Life Uncut - How many is too many?

Episode Date: August 14, 2019

Today we talk Bach chat and Gwyneth Paltrow's questionable new fad. We ask “How many is too many” when dating and searching for love. Is it ok to date multiple people at once? For how long? Are there rules? No really, asking for a friend. We will also be answering your questions on ASK UNCUT Todayʼs episode is brought to you by our sponsor Tribe Skincare - 100% natural skincare for sensitive skin. Use the code 'UNCUT' for 10% off their entire range https://tribeskincare.com.auSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

today's episode of life uncut is brought to you by tribe skincare 100 natural skincare for sensitive skin to reduce redness breakouts eczema and dry patches tribe skincare offer free express shipping in australia and you can head to the link in our show notes to use the code uncut for 10 off their entire range of skincare and mineral makeup guys welcome to life uncut we are your host brit and laura hey guys and today we're going to be jumping straight back into some batch chat because is it just me or is this getting frisky no it is not just you it's very sexy yeah i actually knew it wasn't it was a rhetorical question but thanks Oh, sorry. Sorry. I thought I'm really tired.

We're also going to be talking about something a little bit more serious and that is dating multiple people at once. Is it okay? When is it okay? For how long is it okay? And are there any rules? Because I don't know. I also don't know. Was that also a rhetorical question or did you want me to give my opinion then? I do want your opinion, but not quite yet. All right. I'll wait. Calm your farm. But thank you for coming back. This is going to be an interesting one today. Before we do get into the batch, Laura, I need to get something off my chest. what have you done i haven't done anything thanks very much for the support but i did read something this week that has left me a little on edge a little unnerved maybe

i don't know if i've been living under a rock is that that miley cyrus and liam hemsworth has split up liam hemsworth his name is really hard to say when you haven't slept for eight weeks look that's not what it is but while we're talking about that i just want to note that if he is really single. Well, so am I. And I'm just going to throw that out to the universe. Oh, wow. That was thirsty, but I like it. Yeah. Well, you know, you've got to risk it for the biscuit. That's my saying. No, but back to what I read. Please don't risk our podcast for your biscuit. If it gets me Liam Hemsworth, then yeah. So look, I read this thing about Gwyneth Paltrow and anytime I read something about Gwyneth Paltrow, it is always controversial. Yes, I agree. Okay. So what has

she done what crazy whack shit has she done do you or anyone you know steam your vagina please tell me and this well actually funny story just the other day no I don't I did see that Chrissy Teigen was talking about that on her Instagram though recently as well okay so I have since dulled into this a little bit and I have found out that Chrissy Teigen did it because of Gwyneth Paltrow right but I don't get it and I have never heard it before but do you know what it is because i'm going to tell you look i have too many things to think about at the moment already i have to think about my pelvic floor muscles why am i going to start thinking about steaming it that's one of the reasons people think oh this helps it sounds very hot and probably not

somewhere where i want to get very yeah don't picture yourself like relaxed with your feet up in an infrared sauna sort of thing because it is not like that so what is it describe this to me okay so literally it's like your potty training that's what the image reminded me of they're squatting over some sort of bowl and it's filled with boiling water and they infuse it with all these herbs basil rosemary wormwood you really did do your research into this yeah and there's this one called this is my favorite herb for vaginal steaming it's called the mugwort oh that's unfortunate they infuse this water with these ridiculous herbs they squat over it and they steam their vagina okay but what is meant to be the purpose of steaming like what benefits

am i gonna get from getting it all hot and heavy down there okay so it's been a while yeah they say that it cleanses and they say it can help tighten if you're if you've had children they say it helps with a prolapse as well but i did look a little bit further into this and the gyno society has said that there is no benefit to this and in fact it actually comes with a risk no of course and that's because it's come from ridiculous goop was trying to tell us at one point to spend fifteen thousand dollars on a dildo do you not remember this oh my god i don't remember it was like an 18 karat gold i love that i remember this an 18 karat gold you bought it didn't you i wish i had 15 000 to blow on a dildo that's why you postponed the wedding i certainly didn't but yeah look don't

spend 15 000 on a dildo don't steam your vagina thank you for coming to life uncut for some very important life lessons well the reason this made the news in the first place is not because people are steaming it is because one poor woman and i'm sure there are more she got second degree burns imagine going to the hospital and being like hey so uh was cleansing my vajayjay yeah this is too much we really should get into the batch chat i can't do this anymore well i just wanted to i just wanted to just see if anyone else knew this and if i was the only person not doing it i mean do people literally write their list like i don't even wash my face properly anymore let alone anything else i'm so so lazy you know what you're right it's definitely time to move on yes go go

batch chat babe did you watch it yes of course i watched it i actually went i have to ask i know i went back and and saw it again a second time on 10 play so i am well caught up so i did too actually and i did it whilst i was on a treadmill and i felt like i was just killing life but straight up what are your thoughts well the golden ticket oh yeah ellie cashed in i don't know did they go to Flemington or did they go to Willy Wonka land oh I'm so sorry but Flemington race course was not my idea of showing Melbourne on a date wasn't what I was expecting the date to be what were you expecting the date to be when I think of Melbourne I think I mean I always think this but I always think about food and wine you think food and wine you think the alleyways you

think the trams I was gonna say I think everyone riding the tram for free for the rest of the afternoon um St Kilda I think AFL I just think it was such an ad Channel 10 put on an ad for a date I don't know it was like why would you do the racing and the gaming and a gay water house it just made no sense to me well yeah so when he said he had somebody special to introduce her to you thought it was going to be like a friend or a family member surely Channel 10 has some sponsorships or something through this this year it's the only thing that makes sense because to me that was such a bizarre date in itself I agree but what got me through it was that I love Ellie yeah she's beautiful like I smile when I see her smile oh I know I don't know maybe I have a little

soft spot for her because I work in the hospital and she's a nurse and she works in hospital and I just think you probably work like a boss and you're giving back and I know the nitty-gritty she would be getting down to and she's such a caring person well that's exactly how she came across in the first few episodes when she was saying that she gets so much out of helping other people and that's why she does the job that she does she is very very lovable and i and i she is the hero that we don't deserve that is damn straight and i just think it's not going to end well i have this feeling i have to agree with you and the only reason why i think that is because she's getting so much awesome airtime and she's being held up to to be so perfect there's been

no jeopardy in her storyline at all and that's what makes me think maybe this is heading for disaster but you know yeah also who knows maybe some jeopardy in her storyline is coming it might be on its way what did you think of the group date on that episode the afl yeah they're all running around and dropping the ball that was such a lolcano if you don't know what a lolcano is a lolcano is like an eruption of laughter and i was just erupting in laughter because of mary because of everyone but mary mary is all of us i said this on last episode she is my favorite everything she says is funny even oh god i'm getting ahead of myself but even her trying to flirt on the next group date i was like photo shoot oh she just slays me r.i.p absolutely slays

me but then nicole got the yeah nicole got the extra time yeah okay i'm not going crazy yeah And talked about herself for the entire date. She was like, I can do skateboarding. I can do rollerblading. I can do AFL. I love surfing. She just rattled off every sport that there was because she can do it and she's amazing.

I didn't notice that, to be honest, but I could have called this before the event happened. They didn't kiss. Now, our boy Matt has kissed everyone so far, but he didn't kiss Nicole. Yeah, that's because Nicole didn't stop talking about herself long enough to actually give him a chance to get down her throat because he's been getting down everyone else's throat all right so we get back to the mansion

and then izzy gives the date card but who is izzy i don't know we're still so early in the season that every episode someone pops up and i'm like who the frick is that i legitimately she come from i legitimately didn't know who she was i thought she might have been the waitress that just came on screen there's two there's still too many girls and unfortunately i cannot remember all of their names so i i know i i know who is he is now because she went home the next episode but i had no idea who she was so who went home on that episode so that episode and i only know this um i actually didn't know who these girls were either but it's jesse renee and jessica okay good at least we're culling a few of them get out of here and that was also the episode where nicole

seemed like she was super drunk at a cocktail party right yeah i think she's going to be the drinker of the show i mean not that anyone really comes like is supposed to come across as that but you can kind of tell when you're looking at them at the rose ceremony and they look bleary-eyed did you get drunk on the show oh once or twice did you only once at the very end when i was like like i'm so over this and i'm ready to let it out i had one uh it was cut out thank god but i I had a voxie and I had a glass of wine in my hand and I was crying and I was saying to my producer I was like I'm an independent woman and I don't need to put out this bullshit oh my god thank god they cut the whole thing out but yeah I'm gonna say that that was partly because maybe

I'd had a couple of wines that night so you guys just know too what a voxie is a voxie is just a little piece to camera that you go off it's like an interview just between you and your producer and then they'll take parts of that and you're going to show it. I'm an independent woman. What an absolute loser I was. But, okay, going into the next episode. Yeah, for the photo shoot. Now, they always do the photo shoot.

It's a really big thing. They put in all the magazines. Did you do it? No, it's specifically for Women's Day, isn't it? Or mine was anyway. I think it's – oh, who are Women's Day? Okay, right. So, one of the magazines, just to explain this episode to you

and why they do the photo shoot every year, is because one of the magazines buy the rights to that photo shoot. So that's why there's always this episode where they do a bizarre themed photo shoot. Ours was like 80s Pop-Tarts or something. What was yours? Pop-Tart, that's a breakfast food. Isn't it also a band?

No, Popstars. Oh, shit. I used to love Pop-Tarts actually, the chocolate ones. Perfect. Well, it was like we were all dressed in ridiculous outfits. Anyway, you were dressed as a Pop-Tart. I was dressed as a breakfast cereal. What was yours?

well i wasn't invited on the photo shoot so i didn't do it but it was awkward for everybody the girls hated every second of it they peg these people together and then they make everyone else go and watch the photo shoot and and comment on it and everyone gets nasty and i saw that on this episode oh yeah they do it for the drama they create this friction and this tension yeah so it was actually a really funny episode to watch well speaking of friction and tension what about abby and matt and vacu oh my god how was that for a little i feel like this is where we insert the rocky music like a fight that just looked like it was going to be on well i just wasn't expecting that from abby my whole and i think most people who watch it my whole perception of abby's

character in this season has just shifted now it's starting to turn she's a little vixen people can get carried away with this turning into a competition that you just want to i mean the whole bachelor that you just want to win regardless of what the ending is oh yeah absolutely I think sometimes it's very easy to get caught up in the idea that you want to win the show and what people forget is it's not survivor you don't win a hundred thousand dollars or a car sort of like survivor sometimes yeah you're like I would have taken a hundred thousand dollars it's not you don't win a prize you win a boyfriend so if you don't really like the guy that much he's not really much of a prize then, is he? People just get really caught up in wanting the challenge of

getting him to fall in love. So I haven't made up my mind on Abby yet, but I think it got crazy sexual really quickly. Probably not the foundation for a healthy relationship. Well, yeah, she did make that throwaway comment too, which I'm going to think she regrets, but she said, I can give him happy ending oh that's what she said that's nice yeah and then i think later on she may have i mean no look i think a lot can be misconstrued as well she was just having a good time stop being nice brits over here fence sitting it was way way too over the top raunchy i think i also kind of disagree with the actions of it because there's this this unwritten law that you do not make out with someone at a cocktail party that maybe people don't know about unless they've

been in the show it's just super disrespectful to the other girls to make out with with the bachelor while everyone else is there well because you everybody also thinks that you're a column away in this really romantic situation but you're not you've been pulled behind a tree with the bachelor everyone's a few meters away and everyone else is waiting and everyone else still is going to go and speak to him in the next sort of 10 minutes 20 minutes half an hour after that so it's really uncomfortable to think that you're going to sit there and talk to a guy knowing full well that he's just literally two seconds ago in the same room made out with your friend it really makes you feel insecure it never ever crossed my mind to kiss nick at the party at

the cocktail party i know it happens a lot in the american anything goes in the american bachelor someone in my season actually did kiss nick at a party who was that i'm not gonna say it because i'm not that person and i do like this person and the difference is did it make it onto the show no oh i don't know i don't think so throw things out there and then keep secrets from the public well the difference is she didn't come back in and tell anyone or or brag about it or throw it in anyone's face it just sort of came out later between friends and to be honest i was i couldn't even care at that point right i think abby just was shooting herself in the foot she said you know i would never kiss him i'd never kiss him well now that i'm thinking about it i actually

kiss matt at a cocktail party so i'll shut up oh my god i'm a hussy you just broke your own unwritten rule i did i did however i'm gonna put down a very important however at our cocktail parties we had a thing called the secret garden and matt could take someone away there so it was like a single date which i guess what is what abby had as well but however she told everyone she wasn't going to make out with him i didn't do that so i did make out with him oh god i love what you're doing right now digging myself into a massive hole and drowning i'm just gonna go throw myself in the ocean after this i won't it's too cold no so she told everyone she wasn't going to make out with him and then she came back and bragged about it and that was pretty gross form

yeah i think she was a little bit excited lipstick not on her face anymore and it just it just makes the other girls feel shitty but I don't like it when people come back from dates and the first thing they do is really go over the top telling the other girls what happened and how amazing it was and what the kiss was like because I do feel like it's pissing on your territory a little bit it's cocking your leg and going okay this guy's mine and then you instill fear in the other girls and you instill this insecurity that they're not going to have a chance because your connection's so amazing also though on the other hand i feel like you can't win so i i think i was one of the only people that just kept that to myself i remember i was the first kiss of the season

and i came back in and all the girls were dying to know first thing they asked and i had decided i didn't i wasn't going to do that for respect for them as well whether they could see that but they couldn't i said oh i've just decided i'm gonna keep my date to myself and i didn't say it in like a smug way i was just trying to protect everyone involved and they still hated on me for that, you know, like she thinks she's better. She doesn't have to tell anyone. It doesn't matter what you do. Well, no matter what you do, you're going to have a target on your back. If someone thinks that you are a front runner. Exactly. But there is ways to go about it that makes you sort of less just pretentious and less cocky, I guess. Yeah. Be humble. Yeah. Humble. I think that's a

song. Okay. I haven't heard it. Do you want to sing it for me? No, I think that's all I know. but we did skip something that i wanted to talk about and that was the g-force sexual innuendo monique and matt fly through the air doing acrobatics date oh yeah i forgot about their date i like their day was that memorable well yeah not really it wasn't but i mean i liked the date i thought the date seemed really fun it wasn't very romantic but i i think it was pretty cool what they got to do oh i was super jelly of what they were doing the the actual activity but not really a bonding experience as such because you're not even in the same air zone well matt and i actually had a date where we were paragliding so we were on separate um we were strapped to

separate people and so we weren't together but you just cruise together no we were talking through walkie-talkies and we were kind of in different spaces doing different things it was still a really fun shared experience so i guess being in like jet planes would be a really fun shared experience as well but it doesn't have that romance to it however they did mac on at the end so romance was found yeah the sexual chemistry between him and monique and him and abby is pretty off the charts hey it's off the charts it really is but i just wonder if it's that's it if that's the level it's at i think so far that's all we've seen to be honest yeah we have there's been a lot of macking on i need to see more from abby just to know that that she has that next bit

of a deeper connection more depth yeah so I think for me the highlight at the rose ceremony was a vacuum god love her crying that real raw emotion but why was she crying well probably because she had sore feet to be honest but also I think it was relief she just looked so stressed out that she was gonna go home and I broke my heart but I guess at that point in time you're not really crying because your heart's broken you're crying because you just want to stay longer for the possibility of what it could be because she's not really spending time with him yet. So I felt like the tears might've been a little bit too much.

Am I being really harsh? Maybe, but no, no, I think the tears were too much, but everything is heightened in that environment. Your emotions are so heightened. So people are crying and upset over things they wouldn't be on the outside. I agree. And also getting to that point

of being the last person standing, no matter whether you have feelings or not for the bachelor at that point in time, there's a real sense of rejection and no one wants to be rejected so it is a hard pill to swallow no matter what point in the journey that happens today we are going to be talking a little bit about multiple dating is that okay britney what do you think oh this is a toughie because i have so many feelings on it and i feel like it's a bit of an onion you know like peel back the layers well okay you're the one in this little duo who's

actually dating so are you multiple dating I'm barely I hope that no one who's dating Brit is listening to this yeah because what if I am multiple dating no look actually funny story I'm when I say how busy I am at the moment I am so busy I haven't had one night off in weeks and there has actually been this one particular guy that has asked me out if he's listening hi there's been this one guy that has been trying to take me out for a few weeks and I didn't want him to think it was an excuse I literally said I have I don't have a free night not a lie and he's and he's like oh well you know let me know when you can and a few weeks went past and then he responded to one of my Instagram stories saying you know I'm still waiting so I thought look let's try again

for the next few weeks in a few weeks time so then on Friday night um last minute my plans were cancelled I had a girlfriend coming to stay and she couldn't stay anymore so classic Brittany i messaged this guy and i'm like hey so i'm free to go on a date like in 10 minutes if you want on a friday night you booty called him it was not a booty you full-on booty called him that's just how this is why i am single because i asked you guys all your men it was like 6 p.m but i gave him my point is the poor guy and he said oh i'm so sorry i've already got plans of course it's friday night with 10 minutes notice but I'm like oh well don't say I didn't try oh no so no I'm not dating one person let alone multiple in any case what is your what is your thoughts on dating multiple people at

one time okay so I think that if you are single and you've just started seeing somebody I think it's okay just be seeing a few people at the same time because that is in my opinion what dating is you're trying to find the person you want to spend your whole life with in that first few weeks you could be going on a date with John on Monday and then on Thursday you might go for a drink with Billy and then on Saturday you might go for a drink with Frank I think that's fine to have gone and met three different people in one week but for how long do you have these three people on rotation for before you make some decisions that's an interesting question I don't I mean I'm no dating expert whilst I claim to sometimes be well you are here giving relationship advice

no but I just I do have I have strong opinions I think there are some rules that you probably need to follow and things like if you start sleeping with one once you start sleeping with them I think that that's it I don't think you can be sleeping with three different people a week yeah well I mean you could be but that's a lot to take on I feel exhausted thinking about this thinking about the concept of dating multiple people. And for me, I'm such a fence sitter with this whole concept because I really think that if you've gone on a couple of dates with someone, then you should know whether or not there is something about that person that you want to pursue and whether or not you want to continue to get to know them and explore who they are as a

person. But if you're spreading yourself so thin over dating so many different people, how do you actually really connect with someone on a bit of a deeper level to figure out, yes okay i want to invest in this relationship more and i'm not talking about like running to the altar and saying absolutely from day dot you can't date anyone else but i mean where at what point are you being transparent and and being kind to that other person's feelings what if you're dating four people at once and then two of them you just culled because you're like oh you're fun but there's nothing there cull them but there's two people now that you have this strong serious connection with how do you go about just picking one what if you're still trying to get deeper

because i think it takes a little while to get to know somebody properly so what if you're still trying to get deeper with both of them would you just cull one and focus on one so have you had an open conversation with them about the fact that you're dating someone else and the fact that you are right now weighing up two different people one of my little rules in this would be that you have to be open so if you're if the guy you're seeing says you're seeing somebody else you say yes and then you have that conversation and you go from there if they're okay with it great if they're not well you need to figure out what you want is that person important enough to you to cull the other person it's a it's a pretty tricky situation but i'm talking early days i'm not

talking dating six months in i'm talking that get to know you stage but i think that for me like the concept of dating multiple people there's sort of three reasons why you would do that if your true intention is that you want to be in a long-term committed relationship I think one of the reasons why you would date multiple people is because you're trying to keep your options open. So you're still trying to figure out whether that person's right or not, which is completely fine. Number two would be that you're a bit afraid of commitment because you don't want to get

hurt. And so it's easier to not be committed to one person and to spread yourself a bit thin. And then number three would be that you lack the attention, which I think is a big call. But I'm saying this not because I'm trying to make anyone feel bad for doing it, but because I myself have been in the past someone who dates multiple people at the one time and for me it was like an attention meter thing I got more satisfaction from having this drip fed attention I wasn't really interested very much in any of them because if somebody rose above who I was interested in I would cull all the people that I'd been dating so it's more about just

feeling wanted yeah I guess so but I think from the minute that somebody did rise above the other people that I was dating, I would stop dating those people. So in essence, I wasn't really dating with this intention of any one person that I had on the boil at the time to then have a long term relationship with. I was just kind of dating in essence so that I wasn't alone. I didn't have anyone on the burn, if that makes sense. Yeah, that makes sense. So whilst I say that I think you should be feeling things out, dating a few different people, I've never actually been that person to do that because i have for myself i've always looked at it in a way of well a i'm pretty short on time and energy like you said who could actually be bothered but i just think when i date

somebody is because i have a really strong interest in them and if i have a really strong interest in them i obviously don't have one in somebody else well that's my exact point about this whole multiple dating thing but not everybody's like that there are plenty of people that just want to go out and have dinner and drinks and go to smooch city and just just chill and have fun so i think that there just comes a point where if you're going to be dating multiple people then you have to put that conversation on the table and you have to be open and you have to be honest bottom line is honesty absolutely the only issue that i have with that but there's always a but there's always a but is that innately we don't want to hurt people's feelings so it's very easy

to sugarcoat the truth because it's not nice to tell someone else hey I'm seeing x y and z whilst I'm seeing you and I think I like him better and I don't know who I like yet so you just have to kind of wait and see I'm pretty sure are we talking about the bachelor oh I know right like why does it have different rules but I guess like the rules that are in the bachelor don't really apply to normal day dating because you'd never have a situation where you have one person who's oh it's okay for them to date so many other people and then the other person's just sitting there waiting and pining yeah we definitely cannot compare them but look go nuts do whatever you want with respect for everybody involved so if you can date multiple people and be completely

transparent and honest from pretty much day dot then there's not really anything too wrong with it is that what we're saying yeah and just use contraception for god's welcome to the health tips from brit and laura what honestly that's too much you know what time it is now we're gonna shuffle right along to my new favorite segment oh what is that i left that for you to do again by yourself you really just left me hanging there i was just looking straight at you then like come with me girl you didn't come with me do you want to try it again okay welcome to ask uncut that was beautiful nailed it so what is our question for today Britt. Okay so we had a lovely lady write in and she was actually having a

discussion with her friends at work and they all wrote in together which is cute. So they were talking about their partners looking at women on Instagram and she didn't say women she actually used the term hot chicks. She said is it okay for your partner to look at hot chicks on Instagram general hot chicks or ex-girlfriends and if so are there sort of rules to doing that and guidelines so he has apparently been doing it in the morning sometimes and before bed and she feels like maybe he should be giving her that attention oh and i could not agree more okay so there's two different things here that i think uh they're both debatable one is i don't have an issue with matt for example looking at hot chicks on instagram would i have an issue with him checking out his ex-girlfriends

on instagram yes damn straight why are you doing that why do you need to look at your ex-girlfriends that's weird the emphasis is on x i do also think it comes down to everything in moderation how often are they doing this if they're doing it so frequently that it's causing insecurities and concern then that then it's clearly a problem yeah look i'm not a jealous person and i think it's human nature to appreciate hotties i was gonna say beauty but hotties i think it's normal to appreciate when you walk down the street like my mom and dad have been married for 40 years and both of them will individually happily comment on someone that they think is a child oh my god do you see that person i'm beautiful but doesn't mean anything

it's just they're appreciating a beautiful human form and that's also a testament to how comfortable they are in their relationship that they feel so secure with the other person that they can point that out and both appreciate it and it's not in any way threatening to their relationship well and that is the thing is he laying in bed secretly looking at while he thinks you're asleep or are you laying next to each other having a chat laughing and looking at the pictures together because obviously then there's no threat even if he's doing it just in bed next to his partner and being really open about it he obviously isn't doing it with intent like maybe he doesn't realize how how like unthoughtful and insensitive it is to be doing that and maybe that just needs to be

a conversation that comes to the table it's kind of like back in the day when guys would have penthouse or playboy or whatever else the issue is though with instagram is that your partner can look at playboy he has no way that he's going to be able to then contact the girls that are on playboy the issue with instagram is that it's almost as though playboy has just put the phone number of the girl that's there you know like tattooed it on your phone yeah you can contact them so instagram has totally bridged that gap also instagram isn't just girls who are professional models it's not just professional photo shoots it's Sarah down the road who lives in Bondi who you might see at the beach one day so there is this level of accessibility I think with Instagram

as well which can be even more threatening yeah 100% and it's um I actually was uh having coffee the other day with my friends and somebody walked past in Bondi and they literally said oh I see him everywhere let me just find out his name and I thought how are you going to find out his name like the internet babe and they just jumped on and looked for a friend of a friend and through and in 10 minutes they had his name isn't that crazy how connected people are now so crazy and so i think that that's where that insecurity comes if your partner is looking at chicks on instagram it's the fact that they're so accessible no to answer this there's definitely a line you need to tell him that you're not cool with it and how it makes you feel which is obviously

uncomfortable and that he should not be waking up rolling over and scrolling his phone looking at other women he should be giving you that attention first thing in the morning absolutely there comes a point morning and night time where phones are off yeah so she asked is she overreacting bottom line for me is no you are not agree no oh great i love it when we agree on things sometimes it happens do we have another question we do have one more question that i thought we could jump on in i cheated on my partner but we have only been together for three weeks it was definitely a mistake do i tell him or not oh i don't know how i feel about this one i'm super against cheating but three weeks is like oh it's so early and how i don't know how

serious they were but she says we've been together so i guess in her mind that's boyfriend girlfriend oh god okay and when you say it's a mistake is it like she went out and she cheated on him because she was drunk i don't know not that there's any excuse for this stuff but there are definitely layers to what's worse you know like there's there's cheating that's real real bad and then there's cheating that's just bad i'm gonna say because i did we did talk about this in the last podcast where we said you can come back from cheating if you talk to each other and you get the right help and support at this point i am going to say to this person that i think you should just be honest with him and tell him if it is well if it is only three weeks in he'll

probably be cool with it too you reckon well not cool with it but i feel like you're still at this it's better than six months or a year you're still at that early stage where she could just sort of say i just didn't really realize how serious we were yet and i made a mistake and all i could think about is you and she can definitely come back for that but that's gonna weigh on her for a long time if she has a conscience anyway see i think the opposite i think if i was dating someone for three weeks and they told me that they cheated on me i'd be like i don't need this drama in my life hit the road jack assuming his name was jack but i don't need that i what would you do then are you saying for her to tell him or not i'm gonna sound like an absolute dickhead but i'm

saying i think morally you should tell him however practically your relationship will probably be over. Would I tell him? God, I don't know. Okay. I probably wouldn't tell him, but I know that I should. And I would never do it again. Don't follow my advice because I'm being a bad person right now. I totally get that too. I 100% understand that you say it's been three weeks. I really want to keep this guy. I'm too scared to lose him. I know I'll never do it again. So I'm going to stick with it. I just feel like it'd end up weighing me down. And one day after two years, I'm like, I can't take it anymore. You're a good person, Brittany. You're a good, good person you need to stop trying to booty call people 10 minutes before i'm rolling my eyes at

a disclaimer calling someone at 6 p.m for um tie takeaway i don't fucking okay okay okay i'm sorry i'm sorry i'm sorry bringing it up i'm sorry guys if you have any questions that you want to send to us so that we can answer them and fence it and not give you a proper straightforward answer please message us slide on into our dms at life uncut podcast we will discuss them on the next episode so my second favorite part of the episode is suck and sweet and this is how we finish every episode so laura baby hit me really you want me to hit you well not not literally you take everything so seriously literally throw those words you want my suck and my sweet okay so my sweet for this week was that suck goes first oh oh my god i'm so sorry my suck my suck

my suck for this week was that i had to take marley into medicare so that i could finally get off my mom's medicare card and get a new medicare card that had marley on it however halfway through waiting at centrelink marley crapped herself and then i went to go and change her and realized i forgot to bring any baby wipes so i had to use her own singlet to wipe her butt because i am the most unorganized mother in the world this is i am a child which is ridiculous so that was my suck the end my sweet is much better than that matt's mom came and stayed with us this weekend and on saturday night matt booked tickets to go and see harley breen who is a comedian and he was brilliant he has the tv show called taboo which is on um and channel 10 and i haven't

seen that it's really really funny he like takes the piss out of things you should not take the piss out of the show is about people with disabilities or people who have terminal illness and i don't know if i could do that it's it's done in a really clever way so he gets to know them yeah it actually is and it's very thoughtful and what it's sort of aimed at is trying to normalize the fact that people do have disabilities and people do suffer from terminal illness and it's just got a really black humor comedy about it so the people that he's paying out are they on board with it absolutely he gets to know them he spends time with them and they are absolutely loving sick this comedy but one of my favorite bits was that he was talking about how

babies when it's windy fart more because they don't have the ability to stop the air from going into their mouth and so they fill up with air and they fart more when it's windy which is true so i learned some really really important facts if it's windy your baby will fart more hang on is that actually true it's true it's true did you look it up because i don't feel like it is no i just put molly out the window and let us guys everyone docs she's joking all right well that was what's your suck babe my suck god i just you know i kicked my toe last night so badly and i know this is ridiculous but you know when you kick your little toe on the

corner of the bed and you feel like your leg has been chopped off there was blood there's blood yeah the nail ripped oh dude it was intense it was it was super gnarly there it was touch and go it had to be pretty severe for it to be the suck of the week well that all my week's just been pretty good yeah a toaster do you know what i broke my toe running through the amazon jungle chasing wild pigs and it was that foot so i feel like i feel like there was so much about that sentence that was weird well I think that's why it hurt so bad because the uh toe never properly healed so it's sensitive subject on for multiple reasons moving on I'm sorry I'm so sorry that we had to talk about your toe on multiple levels okay what is your sweet and if that is not the

sweet of everyone else's week listening I don't know what is my sweet um well I don't know if I can actually use this because it hasn't happened but it has half happened so I just booked flights yesterday spontaneously to go up to the gold coast on the weekend oh yeah my mom and dad are up there i've got them a little beach house i'm going to visit them oh my gosh that's so nice yeah my brothers my nephews so we're gonna have a little family time on this really nice little beach house and just chill i've booked a winery um i love me no one else just me can i come yes you can perfect booked you a flight too this is this is my suite as well i'm gonna change it screw harley breen you just don't get any of the rules laura you can't change but guys um that is

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because I know that that was huge for you. It was huge, but you were very welcome. And it looks like it has helped a lot of people. So if they're happy, I'm happy. Well, guys, thank you for listening. And we can't wait to see you all again. And answer, not answer, your questions. Ciao, guys.

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