come out like it's more complex some people are definitely more complex writers yeah yeah and so there's always a romance story or even sometimes a few and I loved this book I really really enjoyed it it had a twist towards the end that I didn't see coming and yeah I just think it's fantastic if you if you are in a bit of a mood where you need just a novel that's really nice to either listen to or to read and you like that kind of thing it's not in the fantasy world it's not really in any of the the dragons or you know any of the smut that there was actually one scene in this that was kind of hot it was like a little bit a little bit steamy so there's a little

bit of that dribbled in but it's emily henry dribbled in made me a little bit moist i spoke about this we spoke about literature it'd be about a year and a half ago and I spoke about Pucking Around it was the first book I read and I went from zero to a hundred it was intense and at one point I read out a paragraph to Laura and it was so funny but then we posted a video of it on Instagram and the author of the book commented on it and I wanted to die I was so embarrassed I was like oh no like I just felt I felt as though it seemed as though we were making a joke about we weren't it was just that you know reading out smut there's no way you can do it if you're reading it out loud on a podcast without laughing so yeah I'm never gonna do that again oh my god

okay great book great yes great Emily Henley book great big beautiful life okay wonderful my vibe this week is actually an Instagram account it's this account that I've just become absolutely obsessed with it's an Instagram called Parker get a job all one word Parker's his name I guess. I don't know. Does Parker have a job? He's a 23-year-old American guy and he has a million followers. He is a debater. His whole Instagram is political. He's obviously a highly intelligent, very well-researched young man. And if you're pro-Trump, don't follow him. So he's like a podcaster. So he gets people to call up and he'll just ask them really, he just chats to them, right? He just wants to get to know them and he wants to get to know who

they are and what they're about and why they feel so strongly about Trump and his policies and whatever else but it's comedic without it trying to be it's a real insight to how it's operating and I learn a lot from him so you'll laugh you become obsessed with these reels but he's just so well educated so well versed on it and he has some really big debates like he was like a person that was debating Charlie Kirk a lot you know that was what Charlie Kirk did he went around to schools and unis and he was debating so Parker get a job this guy he's got multiple reels of him debating Charlie over the years and they're great to watch but he was also there when Charlie was shot he was he was there at the moment and he's got a video like running

away like when he was assassinated he's got a video running away being like we don't know what's going on we think someone's been shot like he's so involved in that world is what I'm saying like that political debating world but that's obviously I mean that's not why I'm vibing it's horrific but um just him as a person I just think I love what he's done and I'm I'm just so fascinated with his content obviously you still need to be watching it and to do your own research do not go and watch it for the sake of like, I'm going there to learn. Watch it as much for entertainment as it is for like, hey, is that policy real? Is that something that really happened? And then you can look it up yourself as well. Well, once you just said this, I've searched him on Google and I was

like, oh, I've seen this guy. There was actually a time where I was going to bring one of the things he said to the podcast as something we might want to do a bit of an unpack on. And it was really interesting. The question that was posed to him was, sorry, the question he posed to someone else was do you think men are better in leadership positions yep I've seen that one so the guy responded being like yes we're naturally you know better at it blah blah his response to the person was all about the physiological reasons that women handle stress better he used statistics of like violence and suicide and all these different things that show that women are actually a little bit more emotionally equipped to be in leadership positions however he did claim one thing about

physiology about basically he said that you know there's an area of the brain stem that is thicker in women he's like that's why they're better at handling this that's not necessarily the case like just because something does exist physiologically doesn't mean that that's the reason so the thing that I like about this type of content though and even even though I disagreed almost entirely with everything that Charlie Kirk said during his debates I really do enjoy hearing the other side and hearing kind of the perspective of people who feel differently and I think that when you get to see both sides of that dynamic like we are getting more polarized I mean it's true like our algorithms are so polarized that you will often only see the perspective that you

agree with and so it's good for me to see the conflicting perspectives and have it debated by people who have intelligent arguments or even are just able to express their opinion in a way that isn't going to cause an argument it is a debate I really do enjoy that type of content and learning from that yeah the reason I mean like the reason I feel like people like this are so good is that for example he's so against Charlie Kirk but when that happened and Charlie was assassinated and like he has so much content promoting that he's debating these people when that assassination happened he did a whole thing that was like what the fuck guys like this is not that this is not the answer. This is somebody that so thoroughly publicly disagrees with somebody and can still

be saying like, this is not the answer. And I think that we need more of those people that you can disagree with somebody and then doesn't mean you wish harm on somebody. So anyway, I know that that vibe took a deeper turn. No, but I just recommend going and having a look and see if you like him. Perfect. Let's get into the questions. Question number one, thinking about making a sex tape for my boyfriend. My partner and I are thinking about making a sex tape. He's a FIFO, so flying fire week on week off we can't really talk on the phone or FaceTime because of his job he's always around all these other people and he sleeps in like a swag he sleeps in I think that they put them in like rooms of people but the the point is there's a lot of people around him so if

he had a call everyone's going to hear what they're talking definitely can't be doing sexy time on a call so like at the most just hey how you going now I really trust him and I don't have any fears that he will show anyone or anything bad will happen am I being stupid because things live on the internet forever and it could always get out somehow whilst i think this is my person i guess you can break up one day and then maybe it will get out i don't know do i do it or not also have you ever done it i love you girls so much and i couldn't think of anyone else that i would possibly ask if they've made a kinky sex tape that's directed at you obviously is it i'm joking have you made one no i've never ever no i have hand on heart never made a sex tape

end personally I will never I will never do it okay well me saying ever to that probably implies what my answer to this is yeah obviously Keisha has I've made multiple I think wow I think do I with the same person or multiple with different people are you every relationship I would like to plead the fifth okay I think we can read between the condoms um do I regret it well hang on how many are we talking not many not many there was definitely one boyfriend in particular that like really enjoyed it and we we had an element of distance to our relationship so like the only reason I regret it is because of who it was with because I now have really negative feelings about that person so it's not actually the video making or the fact that it exists that

I regret it's him that I regret yeah does that make sense like does that distinction make sense and it's not because I am fearful that he will ever leak it or anything like that I just don't like the fact that he still has it and I hate him do you know what it is for me I mean you can do what you want right like sex is a wonderful thing yeah you trust your partner absolutely that's why you're with your partner you think they're going to be forever and I hate to be a Debbie Downer you just don't know and I say that because I've been in it you guys all know I was with someone for two years I thought I was going to marry and he had fucking six people on the go in another relationship that it was identical to mine like he was marrying someone else and I would have put my

life on it that that wasn't the case and he funnily enough was the only person that's ever really wanted to make one I remember he was the one that wanted to it's always the narcissistic ones yeah you know and I just think thank god I didn't because this person was unhinged I just didn't know and um I just also think the way technology is progressing is really scary the way people are hacking things the way people data's being leaked and videos are being leaked and I don't want to come across as like this boring older sister that's like reprimanding you but I just think you need to be so careful and unfortunately this goes so much further than trusting your partner like back in the day it used to the internet wasn't a thing when there

was dial-up like vcr films you know it's it was a different time and now I just think it is far too easy for something to go wrong or for it to be leaked or I don't know it's for me I just think there's so much more you can do in a relationship to fill that void there are different intimacies that you can have but at the end of the day do what you want but you need to be hyper aware of what can happen that's what I think and how that's going to make you feel if that does happen I definitely agree with the like cyber element of it I mean we are protected more by revenge porn laws than what we ever have been before which is a great thing and that being said though like you're in a situation that is a bit abnormal and I think like your partner might love it like it

might be the absolute best thing that gets him through these like long stints where he's doing fly in fly out like they're pretty brutal days yeah but you don't do a sex tape for someone to get him through the fucking swag he's sleeping in like that's I mean no I disagree with that being a supportive partner send him a boob send him a boob photo no face no defining features I'm definitely not against it I think it can be really fun and I do think that there is an element that it spices things up for you I don't know if everyone would feel this way but it definitely is like hot watching you enjoy that with your partner back but if you are worried about security concerns not necessarily because you don't trust that person and not even because you think that

there is a chance you might break up it's more so about cyber security for me it's the fact that like neither of us may be in control of the fact that those things they go to a cloud server they can be taken if you are going to do it i would recommend putting it in one of those apps that has like additional protection and wear like a sleeping bag over your head on top wear a batman mask oh my days batman but yeah like it it surprises me that not more people have done this I think lots of people have. The thing is, Keisha, I'm not arguing with anything you said. Everything you said is right.

It's hot. It's great to watch back. It spices things up. That's not the argument. The argument is, is the juice worth the squeeze? Imagine everything you do now with the internet, you have to think what is the worst case scenario? Because once that is out there and like you said it, you said once it's out there, it's out there.

That's absolutely fucking true. Like you cannot get anything off the internet. Like you cannot scrub it. Yeah, but you do look pretty hot in it. Have you made a sex tape nurse? Yes. Have you? Videographer Ness.

Imagine the cinematography on that. She's a videographer. She probably had multiple angles. The lighting's perfect. Multiple angles, 4K high definition. Add a little contrast here, shadows down. And do you trust that to live like on both of your phones or like? Old one.

Okay, so it was an old relationship and Ness kept it on her phone. So that's obviously something like. Ness, that's really interesting to me though because in my current relationship, I have never in my life received a nude from the person I've been with for two and a half years. And he was the first person that I'd been with. We're not even allowed to use his name. He's not sending nudes. Do you know what I mean?

That's the first person I've been with that hasn't done that and hasn't, like, he would never. Dude, if we could ever. He would never make a sex tape. But it's interesting to me that, like, our long-term relationships, Ness has been in a relationship for. Like 10 years? Yeah, like a decade. But it's only past ones when we're a little bit more, maybe a little bit more young and naive and a little bit more risque. If Toblerone ever let you say his name out loud, that would be hot for you.

Because that's what's sexy. You're like, let me say your name. Say it. He's a private person. Do you know what? I actually just thought that a solution to this could be, and hear me out, a lot of us have old phones, right? Like old ones that are from a previous model or whatever. what you could do is film it on that and have it on airplane mode so that but you're still missing

that they have it you're still missing the point of like someone that might not be with you forever and that you might not trust will still have that data someone that is in a swag with a bunch of men on the other side of the of the country or the world or wherever he is and i'm not saying you don't trust him that's not what i'm saying you just have to be hyper aware of what can happen I just think like, I mean, you do you, of course, there are people that do sex tapes and stuff with their face. I know we laughed, but there's people that do it with their face covered or there's people that do it from an angle that might be just from behind and you can't see the identity

of the person. Like there is ways around it. And I don't mean to say I have a really boring relationship, but if my daughter came to me and asked me now, my advice would be no. And it's not based on a stigma. I'd be like, go for gold. I'd be like, do what you want. But I'd be so – I'm just so hyper aware of the internet, you know.

And imagine if I had a sex tape and I said I had one now. We could be living like the Kardashians, Brittany. Take one for the team. Someone would be hacking into my phone to try and get it. Like 100%. Don't flatter yourself. They would. They absolutely fucking would because remember poor Olivia Valance?

Do you guys remember? Yes, I do. Olivia Valance, it happened to her. But there's laws now. Like it has changed. Things have caught up. We actually had a woman named Kayla who was on that website, Is Anybody Up? We did a revenge porn episode with her.

Also, the word revenge porn is something that I have really become hyper aware of the fact that we should not be calling it revenge porn because it's not pornography. Pornography is consensual. This is like revenge sexual assault material. And that was something that I am glad I became aware of more recently. But look, I think a very good solution to this could be use one of your old phones, film it only on that disconnect it from being able to connect to any form of like 4g 5g or wi-fi so it can't go to a cloud server and if you break out cloud server if you break up that phone

comes back to you so you're the only one who owns it you got the lovely man that's got your sex tape that's breaking up with you he's gonna be like here take all your sexy data back they're keeping it your ex that you had the sex tape with he's got that i wonder if he watches he what he does no he definitely wouldn't he dislikes me as much as I dislike him send him some nudes send him some nudes remember when I used to do I think I've shown Keisha my nudes before and Laura like I've shown them my nudes and I've been like is this hot or not not full you know but like I haven't seen your beards I've seen your tits do you remember that one I thought was really cool and I took a nude where the vase was just covering like my arm but it was like arty I was like this

is so arty and it was it was hot but like I think I cut my face out too all we got was some boobs and a vase over my vagina because that's how that's how worried I am and you know what I'm not with that person so so the vase lives on the vase lives on but no one knows the face so no one knows who naked vase lady is if that got out except now you all of you if you've seen a naked vase lady it's highly likely it's me all right next question how to discuss finances slash de facto with my new boyfriend I earn much more I've been seeing a guy for about five to six months all is going great and he is a walking green flag. I'm starting to feel myself getting a bit more invested, but I'm still not 100% sure. I'm a bit of an overthinker and it takes me a while

to fully trust and warm up to someone. My problem is a financial one. I have a relatively successful business. I'm talking seven figures, which he is aware of. I understand that there will come a time where we have to discuss what this looks like going forward. And when we are classed as a de de facto relationship, how our finances will look. I know that there are some criteria that has to be met before being classified as de facto and what he might be entitled to should we continue on this steady path. In my opinion, everything that I have earned before him in my business and property purchases is considered my own. And I worry that he could be entitled to that when we are considered de facto. Not that I think he would ever take anything from me, but you never know. The thing

is i am unsure of when i should broach this topic with him part of me wants to discuss it now so that i know we are on the same page rather than getting another one to two years in and if he's unhappy about it that's a big red flag to me is it worth having this conversation sooner rather than later and if so how would you go about discussing it we are quite open with everything else and we know what each other earns and salaries etc he also partially owns a property and is on a six-figure salary. Yeah, so he's not doing bad either. No, he's doing fantastic.

Okay, I have some strong feelings about this. Firstly, like hats off to you for earning absolute bank and setting your life up. That is amazing. Now I want you to protect that. And the reason I say that is this is almost, I'm almost going to say the same thing I just said in the sex tape thing when you said I don't think he would ever do anything

or he would ever be the kind of person that would take from me. Of course you don't. like that's why we date people. If you thought that somebody would take or steal from you or take your hard earned property in cash, you wouldn't be with them. But the fact is people do every single day and money makes people monsters. Like greed is something that it just tears families apart, tears relationships apart. Money's really hard to come by, especially in this economic crisis that we're in. I've also actually seen people in my life do things when it comes to money that I didn't think they would ever do. And I've been really disappointed, you know,

like I've seen people kind of being taken to the cleaners and I've also seen people take money that I don't think was rightfully theirs. I'm experiencing something in my life right now that is exactly that. And I will say it is not my family, not obviously not my relationship, but someone that is being the ugliest person over money. It's me. I'm trying to extort. But you know, one day maybe I'll talk about that, but I just think it is so important. And I had a life set up before I met Ben. I'll use myself as an example. I had bought myself an investment property many, many years ago that I had worked so fucking hard for. Like since I was 20 years old, I had been hustling, bought myself an investment property, put a little bit of money

in shares to try and set myself up, especially because I was like, cool, I'm in my thirties. I'm single. I'm never going to have that shared relationship money with someone. I've got to set my life up now for myself and act like maybe I won't meet somebody. And I'm so proud to say that I did. And I made some really good decisions. But can I actually interrupt you here? This is something I don't think a lot of people actually know the truth about you. And I think it's something that you see the lifestyle that you have now. And something that I think a lot of people don't know is how much you built that for yourself. Like you didn't have an abundant financial education your upbringing you weren't given you weren't given any money to go towards

that property for example like no you really didn't come from a point of financial privilege and I think it's really inspiring the way that you have set yourself up from a place where like you didn't have a leg up you didn't even have the education that would give you the leg up like I mean I went to school yeah but what I mean is like I think when you come from money when it's like generational it's almost inbuilt those values and stuff are inbuilt into you so that you understand how to invest in anything whether it be property or stocks or whatever how to be a good saver money values are something that we are taught without even really knowing about it when we're growing up and I think it's I actually think it's really admirable the fact that you have been

able to build that for yourself and so that's why I understand it's so important for you that when you were dating or whether you were getting into a relationship you felt the need to protect that because you had literally built it from the ground up yourself yeah and I I mean I had the best upbringing like I'm one of four kids well 18 months apart very close just from a small town in Port Macquarie my parents hot parents my parents been together forever the most stable family but we just were very very normal my parents worked so hard for us to not miss out on anything but we've never been given they got us through school and sent us to uni to get our education and then we're adults you're on our own we're not getting money for houses no absolutely not but it's funny

because I was very financially driven being young I remember going and buying finance books when I was 18 17 18 and just reading them at home instead of like novels because I was like how am I going to make my life easier like what can I do with my money I didn't want to be making mistakes and I I bought my first house at 20. This sounds wild now. I bought it off like a 95% loan. I think I had, you guys are going to laugh, $8,000 deposit. And it was a big house, but that was it. But they used to loan for that, you know, you used to be able to get property. But like my point is like, I've, yes, I have worked very hard and I haven't been given anything. But the bigger point is you just, and I hate being like this person, but you just can't trust people. I read an article

on the way in here very different literally like an hour ago and it was that Sia the singer she's getting divorced she's only been with him for two years and he is now saying well you've set me up with a lifestyle I'm too used to it I want $250,000 a month $500,000 initial payout up front he's like because in the last two years you've made me want this lifestyle she wouldn't have married him thinking that he's going to be doing that anyway that's my that's my thing but so when I got with Ben we had a really frank discussion because I thought there is no I don't care who you are how much I love you there's no way I'm going to let someone into something that I have built to take it from me and we just set the ground really early and I said look this is what I've already done for

myself and that will be mine forever whether we're together for 30 years that's mine and he was like abso-fucking-lutely and we signed something that states that so if we ever split up we'll split everything from here on in, but he can't touch that. And I would so strongly advise that you do the same thing and you do it soon. Like, so technically it's a bit blurry. We tried to look it up, but technically they say now, like on the Australian family lawyers website, two years living together is considered de facto, but it can be less than that based situation to situation. So if he wanted to, and he said, look, we've been together for a year, we have a shared account. I have seen people in my own life who have lost everything to a partner, including

superannuation, including their superannuation, because they took it to a lawyer and the judge was like, yeah, fuck it. You guys have been together a couple of years. You can take half of everything. So it's just a protection thing. I think it's yours. If he has an issue with you saying, hey, I just want to ensure that what's mine is mine. Are you okay with that? If he has an issue with that, I'd be getting the fuck out of there. Do you know what, actually? I come to this conversation from the other perspective where I would be more like your partner in this. And my partner, when we got together, he already owned a home and he also earns more money than me and his family have more money than what I have. And we had these conversations pretty early on.

I actually think I was the one who brought it up because we moved in together after only nine months of dating. Keisha brought up, she's like, I just want you to know that I will take the house if we just wanted to know. No, quite the opposite. I actually took it as an opportunity. I think a lot of the time these things are viewed so negatively, like, oh, you're going to think that I'm insinuating we're going to break up. I actually used it as an opportunity not to prove myself and that that was never my intention, but to make it really fucking clear that that wasn't why I was in this relationship. And so I remember I brought it up and I was like, hey, I just want to let you know like with us moving in together if there's any type of agreement that you want me to legally

sign or you know we want to have a conversation about it I just want you to know that my intentions are x and y this is how I see things I would never want to take from you I would never want you to take from me we bought a house together this year in April and we're not equal owners of that home he's a 60% owner and I'm a 40% owner because he came to the equation with a lot more money than what I did. And so we have that kind of in the home ownership agreement. But it's interesting to me when people feel really uncomfortable about having these conversations because I don't see it as a negative thing. I actually see it as a way to kind of show that, you know, you have shared values of the fact that that's how you both see finances and that's how you both see entering a

relationship for reasons other than money. You know what I mean? I know that you shouldn't have to prove yourself but I think it's a really quick way to prove yourself and to prove that you are both aligned on those values. Totally and it's it's very different obviously we are talking about this specific situation it's obviously different when you've been married for x amount of years you've had kids you're at home you've given up an income for however many years or even if you don't have children but you've moved around to chase one person's career and therefore the other persons have had to take a back step and well yeah any factors like that yeah there are definitely factors where obviously splits are entitled, but this isn't one. And in this situation, I just

think protect yourself now. It's a piece of paper. Go to a lawyer, go to an accountant firm that has like whoever looks after your accounting. Sometimes they have lawyers attached that they can recommend. It's so quick and easy. You say, Hey, this is what's mine right now. How do I insure it? And maybe it's the difference between they'll give you advice. It might be the difference in saying, Hey, let's move it into a family trust. like the title of your property can mean very different things in terms of protection you could put it into like a dependent's name there are so many options and you don't even have to tell him that I would be doing that before you have this conversation to be honest I would be making sure

that this is done so that when you do bring it up if you bring it up it's it's happened it's not a discussion he can't bite you on it it's happened you've only been together five or six months but you think he's he's great and he's going to be hanging around so like it's it's just smart we as women need to protect ourselves in every single aspect and you fucking hustled and you're killing it so retain it yeah i completely agree and i i just overarchingly think don't necessarily assume that it's going to be an awkward conversation because it might not he might surprise you and be like yeah no i feel exactly the same it shouldn't be yeah if it is awkward yeah if i had to say that to ben and ben was like whoa hang on like i want to make sure that if we split up i

get everything. I'd be like, see ya. Okay. This is a little bit different. To give you a little background to my family, I am married with a six-year-old daughter from a previous marriage. Now my new husband is amazing. He adores my daughter so much. You wouldn't even know that he wasn't her biological dad. And we are having another baby in November. So they're very beautiful, solidified family. My in-laws were really great for the first few months, but we have had a few issues come up and I want to know what your opinion is on this very particular scenario. My daughter was having a sleepover with my in-laws, who she absolutely adores. Now, I found out whilst they had her sleeping over that my husband's mom's nephew.

Yeah. So the daughter's stepdad's nephew. Mom's nephew. Sorry. Okay. Yes. So basically a young family member on this stepdad's side. Yes.

Yeah. So this nephew had come over and also had a sleepover. Now, he is nine and my daughter is six. we found out that they slept in the same bed in a room upstairs together and the parents-in-laws were sleeping downstairs. So it's like, I guess, look at it in a way of almost, I guess, a kind of form of cousins having a sleepover, but cousins from different sides. Yeah. Six and nine. And they've been put in the same bed upstairs. When we confronted them and said, Hey, like, this isn't cool. What's going on? They basically implied that we were being

dramatic and they refused to accept that we weren't okay with it they did not apologize they think that we are being dramatic and like taking this out of context just to add on when my husband picked her up he walked into the room and they were watching movies and tv shows in the bed together not supervised and the nephew didn't even recognize who my husband was just to set the context of them not being like super close family members and so basically she's saying i feel like the parents are gaslighting i've been like it's cool you're you're being dramatic like this is a normal thing i cannot be more on your side i'm outraged for you yeah it's pretty well i'm actually so fucking fired up and it's not because i'm implying that the nephew is a bad

kid or that kind of thing it is he's a stranger it is so irresponsible for them to let children sleep in the same bed when they hardly know each other and also not tell the parents or not ask. Totally. This would be such a different conversation if they had, you know, said to you, hey, we also have agreed to mind Johnny. Are you okay with the fact that we've only got one spare room? They will be sharing a bed together. Like if that was a conversation with you first, play on. That's fine. Yeah, because you'd be like, no. Yeah, because you're able to actually consent to the situation. The fact that this has happened retrospectively and they don't see a problem with that is fucking wild to me. I'm so angry for you because a vulnerable child,

And, again, I'm not implying that this kid is a bad kid or that he would ever do anything wrong. You don't know him. You just don't know. You just don't know. And the fact that your child is being put in an environment that you have no control over and they think it's okay that they can just make decisions for you for where your child

is going to be unsupervised in a bed in a sleeping arrangement is crazy. Yeah, and if we just peel this back to, like, the basics, it doesn't really matter what they think you're the parent and you've set the rules you do not want or think it's okay for your child to sleep unsupervised in a bed with a stranger whether or even if it's not a stranger even if it was a cousin she was really close to you and you all knew them as the parent if you say no they have to respect that the fact that they're arguing the point almost gaslighting you into saying you're overreacting and like calm down that's an issue in itself right and so I just want to validate that and say whatever you say goes but apart from

that you're not being overdramatic it's absolutely warranted to feel like that and I feel I feel sad for you now that it's obviously going to fracture your relationship with this family like with your in-laws but I just wonder what your husband has said like how far he has gone with it is he backing you up in that situation he obviously feels uncomfortable if he came back and said look they were watching TV in bed. I mean, what are you going to do other than remove your daughter from that situation, not let her stay over anymore? And I think it's, it's funny because it's only as an adult in the last couple of years that I've really realized the dangers that can be attached with sleepovers. And I say that because I had sleepovers all the time as kids, kids

sleeping in my house, me sleeping at their house. And they weren't like, they were never strangers there but it wasn't something that was ever I don't know I'd have to ask my parents I don't think it was ever something that was a worry to them I think it's like maybe we didn't have the same level of access to just how much is going wrong in the world as we do now so we're more hyper aware of what's happening but it's sad because some of the best memories of my life are at those sleepovers but we can't put our head in the sand and pretend the things that are happening in these environments aren't happening absolutely and again I'm not implying that your family are predators or even that this little boy is like I wonder if I would feel exactly the same

if it was a little girl like if it was a niece who had stayed over but the truth is I would I just I think that this comes down to consent and it comes down to protection of children and you being aware of the environment that that child is in and I agree with you Brit like sleepovers were just the best I used to have them every single weekend as a kid and to be fair there were probably kids like a lot of the time I would stay at a friend's house and they would have siblings who would also have you know be staying at the house and it just so happened that a lot of my friends siblings were also older than them so I guess there were a lot of dynamics like I have a brother so there would have been times where I was having a sleepover with a friend and then he was also having sleepovers

with a friend and so those boys would have been in the equation as well and and I guess it's not until like you said it's not until I've been an adult that I'm like oh that could have gone wrong should have been a conversation like you know I'm lucky I had fantastic people around me and but I wonder if our parents were having those conversations you don't know I wonder if like so my sister or my brother would have people sleep over when I did as well right I wonder if our parents were like hey just so you know Brit's got some people over as well and Dane's got some people over Mitch's got some people over like I wonder if they were hyper aware enough to like have those conversations then I don't know if they would have I have to ask them maybe we'll

report back. Maybe this is a generational thing and I want to give them a little bit of grace for the fact that they probably just grew up and they weren't as aware of what some of the dangers of these environments are. And I know that that sounds horrible. I know it's like it's taking something that is such a small percentage statistically and applying it to the rule for everyone. But when it comes to the protection of children, I don't give a shit. I don't care that it's not statistically likely to be the case. Like if there's one group that I will get so fired up about and think that we need to go above and beyond it's innocent children yeah at the end of the day this is a really easy conversation for me like we could get so in-depth in it and I don't

want to sound like we're party poopers but it's just a fact of it like it's it's up to you as a parent what you want to allow and maybe you're more comfortable in the future for sleepovers with kids at your house but then you're depending on those parents being comfortable and it's it's a case-by-case situation but this one absolutely like you are not overreacting you need to set the boundaries with your parent-in-laws and if you don't trust that they're going to follow through, you just can't send them there anymore. Send us your parents-in-law's phone number and we'll give them a call. We absolutely will not. Tell them that they are in the wrong here. I rarely feel so 100% about situations, you know, like I usually try and see where they're coming

from, but I am just so wholeheartedly on your side. And we are not parents, obviously, but we have nieces and nephews and stuff, but we asked Ness, our video editor, she's got two little kids and we said you know what how do you feel about sleepovers she's like never I would never let my kids have a sleepover they could if she knows them down the track when they're older maybe kids could sleep over at her house on different situations but I just think that that is probably more of the general consensus these days I feel like people are more leaning into not having those sleepovers unless there's that really tight inner core circle of your friends like the people that I used to sleep over they were probably like it wasn't everyone they're probably like five friends

we were friends we're best friends all through school but again that doesn't really matter because you don't know the families you don't know the the people that are coming into that house and yeah it's like fuck you do you man like you're the parents and it's your family you do whatever you want to to protect your children absolutely r.i.p to the sleepover r.i.p to the humble sleepover that makes me sad though like because they were such good experiences i think it's just about knowing this to me is not actually about the sleepover it's about the fact that they didn't let you know what was happening so because then you're not in control of that you know making up whether you're okay with your kid being in that environment so it doesn't sound to me like you're

against sleepovers I think that you would be for sleepovers if you knew the kids and you knew the people who were going like the adults who were going to be around your child. RIP to the sleepovers with strangers. Yeah far out that's crazy anyway if you have an opinion on this you can let us know on YouTube, in the comments, you can comment on Spotify, you can message us. We always put our Ask Uncut questions up on Instagram. So you can let us know what you think. Maybe you disagree. Maybe you think that we're being a bit too mollycoddly of children. And maybe you think that, you know, everyone's gone soft. Who knows? And that is, that's the thing. Everyone has a different opinion. We love that. We're here for it. We welcome the opinions. But one thing we'll

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