Life Uncut - That's a wrap! See ya later 2020 you steaming pile of.....

Episode Date: December 21, 2020

Guyssss it’s our last episode of the year!!And what a crazy year it has been!Ok so what’s on the menu today. We certainly cover some ground!We take a look back on the year that was, reflect on our last years resolutions - did we achieve them? How do we feel about them?Of course we have accidentally unfiltered for you, but first we dissect a fb discussion question on whether it’s ok to ignore men who approach you to chat, or is that just plain rude. Do we owe them anything? Should we be polite if we feel uncomfortable? Do you owe it to a man to be nice?Britt has a very out of character run in with a man on her first and last night out for the year because #2020 is finishing the year a sly dog. We recognise that being alone at this time of year can be hard, but we want you to know you are never completely alone. There is always someone to talk to and someone that cares.. even if you jump on our fb group to join the chats with some likeminded and beautiful humans!We thought what better way to wrap up the last episode than with an Ask uncut regarding a girl who embarrasses herself at her work Christmas party. Fitting.We can’t THANKK YOU enough for all of you love and support this year. We ADORE each and every one of you. We read all your emails and messages and we areSo grateful for the amazing community that has been created. We couldn’t and wouldn’t be able to do this without you. You’ve all supported and helped us so much and we can only hope you have felt supported and loved too. If it weren’t for you guys we never would have won the Listeners Choice at the Australian podcast awards, an award we are so chuffed with. We can’t wait for a bigger and better 2021. Until then, join the fun and join some healthy and usually hilarious conversation on the fb discussion group - Life Uncut Podcast. Have a safe and healthy Christmas and New Years and let’s roll in to the new year with good energy, great intentions and filled with love and optimism.Please, if you’ve gotten this far and you haven’t hit 5 stars or left a review yet, well you sly dog what are you waiting for.Please, share the love, because, well, we love love xSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey guys and welcome back to actually a very very very special episode of Life Uncut. I'm Brittany and I'm Laura and it is special because it is our last episode of the year guys our last episode of 2020. Merry Christmas, Happy New Year's, Sydney what the fuck is going on I'm sorry what is happening right now the world is on fire and everything's going to shit in the handbasket once again it just sucks like we just as Australia as a whole we almost got to the point where we were leading the world in beating coronavirus and then I feel like it has imploded in the last week everyone's Christmas plans have gone out the window everyone's in panic mode there's no toilet paper again I don't know why people keep buying so much toilet paper

COVID doesn't make you shit yourself we're in Sydney we're in that we're in the hot spot guys we're in the red zone I mean we discussed this earlier in the year about the whole toilet paper thing you're at home you don't need toilet paper you can get in the shower it's fine there's lots of other options when you need to wipe your backside if you don't have any 100% if you've a backyard you've got a hose you're good I actually don't understand why like it is perplexing the panic that happens with the toilet paper I'm more upset about the panic that's happening around the groceries because even though I'm going to be spending Christmas this year now just Matt me and Marley a tiny little Christmas which is what we do every single night of the week

it's gonna be great I'm just more upset that like all the Christmas foods now have been totally bought out from the shops. But anyway, look guys, if you have been affected by what's happening in Sydney and by the most recent hotspot Corona cases, then we just want to say that we are absolutely thinking of you. I guess the only saving grace is guys that we're all in it together. So many of our plans got canceled. Laura, I know you've had like two plans canceled. You're going to go up to the Gold Coast and then you're going to go see your parents. And there's a lot that's happened your end. I was going to be going up to the Gold Coast and I was going to Perth. That's all cancelled I really feel for everyone that last minute has had that cut and taken away from

them and now you're facing the prospect of maybe being alone or maybe not being with all of your family so we do want to just say you know like our thoughts are with you and there's a lot of people in the same boat so try to take something from that too that you're not alone and there are a lot of people there that you can reach out to as well I was just gonna say it's the most like ironic end to 2020 like of course 2020 was like huh but wait I got something up my sleeve yeah fully i'm gonna start your year on fire and i'm gonna end it with you alone for christmas bitch i'm like come on like what else could happen actually i was reading this very satirical slightly depressing post that was put up by bored panda i'm just gonna like paraphrase a few of

2020's highlights and this episode guys like just so you know what we're doing what we're talking about who we are we are my name's laura this is britney we are rehashing 2020 a little bit well not really rehashing it's a wrap up yeah and we also wanted to talk about like our resolutions what we did for our first episode back this year and how we spoke about our resolutions and what we really wanted for the year. Did we achieve our resolutions from last year? We're going to discuss that.

And then also we thought we would give you your accidentally unfiltered because we know that you love that. We would never do a final episode without a few absolute pearlers for you. And then we're going to do an Ask Uncut sections. We really wanted to make this final episode a little bit from all of our favorite episodes for you

and just a nice kind of roundup on the year. So tell me about this article. Okay, so the article... You got so sidetracked. The article really highlighted what 2020 has been. But Australia basically burnt to the ground. Then Trump starched some Iranian general with a drone, which almost led to World War III.

Then someone ate a fucking bat. Then the economy almost collapsed. Prince Harry and Meghan renounced their royalty. Well, this is a lot for 2020. This is just January. Of course it is. And then, as we all know, we had the massive Black Lives Matters movement, which the the riots and the protests in and of themselves were so powerful but the the starting

point of that and what was posted on social media and george floyd what happened to him like there's just been so many huge pivotal things that have happened in 2020 none of them have been particularly positive still trying to find the highlight we've got a couple sucks here guys not so many sweets i know that a lot of us are living in this fantasy world that's like 2021 2021 the 1st of January is going to hit and we're all going to be just thrown into this new world I think this is probably going to continue into the new year a little bit let's all brace ourselves but I am very much looking forward to putting this year behind me as I'm sure a lot of you are as well and that's going to bring us to talking about our resolutions for 2021 and how

they're going to differ because I think there's a lot of things I think a lot of people's resolutions a lot of the things we wanted to achieve from last year we're not going to do that anymore everything's going to change because a lot of them would have been about traveling or going overseas or starting new businesses and I think a lot of things we have to step back and reassess because of what a shit fight 2020 has been in but I also think that's a really interesting chat so we're going to get into that later but first I want to tell you something please I really love and we've been doing this for so long now but I really love that like you don't tell me things throughout the week because you specifically want to save it to tell me live whilst recording

just to get the most raw and unfiltered reactions i went out on the weekend and you want to put me into premature labor i do i went out on the weekend and i'm so glad i did because it turns out it was like the first time of 2020 that i went out dancing and without me knowing it became the last time that i'll be going out dancing anyway i had the best time i just went out with a few girlfriends we went to dinner then we went out to this club and i had the best time but i got into a fight i got into a fight with a guy and you guys know i'm a lover i am a lover not a hater it takes a lot to push my buttons I'm gonna wind back to the beginning I went to a restaurant an Italian restaurant uh just three three of us total we sat down and

they sat us next to a table of about 10 guys the guys were pretty cute and I'm like bingo like yes so the guy that I was seated next to because I was on the edge of my table and he was the edge on his table he was really cute and you were like um can we please skip straight to dessert Well, we're only about half a metre away from each other. And as soon as we sit down, you can feel them looking at us. You can feel them getting excited. I'm talking at 7 o'clock. It's not late.

They're not drunk. What do you mean you can feel them getting excited? Just like a lot of boners happening under the table? Yeah. The energy really shifted. It lifted by about six inches. They straightaway, like, said hello to us. And we're like, hey.

And they're like, how are you? We're like, great. And they're like, wow, yeah, you must have asked to be seated next to the greatest people here. You know, they just started just, like, having fun and flirting. and I was like cute my friends were like that one next to you is really cute and I was like I know then after about five minutes I glanced down under the table he had no ring on he was clearly flirting with me and I was like oh my gosh like this could be something really cute and organic I still thought you were gonna say I glanced under the table and he had a boner yeah and I knew that

I hadn't received the chance the combination of no ring and a boner and I knew I was in so anyway he had no ring they started to flirt with us and he his opening kind of like line to me was I had this white shirt on and it had really big flared like long sleeves and we're each Italian so he looks at me and he's like do you want me to roll your sleeves up for you and I was like yeah that'd be great because I can't eat my food so I held my hand down he rolled my sleeves up we had a moment it was really cute he was like you know taking his time and he's like how am I doing like do you think I'm a keeper kind of thing so flirty the girls were like I think this is gonna be a thing I was getting really like great kept flirting they bought

of shots and it was the most organic thing that has happened to me all of 2020 are we talking about the guy are we talking about the food the guy the chat it was so easy he was so hot he was my type so he was wearing a turtleneck and he doesn't know how hot he is he had no idea how actually that's um my that's like my most quoted line of 2020 when we had to look back he doesn't even know how it is anyway so they have to leave before us because obviously they're you know how you get these two-hour bookings so my guy who had been flirting for ages passed me over a piece of paper with his number on it and a smiley face and it was really cute now they weren't going yet they were still packing up he put his number over and he's like call us later like maybe meet

up with us we've got a table great and I was like cute and then my girlfriend Kim she took the number she's like I'm just gonna call it to see if he answers now does and I was like why would he be giving us a bum steer she's like I don't know she's like something just seems not right and I'm like a table of guys floating with girls and they give us their number what's not right and she's like so she dialed his number while I was still sitting there that he had just given us and his phone didn't light up and I was like what yeah I was like that's weird anyway she was like well they're leading us a bum steer and they get up to go and I and I just called him out and I was like oi he's like what I'm like why did you give me a fake number and he's like what and I was like

I just called this number and you didn't answer so like don't like I know that you just gave me a fake number and I couldn't understand and he's like oh I didn't my phone's about to die this is Brad's number another guy and I was like oh totally fair makes sense he's like yeah so just call us I just didn't want you to call me later and my phone was dead I was like see Kim I was like you're overreacting everything's fine we go to another bar and we start to get hit on by this group of 20 year old boys it was the worst experience of my life so we left it was like it was like you know what they said to us I'm not kidding this was their conversation starter so what do you think about pineapple and pizza and i was like i'm out i was like this is i cannot

have this conversation you need to elevate the chat i'm sorry anyone that's online dating you know that that is like the most hated question that anyone starts if you're a girl and you're opening with that line i'm gonna give you some advice stop that it's always like someone walking up to you in a bar and being like hey two truths one lie and you're like we're in real life pal you don't do that in real life in rl anyway so we get it we weren't even going to meet the guys because they were going into the city then Kim who pranked the guy gets a message from them because they're obviously still chasing us out this is a few hours later and they're like hey we've got another table back where you guys are in the east come every it'll be the greatest night everything's

free because like they've already paid for the the table great we're like you know what they've come all the way back they're pushing for us to come they're obviously keen let's go and meet them and you're like this is my soulmate so obviously I need to go I was like this is my soulmate we along so well it was natural and I was like I've got to give it a go and guys as an update he didn't have a turtleneck on so it's like one red flag down so we go into this club and it's just so much fun we're all dancing my guy is really really flirty I'm like a teenager I'm like I got like the butterflies and I was like this is how it's supposed to be like I have missed this for all of 2020 he starts like dancing with me for a while then he starts kissing me we're making out in the

dance floor we're having the best time I felt like I was like young and I spent 2020 in scrubs with COVID patients like I just felt like this is how my life should be out meeting people naturally having fun he's like you are so beautiful he's like I just when you walked in and you were sat next to me I was just like this was meant to be like you were meant to sit next to me he's like you didn't hesitate when I started to talk to you you had the banter back you're funny he's like I haven't stopped thinking about you all night I was like oh my god like I've got a boyfriend i was like this is so great i'm already trying to pick the red i'm like what has this guy done why do i hate him why are we gonna find him and egg his house well i was thinking this is it the

girls were like this is crazy but like my friends were like this is crazy and my other friend one of the other girls i was with was like interested in one of the other guys and she had been interested since she saw him they had been talking all night they'd started making out on their own little like it was just I'm getting the feeling that everyone was thinking this is crazy it was so great so she was making out with this guy that she was really keen on because she's been single a long time as well anyway we're sitting down and then I look down at my watch to look at the time and I realize my watch has stopped so I say to him do you know what time it is my watch has stopped without thinking because he's been drinking he pulls out his phone to check time and on his phone I see a

photo of him and a woman with his arm around her very romantic photo in the sunset and I just looked at it and he clocked that I had seen that threw his phone back in gave me the drink he was like do you want to go dance again and I was like what was that on your phone are you fucking kidding me oh wait I was like what was that he's like well I was like I just saw a woman on your phone I was like do you have a girlfriend and he's like what that's my sister I'm like that is not your fucking sister nobody has a photo of them and their sister okay maybe maybe they do it there's gonna be someone's gonna write to me and be like don't dm me but very few guys have a coupley photo of them and their sister on their screensaver i was like that is not your sister tell me tell me the truth

and he looked at me and i was like tell me the is that your girlfriend do you have a girlfriend and i had switched from like this cute funsies girl everything's crazy yeah it's so crazy i love you yeah i started to get really mad but i was like play it cool you don't actually know yet it could be anyone and he looked at me and I was like just tell me I was like you have no idea what I've been through and I went like psycho woman and he looked at me and he's like yes I have a girlfriend but it's complicated he goes it's complicated and I I don't know what happened I just sat there and I screamed at the top of my lungs I can't even explain it I don't it was like this animalistic thing I just started screaming in the club and it was out of like I wasn't screaming at him it was

you know that frustration where you just need to yell because you're so mad I started yelling and then I looked at him and I'm not going to say what I said to him because it was full of swear words but I said what okay what the bleep I was like bleeping bleep and he goes it's a piece of bleep no he goes it's complicated I'm like tell me how it's complicated you got a girlfriend there's not really complication there he's like no it is I want to leave her I don't want to be with her it's like I'm on the verge of leaving but I just can't and I'm like well you you can like if you're out hooking up with other people you don't want to be with this girl obviously how long have you been together like is this a fresh thing that you don't know how to leave and he just looks sheepish

I was like tell me how long it's like 14 years I was like okay 14 years she's not your girlfriend is she she's your wife you're not with someone for 14 years and you haven't married them and he's like yeah she's my wife so I went even more bonkers and I don't want to even tell you what I was saying then I look over to my friend who's making out with his friend I was like has he got a girlfriend too and he was like no no no he doesn't I was like funny that because he just told me that he does he's already admitted it to her and he goes he did and I was like yes he did And he's like, fuck. And I was like, see, he didn't, but I got it out of you.

Anyway, they all had girlfriends. They all had long-term partners and were backing each other up. So I went to this other guy, the friend, and I was like, how long has he had a girlfriend for? And he's like, oh, he doesn't. He's so single. And I'm like, dude, he's already told me, so you may as well just out it. So my point was I was trying to test all the friends there

because there were 10 of them. They all had each other's back and were encouraging cheating. Then he said something so, so disgusting to me. do you want to know it yeah i'm like literally sitting here guys with my mouth wide i i was like i'm just so i was like why do you all have to be such assholes i said you seemed so nice and how can i keep getting this wrong he's like no like i want to like see you kind of thing and i was like you're married i was no way i would i was like if you knew anything about me there's no way i would ever touch you then he said something to me that is the like imagine me yelling at him saying you've

been married for 14 years you're disgusting pig this is what he said to me as a finisher and this is when I was like I'm done he said I feel disgusting I'm saying it he said can I just can I just put a finger in and taste you I can't believe they said that and I'm saying all we had done was kiss once on a dance floor in a club and he's just told me he's married and I looked at him I was like is that a sick joke wow so what we've realized in 2020 guys is that men suck and I'm glad that we came to that conclusion all together what I wanted to ask you is if your friends were out and cheating what's your position on that like would you be like you know what that's that's on you to do

I'm just gonna let you go and do your thing or would you protect them and go along with it because they're making the decision or would you call them out on it like what do you think because I was just I was mortified that they were cheating but what more mortified me was how they were all in on it together like it was all all right he'd taken his ring off put it on his other hand he had told me his phone was dead and that's why he couldn't give me his number his phone was full they'd all organized that to say that they're all single it's just the enabling behavior I mean I would never be in this situation because like I'm really good friends with my friends partners my friends husbands and I mean obviously he's his friends are probably friends with them too but

I prioritize our friendship as couples as much as I prioritize our friendship individually so I can't ever imagine like my best friends who are married if we were to go out there even contemplating cheating around me because it would put the whole friendship in jeopardy and and like there's never been any enabling behavior I'm I don't want to be a participant in it I don't want to know about it I don't want to see it like I assume that my friends are in happy relationships and if they weren't then I would encourage them to leave or to get counseling if you saw that your friend one of them was cheating would you tell their partner or contact their partner I would approach them first but it would be a really really serious conversation it

wouldn't be like there's nothing about me that's going to enable my friends or be okay with my friends cheating on their partners this goes against everything that we've talked about for an entire year it really took me from like this all high and I was like back into dating and I was like excited to get back out there and meet someone because I've had like a real hiatus and then I just like cut me off at the knees again I just thought why is every guy out there right now a douchebag okay not every guy out there is a douchebag but the problem is is like and this is something they think you need to keep in perspective when you do online dating as well not just you but like anyone online dating is like you don't know someone's story so if someone

ghosts you after two dates if someone just doesn't write back if you have an amazing date and then all of a sudden they're gone you literally have no idea what's actually happening in their lives and who they are as a person and people can spin a whole lot of shit and you know even in this situation not only did they spin shit but all their friends did as well like you really I'm not saying that you can't trust anyone obviously you can trust people but what I'm saying is that if something doesn't work out or you meet someone and then they fall off the face of the earth you really need to know that that's not a reflection of you as a person it's a reflection of them and whatever junk they have going on in their life you would have walked away from that

experience had had had it not come out that way you would have walked away from that night thinking this guy was amazing thinking that you'd met someone who was really special and then if you hadn't heard back from him you would have been really upset and thought well what did I do wrong why didn't he text me well that's what would have been your answer I would have ended up giving him my number because I would have been like yes call me because that's the only way you can finish a night when you've been out like hooking up with someone wanting to get to know them you'd be like yeah take my number and call me and then I just would have he would have ghosted me obviously because he's going home to his wife of a hundred thousand years and you would have been upset and

thought what's wrong with me there's something wrong with me and this is like at least this is like validation once again that there is nothing wrong with you like that is entirely him and the way he behaves and that's on him as well absolutely anyway that was the my wrap-up dating story of 2020 I'm sorry I didn't come to you with more success but I was just so mad I can tell and I'm a little bit scared in my pants from you right now I'm gonna just say that let's talk about something more positive okay well this isn't necessarily more positive at all but I mean like that's really just the true spirit of 2020, right? Let's just be miserable together. I feel like that makes sense. Let's talk about some accidentally unfiltered. No, no, no, no, no. Before we get

into accidentally unfiltered, I did read something on the Facebook group, which I wanted to bring up with you. So I read on the Facebook group. I'm not going to read out the post exactly, but I thought it was a really interesting conversation. A couple of you guys messaged it to us privately as well and was like, you should have this chat on the podcast. So here I am bringing the chat guys bring it basically what happened is one of our listeners had shared a story about how she was I don't know whether she was at a nightclub I don't know where she was but she was out and she was approached by these couple of guys two guys who were like hey what's up like wanted to have a chat with her and she ignored them and then they were clearly offended by it

but they went on with their day and the question that came up on the Facebook group was is it okay to ignore a guy if a guy is trying to make conversation with you because we often say on the podcast that we should be more open to people approaching in the wild and people starting conversation but this girl said she completely ignored them she didn't really want to engage she obviously wasn't interested in them didn't want to give them an opener and then she was like asking for people's opinions on that on the facebook group and it was a very mixed bag 50 50 people were like no you don't need to say hello or owe someone anything and the other 50 percent of people were like well it doesn't hurt to be nice you know you can always be polite

and I know for a fact that you and I have very different opinions on this so what do you guys think our opinions are because I we we do have very very conflicting opinions mine what's your you say yours first okay so I think as a female if I'm approached in the street and look I definitely think it is a situational thing I also think it is from case by case so it depends on the person it depends on the energy that you're feeling from them as well it depends on whether you feel threatened or whether you literally just could not be bothered because you have x amount of other things going on in your life at that time but I genuinely don't think you owe a complete stranger anything and that if somebody was to say like hey girl as you're walking down the street or to cat

call you or to whatever you don't actually owe them anything no politeness it doesn't make you bad person if you choose not to reply to them you just don't have to see I I disagree to an extent and I'm going to explain that before you guys at me of course she doesn't owe them anything no one owes anyone anything especially if you don't know them would I respond yes do I think it's polite to respond yes it'll be different if they yelled out something explicit if they are literally if you guys are out and some guys have been like or a guy has been like hey girl whatever yelling out at you that is a form of opening a conversation if you if it's not sexual and it's not making you feel uncomfortable if it's literally them just saying something to start a conversation even if

you're not interested I would have just said hey and kept walking because I think it's just a normal human pleasantry when someone has opened a form of communication not to ignore them that's how I've been brought up if he had said something to me that had made me feel really uncomfortable or dirty or sleazy or I felt like I was unsafe I would just walk past and ignore them 100% but I think there's a really fine line with us as women saying that we want men talk to us why don't they why don't they approach us out when we're out and then when they do even if it is like this okay so maybe he'd been drinking and he was probably a bit louder and he was probably a bit more like hey girl like how's your night kind of fun even if you don't want to engage like that's literally

what we are asking for we are asking for people to be more open and talk to us so I think it's pleasant and it's polite as a human to say hey hope you're having a really good night and keep walking. Inadvertently that is saying I'm not interested but you're still being a good enough human to acknowledge that they've gone out and said hello to you and say no back. I think there's a lot of ways to respond to it and show them that you're not interested. I mean like look there's parts of that I agree with and there's parts of that that I really strongly disagree with but I mean that's the whole beauty of of this conversation because like literally on the Facebook it was split 50 50 I think that sometimes by saying hello back to someone and giving them any in

it then can give off this impression that you're interested and I know that there's been loads of times where I've been out with my girlfriends I've probably been hit on that day or I've had a situation where I didn't want to engage and then I've had someone come up and try and like make a conversation and like I know that they're making conversation because they're interested in me but I'm not interested I don't want to have a conversation with them so me saying like hey I'm not interested like that could be seen as a shutdown and that could be seen as being impolite but like I don't want to put my energy into someone to open up a conversation with someone when I know it's absolutely not going to go anywhere and I want to funnel my energy into

the people who I've chosen to spend my night with I also think that there's so many situations where women do feel threatened by men calling out by men approaching by like groups of men trying to like you know talk to one one girl or calling out from across the street and it's like who are we to say that hey girl or whatever the cat call is or whatever the conversation starter is isn't something that they found threatened threatening like maybe that person felt threatened purely by having a male approach them in an environment that they didn't feel comfortable in for sure and if someone cat called me or yelled out sleazy to me I would walk away and I would ignore them but that's not what this is I think what it comes down to is of course if it's sleazy and you feel

uncomfortable of course ignore them if don't engage with them walk away because you absolutely don't owe them. I just want to make it really clear that if you guys are out and you're in a club, you're in a bar, people are drinking and a guy comes up and says hey to you and starts a conversation, even if you're not interested, I think it's really important to say hey back and then say have a good night and walk away. I just think it's normal human nature. It's a pleasantry and I think it's really rude not to. You don't have to put energy into it. To say hey and walk away is not putting energy into it. Also, it might open a conversation where you guys could become friends. You might meet someone through his friends group. Like that's, that's

the whole reason people go out. So I think it's a really fine line between women wanting people to approach them. And then when they do, they're like, they get offended by it or they get put off by it. I think the other part of that is like, you're assuming that women want men to approach them. There is a subset of women who want men to approach them. Some single women want men to approach them. I don't want men to approach me at all. I'm not interested in it. I don't want to make small talk I'm not available so like for me you know I can kind of understand and like I'm not saying that I'm rude to people when they come up to me at all I'm absolutely not and I don't just shut down conversation I'm definitely nowhere near as brutal as what I'm sounding in this

conversation but what I guess my point is on this is that you don't owe someone anything and it doesn't make you a bad person if you choose not to engage with somebody who's come up out of nowhere and has demanded your attention because you are living your life. It's very separate to theirs. Yes, there may be a small amount of rudeness that's attached to it, but is that really the worst thing in the world? I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing. I think that it's like you have agency and you have choice and you can either choose to say hello. But if you choose to totally shut that conversation down as a woman who's probably experienced catcalling and has been approached by numerous men that you don't want to be approached by, there does come a bit

a burnout to it sometimes and you don't have to constantly be nice and be this pleasant lovely perfectly polite female that we've been put into a box to be like I think it's very rare that men experience catcalling to the same degree that women experience it and so there is this massive burnout that happens which I think that women are allowed to have a bit of leeway with if you don't want to have to say hello back to a guy who comes up to you in a bar man that's your choice absolutely like you can do whatever the hell you want but that's that weird this is just an open discussion on how we react and we're both very different yes you like and look at that's fine and that was definitely a very heated conversation that happened in the Facebook group which is great because you

want people to start talking about this and you want to open up lines of communication and see what other people think absolutely and I don't think that there is something that we have to all agree on like I think we can all sit in different camps with this but um I did read a really great article in regards to this I just want to like read out one part of it which I thought I was like yes I agree with this and I really really like appreciate the way that she'd put it into words. Okay give it to us. This article is entitled dear men this is how you should be approaching a woman on the street. I'm not sure where men learned that hey girl or can I get your number or yeah you look good a great openness to a conversation. Let me tell you something they're

not. These oh so common openers aren't really openers at all. They're boring they're overused lines that men usually and hopefully don't expect a genuine response from. It's like dudes who send messages on dating sites that are saying things like hey sup or you're cute if you want me to believe that you were interested in me because i have something specifically worth your while don't throw generic shit my way i don't have time for it all it shows me is that you think of women as a monolith like swiping right on all of us in the hopes of getting at least one response and treating us like we're faceless holes that you may or may not get the chance to fuck it isn't a good way to express your interest in me. They have this like boys will be boys mentality. And

they think that when they all get together, that that's cool to call out to a woman and make her feel uncomfortable on the street. But, but that's the issue, right? The issue is that that behavior happens so frequently that then when it doesn't, when, when a guy has genuine intent and isn't trying to be an asshole, that's what I mean by this idea of burnout, that when it's happened so many times and that men who do behave like that, who have no, no care for the fact that their behavior makes a female feel uncomfortable then why is it that we need to always make them feel comfortable and then feel appreciated and therefore have to be like oh hi yeah I hope you're having a good night too no no sorry I don't want to drink I'm just here with my girlfriends

like I just don't think that we always need to be as polite as what we're expected to be and that was kind of like my stance on this but I appreciate that our views are different I just thought that that was a really our views are very much the same on being in an uncomfortable situation like without doubt our views only differ when we're talking like when we're inside a club you're like sometimes you can't be bothered and you don't owe them and you just don't want to even give them anything that's the only place that our views differ on the street don't you dare yell out to me also i haven't been in a club for so long i have no fucking idea how it works anymore guys anyways all right let's get into some accidentally unfiltered you guys know that we love this part

of the episode and this is the last lot of accidentally unfiltered for 2021 isn't that crazy i just feel like this year has been the longest and also the shortest year of my entire life i am going to kick start accidentally unfiltered with a christmas themed one seen as though it is christmas how very obviously very on theme perfect pretty i feel like i just really need to explain that one i have been with my partner for nearly five years and we have done the last two years long distance it really sucked we had really raunchy phone calls to get us through the tough times last christmas eve i had had a fair few drinks i was feeling really frisky and just really feeling myself so i thought it would be an amazing idea to give my partner a cheeky

phone call the call went to voicemail but i proceeded to leave a very drunken and very sexy voice message detailing all the things i would do to him if he were here with me and everything i would want him to do to me i even went as far as to referring to myself as mrs claus to my absolute horror when i went to hang up the phone i realized that i had just left this voice message for his dad no her father-in-law she just spoke about hi daddy yep I'm talking like where she wants him to blow his load how she wants him to do it holy wow but the weird thing is what can you do they never spoke about it again I feel like you can't do that I feel like you need to address the situation right absolutely never do you reckon you just no I think they're like no never address it I think

that like if if the dad doesn't bring it up in conversation you're not going to be like hey I'm really sorry about how I told you I wanted you to come on my how I wanted to sit on your face you that was actually to your son um anyway the other thing is she wouldn't have said his name she wouldn't have been like hey John she would just be like hey baby so he probably this dad probably thinks he's getting lucky from someone looks down he's like what like my daughter-in-law it's like your worst nightmare well I mean maybe all his dreams or his fantasy okay do you have one wait I have a great one okay it's very short it's very sweet not for the person who experienced it though I work in a hospital which was especially it's this is also a Christmas

one I didn't even realize but it is guys this is not me I can tell you now which is especially busy at the moment because it's Christmas. This happened to me just the other day. I had an intense wedgie for about 10 minutes. And when I finally had a second to myself, I ducked into the corner and forcefully pulled my wedgie out of my butt crack. How aggressive was the wedgie? What were you wearing? We've all been there when you're like, you know, it's just been going on for so long and you're around people all the time. You just haven't had a chance to dig your hand in painful and just really get some good relief i forcefully pulled the wedgie out unbeknownst to me i had also gripped my tampon string with underwear and i pulled my tampon out with my

wedgie in the middle of my fucking shift into my scrubs now let me tell you let me tell you these scrubs are not tight these are big baggy loose pants like that tampon is coming straight down your leg onto the floor wait it gets better and then i realized there was also two doctors in the room imagine did you come out yes no like where was on the floor well it would have been in her scrubs imagine trying to shuffle out whilst holding your tampon like against your mid thigh you can't that's straight down they're big baggy pants i have a really mortifying story that's very very similar to this it happens to me personally yeah this is me personally can't wait for this one to end up in daily mail how have we not heard about how this still blows my mind when we get to

this point where we're still telling each other stories we're like how has this not come up we're gonna be like 80 years old I'll be like remember that time where I fucked my cousin I mean guys I definitely didn't please don't read an article about that like we should maybe even take that out I'm gonna go as far as say we need to take that out leave it whatever let's go rogue it's Christmas time in the spirit okay so I was like 18 and my boyfriend at the time he was great it was my first boyfriend he's a lovely guy married now two kids wow what a day congrats anyway so we were at the beach and we were there with all of our friends and I was wearing I was wearing like a white and black patterned bikini right like more black a little

bit of white pattern on it I remember this so vividly and this is like god like going back 16 years ago now that's how old I am I feel like we should never put this into numbers because it makes us 16 like this is all I was almost half the age that this was ago okay okay we're now whether we've established it it's long pent up long-standing trauma so I got out of the water and I was telling myself off and I thought I was hot shit at the time as well like I was 18 year old Laura telling myself off and my boyfriend was sitting on the towel another towel and then we had all our friends around who were also sitting on the towel and he looks up to me and we're having a chat and halfway through the conversation he goes oh babe you've got a string thinking I had

a string on my bikini like a thread like a loose thread like a thread and he went to pull it didn't he he pulled it he didn't go to pull it oh my god no i was 18 years old and i had my tampon pulled out in front of my group of friends by my boyfriend of three months in the daylight at the beach did it come all the way out it came all the way up i got trapped in my swimmers thank god they was so tight but he realized what he'd done and I realized what he'd done obviously and I think a couple of the friends realized what he'd done and everyone was just like silent and then everyone started laughing and then I was I was 18 I cried I went sat in the bathroom and cried and broke up with him at home no no we dated for two years I reckon to a guy he wouldn't even think he would

just think that he's pulling literally like a loose thread from your clothing which you would want him to do if it was on your back or on your sleeve but not coming out of your vagina so men if you see a string ever coming out of a woman's pants abort mission immediately are you still traumatized i'm literally still traumatized i can't believe i've not i feel like i must have told that story on the podcast before and it's just gotten like lost in the depths of the last year and a half maybe but if i haven't then there you go guys that is a true true story that happened me and I hope that that inspires you guys to keep on sending in your accidentally unfiltered stories for 2021 because you're not alone that's the whole reason why we do this section of the podcast how

many people do you think have actually had the tampon pulled out by a significant other like accidentally do you think that that is a high statistic I'm gonna say that's not high but you know how many people we've had write in who have had to get a relative or a boyfriend or a husband or a partner or whoever or a friend to get in there and dig out a lost tampon that is like a very reoccurring constant conversation that we receive in accidentally unfiltered we should get into the whole point of this episode which was to talk about we're really going to do it briefly we're going to talk about new year's resolutions which we actually discussed more in depth and we don't really believe in them we talked about it on last year's episode on 2020

big 2020 energy episode if you want to go back and listen to that actually don't go back and listen to that because i went back and listened to that and it wasn't a very good episode laura didn't like it she's like she goes i went back and listened to episode babe what were we thinking we just weren't as funny we just weren't as we didn't know each other as well and i guess over the years like our relationship has grown like we know each other better we find each other funnier well what i think it is too is i think like when i when we reflect back on the podcast and when we started and i think what it is is if you guys are og listeners i'm sure you'll agree that our dynamic has changed drastically we're so much more open we have so much more banter we're so

much more open about what we speak about I put that down to the fact that when we started the podcast I don't know if a lot of people realize but we didn't know each other that well we'd only had like a few catch-ups we were just in the very early days of like becoming sporadic friends like I'm talking we'd go for a walk and get breakfast like three times then we just decided to have this grand idea to start the podcast so we were starting it where we wanted to deliver the goods we wanted to make it funny but we just didn't have the connection yet like we didn't have the stories to tell we didn't have the banter because we didn't know each other well enough so when we listen back now we're like what were we doing it was so like formal and so like how do you feel

today kind of thing and I look at us now about nothing's off limits everything's unfiltered and I love that because that I believe is why you guys like to listen because you find it relatable and you know that like we're all on the same page for anyone who has been listening since the very beginning like you guys the real MVPs because you've come along this journey with us and you've come along our friendship with us as well and like how much things have changed and how our dynamics change and also just how the podcast in general has and like we love making this every week we love being able to do our Ask Uncut sections where we answer your questions and there's been so much about this podcast which has evolved over the last year and a half and yeah listening back to that

first episode I just found it so funny like how polite Britt and I were to each other and the absolute niceties but it came from us not only just not knowing each other that well but also like living in a bit of fear about sharing so much of our lives and you know I was really sensitive about saying the wrong thing because I didn't want it to end up in Daily Mail and now I don't care I think it's really funny when stuff ends up in Daily Mail if anything we now egg them on so like you know we have grown in confidence across this podcast as a result of you guys and you guys like being so supportive and being so engaged and you know you made us feel like what we're putting out in the world is valid and that you know you're getting something out of it and that's the only

reason why we keep coming back and doing it so that's a big thank you to you guys and especially to those of you who have been with us since the beginning or to those of you who've gone back and listened to the beginning which is another bloody big effort what do you feel like your favorite episode has been like just looking back do you have one that you just love to do or you I think like my favorite episode which is definitely not because of the lols or anything but I think one of my favorite episodes is the narcissist episode that we did dating a narcissist um also the breakup episode that we did I think that both of those I know how much they've related to people because I know constantly how many messages and emails we get in regards to those

two episodes the other really big one for me was the episode that we did on miscarriage and I think that that I'm really proud of that episode and I still have women contact me weekly saying thank you so much for putting that out there like I feel less alone now because I've been able to listen to somebody else's story and I think that there's so much power in sharing vulnerable moments and all of those episodes have shared different parts of our experiences and our vulnerable moments and so yeah they're definitely my top three. I'm also very proud of the miscarriage episode even though obviously like I was on the episode but it had nothing to do with me but I'm proud of the fact that we're just able to produce something that we we put out into the

world that's going to help people I'm proud of you for being able to open up it is hard and I think but we are sharing big parts of our life in hopes that it helps at least one person and that was not easy for Laura to do for sure so I'm proud of you for that so like that's my little thing thanks I also really loved and that this sounds funny too I really loved the episode we just did with dr angela j on domestic violence and i love that for the same reason that i'm proud that women are strong enough to come forward and tell their story in hopes that they can continue to relive their trauma but helping people at the same time and there's so much power in that she went through something incredible and so many of you guys reached out about that episode that you were

just hooked and you loved it and it's made you think a lot we've had people reach out saying that it's helping them in their toxic situations and relationships so that's like one of my fave episodes as well one of actually my all-time faves was that random episode we did when we threw in a bonus episode when we went into lockdown and it was just we just went on this like we just started sailing funny accidentally unfiltered and we just couldn't stop and we just kept thinking I still listen to that and laugh it was literally just a bonus episode full of squabble but it was so bloody funny it was just us going down a rabbit hole and I guess that that was also like a massive turning point when we were getting to know each other more as well because like

we rarely now I mean apart from the tampon story but we rarely now have stories to tell each other that the other person hasn't already heard anyways getting into resolutions for 2021 we did do a whole episode on our resolutions for 2020 which is quite a while ago almost a whole year and I listened to it back today and I can very very proudly say that Brittany you did not you did not fulfill any of your new year's resolutions I fulfilled one I went in pretty hard my number one thing was and if you're following from the start you guys will remember I was like I want to eat less sugar did I eat less sugar no did I eat more sugar yes 100% I have been a sugar fiend to the point that I have made myself sick and I have started this is another thing I want to talk

about why we have to start resolutions on January 1 I have started to try and turn around this resolution now in the month of December because I wanted to enter the new year feeling good so I am proud to say I have wound my sugar back to probably a 10% consumption um nothing like a hot dash to the finish line babe well no I did walk in today and Laura's like gingerbread cookie and I was like delicious and started eating that straight away so I was like I'm not there yet I'm not fully recovered but it's a thing I also said I wanted to start surfing I surfed twice this year I'm really disappointed in that so I didn't fulfill that um I said that I wanted to get into acting more and I did film my first movie this year so I can tick that off so I'm like I'm at

like a 40% maybe success rate when I look back at what I wanted to do that's not it's not great but also like hashtag COVID yeah this year is like absolutely right off nobody was expected to hold on to their news resolutions and anybody who even executed a quarter of them well fucking done I would just like to say that I went into 2020 with my new year's resolution being that I was going to have more sex I have definitely not fulfilled that you did it once well yeah like okay so when we recorded in 2020 it was like January obviously and Marley was six months old and I was like yeah this is gonna be the year Matt and I are gonna get our mojo back it's gonna be so great literally I was pregnant again by March it was actually insane you were so fertile I'm like he only had

to look at you when you got pregnant I was pregnant and then obviously like I got pregnant straight away and then I had the miscarriage and then I got pregnant again with this baby so I have been pregnant I'm like an elephant I have been pregnant for pretty much the entire time britney's known me um the sex thing didn't really happen but it happened once wham bam thank you ma'am here is the baby always a good time to start for 2021 well you know what they say yes sex brings on labor and you are not that far away from giving birth so maybe now is your time to shine this is true finish the year strong finish it hard literally matt can finish it hard ride that into the sunset right into the sunset no look I mean I made jokes but actually considering

how pregnant I am I'm really proud that Matt and I are still having the amount of sex that we're having it's just not the amount that we were having in the beginning in the heyday that's all because I'm not as mobile right now but anyway look that was my number one and my number two was um something that I think I have really embraced this year and so I'm proud of myself for this but my big new year's resolution for last year when and I'm the person who's against new year's resolutions, but I, I wanted to be more aware of taking on people's advice and how someone else's experience can like dictate and shape my own happiness. And what I mean by that is that I went into like my birth with Marley, really frightened by everyone telling me all the

negative things about pregnancy. And I went into going traveling with Marley when she was only three months old, Matt and I went to Europe. I went into going traveling, being really worried that it was going to be super hard because everybody's so quick to tell you all the negative things and I think we see it a lot in all different aspects of life not just with children not just with parenting but people are so quick to tell you why you shouldn't do something because they've had a bad experience doing it people are so quick to tell you why something is going to be hard or you're not going to be able to achieve that and I am really conscious that I don't want to take somebody else's experience as though that's going to be my own without even giving

it a shot first because I have been so amazingly pleasantly surprised by motherhood and I love it so much more than I thought I ever would because people made me so fearful around how hard it was going to be. So I'm really conscious when I talk to people about motherhood that I'm remember to tell them all the good bits as well, because I think that that's a part of the dialogue that we sometimes forget to talk about at the moment. I think that's really great advice because it is really easy to take on other people's problems and stresses onto yourself. And you can, you can talk yourself and convince yourself that you're not going to be able to do something or that you shouldn't do something when really what is stopping you from going and being having a

completely different experience to that person I'm glad you brought that up because I think it's really great advice in every aspect of life well it also just means that you end up like you end up walking into experiences that you have never had yourself with fear and you think that everything's going to be the worst case scenario so yeah so I think that's something that like we can all implement in different ways in our life just not to live with this fear around what other people think or other people say or other people's experiences and I think for me it wasn't so much people telling me I couldn't do something but it was more people telling me how hard their experience of something was that made me really frightened about something I'd never ever done

before and so I know like going into this birth and I know going into like having a second baby it's the same thing people have been so quick to tell me how hard it's going to be having two kids and like oh the first year is going to be like really difficult it's going to be a challenge in your relationship. Like, don't worry, you'll get through it once they're two, like they're going to be such good friends, but I don't want to wish away the first year of this baby's life because it's going to be so hard having a toddler and a newborn. So I'm just kind of like easing myself into it without any expectations. And that's what I want for my 2021. I just want to be able to like, enjoy this moment as it's happening as much as I possibly can and to not

put any pressure, not to put any expectations around it and just to kind of fucking go with the flow I don't know what 2021's got in store but nobody could have predicted 2020 so let's just throw caution to the wind and just figure it out as it's happening absolutely what I wanted to touch on again was if you guys haven't listened to last year's episode the big 2020 energy I did speak really openly about something that a lot of people go through and I think we sugar-coated a lot it's not really spoken about but that is being single over the Christmas period over the holiday period the new year's period it's really really tough and I think a lot of people sometimes forget that that are in relationships and and with their families and things like that it can be really

really tough for some people when they're single they'll still have fun and they'll still have a really great time but it's a really shitty time of year and Laura and I were just chatting Laura reminded me she's like you know you were saying that next year like this is the last year you're to be single because I do it every year every year I say to myself like it's like me telling the universe I say this will be the last year Brittany that you will be alone and you have someone to love you next year and you'll have someone to love and you can do this with them and you can make memories and because the thing that I get the saddest about when I do let it get me down which is very rarely but it does happen the thing I get the saddest about is like I'm not

making memories with anyone that's what gets me and I don't know if that anyone can resonate with that but I look at like my sister and her partner and they're always like laughing and reflecting back on these times and this thing and this happened and when they did that and I don't have a memory with anyone like I'm going into my mid-30s and I don't have anyone to share that with that's what gets me really sad and we've come another year and I'm still single and I said I wouldn't go into the holidays single but I am yes that makes me sad to an extent because there is another aspect to it this year. And there's another layer. And that is that not only my single, but I'm going down the fertility journey of freezing my eggs and everything. And I'm doing

that alone as well. So I had literally the very last appointment of the year for the clinic for egg freezing just this week gone. And I just thought, what a way to like really rub it in and wrap up the year is that, you know, I went there, obviously I went there on my own because if you didn't listen to a few weeks ago, I made my best friend come and have all the tests with me um but she's moved on now thanks Renee miss you if you're listening um so yeah I went and I'm doing this fertility journey I didn't get great news about my fertility which we'll talk about in the new year it's not awesome it's not terrible I have a very I have quite low to medium egg count which we'll go into more depth later but you know it was pretty heavy to hear it's not ideal and

I just want to recognize everyone out there that's listening that if you are single and you are feeling alone that it is okay and you are allowed to sit in that emotion and you are allowed to feel really fucking shit because that's okay also just try and appreciate that you're strong enough to do it and it doesn't mean anything that you're single and you're alone it doesn't take anything away from you and then once you do sit in that feeling for a little while because Laura and I always talk about the fact that we think it's okay to have those feelings and you should never try and bury them but then remember that it is a great time to try to be with your family if you can and and try and have a really fun time and just be positive and go into the next year

with a really good energy that's that's my advice is I'm going to be sad for a little hot second and then I'm going to really try and enjoy my time with my family and I'm going to make sure I go into 2021 with a with a good vibe and a good energy so I just wanted to reiterate that and touch on that again and just make sure that even if you're feeling alone there is someone 100% out there that loves you and wants to talk to you and is there for you I love that you share that part of you with the podcast because I think that like it's one thing to constantly be like I'm this independent woman and be like fucking nailing it and seem like you're absolutely killing it as someone who's a single person which I know that you are and I know that that's how you feel

a big majority of the time but like no matter whether you have chosen to be single whether you're single because of circumstances or what is happening in your life you are always entitled to have times where you feel really down about it and nobody like you know not listening to your family be like when are you going to get a boyfriend or when are you going to get a girlfriend or you know why didn't it work out with that so and so like this can be a really difficult time because I think being around family can sometimes highlight that you're not in a relationship and having to explain to people constantly why that's the case and you know sometimes there is no explanation you just haven't met your person yet so I just also want to back you up in saying that

Brit like those feelings are completely valid and as much as the holiday period and Christmas period can be amazing for some people it can also be incredibly isolating for other people and it can really highlight the things that maybe you don't have in your life that you deep down would like to have you know or that you're looking for or maybe that's something that you want to focus on in 2021 whatever it is but yeah I think that's a really important thing to touch on as well also something you think about if you're like if your friends are single if you're in a relationship or married or family and you know you've got a friend that might be you know you're a friend that might be semi alone like just give them a shoot them a message give them a call just

important to make everyone especially with what has happened and COVID like we've got so many people that do feel alone and they have felt loneliness and it's really important to just keep them in your thoughts shoot them a message give them a call include them in an event 2020 has been shit for everyone and it has made everyone have really really high highs really low lows so I think that we finish together oh that was deep finish together I know well speaking of finishing together we thought that we would finish this episode by giving you ask uncut and we're going to wrap this episode the final episode of 2020 by answering your listener letters um we love it that you guys trust us with our thoughts our opinions our feelings our terrible very

enthusiastic highly unqualified advice not necessarily terrible i think it's well thought out from time to time but i have one question that i've picked out which is very christmas related and i thought it would be just a really nice way to like completely finish off 2020 this is one that I'm sure we can all relate to and we have all been there help I got really wasted at my office Christmas party I wasn't the only one but the craziest shit happened after most of the people had left mostly just lots of bitching and being sloppy but I'm dying with shame and honestly feel like I can never face my co-workers again help okay you got the drunk guilt you got drunk you got wasted. You're embarrassing in front of your work Christmas party. Everyone has done this

before. Everyone has done something embarrassing in front of a work colleague. I don't know if you need help in this. I think you need to play it off. I think you need to go into the office the next time and just be like, well, wasn't that a wild night, hey? Everyone knows that Christmas is festive. Everyone knows we have fun. I mean, hopefully everyone was on your level and no one remembers how drunk you are like that's also an option but I think you laugh it off I guess it depends okay like unless you pulled your boss's pants down or something well yes look unpacking it a little bit more look depending on the level of bitching I think that like that stuff can come back and bite you in the ass absolutely like if you really went down a rabbit hole with saying

some inappropriate stuff and doing some inappropriate stuff when you're drunk I mean you can just laugh it off but that doesn't mean that everybody else is gonna laugh it off so like just being serious on this for a second hopefully everyone was on the same level hopefully it is a situation where like the guilt doesn't actually match up to the actions which I think like you know a lot of us probably have experienced that at times where you wake up the next day and you feel like so ashamed by your behavior and then when you speak to your friends and your family they're often like no you weren't that bad like you're fine whereas there are definitely times where you think oh it couldn't have been that bad and actually it was way worse so I do think you've

got to go into work and you do have to unfortunately face your co-workers and be and be honest say you know especially to the people that you're having those conversations with I feel a lot of shame around the way I behaved I really hope I didn't do or say anything that offended you I've really struggled with this over the past couple of days I'm so embarrassed and you know if you if I've said anything that's offended you if I've behaved in a way that was really inappropriate I'm really sorry. And I think that that is the best way of going about it. Absolutely. You need to try and remember or speak to someone about what you said and who you said it to. So you're doing something embarrassing. I think that's funny. I think you can play that off. When you've said something that

could potentially hurt someone else's feelings, especially if you've said it to the person or to someone that's close to them, you 100% need to just own that because that will just fester and it will start to spread around the office. That's what happens in these offices. Everyone talks, everyone has their clicks so you need to do exactly what Laura said you just say hey I don't really remember but I feel like I've said something that was probably inappropriate if I did please forgive me I'm mortified own it we all know Laura and I have said a thousand times there's so much strength in an apology there's so much strength in owning up to something that you have done wrong and it's often pretty hard for someone to not forgive you for something like this when you

have come and you're showing humility and you were saying I messed up I am mortified I am sorry please forgive me it's usually very hard for them to say you know what no way it's like yeah you know what you are an idiot but let's just sweep it under the rug and move on so they're your options or move to Canada it's so easy to get yourself into these situations like you know work Christmas parties can escalate terribly my work Christmas party with Tony May last year when no one was pregnant and everyone was drinking was an absolute shambles of a night and I remember waking up the next day being like oh as a boss that's terrible behavior but you know what I'm at least like now I'm at the age and I know my limitations I know how much I can and can't drink but I also like

don't get so drunk that I'm gonna black out and not remember the things I do and say so I woke up the next day and I absolutely behaved in a wild wild way I wish I was there but I remembered everything and it wasn't this situation where I had to try and piece the night together I think you know guys if anything use this person's ask uncut lesson as a bit of a reminder that especially when it's in a work environment like maybe not the best course of action to get totally blotto at your work Christmas party however if you have done that and now you need to do a little bit of recovery mission I think honesty is always the best policy and I also think vulnerability is also the best policy so going in and being really genuine with an apology and explaining how it's

made you feel and how you feel terrible for the way you've made other people feel is a really really important way to like getting back into the good books and also just not doing it next year just have a water in between just have a water all right guys you know that we never finish an episode without our suck and our sweet our highlight and our low light of each and every week my suck this week i am going to take on a suck for other people my suck is that I just feel for everybody everyone that has just had their Christmases cancelled that haven't been able to make it over borders in time to see their family just I just want to shout out to you that there are a lot of people in your

position and everyone's thinking of you and I'm still hoping I still have to get up to Port Macquarie and I'm hoping that we don't go into lockdown hopefully we don't but that's my suck I just think it's sucky for everyone my sweet would probably be that I did have a good date this week yeah I'm not gonna tell you guys this week all I'm gonna say it's early days I'm just gonna say I went on a nice date and TBC 2021 Brittany being on a date watch this space 2021 it's gonna be my year of love I'm calling it don't put that in there and then put that as a benchmark otherwise you may jinx yourself and 2022 will be doing the same conversation over again but you know if i keep saying this is my year of love like one year it's going to come true and i'm

going to be like i knew this was the year it's a numbers game absolutely all right okay so my suck for this week well i mean my suck is the same as everyone who's in sydney um matt's family is from brisbane and that's who we were supposed to be spending christmas with they were supposed to be coming down on christmas eve they're not coming down anymore so we were going to go up to see them and then unfortunately the borders closed so now we are stuck here in sydney by ourselves so we're going to be doing Christmas very very low-key this year which you know what on one hand it's good that Marley's only one and a half and she probably won't remember this Christmas but on the other hand just feels a bit sad that we aren't able to start any of our family Christmas traditions

um yeah and that it's going to be a very different Christmas to what we thought we were going to have also on top of that my family is in Wollongong however this year my nana has been moved into a nursing home which means that we can't see her and my mum literally yesterday fell over and broke her hip so she's now in hospital so we can't go visit her either so like unfortunately we're completely by ourselves so um yeah my poor mom is now getting surgery and that's just like a whole other thing to really put a little bit of sprinkles on top of the icing on top of the shit that was 2020 just to really top off this shit sunday just to really bring it on home and then my sweet for the week my sweet for the week is that like this year is done like i actually feel really relieved

almost um you know Tony Mays being so busy we've just gotten through Christmas we've just gotten through all of the work that's happened and now I feel like it's just time to kind of like and let out a sigh of relief that everything that's been so crazy with work has kind of calmed down now and we've made it through the mania the retail mania that is Christmas when you own any sort of like retail or online store so I'm really proud that we made it through the other side and now I'll have a couple of days off and then it's going to be Boxing Day sales and then the whole things pass again and then you have a baby yeah and then I have a baby I mean I just feel like this year's been back to back um but I actually now finally at the point where like I cannot wait

to have this baby and I feel like I'm only we've got seven weeks to go but I actually feel like now I genuinely feel excited about it whereas up until now I haven't even given myself any time to think about the fact that I'm pregnant that I'm having a kid and I genuinely feel really excited now well it's just this year's been so weird I feel like at no point and maybe it's also a reflection when it's your second child but at no point have I felt like I have been excited or gotten excited about this pregnancy and maybe it's also partly to do with miscarriages and um but I I really haven't been able to kind of like you know feel that excitement that I felt the first time with Marley and I I know that it's not because I'm not wanting to have like I want to

have this baby I can't wait for this baby to be here but just the excitement around my pregnancy hasn't been the same and so it feels really nice to have a bit of a shift in that this week and like actually start really looking forward to i can't wait i'm more probably more pumped than you are yeah up until this point for sure but guys we just want to say a big congratulations to all of you for actually getting through 2020 you should all be really proud we have made it there's been some bums but we're there we're on the other side and we just want to say a huge thank you to every single one of you that are in our Life Uncut community the guys the OGs from the start all the new listeners we love you all so much we are so thankful and Laura and I honestly feel so

grateful that we are in a position where we get to do something we love with a community that we love and actually put out content that we are proud of we're so grateful to have you come along the journey with us so we just wanted to say thank you for your support thank you for your votes thank you for your love thank you for being there for Laura's and my ups and downs um you are well we all are like a big family and we just want you to know that sometimes like it's happened in the past where some of you will come up if you've seen us in the street or you'll come and introduce yourselves and I just want to say like I'm so you like for when you say that you're grateful for us and that you love the podcast like I am so grateful for you and for the fact that you guys have

completely rallied behind us like I said earlier in the episode if it wasn't for how supportive you have all been around this podcast and if it wasn't for how supportive you have all been for both brit and i together and individually in our journeys over the last year and a half we wouldn't be as open as we are and we wouldn't want to share and be as vulnerable as what we are with you so like you know that is an absolute true and tried testament to the fact that you know you guys are such a huge part of this podcast and we're so grateful for you also to everybody who's been doing the meetups and to every single person who gets involved on the life on cut facebook group you're the freaking best and we love you guys we will be having a couple of weeks off

which we're actually really excited about but we are going to be rehashing some of our favorite old episodes so if you haven't listened from the start you might not have heard them maybe you want to release it again maybe you just want to have a laugh but we will be dropping them so there will be there something for you to listen to and we will be back bigger and better and hopefully fuller than ever in 2021 but also you know the drill tell your mom tell your dad tell your dog tell your cat tell your nan just tell everyone and share the love because we love love Thank you.