Life Uncut - Big 2020 energy - Resolutions, motivation and thirst trapping

Episode Date: January 9, 2020

Season 2 is here and WE ARE BACK BABY!!! In this ep we are serving up Some New Years resolution chat, mixed with Britt's dating stories, a splash of motivation and finished off with a side of thirst trapping. It's a cocktail for the soul. In other news, Channing Tatum and Liam Hemsworth are both single. What a time to be alive! Want more? Follow @lifeuncutpodcast If you loved this ep go on and hit subscribe and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hi guys, and... Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha! Would you get your shit together? Alright. Whew! Hi guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut. And by another episode, I mean this is the first episode of Season 2. And we're back, baby.

Welcome to Season 2. The girls are back in town. Girls are back in town. In the studio. Don't take my thunder. Sorry about that. I was trying to harmonize. I don't know what you were trying to do.

I think we should both stop it, though. That was Brittany, and I'm Laura. And it is wonderful to be back behind these microphones and talking to y'all. Yeah. If you are new to the scene and to Life Uncut, welcome. And this is probably the best decision you'll make this year. It's not many days of this year so far. Well, it is the best decision you've made so far. And to all our OG listeners, it's so nice to be able to be back and bring you a brand spanking new episode from a brand spanking new studio actually also.

There's a lot of room for activities in here. Just don't do anything too crazy. Keep your hands and legs under the table. So we are sorry that we have had so much time off. We do realize there's been a few months between seasons. Been almost three months. Yeah. Where have you been? Just keeping a child alive.

Just keeping a child alive. Yeah, she's kicking along. Actually, she's crawling now. That's a big thing. It's very annoying. That's what it is. Because now you can't just plonk her in the corner. It's one of those things where you get so excited that your baby's developing and that they're hitting a milestone.

and then all of a sudden you're like oh I wish you were a blob again because this is a lot more to deal with than what it used to be but you know what she's amazing and I am thoroughly enjoying each step of the of the ride but what else have you been doing you I think last time we spoke you went to Europe I went to Europe you went to Mexico we had some bougie holidays you just ate heaps of croissants and I ate heaps of tacos then we just came back and then we've had Christmas and New years and the whole rest of 2019 happened. And now here we are, 2020, bringing that big 2020 energy for you all. Yeah, we are. So Laura, you and I have just literally caught up now and you've gotten back this morning from Mollymook and you were caught in the fires over New Year's. I'm so

glad to have you back safe, but what happened? I grew up down South and so we were going to have a family holiday and it ended in the worst bushfires that we've ever seen, as everyone is so aware of and we've all been watching it play out in the news. We got a warning on New Year's Eve and the New Year's Eve warning was a text message saying that you needed to evacuate and then within 10 minutes of that warning we received another one saying it was too late to evacuate and that everyone just had to take shelter in their house. We all lost electricity, we lost phone reception, we lost internet but all of that is so insignificant in comparison to people who lost their homes and their loved ones and their properties in Milton, which was only a couple

of suburbs away. I can't imagine how scary it is to have that feeling of it's too late to leave now and what do you do? The hurt and the pain that so many families are going through. New Year's for me has always been one of those days that have fallen short of the expectation that it's going to be great. But this year was something where I really felt like there wasn't anything to celebrate. Right. You're not alone. I think for each Australian and every Australian, I know I had this immense feeling of guilt to even think about having a good time. Like I had a great time, but I still felt this responsibility in this. How should I, how can I be having fun? And this is resonating with all Australians and even people around the world now. Also, there's such

a responsibility when you have a social media following, which you do to not be out there and being like, Oh, life is amazing. Life is wonderful. When you can start channeling that into doing something that's a little bit more worthwhile and hopefully encouraging people to donate to the RFS or work towards whatever you can do to try and help these families who are so hugely affected. Britt, how was the end of your last year? New Year's for me, to be honest, but it's so overrated for me. Talk to me about this. I think for me, it always has been the most overrated night of the year because there's these expectations and there's this big buildup that it's always going to be this huge event and all these amazing things are going to happen.

and then you start your New Year's resolutions. Maybe it's because we put such emphasis on it to be this milestone or this wonderful bookmarking of a brand new year and a new start. Actually, New Year's is – oh, poor Matt. But New Year's has been one night where for the last two years, apart from this year, the two years prior, we have always ended up in a fight. A proper, proper fight. Actually, one of those fights was so public.

We were last year at the Opera House. It doesn't get more public than the Opera House. Beautiful setting. And I was really pregnant, very hormonal, patience, very minimal. And I don't even remember what had happened, but I did definitely overreact. And it culminated in me being like, you're a dickhead in public, in public. We don't even normally fight, let alone fight in public. But what was, I don't understand what the fight was over.

I don't either. Oh, just one of those. Yeah. Just like a stress buildup and then an implosion. Like lots of miscommunication and me taking things the wrong way. And I just turned into a crazy person. Happy 2020. Well, I think a lot of people actually around this time, from what I've seen, there's a

lot of breakups around this time. Statistically, I read this, Brittany. In what, Dolly magazine? No, I've read it on the internet. I'm sure it's very correct. But one of the highest peaks for breakups is during this Christmas period. speaking of breakups actually this I find really interesting and we've all been guilty of it I just want to preempt I recently discovered my friend had broken up with her partner and I only knew

that this had happened she didn't tell me but it was just because her Instagram had changed like the things she was posting and the style that she was posting I said to my girlfriend she's got to be single because these are bloody hot photos all of a sudden she's just got her booty on Instagram she's like yeah boy living my best life just it's not even that it's just literally my best life and she's 10 and she's beautiful and she's at the beach and she's at a party and the style changes I think when you're in a relationship to when you're not in a relationship sometimes it comes because there's a motivating factor there where you're trying to make your ex jealous or you're trying to appear as though you're having the best life ever and so there might be a mismatch between

how you're feeling and what you're posting come straight after a breakup however I do also sometimes think maybe it's not a thirst trap maybe that girl's just living her best goddamn life and she's happy about posting it on the internet like internet now whereas before she maybe felt a little bit more reserved because she had a boyfriend and she thought I don't want to give the wrong impression maybe I didn't know what a thirst trap was until I read it Liam Hemsworth has just thirst trapped and I don't it broke the internet he put this beautiful photo up with a dog so I mean I liked it as did 11 million other people but it was him and his dog and he looked so hot it was just after his breakup with Miley and Adam Devine his friend his actor friend that

was in isn't it romantic actually commented on his photo and called him out for thirst trapping and it's essentially just when you're putting a really hot photo out there when you know you've just broken up with someone you know it's going to get attention you know they're going to be like damn he looks good you're like this is what you're missing out on boy so i had to google it myself and um it's a new term to me apparently it's been around for a while and i'm a bit behind but but like i love there is absolutely nothing wrong with thirst trapping i don't think i've ever actually thirst trapped because I am pretty sensitive with putting sexy photos of myself on my Instagram. Mind you, I have no issue if girls want to do that. I think like all the power

to them. I just myself don't really feel like a particularly sexy person at all ever. No God, I'm not. I'm like, Oh, where do I put my arms? Anyway, I used to, I used to do something that was probably a step worse than that when I would go through bad breakups. I'm laughing already and I don't even know what this is. I used to put like really vague quotes. Just like love your life and love yourself and the rest will come. Like, for example, remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck. As if he doesn't know that's about him.

And as if all my friends don't know that it's about him. But here I am thinking I'm being really, really mysterious and just like it's not pointed. I'm just living my best life, but really I was heartbroken. I just didn't deal with breakups very well at the time. I don't think. I absolutely can 100% attest that you are not alone. And I have done that also. The deep quote is obviously this person you've just broken up with. And don't get me wrong. Like I would read these quotes and think, yes, that 100% reflects exactly how I feel right now. And I'm going to put that on the internet because I'm going to own the space. But I look back now and I, I, yeah, I laugh because it was so obvious that I had just transitioned into a

breakup and that was me dealing with it in the way that I deal with things. But I wasn't necessarily posting that quote because it made me feel better. I was posting it because I knew he was going to see it. And I did it as this like subliminal way to kind of manipulate or try and have contact with someone who'd gone no contact on me. That's not subliminal. I'm just going to tell you that right now that is not a subliminal message that's like a big fat yeah I literally put up a neon sign and I was like so I've broken up but I'm single now if anyone's wondering because here's a deep quote and I'm in a bikini look new year's always brings with it a lot of highs and lows and a lot of it's like a it's a time for reshuffling your life and it's a time for a bit of self-reflection and

it's the time when everyone sets new year's resolutions and thinks new year new me what do you think of a resolution I don't know how I feel about a resolution as such for the new year you don't like the concept of new year's resolutions like I always make a point of I don't know if I want to call it a resolution but I always make a point of saying okay this year this is what I want to do and achieve but I think people shouldn't have to wait until that one day of the year like what was it about January 1st like this clean slate this arbitrary first date of the year where we go okay this is the time where we're going to make all the changes and this is the time where I'm going to get my shit together and all the stuff that happened last year. Oh, well that was

just a practice round. I think it's also the wording that people tell themselves to like, instead of saying, I want to lose 15 kilos, break it down because saying 15 kilos, that's huge, but I want to start eating better and I want to start running every day. That's going to get you there, but it's more attainable and it's not as scary. So people get overwhelmed with their own resolutions. I think it's also such a funny time of year to start making changes because I mean, it's so impractical to think that you're going to get your health kick-started or you're going to you know be able to cut out sugar or do any of those sorts of things when it's right in the middle of a period where everyone's partying and everyone's having such a good time and so

you're then isolating yourself from enjoying that because you've made a resolution that actually do you know what maybe it would have been better to start that in March yeah what's happening in March it's a good time just cut out sugar what what have you sort of set for yourself this year do you have a resolution or like a goal or aspiration or I like new you, new me? Old you, old me. I liked old me. I mean, old you was fine. She was okay. She was run about. I mean, look, don't get me wrong. I am 100% a work in progress. And I think there's lots of things that I need to change coming into this new year. And I guess for me though, new year's resolutions have never spoke to me on a, on a deep level. So I haven't really put in place any massive new year's resolutions

for 2020. I have, however, from a relationship perspective, and maybe this is a bit of an overshare, but I was like, we're going to have more sex in 2020. Oh my God. Can that be my resolution too? Not for you to have more sex, but like for me to also have more sex. You can have it for me to have more sex. I don't mind. I need the support. I kind of reflect on the last six months. And I have, you know, we've had a baby and the stresses and the full-time consuming nature that comes with having a child. I feel like it's really gotten the better of Matt and I a little bit. And as much as we absolutely love each other, there are aspects of our relationship that I think have massively taken a back burner. So I just want to reshuffle some of my priorities in my life and

put our relationship back up, back up the pile, basically. It's just one of those things, isn't it's I mean give yourself some credit you just had a baby and sex is just not a priority you have to keep a child alive and you have a business to run and sex is probably the last thing you want to do having said that now you know Marley's probably not as dependent on your boob and she's a bit older and you know you could just she can look after herself so you can go and have some more sex yeah absolutely she's pretty much doing my tax now no I guess and I know that any other new mums who are listening to this probably can totally relate because it's just an aspect of your life that that gets shoved aside and it's not it's not a necessity you're like oh my god

that got us into this in the first place keep it away from me but the the less of it that you have the less of it that you need and so it's very forget what you're missing yes we've all we've all been there at some point and so I'm just like not even motivated for it at the moment but I know that when I do it, I will like it. And so I'm getting back on that bandwagon. Well, just send me a message and I can come down and get Miley for a little bit and let you guys go nuts. Oh, what do you think I was going to say?

I was going to say, you're not invited, Brittany. I know you think we're a duo and everything, but you're not coming to that. Well, I'm just really disappointed now. It's an exclusive party that you're not welcome to. Anyway. What about you, honey? Any New Year's resolutions that you're bringing to the table? well I didn't think of that as a resolution but I mean yeah okay let's have more sex for everyone

I think everyone can have that resolution there you go spread the word spread it you heard it here first um I have a few random things like I just want to start surfing I really do uh and I need to just take the first step and buy a board and then well you live in Bondi now it's very Bondi of you I know but there's so many people in Bondi that you can hit like I just need to go somewhere where there's not as many people I want to definitely cut back on my sugar consumption because you know I'm all or nothing. I can't just have one little chocolate. I'm going to call you out on this one because you have been saying to me

that you want to cut out sugar and then this morning when we went for coffee, you were like, oh, I'm just going to put some sugar in this. Which I never do. That was weird. Yeah. So for someone who's cutting out sugar, you then actively put it in your coffee. You also sent me a video of yourself eating ice cream last night and the last time we came into this podcast room,

which has all happened this year, guys, She walked in with a container of chocolate-covered almonds and ate the entire thing, which, do you know what? I'm fully supporting of it. And if I don't want to cut it out, I want to cut back. And also, I brought those chocolates for you to share. It's not true. She's lying to you guys now. No, you are lying.

But that is definitely a resolution. I need to cut back because I just find that my energy is better when I'm not always having these sugar highs. I'm not as fatigued. I feel better. And I know that. so that's something I want to do. Yeah okay I'm all for that if you actually genuinely want to do something I guess you have to kind of surround yourself with people who support you positive yeah why be a realist when you can be positive I will be positive for you and I will help you

on your journey. I also want to do some things I want to start filming things I want to start acting and just really embracing dreams that I've always wanted to do and I really encourage a lot of people to do this. Don't worry about what anyone thinks of you in your life, because I've been speaking to a lot of friends recently that want to go and start doing things. We've been talking about resolutions. Like I've always wanted to do this. I've always wanted to try this, but I'm scared people will judge me and I'm scared I'm going to fail and we're all going to fail at stuff. But the surest way for you to fail in anything is to not try. I'm so glad that you said this because this resonates so well with something that I had written down actually for

this podcast and it was that this year I'm not going to allow my experiences and the things that I enjoy to be dictated by other people's fears and the reason why I had experienced this myself was because going back to like traveling with Marley and also when I was pregnant especially last year I had so many people tell me all of the bad bits about it they had said how hard like having a newborn is and they told me how shitty it is to go traveling with a kid and how awful it is on a plane and how hard it is to kind of figure out their food and their schedules. And so I walked into these experiences in my life. I walked into childbirth and I walked into traveling with Mali thinking it was going to be hideously awful. And I was so prepared to hate every part of that

experience. But to be perfectly honest, I have loved it so much. I just wish that I hadn't taken on such negative opinions and allowed somebody else's experience to dictate what I thought my experience was going to be because you shouldn't you shouldn't live your life through somebody else's fears but we do and I really love this saying I can't remember it word for word but it's it's like nobody above you is going to put you down or judge you the only people that are going to put you down and judge you are the people below you and that comes from jealousy and fear that they don't like that you're living your dreams but they're too scared to live theirs people are all different in the way that they respond to situations and if you're a coper or

you're someone who's like quite tenacious and can kind of problem solve on your feet then maybe a situation that you find easy somebody else would find really difficult and so we all respond to our external stimulations and our external environments very very differently we all cope with different levels of adversity differently I resonate with that I want to if I'm going to talk about a real actual resolution for 2020 it's that I'm not going to let other people's fears dictate my experiences. Amen. And if you guys are listening and you have a dream and you're scared people are going to laugh at you or that you're going to fail, screw them. Go do it. What an inspiration you are, Brittany. We care so much about what people think in every single aspect

of our life. We're the only person you should be caring about right now is you. So I do have a question for you. Hit me. I love it. Being the single one in this podcast and knowing that this is a relationship. I mean, we've got a real relationship slant in this podcast and it's what we like to lean into. What does 2020 look like for you in your dating life? Because you told me you were going to come to this and bring me some dating stories and you haven't done that yet. Well, actually I do want to start by saying I am hyper aware of what this time of year, the Christmas, the New Year's, the summer period, I'm aware of how that can make single people feel. And I want to touch on that for a second because I don't want people out there, if you're feeling

this to feel like you're alone it can be a really bloody tough time for single people it's like this time of year where everything's heightened isn't it like couples everyone's in love everyone's on holidays everyone's at Christmas doing coupley things and it can be a time for people they can feel really lonely at this time I have experienced that myself 99.9% of the time I love being single but I don't want people to think that that is an around the clock 12 month thing did you find like new year's and christmas was particularly difficult time for you anyone that knows me knows that i'm pretty thick-skinned i don't i'm not overly emotional i'm gonna cry a lot but you live your independent life girlfriend i really do you really do but because we are being completely

honest on this podcast and i do want people to be able to relate yeah it's really tough for me every christmas i've been single eight years now and this sounds strange and i don't know why i do it but every year at Christmas I just say it to myself I'm like this is the last Christmas you'll be alone like next year you will wake up with someone you love you'll have someone around you and I say it every year and I think that's why every year I get sad because I get there and I'm like that didn't happen and I am waking up alone again and Christmas I'm the only single person in like my family and relatives and friends so whenever you catch up together everyone's in this love bubble and then you're just the person on the end of the table you're the person that's

sleeping on the trundle bed when you got away like at the end of my sister's bed like sorry all the couples have taken the doubles you'll have to sleep on the floor Brittany but I have done that so many times I pull out this trundle at the end of my sister's bed but it's definitely a hard time and I had a really hard time this year and but I just want people to know that that's normal to feel it's so wonderful that you would share that and share that you have been vulnerable because it is it is a time of year where it's kind of pushed in our faces that everyone is so happy and everyone is coupled up. Even when it comes to trying to do stuff over the holiday break, everyone's spending the holiday break with their partners. If you're the only

single person or your friends have gone away and they're all doing stuff with their partner. And then you're seeing those photos on Instagram as well. So it's almost like a double up. And I do think that the Christmas period and also New Year's, it really can shine a spotlight on the things that maybe are missing from your life and maybe are lacking. And even the most independent and happily single person can feel lonely and that's okay. And you're allowed to have those feelings and you're allowed to sit through that. There's nothing wrong with that. I think it's when you're desperate to find someone that it becomes a problem, but that's not to say that you're not allowed to go through periods that are lonely.

Oh, you are definitely allowed to feel all the feels, but just know that just around the corner is a vino and some happiness well actually i read this awesome article uh it was a couple of weeks ago now and it is on pedestrian tv and the article itself is about how being single is not purgatory and we need to sort of rework the way that we think about being single and that it's not this transitional period that's supposed to get us to our next relationship and look i know that maybe it's easy to be the one in a relationship in this podcast saying like guys enjoy being single being single is great. It's kind of seems like an unfair stance for me to take. However, I have been single and I spent a lot of my life single, but I spent a lot of my life unhappily single. And looking back

on it now, I think like, God, fuck, I just wish I could have enjoyed it more at the time because it was such great and amazing times with my girlfriends and it was really carefree. But I spent a lot of it in my own head wishing that I had a boyfriend. And now that I do have a relationship and I do have a baby. And as much as I love where my life is now, it's definitely nowhere near as carefree. And there's so many more responsibilities that come with it. And shit's just really, really real now. And I wish that I could look back on those times with a little bit more joy in the memories and go, yeah. Being the moment. Yeah. Like I love that. And I love that time. And I, but I don't think I, I don't think I did own being single. I think I

kind of sucked at it. So that's why when I see you being single and you owning it and you loving that space I love that in you well I do and you've you've encouraged this I do want to date more this year because it has not been a priority and you've really encouraged me to try and say yes more to things in the dating world but maybe 2020 is the year of yes because I think it's the year of big 2020 energy okay you need to listen to this I need to keep saying big 2020 energy don't listen I have a story for you okay you have been talking about this story for like the last couple of hours but she didn't want to tell me pre-podcast because she wants my reaction to be genuine. So bring it, girlfriend.

I do. Okay. So Laura, I'm blaming you for this because you said I should need to say yes more and be open opportunities. So look, I'm going to tell you this story. It's so bloody funny. I was on this. You built this up.

So it better be. Well, I just was a bit gobsmacked to be honest. I was on this boat party. Okay. I knew a few people. Because she's single and single people go on boat parties. But I was on this boat party and I knew a few people there, but there were so many people I didn't know.

And there was this one guy that had been making eyes at me, but he started to talk to me. But when he started talking to me, he was a bit drunk already. Now, this boat party went for eight hours. This is a whole day commitment. So we were talking for hours and I could tell he was quite flirty and he was saying all the right things like, I saw your eyes. I saw your eyes from when I first walked on. And that's like why I knew I had to talk to you.

And the things he was saying to me, you would think were off a movie. He was saying things like, after an hour of talking, he's like, I'm so invested in this. You know that I'm going to love you so hard. He was saying stuff like this. Oh, wow. That's too hard. Well, it's cute. That's love bombing, babe.

He was obviously joking, saying we're going to date, basically. But he kept on saying it. You're so beautiful. You're so amazing. And I kept saying to him, okay, I get it. You're drunk. He was like, I'm- And you're like, and I am amazing.

And okay, we had spoken by this point about everything that I do, like all the jobs that I do and my life and we'd spoken about little things like what kind of he was going to get a dog and I was suggesting the dogs to him we spoke a lot of details right he asked for my number and no he said can I give you my number I was like no it doesn't work like that like you can ask for my number but you're not giving me yours because I'm not going to call you like if you want my number you can take it really I kind of like that he said can I give you my number because then it puts the ball in your court yeah which I didn't like I like that I think it's respectful I think it's like, I like you. I want you to call me. So here's my number. Call me.

No, he did it because he lost his phone the night before and he was drunk. It wasn't a respect thing. Oh, that's so good. I'm like, maybe this guy's like so new age. What a gentleman. No, he's just like, I got drunk last night and lost my phone. I actually can't take your number. Anyway, so moving along after a couple of hours, we swapped numbers and he kept going about, He's like, you are just everything I've ever wanted. I'm so infatuated with you, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And then I said to him, what's my name?

This is after five hours. What's my name? He goes, oh, shit. And I'm like, no, honestly. Minor detail. You think I'm so amazing and we're going to have this life together. What's my name? And I knew by this point, I even knew his middle name.

I said his whole name to him and he's like, shit. And I'm like, you need to go and sort this shit out because you can't be saying these things and not know my name. so we keep he goes and finds out and comes back and he's like see I know your name now keep talking a few hours later he was trying to kiss me and I said I'm not just gonna kiss you now feel free to ask questions at any point I can see you trying to ask questions I just I just think wasn't this already a red flag that maybe he's full of shit it gets way better Laura we're moving along he tries to kiss me a few times and I just like turn my head and let him kiss me on the cheek and I was

Like I'm not just going to make out with you right now in the middle of this thing because it's quite an intimate party. It's not like, you know, we're in a club. It's daytime. Yeah. And then at the end, I'm going to walk back to Bondi. It was from Rose Bay. He's like, I'll walk you.

I was like, that's very gentlemanly of you. Okay. He's like, I'll carry your bag. And I'm like, great. We're walking along, chatting away. And he says, so what do you do? And I said, really? We just like for eight hours I've told you about what I do

and you don't remember. and he's like no I know you were on The Bachelor and I'm like that's not what I do like that's not what I do so he didn't remember anything then we're chatting and he's really lovely he's like I can't wait I'm going to take you on the most amazing second date it's going to be the best date you've ever been on and I'm actually at this point starting to be really smitten I'm like this guy's cute we we did kiss at the end of the boat because he said he said um Brittany there's been three red flags that you've told me about in this story already and now you're telling me that you a spin i'm gonna start vetoing all the men that you date okay okay so i'm scared he's like jokingly

talking about our kids he's like our kids are gonna love this story about how we first met gonna take you on the best day gonna love you so hard it's you're never gonna have experienced anything like this again no one like me will ever experience blah blah blah blah um i'm actually super romantic and he's saying all this stuff and he's carrying my bag he's walking me home and i'm like i've just met this person like i've just met someone i'm gonna date this i'm gonna date this person then out of nowhere the silence for about two seconds out of nowhere he says i want you to sit on my face that's what he said or at your house no just walking home out of nowhere after saying like i'm gonna love you so hard there was this moment and then he goes i want you to sit on

my face wow you can pick him and then i stopped in the street and i have just like there was like 10 years of built-up energy i went what the actual fuck my hands were waving in the air i'm like why did you just say that who are you and he was like what i'm like you've just ruined everything and i was just so honest i was like and he's like what do you mean i've ruined everything and i'm like this was so could have been so amazing and you were so great until you told me to sit on your face i'm so glad that you did that brit because you're making me really worried but do you know okay does this is there more to this story because i i'm gonna jump in here and i'm gonna give you some hard loving which you're probably not gonna like i love when you hard love me i think that

the fact that he came on so strong and like was so over the top from the get-go as much as it's really romantic and it makes you feel totally bald off your feet it's not real that meant that that is a way of love bombing you makes you feel so special but it's not based on anything the fact that he didn't remember your name the fact he couldn't remember what you do for a job and the fact that he then was like cool now i'm gonna get laid that bad guy red flags i know i said you know what i'm putting this on my podcast perfect i said so talk me through it what's going through your head right now to say that i was genuinely i was like tell me the truth and he's like i don't know I just I was just thinking that I wanted it and it just came out I'm like but is there something

that I have done to give you that impression what what makes you think that it's all right to say that to a woman that you have just met and he couldn't I said just tell me I want to know for all the women out there why there are so many assholes because I think he's just put in the effort all day and he's like cool now I want my reward like that's what I was putting the effort wasn't about date number two it was about I want to get this girl home to sit on my face he said oh it's just like the sort of family i'm grabbing what he's like we sort of grew up with that sort of humor i'm like that's that's not humor and that's not an excuse your mom's not saying that to you pal that's not true i said did you grow up without a mom and he said no she was there

but he has um he has messaged me and he wants to he actually apologized and he said i do want to take you on another date so what do you reckon do i go on another date with him i'm not saying write the guy off entirely because it does sound like you had some fun like i get that at him but I really think that even from even from one date like even from just meeting the guy there's a few red flags in there that you need to be like okay let's let's assess this I'm not going to give you my heart on a platter because you've said all these gorgeous wonderful things I think I'm also not sitting on your face yeah yeah I mean like girlfriend if you want to go for it like there's nothing wrong with that either but you guys have to be aligned in what

you want that's all but Brit I'm so happy that you brought a dating story to this podcast today because I am here for it. RIP me. No, you're born again, girlfriend. 2020 is your year. It bloody better be. Look, do you know what? You can make it whatever you want to. And that's just it, right? Maybe you are out for hangs and bangs and in which case, like go for it. There's nothing wrong with it. But I think it's kind of unfair for a guy to do the whole, our kids are going to be so cute. We're going to have the best second date. We're going to do this. We're going to do that because realistically there's a good chance that had you put out on that date you may never hear from him again yes because it's a lot of words there's a lot of trickery that goes into

that and I know that you're smarter than this I am and I have had a rough truck I have actually gone to Laura recently with some like proper dating issues haven't I that I've had and um you've given me the tough love but you've told me what I needed to hear I mean for any of our OG Uncut listeners, you would know that we do a section on this podcast called Ask Uncut. And it's actually our favorite section. And so coming into 2020, we have some good news. You would notice that this podcast has also dropped on a Tuesday, which normally our podcasts were every Wednesday. We're now going to like shuffle some stuff around and Tuesdays is going to be our meaty, chatty, just life, love, and all the other stuff chat. That's that podcast. Podcast number

two is going to be dropped on Thursdays and on Thursdays it's going to be a special episode which is just going to be our Ask Uncut special. So any questions that you guys have, please like slide into our DMs on Instagram at Life Uncut Podcast and you can ask us anything, any of your relationship questions or your life questions or your friend questions, anything that's kind of got you a bit stumped and you need some girlfriends on your side to give you a bit of advice. the reason we have done this is we have had such an overwhelming response from you guys on this segment and so many people writing in with their questions trusting us thought you know what let's just dedicate a whole episode to it if you guys love it tune in if you don't

tune in anyway well actually you know so we did one special episode from last season in season one and that was a full ep on ask uncut and it was one of our most popular episodes like our most downloaded episodes so we are so privileged and we feel so special that you are trusting us to give our advice to the questions that you have and you know what we're a little bit unqualified but what we do bring is some lengthy years of life experience and some very poor decision making so that we can impart how to do things better and what we have done yeah we did it well those years there is something else i wanted to tell you but i didn't i just don't want to brag about it but I'm low-key sort of dating Channing Tatum.

You're lying right now. I can see it in your eyes. Also, that seems like a very, very unlikely situation. Wait, isn't he still dating Jessie J? That's what I'm saying. I actually just saw him on a dating app. I was going to say he's not dating Jessie J because I read this in Daily Mail the other day. So the guy is single.

I thought you meant you saw him on a dating app. Yeah, I saw him on a dating app. You sure it wasn't a fake profile, babe? It definitely wasn't fake. It's like, have you heard of this dating app called Raya? No. I feel like such a wanker saying this. But there's this dating app that's like the who's who are on.

Like if Gigi Hadid was on a dating app, she'd be on this dating app. How are you on the dating app? Don't ask. I think somebody had to put in a good word for me and I had to pay a couple of people. But I got on there. So I'm on there. Did you have to sit on anyone's face? Not yet.

But I mean, if it was Channing Tatum. I'm just saying. The rules don't apply. At Channing Tatum. Listen in. No. So I actually saw him on there and I was like, what do I do with this? I mean, I knew what I was going to do with it.

but and my finger was hovering over the super like and I was like I've never super like do I super like so you didn't play it cool and you super liked Channing Tatum yeah I super liked Channing Tatum and I love that I did that because let's be real I'm still waiting for him to swipe right on me evidently he probably just hasn't come across me yet otherwise we would have matched also like go for a girlfriend I would be super liking Channing Tatum as well oh my god who wouldn't look girl's gotta eat right that girl does have to eat and I have to eat Channing Tatum so oh that came out so wrong but like if he's listening you know watch this space so in light of it being 2020 and us talking about new year's resolutions and what this

new year means to us we also wanted to talk a little bit about motivation I mean what does motivation mean to me? What does it mean to Brit? What does it look like to you guys? And how do we stay motivated so that we're able to achieve the goals that we have set for our New Year's resolutions before we fall off the bandwagon come a couple of weeks time? Motivation, you don't pluck it out of the air. People think that they can be like, oh, I need to find my motivation. You don't just find it, do you? I think unfortunately, motivation and like the motivational quotes and this like concept of what motivation is, is that it kind of has almost like a spirituality attached to it where people are like, oh, she's so motivated. Like she's been

gifted that beautiful gift of motivation. Whereas I don't think that motivation is something that some people have and some people don't. I think that to be able to be motivated, you actually just have to get started. You know, objects in motion stay in motion. Thing is you need to break it down. So you need to, you need to have a goal. What do you want to achieve? And why do you want to achieve it? The knowing why is really important, but then break it down and you need to start making actions. Breaking things down into very small achievable objectives, because if something is too big that you can't overcome it, or you can't sort of figure out the way to, to get from point A to point Z, you're like, oh, that's right. There's a whole entire alphabet in the middle of

this that I need to get to. So just figure out how to get to point A to point B and then from point B to point C and break it down into small things instead of trying to do everything, which is just so insurmountable. A nice example is you and I creating this podcast. One day we're like, let's do a podcast. Then we're like, how the hell do we do that? That's so overwhelming. And it is, but then you break it down. We Googled, we found a studio. How do you find a studio? Yeah. how do you find a studio? Okay. How do we upload it to Spotify? How do we, we literally broke it down to every tiny little step. And then all of a sudden it happened. But if you just think I need to go and do a podcast, that's so overwhelming. Totally. And then you put in, and then you put

in place accountabilities. And that's the next part of what makes motivation and what keeps motivation is you've set yourself a goal every week. We need to produce a podcast and it needs to be released by this time every Wednesday. So now we've been kept accountable for it. And so that's a massive part of being able to maintain motivation. It's really hard to start something when you have no accountabilities or no one to sort of show up to. Yeah. And for example, my sister at the moment, she detests running, but one of her goals was I want to run more. So she set herself an end date. I want to do a marathon. So now every little day she has to run because she wants to achieve a goal so she just broke it down into days saying i want to run a

marathon way too hard way too much so i think everyone write down your your goal and your dream of the year and then break it down and start to action it because i promise you everything is achievable everything if you just take it little bites at a time so how are you achieving dating channing tatum well i super liked him that was a big step in the right direction i might even try slide into his dm i don't know but um yeah like what a time to be alive liam hemsworth and channing tatum is single so girls dream big well this is my personal favorite part of the episode and that is ask uncut i know we said that we are changing this to a whole episode that we are dropping every thursday and we are doing

that but it's a habit so we don't want to go cold turkey we're giving you one question so i have a doozy for you bring it at me girlfriend i am ready okay i really struggled with this one actually so i'm super interested to see what you think about it my partner and i were together for about seven months when we broke up he broke up with me and then i hooked up with his best friend it was only one night once off and now my ex and i are trying to make it work again do i tell him what happened bloody hell help me she actually said that how do you feel about that that's it it's a hard one um this is really tricky and let's break it down let's break it down look this is a judgment free zone we all make mistakes and we've all done some questionable things in in breakups because

it's a time when you're feeling really, really volatile. And maybe there was a little bit of you that wanted to get back at your boyfriend at the time. Maybe there were some, um, some not so nice motivations behind it. However, look, that's happened and now you need to make a decision. And I think, I think you have to tell him, unfortunately, I mean, it's, it's a shitty situation and you may not get the outcome that you want, but I do think that you now need to take some transparency and you need to grow some big balls and have a really, really hard conversation with him. I'm going to have to agree with that. I think it's hard and what your reasons were for hooking up with a friend, I'm not sure. Like Laura said, maybe deep down it was a way to

get back at him or maybe it was literally a one night drunk accident. I like whoops, didn't mean to. But whatever the reason was, I guess it's irrelevant. I just think if you're back with your ex now and you really think that this could be it and he's end game you have to tell him because it will come out these things never stay buried whether it comes out through a friend um whether one day it's too much and you tell him or your friend tells him or there's a photo whatever it is it's going to come out and it's going to be so much worse if it comes out a year down the track if i was in your situation i genuinely think i would massively struggle with this as well because you obviously love your boyfriend and want to be with him and so by telling him this there is a

chance that he might not want to be with you that may be the outcome but the reality is is that some choices have repercussions and it's unfair of you to try and like control your boyfriend and control his reaction to something by not giving him the information to make a decision that's best for him I also think if you're going if you're going to tell him whether it's a year down the track or now and the outcome is going to be he's going to leave you wouldn't you want him to just leave you now yeah now totally because if if you are end game and if you guys are going to spend the rest of your life together like you need to have that truth and transparency at the start of a relationship because trust is everything it was a bit of bad decision making but now put on your

big girl panties put them on put your bridget joneses on and go and have a really really hard chat with someone who you love, if he is able to put his ego aside and he loves you as much as you love him and you guys are end game, there's still a potential that you'll be able to make it work. And I did find this a difficult question. I know the truth always prevails, but I really wanted to sit on this on both sides and think about the pros and cons of telling him and not telling him. And I sort of went out and hypothetically asked some of my friends, male and females. Like what would they do in this situation? I was like, if this happened to you, like, would you, what would you do?

Do you think that she should tell him? I just said the same thing, but hypothetically. Don't worry guys. Like we keep you so anonymous in there. So if you send us a question, we don't repeat, like, I don't even know who this person has come through as only Brit knows. So if you want to send us your questions, you stay anonymous, but we may ask a few friends what they think of the hypothetical situation to get their feedback.

And I was so interested to see what males said about this. And I'm going to be honest, the 100% consensus from males and females of different age groups, I really put it out there. We took a poll. We took a poll. And actually, let's do a poll on this. Yeah, we can do a poll on this on our Instagram. Yeah.

They all said that she has to tell him. I love it when we agree. Go team. I mean, yes. Guys, if you have your questions for Ask Uncut, please slide into our DMs at lifeuncutpodcast. we've set up an Instagram page and we're going to be putting so much more time and energy into building this little community of you absolute legends over the next few weeks and months and

years and who knows where this is going to go but if you want us to answer any of your questions send them on in Brit has been given the job of replying to every single one yay so make sure you write lots also there's not really a limit or a subject that you have to write about it doesn't have to be love. It can be relationships, jobs, success, motivation. It could be something embarrassing, anything. If you just want to ride in with the question, hit us up. If you are an OG, you'll know we never end an episode without Suckin' Sweet. So our Suckin' Sweet is basically just our highlights and our lowlights of each and every week. And Britt, do you want to kick this one off or am i kicking this one off oh a little bit you kick it off i've

forgotten do we start with suck or do we start no i feel like the rule is like you're supposed to start with a suck so that you end with your sweet so you just start with the shitty stuff you know my suck this week is going to be the same as every australians the bushfires are by far the biggest suck i'm sure oh they are affecting everybody if it's not directly it's somebody that they know or a family member so 100 i think australia sucking hard we have all got the same big suck yeah uh my sweet for the week my sweet first episode back of season two and i'm stoked and this is absolutely my highlight of this week so even though sweet yeah and you are you are my sweet yes i love someone sweet sweet's probably just been here with you again now doing

we just got so excited i pitched the microphones out it was just really nice and i've missed it and I forgot how easy and fun it was. So we just have so much fun doing this. We really do, guys. Thank you so much for listening. And we feel like you are our girlfriends as well and like we're building this awesome little community and we love sharing our stories and our life and our advice

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