Life Uncut - LOVE AIN'T ENOUGH PEOPLE

Episode Date: February 1, 2021

Happy Tuesday Lifers! This is our last episode for a few weeks because it is time for Laura to go and birth a small human! And we can't wait to see the little cherub once it is earth side!! (We will also see if our recent psychic medium David was correct in his prediction of boy or girl) But we will be back before you know it talking all about Laura's birth story! Ok, so let's talk love! We are brought up being told that "Love is all you need", but the older we get we have to wonder, is it? Now don't get us wrong, you're looking at two of the biggest lovers this side of the border (no, literally, we went on a dating show to find love (successful for one, always too soon for the other) and started a relationships and love podcast because, well, we love love. But we are firm believers that love just isn't enough on its own. In our society and culture, most of us idealise and romanticise relationships and love. We see it as the be all and end all. We are raised with the idea that life involves growing up, getting a job and falling in love. Full stop.  It is portrayed in fairytales, books and movies as part of achieving success. The thing that makes everything better. That heals the pain and makes life easy. In the words of John Lennon, “Love is all we need” But is it!?  If we do walk around with our head in the clouds like Lennon did, we’re more likely to ignore the fundamental values that are crucial to the success and health of a relationship,  things such as honesty, trust, respect, humility, support and commitment towards the person we love. Jump on in as we deep dive into why we think relationships needs more than just those four little letters.   If you're still one of those slippery little suckers that have been with us for a long time and haven't left a review, well, why you do us dirty like that!? Please hit subscribe, 5 stars, and share the love, because, well, we love love x   Keep your questions rolling in for Ask Uncut and keep delivering those Accidentally Unfiltered's! SEE YOU SOON LOVERS WE MISS YOU ALREADY xSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hi guys and welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut. I'm Laura and I'm Brittany and this guys is our last episode because we're breaking up don't be dramatic it's over we're having a break even though we don't believe in breaks really we have done an episode on it we look it was a good run but you know sometimes people drift apart all good things must come to an end temporarily yes look we're having we're having a couple of weeks off because i'm having a baby but also i'm pretty sure by the time this episode comes out i'm gonna have had a baby okay so we are recording right now what day of the week is it today is saturday it's 9 p.m on a saturday brick actually no there is have a life brick came over at 6 30 and we were going to

start recording this episode and we didn't quite get there until now it's a story of my life we sat down we had a yum we got some takeaway we actually had a really great night and then we're like oh my god we have to record the podcast no it's really exciting it is our last episode for a couple of weeks we are taking a short little intermission while Laura has a baby which I think you guys hopefully expect there's no way Laura can pump a baby out and then get back on the pod I'm gonna go away for a little bit Laura's gonna have some really nice bonding time with her family and apparently I'm not a part of that so I had to get out it's only a couple of weeks and we will keep you guys updated if you want to jump on Instagram as well life uncut podcast look we're

thinking three weeks maybe four weeks max but we're just gonna feel it out over the next couple of weeks. I'm actually pushing for four weeks purely because I know Laura is a workaholic and I think she needs that little bit of time but let's just see what happens. And Brittany wants a holiday let's be real. I'm just being altruistic. Or realistic. Well a bit of a bit of b really. All of the above. The other reason this is an exciting episode guys is I just feel like it's been a little while since it's just Laura and myself in here having a chat. This is like old school OG life uncut. We've had a lot of back-to-back interviews lately which mind you we actually really love. I have been loving talking to new people and learning new things and getting new

perspectives on things. And also just having someone else to talk to other than Laura, even though I love her, but it's really nice to get back to basics and get back to where we begun. So what we're going to be talking about in today's episode, give you a little teaser, just to whet your appetite and keep you hanging on. We're talking about something that I've actually been really excited to do this episode for quite a long time. And the conversation is around, is love enough in a relationship? Is it enough? And we're going to unpack that, but not yet. So hold on to your knickers, ladies and gentlemen. Firstly, okay, before we get into the episode, I want to give a couple of recommendations because I have been spending a

lot of time on the couch and a lot of time in front of the TV in the past week. So you've been binge watching some shows? Yes. What have you been watching? So I have two. For anybody who is diehard true crime documentary, if that's up your alley and that's getting you really excited, then I want to recommend on Netflix, there's a series called The Night Stalker. And it's all about an LA based serial killer from like the early 1980s. It's so good. I feel like I would love that. I'm a true crime junkie. I don't know if we actually speak about that a lot on the podcast. Well, this isn't a true crime podcast. Okay, so something about me that you guys might not know, I'm going to share it with you. I am a true crime junkie like through and through.

i have listened to i reckon 800 episodes plus of true crime every podcast out there all the top podcasts i'm obsessed with it i used to want to be a detective that i wanted to be a criminal psychologist and i want to do anything within true crime i just loved it so i think i'm gonna love this show i like that insight into you i didn't know yeah thanks i thought that you're all just about relationship podcasts if we did that how well do you know britney because which i had to do for you a few weeks back we had to do a britney how well do you know laura test which she sprung on me. I didn't even have time to research it. And I actually still did really well. I won. If you had to do that on me, I don't reckon you'd win. I would win. I know your middle

name. It's Mayo. Okay. Everyone knows now. There you go. Anyway. Okay. So, so Night Stalker. Night Stalker is my number one recommendation. It is very full on, not for the faint hearted and it'll make you pretty squeamish, but it's about this very prolific serial killer that was rocking around LA. And the thing that makes this series really unique is like, okay, anyone who's into serial killer documentaries you would know that usually they can profile them like usually there's a type and it might be that the serial killer goes after prostitutes or they go after women of a certain age or they go after men of a certain you know whatever ethnicity but there's a pattern this there was no pattern to this this guy was breaking into houses and killing old people young

people there is so much going on in this it's definitely pretty dark and yeah massive trigger warning to anybody who doesn't like true crime stuff but for those of you who do that's my number one recommendation my number two which i've just binge watched five episodes in the last day is the undoing on binge with nicole kidman and hugh grant i have not even heard of that oh that's a weird combination neither of them as actors do i particularly like normally is that that's going to be someone's going to come back and hate me for that don't slide into the dms definitely controversial i think they're both brilliant in their own way i but i do love i have a crush on Hugh Grant because he's always in like Notting Hill and those romantic comedies and when you're

a young teenager he was like the heartthrob he had the accent he dressed well he was just goals I think Notting Hill is probably the one exception maybe because he was always that cliche heartthrob that I was like no I see through this clever rouge and it is about a kind of whodunit murder mystery I mean I'm only up to episode five so I'm not sure yet but I feel like he's this really suave narcissist but I don't know whether he is capable of committing murder or Maybe Nicole Kidman did it. I really don't know. I actually want to watch both of them.

They're right up my alley. Perfect. So there we go. I'm going to bring in my own recommendations. My recommendations are, now guys, these are not hot takes, but I was just slow to the party. The Queen's Gambit. Oh, it's so good.

It was, I finally got there. You know when you hear about something, you've seen it everywhere, everyone who's anyone is talking about it. And I was like, I'll get to it one day. I was like, it can't be that good. It's about a game of chess. Finally got to it and I'm obsessed. It's insane.

I don't know how they have made a show that is literally it doesn't have a lot of dialogue it's about chess I'm on the edge of my seat the whole time and nothing's even happening in it except like they're making these chess moves and I was like this is brilliant cinematography brilliant acting brilliant writing the thing with Queen's Gambit though that I felt like mildly robbed about is that when I started watching it I thought it must have been based loosely around a true story like I thought there must have been some sort of reality to it and then obviously I got on Google it's completely fictional and I was like oh I feel robbed I feel like this should have been a true story I want some like poor orphan girl to become a chess icon

and then I was like hoping that that was going to be the outcome but it definitely wasn't anyway okay the other one's not a hot take either you're gonna be like it's really great I watched it back in 1995 it's Titanic no but it's Bridgerton have you watched Bridgerton I haven't started but do know what in the Facebook group the hundreds of people who have been like you need to get on it no okay so this is my problem with Bridgerton I do have a problem I'm not obsessed with it but I can't stop watching it it's got just the right amount that you're like I need to know what happens next but you don't go to bed thinking about it a it's the innocence she doesn't know how a baby's made she doesn't know what sex is she doesn't know what masturbation is and it's very

sexual she ends up learning about masturbation and she does things like that so there's this sexual tension that is constantly building the other thing is the main character the man is hot as fuck like he's so he's like a hot tamale he's so spicy if you guys haven't seen him he's a dream boat so this is definitely a series that you don't watch with your dad don't watch it with your boyfriends either unless you fast forward to the sex scene but they will hate the show like it is not a man's show okay so on last episode you guys know that i missed out on the ass gun cut still feeling dirty about it still sad that like britain matt had so much fun we actually had so much fun and not that it was like without you but we did have a great time I was on the bed I was

watching that sounded really weird can we talk about how weird my hands were I was in the bedroom watching the two of you record and it took every inch of my self-control to not jump onto one of the microphones but what I was gonna say is that in that last episode Ask Uncut you guys talked about jackhammering as a conversation like why is it that men feel like it's okay to go straight to pound town and not do any of the warm-up and like is that a normal thing does it feel good so somebody actually messaged about Bridgerton and they were like have you not noticed that he just goes to pound town oh yeah he does nothing for her he's just a jackhammer he's quite a selfish lover well he's perpetuating the stereotypes and I'm not here for it but I wonder

if I mean I wonder if back then they knew about that stuff and they experimented like that I don't know but he definitely I think the most he does I think like he fingered it once oh wait speaking of being fingered i was just hey i'm handing this you want to platter this is a great segue speaking of being fingered guys it's not me i had a really great experience yesterday for anybody who is pregnant or who has had a baby if you're pregnant you probably and you know not full term you may not have got there yet but it's coming i went and saw my obstetrician yesterday and i got a stretch and sweep now a stretch and sweep i like to call it the sweep and finger yes that's definitely what it feels like so a stretch and sweep is where your obstetrician

or a midwife will put their fingers up inside you and try and stretch the membranes of your uterus and they sweep their fingers basically they're sweeping their fingers over the sack that holds the baby and what that does is like it it creates this hormone and the hormone release is to help to try and put you into labor like there is science behind it there is but it is like getting the most aggressive fingering of your entire life it is just fancy word for fingering and i have been fingered twice now by a man who i've only met several times and i paid him nine thousand dollars to do it you are living girl you are living matt was like did he make eye contact with you when he did this this is oh yeah let's not go into those details no but i i think this is really interesting

because for someone that hasn't had a child or just if you don't know about that or you're not close with anyone that has had a baby like i'm close to a lot of people that have had kids i work in the medical industry and i still didn't know you had to go and get fingered before you gave birth you don't have to look it's an elective thing basically if you want to try and induce labor it's because i'm i'm booked in for an induction so to try and get things going and not have to go down the route of having a medical induction which is when they'll hook you up to hormones they can try a stretch and sweet which works for some women i think it works for like one in seven women or something so seeing as though this is the last time we will all be

hearing from you before you have another child, which is really exciting. I feel like you and I have sort of just like swept it under the table that you're having a baby. Like it's always like it's not happening. No, I feel like we talk about on every single episode. No, but we don't think about what it means. Like we talk about it, but I don't think that in a week when I come back from vacay, there's going to be like an infant here. Yeah. There's going to be another human in that pile of washing right there. I'm going to put it in the drawer. We still don't have anything organized. We still don't have a name. We still haven't bought it any clothes. This is how middle child or like second child syndrome starts Marley had everything set up and I've had so many people

message me on Instagram being like hey show us a picture of the nursery and I was like nursery right mate is sleeping under the podcast desk leaves in the bedroom that'd be ridiculous summertime all the kid needs is a nappy and a boob like it's fine no but because it is the last time that we will be speaking to you do you get nervous about like do you get anxious thinking about what your body is about to do thanks for reminding me about hey that's what I'm here for okay we're going there I feel less nervous about birth this time around than what I think I did last time last time I was nervous but I I didn't know what I was in for so I kind of didn't dwell on it too much and this time I know what I'm in for and I know that I'm gonna have an epidural I'm not even

gonna try and tell myself oh we'll try and do it natural like I went down that train of thought last time with Marley and I am not strong enough people so I have literally I'm like I don't worry I've shaved my back no I haven't really I don't need to but I'm feeling very hairy at the moment guys I'm like my back is prepped stick that needle in I've already got an alcohol swab I've wiped it all down just get the epidural in me so back up into the room straight into the needle here we are so I think because I know that I have the pain medication to lean back into literally I feel less anxious about it do you know what the one thing the one thing that I think I'm the most fearful of it's not about having a baby it's not about giving birth the thing that I'm most

fearful of is going from having one kid to two kids and my patience levels my biggest fear is that I won't be able to tap into this unlimited wealth and source of patience that everyone kind of you know you find this new patience when you become a mom and I'm like well maybe I won't find it and maybe I will be impatient with my two children because it's a lot to manage and a lot to juggle and so like sometimes when Marley has like a full temper tantrum and meltdown I'm like how the fuck am I going to do this with a second one? I feel like everyone has this feeling though and you just do it because you don't have a choice and there are going to be times where you have no patience and you probably will have to just walk away and take five minutes

time out but that's fine everyone does that. God my mum used to lock herself in a laundry for hours she had four under six I was like mum where are you she's like mum's gone home mum is not here she's unsubscribed mum is cancelled. Not that I think I'm an impatient person by any means but I definitely was very independent before having Marley and then I found this source of patience when I had her that I didn't know I had sometimes she really really tests that as a toddler to the limits where I'm like I love you but I do not like you right now and then I think how am I gonna do that plus also have a newborn plus have little sleep like that is my biggest fear at the moment and I think I'm sure there's gonna be loads of mums out there who

have like experienced the same thing and worry about the same thing but that makes me way more anxious than the birth well because that's forever the birth the birth has an end like the two kids crying in tension when you that you know that's a that's a beginning you've got there i just want to say a massive massive thank you to everybody who has sent really wonderful and supportive messages over the last couple weeks and months and i love this community that we're building and i love how amazingly supportive you've all been so like i'm really really grateful for that as well thank you for your patience with me let's talk about me it's definitely time i want to tell you and i can't believe they said that oh we haven't had that segment for a little

while bring it back we haven't but i'm bringing it back and i'm bringing it back with a personal one so this happened to me this week and i was in hysterics i was dead r.i.p me it's the last thing you ever want to hear but it was so innocent that you can't help but love it i've been seeing this guy we all know we all know britney's got a boyfriend i've been seeing this guy and i was laying on the lounge and i had little denim shorts on wait are we calling him your boyfriend now is that like are we allowed to say that i don't i feel weird what do i do with my hand it hasn't come out of my mouth in a long time i feel like essentially we're almost there okay it's my boyfriend my friend that's a boy so i'm laying in the lounge on my back chilling out little denim

shorts on singlet top it's summer he comes and stands over the top of me and he's just talking to me we're just having a conversation you know like i was reading a book he's so lovely and he's like tickling my leg and then with the most concerned look on his face he says babe what's that and i was like what huh he's like that that scar what happened to you and i was like where and he's like there and he pointed to the inside of my leg and i was like i was like sorry and he's like what happened did something bad happen to you and i looked down and i was like you mean this stretch mark i was like you're like puberty happened to me pal i was like that's a stretch mark he's like

oh it doesn't look like it i was like no you see how there's heaps of other ones next to it that's they're all stretch marks he's like i thought it was a scar i was like it is a scar it's not no one has stabbed me in the leg i was like also this is cute but this is the last thing that any woman wants to hear is you come and point out her stretch mark on her body he's like i'm so sorry stretch marks are great i actually think stretch marks are so underrated i think stretch marks look sexy i'm like not against them at all i just thought it was the most there was so much innocence in it and he was so concerned about this horrific thing that happened to me like i got stabbed stabbed myself on like some tree in some accident but it reminded me and i

said this story i think when the podcast started a year ago let's hope that we've got a few more listeners but people don't remember it it reminded me of my first boyfriend who i was with for eight ears and he also so much love and affection so pure so ignorant innocent is probably ignorant so innocent not innocent just ignorant yeah I was in the shower one day and he was in the bathroom brushing his teeth or whatever and he was looking at me and I was like you know feeling all sexy because I was like oh he's looking at me naked you know like maybe he's gonna come over and like want to have some sexy time then he goes that thing on your leg and I looked down I was like yeah and then he goes is that what they call hail damage about cellulite yeah he didn't know

what's and I was like I looked down and he was so like he was genuinely asking I look back up and I was like yes love that that is what they call hail damage that is not okay I have educated you and he's like oh he didn't care he's like oh cool I was with him for like two years he just was like I think he'd heard the term used and I think he was looking at me trying to process and put it together if that's what it meant and I couldn't even be mad because he's like oh cool got on with his day like it wasn't offensive but it's just that as women we don't want these things pointed out but the other thing is everyone has stretch marks everyone has cellulite every single i don't know a woman that doesn't have these things so you know what he said straight up i

was in hysterics i rolled off the lounge and he goes oh fuck he's like you're gonna tell this on a podcast and i was like you know buddy and as soon as your name's released everyone's gonna know it was you like i absolutely i've already put it in the notes in my phone yeah all right guys, that's enough from us. Let's get into our favorite part of the episode, which is accidentally unfiltered. Now I have one, which I actually freaking love. So I'm going to go first. Is that okay? Yeah, hit me. This is your last step. You're in control. Take the reins, baby. It was the night of my boyfriend's brother's 18th birthday party. I had just finished my last uni exam for the year. So I was ready to party. I had a great night and I drank way too much. I slept

over at my boyfriend's house. And in the middle of the night, I really needed to wee. So I got up, I weed, and then I started making my way back to my boyfriend's bedroom. However, in my half drunken, half asleep state, I turned the wrong way down the hallway and I walked into another room thinking I was back in the bedroom. Success. I found my way back to the bed in the pitch black. I was just about to hop in when all of a sudden the bedside lamp turned on just to reveal me standing right over the top of his dad, completely butt-ass naked. I was like, you weren't there.

This is so good. I screamed and I tried to cover myself. His dad walked me back to the right room while I heard his mum uncontrollably laughing the whole way. No, why did the dad escort her back? I know, it's just like even more mortifying, right? I mean, are they in Bridgerton and living in a castle? I think she could find her way back down the corridor one room not if she was so fucking

drunk a month later they bought me pajamas for Christmas oh my god R.I.P. at least they have a sense of humor they bought a pajama unless that was like not a sense of humor and they're like wear these no I think of the mom sitting in the bedroom pissing herself like passive aggressive but how freaking good the amount of stories that we get in where people have like accidentally peed in a drawer or something when they've been drunk and like they haven't really made it onto accidentally unfiltered because I feel like everybody has one of those stories where they're like oh like my friend got up in the middle of night and pissed in my underwear drawer I have never hand on heart and I'm proud of this I have never been so drunk that I have like not known

where the toilet is or wet the bed or wet my pants or done anything you wet the bed I have never wet the bed but I've definitely been in bed with someone who wet the bed yeah I know a guy got up once and went to the toilet and I if you can't see me you guys know now that I use big hand gestures if you watched our stories in inverted commas went to the toilet he just like stood up out of bed and decided wean on the ground next to the bed I could hear it on the carpet you know when water hits carpet I was like bro what are you doing so I woke up this one morning I'd only just started seeing this guy and he had been really lit at this party and I was a bit kind of off him just because of how he was behaving this party but I was down in Wollongong at the time I was

in Sydney so I was like I'm just gonna stay the night I'll figure it out afterwards anyway I woke up in the morning and i was like oh my god i'm so clammy you know when you get night sweats and you're really wet and i was like oh like this duna get it off me i'm so oh yuck and then i was like oh that's so this doesn't this doesn't feel like night sweats and he had pierced the bed so bad it had soaked into the feather duna and had crept up and i was covered in urine it was in my hair anyway i remember waking up at like five in the morning and i woke him up and i was like i think you've pissed the bed and then he started to cry i was just about to say how embarrassing that he pissed the bed but it's actually more embarrassing that he started crying

why did he cry how old were you we were 26 and he cried because he wet the bed he was really embarrassed he was really embarrassed see that's when he tried to deny it and i was like you cannot deny this I'm covered in your urine you there you are laying in a wet patch anyway there's an accidentally unfiltered story blast from the past oh my god okay well I have one this one I just think is funny it's innocent and it's cute my partner and I live on a small quiet dead-end street one day I was doing a u-turn at the end of our street so that I could grab the parking spot just in front of our house as I turned I saw my partner turning into our street too I thought how great he's come home early came for a little surprise afternoon delight I rolled my window down

I leaned out as far as I could and as I approached I made quite a suggestive gesture you know the one where your index and your middle finger you put them to the mouth in a v formation and you flick your tongue out really aggressively between like I want you to go downstairs well as I got closer I realized it was in fact not my partner home early but it was the tradesman in exactly the same youth that was working next door to my house he thought I was signaling to him to come and go down on me not I jumped back in the car wound my window up and drove straight to the next state I actually love this because usually it would be like a sicko tradie who would be doing some sort of awful gesture or woof whistle or something he probably thought it was his lucky day it's

like a role reversal she was like sexually harassing him on the street oh we absolutely love your axelion filters if you have any for us even though we're going away on a little break we will still be collecting the best and the funniest and we cannot wait to come back in hot with your axelion filters when we're back so make sure you slide into our dms at life Uncut podcast or you can join the Facebook group and you can send them to us there as well which is Life Uncut podcast group. Nailed it. All right guys I am actually so looking forward to this conversation around is love enough in a relationship and the reason why this kind of came up as a conversation was because we received an Ask Uncut recently. The question was from somebody who had

been with their partner for seven months and they were desperately in love. However, they had started to have conversations about the future and what they wanted and their partner had made it extremely clear that they are not interested in having children when this was something that the person who had written in desperately wants in their life. And I didn't want to answer it on Ask Uncut because I feel like it's such a freaking good question that it deserved its own episode. And I think that, you know, a lot of people have been in a situation where they really thought that love could conquer everything and they really thought that because they love their partner it had to be them at the end that they were going to be together forever. It takes a long time to get

over when sometimes your relationships break down and you have to break up with someone who you're still in love with. Britt and I both agree that love is not enough. But it's funny because I used to think it was and I think a lot of society do and that's because we grew up watching these fairy tales and we idealize and we romanticize love to be the be all and end all and we are told to believe that it's all you need if you love someone so much it's all you need and I think there is a truth to that in terms of you need love in the relationship but it's definitely not all there is there are a lot of relationships and I have been in them where there is so much love again in inverted commas it's so much love but they're so toxic and they're disastrous and I think that

just proves that that is not the only ingredient you need to happy healthy successful relationship but I really do think when you look back to your childhood everything we're told as young women or everything we watch growing up is all about getting your happy ending and overcoming all these big hurdles to get to the end because you love them so there's nothing that's going to stop you from that oh absolutely every single Hollywood rom-com blockbuster like let's look at the fucking notebook for example love is enough to conquer everything and no matter what adversity that person will change for you if they love you enough they will become the person that's worthy of your love but we know and I think it's something that you kind of gauge as you get older as well because

when you said it's something that you used to believe I was the same like I had relationships younger relationships where I was so desperately in love that I thought there's no way that it can't be this person at the end. Like it has to be them. So I'm going to put up with whatever bad behavior because our love will overcome this. And think of how many times you have had a conversation with your friends or your sister or a loved one. And you're complaining about you having a fight with your partner or he did this, she did this, they did this, they did that. They're horrible. They're not right for me. And then at the end you say, but I love them. Or your friend says, leave him. And you're like, but I love them. This one sentence, but I love them. We think that

just because we're in love with someone and we have this overwhelming feeling that we need to make everything else work but it's not until you get to this point in life I think where you go through enough and and you get your life lessons you learn what you need to learn you do your research like we have and the more that I started to look into it when you Laura were like let's do this topic based on this question once I really delved into it I don't think love is all you need love is definitely a main ingredient but there's a lot more that goes in there to make that cake well it comes down to this idea of unconditional love I think and you know unconditional love is completely unrealistic when it comes to a relationship I mean if you want unconditional

love get yourself a dog of course there's conditions on love there are conditions on the way that we want to be treated there's conditions on our self-respect there's conditions on our dignity we have to have those conditions in place because they're boundaries on what is acceptable and how we are allowing ourselves to be treated in a relationship to think that you can love someone in a romantic relationship completely unconditionally is such a hollywood movie idea and it's so completely unrealistic and it's so completely unhealthy and toxic so when we kind of talked about doing this episode we started doing our research and i came across this really freaking amazing article by a guy named mark manson and you guys probably have

heard who mark manson is because he wrote the book the subtle art of not giving a fuck he's great right new york times bestseller it's the one with the orange cover we all know we've all probably half read it this article is all around love is not enough but i'm going to read for you the first like paragraph of this because i read this and i was it so perfectly encapsulated my opinion around why love is not enough and why we need to stop romanticizing and prioritizing it as the be all and end all of a relationship oh yeah he nailed it so in 1967 john lennon wrote a song called all you need is love he also beat both of his wives he abandoned one of his children He verbally abused his gay Jewish manager with a homophobic and anti-Semitic slur,

and once had a camera crew film him lying naked in his bed for an entire day. 30 years later, Trent Reznor from Nine Inch Nails wrote a song that was called Love Is Not Enough. Reznor, despite being famous for his shocking stage performances and his grotesque and disturbing videos, got clean from all the drugs and alcohol. He married one woman, and he had two children with her. he then cancelled entire albums and tours so that he could stay home and be a good husband and a good father to his family one of these two men had a clear and realistic understanding of what love is one of them did not one of these men idealized love as the solution to all of his

problems one of them did not one of these men was probably a narcissistic arsehole one of them was not and i read that and i thought to myself it's so true because when you start to think that love is all you need, it means that there's no other responsibilities. All the other things that we need to hold ourselves accountable for in a relationship go out the window because it doesn't really matter if you're a bit shitty to your partner or your partner's a bit shitty to you because they can tell you how much they love you at the end of the day and you're going to forgive them because you love them so freaking much. Well, I think what happens is when you sort of walk around like this romanticizing love and with your head in the clouds, you forget and you

neglect the fundamentals to a relationship. The things that you absolutely 100% need to have a relationship, which is like honesty, trust, respect, commitment, humility. All these are basic fundamentals to a relationship. They are the building blocks we need. They are the cement, they are the bottom layer. But if you really 100% believe that love is all you need, you're just going to throw those out the window. You ignore them and that's when you find yourself in quite a toxic relationship. You have no accountabilities, do you? And I think that like the really important thing to take home from that is this idea that love doesn't solve relationship problems you can love someone so much but if they continuously cheat on you that is not going to fix that

you can love someone so much but if they don't want to have children and you do then you're going to sacrifice something that you want in your life for this love and is that going to make you happy when you are in your late 30s late 40s there are so many other factors that you have to think about. And it is probably the hardest thing in the world to break up with someone who you are still in love with. But sometimes you have to make those steps in order to make space in your life so that you can be with someone who not only you have that mutual love for, but there's mutual respect and you're on the same journey. You want the same things and therefore will be happy together. What I think is really important to remember, and this does really hit home when you

stop and think about it is that love does not equal happiness. Love does not equal happiness. I thought back to my relationships when I read this and I was like, wow, it's so accurate. I was in a relationship for years where I was hopelessly in love. I was obsessed. I thought the world of him. I wanted to spend my life with him, but I was so unhappy. I loved him. I wanted to be with him. I would do everything for him. And I was, I reckon six out of the seven days of the week I was unhappy it was toxic it was horrible he was cheating he didn't have any respect to me he didn't treat me well at all but still I was like I remember saying to my sister but I love him then I was in a relationship for eight years with somebody that was so beautiful and I was so

in love with him for a long time too he did not one thing wrong he treated me so well but I and I was happy but I fell out of love and I think the point here is that they don't always go hand in hand and that's something really important to remember if you're in a relationship right now where you're thinking you're unhappy and you're thinking I don't like where this is going our values don't align fundamentally we're not on the same page but I love him you need to reassess why you're with him and what you want from the future and they're the things that we are going to break down yeah I cannot agree with what you just said more I think you know I look back on my relationship that I've spoken about a couple of times on this podcast actually a couple of my past relationships

and I was so in love you know like when I think about how much I could love someone like my capacity to love couldn't have been any bigger especially with my toxic ex that I'd been with for two years which was a relationship before Matt I was obsessed with him but I was so miserable in that relationship because he just never showed up he was never accountable he treated me badly he wasn't reliable it was always about him and it was always about his problems and he always had an excuse for his behavior the thing is too it's like I remember breaking up with my partner the eight year one where I said we're really happy and we're in love and things like that but we wanted different things long term our paths were not aligned anymore and you just hit it the nail

on the head before Laura when you were like it is so hard to break up with someone when you still have those feelings for them but you know that you're not going down the same path you know your journeys are not aligned anymore that is so brutal and it's like so heart-wrenching because in the moment you're making a decision based on the future knowing that you're not aligned forever but in that moment in that day it's fine you're still having fun you're still happy but you can't live like that when you know something as big as one of you wants kids and one of you doesn't one of you wants to live overseas one of you doesn't these are all things that fundamentally you need to be on the same page with or somebody has to make a really really big sacrifice and even that

comes with its own problems because there's always going to be this like slight level of resentment am I giving up something that I really really wanted I think one of the big things with that as well is like it's age related right like it's okay if you're 18 19 20 to be with someone whose life goals doesn't match up with yours you know or even if you're if you're 25 and you're dating someone you're like yeah look we're having fun we're having a great time who knows what the future holds. So fine. If you're in your thirties, if you're in your late thirties, if you're in your forties and you have very specific things that you want to achieve in your life, if you have career goals, if you have family goals, you can't then date and waste your time with someone who isn't

aligned. I think like regardless of feelings, regardless of chemistry, and like we've talked about chemistry loads on the podcast and how much that shit lies to you. But regardless of all of those things if somebody is not aligned in what they want in their future or they're also not aligned on like their morals I think is another really big one you can sweep that shit under the carpet for the first six months maybe you can sweep it under the carpet for the first year but that is going to rear its head and it's going to become something that you have to deal with and I think often we expect or hope that someone will change their mind you know I can only imagine how many women and men have stayed in relationships where they're like I want this and I hope that

because we love each other enough they will meet me at the table to do this you know we will get engaged one day we will get married we will have children and the other person doesn't necessarily want those things like I know for myself I stayed in a relationship with someone for six years who I was convinced we were going to spend our lives together and even at the six year mark he was still saying to me I don't know if I can see myself marrying you and I was blinded by how much I loved him that I was like well he he will we will get married we've been together for six years of course we will it's crazy to hear that after six years that they can still not see a future with you like dude what are you doing man but that was it right I was and that was my mentality my

mentality was like well we've been together for this long of course you can you don't mean what you're saying hey guess what we're not together we didn't end up together he never proposed we never got married he kept telling me what he wanted in his life and I kept hoping to change him I know that it can feel like you're never gonna love another person as much as you love that person you fucking can like you can't but the other thing to remember is when you say but I love them and especially in the early years when you fall in love it actually your body actually releases these euphoric hormones that are oxytocin and dopamine you get these feelings that are actually insane they take over your body the thing is if that is all you have and there's no one none

of the fundamentals that we spoke about before and there's no actual happiness if it's just that love those hormones scientifically decrease over time when they have decreased what have you got left if you don't have any of the other fundamentals one of the things i was reading that came up is this idea of doing a friend test so the behavior of your partner if your best friend was behaving in the way that they behave towards you if your friend treated you that way would you still be friends with them is that a question what have they done tell me what they've done okay so what that means is like if your partner is treating you like shit if they're not showing up if that if you are not aligned in morals if you're not aligned in values but you know overwhelming you

you're like i put up with that stuff because i love them so much i love love love love if your friend was behaving in that way towards you would you still actively choose to be friends with them or would you say this is not something i want in my life well you'd at a minimum you'd be backing off wouldn't you it's like we spoke about toxic friendships a few weeks ago on the podcast you would be backing off you'd be putting up your boundaries you'd be taking some space but you don't do that in the relationship yeah and the thing is is why do we set a different standard for our loved ones than what we do for our friendships don't settle for a feeling that you have for someone you also have to settle for actions as well and that needs to back those

feelings up okay so let's just look at some reasons that you should take into consideration some things that might not be aligned if you are a bit up in arms about your relationship and if you can see yourself together long term we're just going to go through some things to I guess sit down and think about yourself maybe have the conversation with your partner and just assess your relationship so number one is like it's I think it's really obvious you want different things you both see different things in your future we said it before maybe one of you wants children one of you doesn't that to me is actually a pretty big deal breaker I know my brother personally he was in a relationship we loved her that she loved him she was adamant from the day

they met I don't want kids he did the old it was like a role reversal as well he did the old I'm sure you'll change your mind like you will become more maternal as you get older things like that a few years went past and she was like still adamant like this is not going to happen that was the only thing wrong in their relationship but it was enough for him to say I don't think I can do this because I know 100% I want kids in my life and she was like cool I don't and I mean that obviously starts cracks in other ways because it builds the tension but essentially that was the only real thing that was wrong in their relationship and it ended their relationship he's moved on and had two kids with someone else and he's so happy but if something as big as that

is not aligned it's a it's a deal breaker and you know what we get this question so much on ask uncut and that was kind of why I wanted to bring this into a main episode because we get that that exact type of question of like my partner doesn't want this but I do and I hate the tough love I hate that sometimes our answers to things is like well then you guys shouldn't be together but the reality is is like if you're so poorly mismatched but the only thing that you're matched on is this idea that you love each other I think we need to get real and stop romanticizing and fantasizing about what a relationship could be yes there is a potential that they may change their mind and they may bend because they want to be with you but there's also the potential that

they won't and you'll be the one that has to bend for them and you know are you willing to make that sacrifice. And if you're not willing to make that sacrifice, then that's your answer about whether the relationship is viable or not. The next one, I think like it seemed really obvious when I read it, but I think this happens more often than not, especially as we get older, I think we settle and get stuck in relationships a little bit, but it's if your partner isn't happy. Unfortunately, happiness isn't always contagious just because you are insanely happy and in love. And we all know that because we've all been on the end of unrequited love and it sucks. But just because you are really happy doesn't mean your partner is and if you can't meet halfway and make each

other happy it's not going to work like there's there's not science behind this it's not i'm not blowing your minds it's you've got to both be on the same page the next one i want to talk about is i think this is also really obvious i think a lot of these are obvious but we just don't ever take the time to sit down and nut them out and that's that your values conflict this could be something like and i think this is probably the biggest thing is religion if you are very prominent in your religious beliefs in your church with your congregation and your partner has come in and they are polar opposite that is fine for a really short period of time that is fine for lust that is fine for one night stands that is fine for dating for a few weeks but that's not going to match

long term unless one of you is willing to make some sort of sacrifices even if you can meet halfway in just dating as just the two of you in a couple when you have kids it just brings in a whole new kettle of fish there's something else to think about I remember dating somebody that was really really religious and I personally am more spiritual and I believe something's out there but I'm not sure what I'm still finding my way he was adamant that our children would be raised Muslim and I was the opposite I was like well I don't want to raise my children Muslim because I don't believe in that and that was like that started the biggest end all fight it started to get really heated because he's like there's absolutely no way I'm meeting you halfway on

it's like this is how I've been brought up forever and this is what I'm gonna do and I'm like yeah but I haven't been brought up like that and I don't want to do that and I just I just thought to myself there's no way we're ever going to get to a place where we're going to agree on how our kids are going to be raised and we can't move forward it's such an interesting one I actually think that that deserves its whole episode to itself it's like navigating so much to talk about yeah and navigating like being in uh interracial relationships or intercultural relationships there's people that do it successfully but there has to be some give and take and there has to be some sacrifices. We will absolutely do a call out for couples who are navigating that and navigating

it successfully. And it's important. I do want to know, it's important to note that you can 100% have those relationships successfully. I have friends, my sister's in one, like you absolutely can, but you just need to know that there'll have to be sacrifice from one of you. That's all it is. Actually, no, there has to be sacrifice from both of you. Like that's the thing. It can't be one person's way or the highway. And one person is constantly giving, giving, giving. There has to be well unless it's like you know it can't be just that one person's giving giving giving unless it's because that person has genuinely come on board and genuinely accepted that religion or that culture like that's a very different thing but if you're completely mismatched in your views and

your ideologies the other really big one which I think we're seeing more and more now especially with everything that's come to the forefront in the last couple of years is people who are mismatched on their beliefs like around racism their beliefs around politics that conversation is becoming way more prevalent and I think back in the day we could kind of disassociate we could kind of go oh yeah you know I love this person but sometimes their political views irk me a little bit I think the more and more that we're becoming responsible and realizing how much we need to be conscious and active with our political views our partners views and beliefs need to reflect that and there's more people who are saying I can't be in a relationship with someone who

is bigoted or who is racist or who casually thinks that these things are okay it's funny of you say that because this year especially with everything that was happening with American politics everything that was happening with Black Lives Movement I cannot tell you how many messages we got from women and I'm only saying women because we actually didn't get any from the men but so many messages from women asking us saying and wanting us to talk about and give advice on and I just think it's really hard to navigate but saying I don't know what to do I love my partner we've been together a long time but he's started to say some things about the Black Lives Movement oh he has started to say some things about Donald Trump that I can't get on board with and I can't

have a conversation with him because he won't meet me halfway and he won't budge and he won't listen to anything I say it's his way of the highway we got so many messages like that and I think like you just said Laura you can be with someone for a really long time but now that this conversation is so prevalent you can't avoid the conversations with your partners anymore and I think people are learning a lot more about their partners and I just can't believe how many people brought that up saying, I don't think I can be with this person anymore. And that's because you finally sat down and had the conversation where you realize something you really heavily believe in is not aligned with your partners. And that can really cause cracks. Absolutely. And also like, it's one

of these things that you think about, you're like, well, I love you, but is this a deal breaker? Like, is this how I want to live my life? And are these the values that I want to uphold my life to? And also if we do choose to bring children into the world, are these the sort of values that I want to impart on another generation. I do want to say one thing to this, and this is going to sound completely unromantic. And I, there's parts of me that hate saying this because, you know, I love Matt so much and I can't ever imagine my life, not with him. You know, I'm at that point in my relationship where I'm like, I don't think I would ever be able to replace him if it wasn't my life. With me. Yeah. Except with Brittany, but like apart from that, but the truth is, is love is

not scarce. Like it is not something that if you break up with someone, you're never going to find again block your ears Matt I know I know and I know what you're saying it kills me to say this but like I see this because I see my mom right you know and this is something I have never shared before but like my mom's been married three times right her second marriage I know for a fact that my mom loved my stepdad probably more than she's ever loved anyone especially at the time you know like she fought so hard for that relationship to work my stepdad was an incredibly abusive heroin addict and there was no amount of my mum loving him that was going to make him change he didn't change and that relationship didn't work out and he left her with a three-month-old baby

which is my little brother and my mum raised three kids on her own you know and I think it makes me almost annoyed this this concept of like but if you love someone so much they'll do better for you people are fucking selfish and people choose their own lives and you know he chose his and so I that's this is kind of one of the big reasons why when we talked about this topic I was like I've seen it I've lived it and you know what my mum she has moved on she has an incredible husband now who she loves more than anything and she doesn't just have love she has respect she has support she has kindness she has all of the other things that she needs and she's the happiest that she's ever been in her life because she's got all the fundamentals to go with

the love which is our main point totally but when we're in it we convince ourself that we're never going to find it again and that's why we stay because there's this fear of well I'm never going to find someone who I love as much as I love this person so I'm going to put up with all the things that they're doing to me because I don't want to be alone or I don't want to miss out on this incredibly intense feeling of loving someone but I think you know love is not special in that way and it's not unique like we are manufactured to love again and to feel those experiences again can I tell you something funny I just poured my fucking heart out to you and I was like hey I had a really traumatic childhood and you're like can i tell you something lols no because i don't i

didn't know if you want me to focus too much on that i was like no i mean like i totally agree with everything you say and that what you just said about your stepdad and your mom is a prime example that she loved him fiercely and he was never going to meet her halfway he was never going to like it wasn't in his vicinity or in his ability or capability to to love her back and give her what she needed and it's a prime example of why it's not going to work out it's so fun you can tell me something funny now i'll tell you something funny no it just made me think like when you were just saying one thing you said triggered me my first ever boyfriend like you know when you're like 14 literally like 14 i think we'd kiss we're together for a whole year

we used to write each other love letters after school every day because you know we didn't have phones and shit then yes we're old people but we used to literally spend the day one of us would write a letter to each other and then at the end of the day we'd walk each other home we'd give each other the letter they would read it that night they would write back it was beautiful it It was like cute love, innocent love. He broke up with me after a bit over a year. And I remember being – I was hysterical. I locked myself in my room.

I couldn't eat and I could not stop crying to the point – and I look back now and my mum must have thought it was the funniest thing ever. But she was great. She walked into my room. She was like trying to be supportive. She was like, what's wrong? And I was like, he broke up with me. You know how you can't talk?

I can't talk. You know how you can't talk, right? Everyone knows that he doesn't love me. Anyway, I was like, he broke up with me, blah, blah, blah. And mom, I remember mom saying, you will find someone else. Like, I mean, she's talking to a 14 year old daughter. Of course, she's going to be like, bless herself. She's like, you will find someone else.

You will love someone else. And I was, I remember looking at her. I was disgusted that she would tell me I would love someone else. And I was like, I will never find someone that will love me like he did. And I will never love someone like I loved him. I was 14. I look back now and I'm like, what was I thinking? But you wholeheartedly get stuck in these situations where you genuinely believe there's

no other love out there for you and you have to make this one relationship work because you know who else is gonna love me but i don't think that that changes from being 14 or 26 or 33 or whatever oh no i've got to wait i don't cry like that every really shitty breakup feels like that you know and i think back when i was 25 when i broke up with this guy who i'd been with for six years eventually and it was over over and i remember calling my mom as well and being so hysterical and like no, B, A, well, B, breathe. And my mom used herself as an example. And she was like, I promise you, you will, because look at me. And that's like, I guess that that's always stuck with me, you know? And like, that's not to say that breakups are not hard. And that's not to

say that every single breakup I've had where I've been completely in love with the person and then being blindsided by the breakup wasn't still equally as hard. But I guess there's been this little part of me that's gone. I am strong enough to get over this. Like I am strong enough. And I know that I'm worthy of meeting someone who respects me as well as loves me. I just wanted to add this one thing which is from the article that I read for you guys at the very beginning and it kind of like reaffirms this whole idea about love not being as scarce and as rare as we make it out to be and what it says is you can fall in love when you're young and you can fall in love when you're old. Love is not necessarily unique but your self-respect is and so is your

dignity. So is your ability to trust. There can potentially be many loves throughout your life But once you lose your self-respect, your dignity, or your ability to trust, they are very hard things to get back. Mic drop. This one is one like I have done this in a relationship. I know a lot of people have done this. Laura, I know you have done this, and it's long distance. Long distance is great short-term.

Long distance is something you really, really need to consider long-term. It's something that, of course, it can work. Of course, you can have a successful long-distance relationship, but I don't think I think it takes two very very special particular people to do it successfully long long term and I also think that with long-term relationships you need to have an end goal like it can't be 100 you can't just be in this ambiguous purgatory for like several years where you're just hoping that one day your lives will align I think that that's what makes long distance really really difficult but having like the next time that you're going to see each other

the next time you're going to be together the next time that you're actually going to live together and be in the same country or place or whatever you have to be working towards a common goal and that's what makes long distance achievable but it's the not knowing and then that kind of leads into lack of trust that makes people feel super insecure I mean I think we've just come up with another podcast topic which is long distance relationships we've been meaning to talk about that for a long time actually we will get to it we've got so many to get to but also it was a hard one especially over COVID because you know a lot of people were forced into long distance relationships and we didn't want to come into it being all doom and gloom because this year has

been and last year sorry has been a very unique year where long distance has been something that's been challenging for a lot of people but it's been absolutely necessary for a lot of people the last thing i want to say before we sort of wrap this up is sacrifices i think you need to think of your relationship right now are you both committed to the relationship are you both meeting each other halfway you're both making sacrifices for each other because sacrifices are inevitable in a relationship there is always 100 going to be someone that has to give something up at some time or has to do something they don't want to do to please their partner at some time but it's super important that that is reciprocated if it is one-sided the whole relationship and you

constantly are finding yourself the one that has to give up your dreams change your journey change your path do something for them and they're not giving you anything back that's another really really big red flag that maybe this relationship isn't the right thing for you so in conclusion guys love ain't enough love is not freaking enough and like we need to stop kidding ourselves and stop romanticizing it and stop trying to convince ourselves that we can put up with something that's not good enough for us or subpar because oh my god we're so in love you deserve better you deserve all the other things that go with a relationship and only you can hold that standard for yourself and guys we love love you know that that's our tagline like we love love we're not writing love

off we just know that love has love doesn't come on its own you have to have a little side salad with your love you can't order it by itself okay guys you know that we don't end an episode ever without our suck and our sweet our highlights and our lowlights the best and the worst part of our week you want me to go first or do you want to go first you can go first great love that okay my suck my suck actually my suck happened last night i had a really boring weekend guys i didn't really do much. I've had this migraine for like 10 days. So I've been a bit moping around in all my spare time. I had heaps of work to get through for Life Uncut that I had ignored for a few days. So I was like, okay, I'm just going to use my Friday night to sit at home and just smash through

some emails. I got really, really hungry and it was raining. So I was, and because I'm about to go away on vacation, when Laura has a baby, I'm going to go away. I haven't bought any food. You know, when you like trying to wean out your cupboards and stuff when you know you're going away. So there's no food in your house. Yeah. So this is what my suck is. I was starving and I was like great i'm gonna order uber eats i went on uber eats there was not one delivery driver anywhere in the vicinity that would deliver because it was raining so i went on delivery i went on every single food app to deliver me food and there wasn't one it was pouring with rain i had a migraine and i was working i was like i'm not going out to get food let me see what i've got in my cupboard i had

half a piece of like semi-stale bread but i toasted it so delicious you know when you toast it though so it goes like it's fine it's perfect it's edible it's like another three days in it it was like uni days you know it's like a best before it's a guide it works for everything except for like meat and then I had a cup of tea and that was it and that was my suck my suck was literally as bad as the fact that I had to go to bed hungry because I couldn't be bothered to go out and buy myself that is actually really miserable though like I mean it's not the worst of the sucks that we could have brought to the table but it's a bit miserable no but it's like I mean I guess the other suck in conjunction with that is the fact that I have had this migraine I'm a migraine

sufferer oh look I've got that little thing in my ear put in my ear it's supposed to help with migraines when you feel that your headache is coming on you're supposed to squeeze it really tight and I had a lot of questions about some Instagram actually I will do an update on the Instagram I'm just letting you know now I'm squeezing it now it's really painful basically what Britt is talking about because she didn't really explain that it's that she has like an acupuncture thing put in her ear yeah so it's an acupressure pressure point and it's like a little metal ball that you can kind of do the acupuncture to yourself isn't it pretty much yeah so I've like i've always had headaches i'm my whole life i've suffered them but they never stay around this long

this has been well this will be day 11 now 11 days and every couple of days it gets really bad where you get anyone that's a migraine sufferer knows you're in bed you're nauseous the pain is excruciating so every couple of days it does that and then it just goes back to like a throbbing headache so you can manage life with it for sure when it's just the throb but not when it's the migraine so i'm going to trial this acupuncture thing follow me on instagram if you want to know more i'll update you in a couple of days my sweet is that i love you just put an instagram pitch in there. Follow me on Instagram. I actually didn't even mean it like that, but whatever. See you on my page. My sweet is the fact that, and this is not anything against you guys, it's nothing against

Laura, but the fact that Laura is having a baby in like three days time means that we are going on break and I get a few weeks off. I am going to go away for a few weeks and I'm just really looking forward to getting life back on track a little bit. I'm actually going to miss you guys terribly and I'm not just saying that but we actually love doing this report we love bringing you this every week but I feel like it'll be really nice I was about to say it's gonna be nice for us to rejuvenate you're not gonna be rejuvenated but I hope I'm gonna be I love that yes look I'm so I'm actually like there's a part of me that's looking forward to having the weeks off but I'm also like a little bit sad because I love doing this and I also like I'm gonna miss

you guys I'm gonna miss like my weekly little download now community and I mean obviously we'll still be on Instagram we'll still be on Facebook but it won't be the same without having our weekly episode and someone actually wrote me a message the other day and they were like is it rational that I feel really angry and betrayed that you and Brittany are having three weeks off and I was like yes yes that's totally fine yeah I totally accept that um also love us love us okay and be there I will let you know when we're coming back like be there it's a short break it's a short break it's like nothing it's like nothing's changed at all don't go anywhere a whole new human in the world don't go anywhere else yeah don't don't leave us for

another podcast okay so my suck is and I think that every single person who's ever had a baby will relate to this every single weird ache or pain or like pressure or gas every thing that's just not quite normal in my body I'm like is this labor is this labor am I in labor now is the baby coming is this my water break or am I wetting myself literally I sneezed in bed the other day and I was like well I just pissed myself but did my water break as well like which one is it um So that is like, it's weird not knowing. I know that that's a stupid thing to say. And I know that when Labor actually starts, trust me, I'll know about it.

But I... Well, you're anxious. You're waiting for it to happen now. Like, you don't know. It could be any day. So I think that's normal to get a feeling and be like, is it time? Well, it's kind of like waiting for Christmas. Like, it's kind of like waiting for Christmas, except imagine if Christmas kept moving.

Like the goalposts, they were like, Christmas is coming, but we can't tell you when. It's like me waiting for a boyfriend. It's exactly like that. okay and my sweet for the week is my sweet for the week is that we at work so at Tony May we did a massive campaign for our new collection which is coming out and I finally got all the images for that back which I'm so excited about like we haven't done same I'm so I'm so proud it's always like really nerve-wracking putting together a new collection putting together the designs and then putting together the whole photo shoot and everything else and when kind of sit back and

all that's been done and you can actually look at a collection as a whole and see it all come together I'm always really really critical of myself and I think that's like very much a creative thing where you're like oh it's not it's not very good I don't know if anyone's gonna buy this and when I saw the images today I was like oh I'm so happy it was so amazing it's actually it's actually insane I'm not just saying this it's definitely your best collection yet it was beautiful I put my order in don't forget it it doesn't come out until March so they look it's not for ages but mine comes out earlier yeah yeah yeah I'll hook you up but just being able to see it all come together and like i feel really proud that we kind of got to the finish line before the

baby's due so that's that's a big thing yeah you're really pushing the boundaries there just a couple days before birth thrive in chaos guys but yeah so that is it from us guys and you know that the next time we see you i promise there'll be no more pregnancy chat there will only be birthing stories and then it'll all be over you'll never have to hear from it again guys i hope you got something from today you know the drill please keep your accidentally unfiltered coming in even though we're having a few weeks off we are collecting them so just make sure you write into life uncut podcast on instagram caption your dm accidentally unfiltered do the same thing with your ask uncut we might be throwing some sneaky little extra additions in while we're off we're

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