Life Uncut - THE PICK UP - 4th Feb

Episode Date: February 3, 2023

Every weekday we are having a yarn on our national radio show THE PICKUP.  This week we have an intervention with Britt, Matt's beat boxing escalates and we have Bachelor winners Jed and Alysia joining us for a chat, then we speak with MAFS relationship expert John Aiken.   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Life Uncut acknowledges the traditional custodians of country whose lands were never ceded. We pay our respects to their elders past and present. Always was, always will be Aboriginal land. This episode of the podcast was recorded on Gadigal land of the Eora Nation. Hi, guys, and welcome back to our very first episode of The Pickup. This is a little summation of the week, the best bits, the highlights, and none of the lowlights. Yeah, it's definitely not the whole thing.

Do we cut the lowlights, all of them? Yeah, which is so Mitch isn't in at all. No. Come on. You're the highlight. Thank you. You all know that last year we got to do our awesome Saturday show. We used to have so much fun, and Britt, myself, Mitch,

the three of us on radio and this year we have started our very first weekly national show, The Pick Up. It is on at 3pm to 4pm every single day and this is this week's Pick Up. Yeah, there were some great nuggets of gold in there, some great interviews some great laughs and a couple of interventions even thrown in. In the first week we did

far too many interventions. Always with Britt at the bottom of them, which is awful. It was always me What was that? But I also had fun. Are you guys enjoying the first week on air? I love doing radio with you guys. Yeah, I had a lot of fun. Alright, let's get into the show. It's The Pick Up with Britt, Laura and Mitch. Now, Laura, we need to unpack something that our beloved

Brittany Hockley's up to. What's the problem? It's the fact that you recently needed to do a call-out for a dog walker. Yes. Now, the call-out wasn't just, you know, ask your friends, get a recommendation. Totally.

I need someone for one walk a day, you know. No, this turned into a full interview process. Correct. Where's the problem? I'm sorry. It was like you were looking for an au pair for children for a year. Or like you're hiring a CEO for the position.

Like, the amount. Essentially, that is exactly what it is. Britt was pacing around the studios on the phone going, and what's your job history exactly? All right, and did you study there long? And why did you leave the career at Telstra? I'm like, this poor girl. Just to set the scene, Britt literally did Zoom interviews

for the dog walker before meeting them in the flesh. But then do you want to know what I did? Yes. So I actually then, then I took it a step further. And then I met the one that I thought was going to be the one. The one that ticked all the boxes. The chosen one. we met for a compatibility test.

Wait, wait, wait. Compatibility with her and the dog or her and you? Like is this a coffee date? What does it matter if it's you? It's who's walking the dog. Well, I wanted to see how she interacted with Delilah. So we met at the park, at the local park. Because I have done this in the past.

This is why I did it. I needed to get one probably six months ago and I ended up with this new person that I didn't go through a thorough interview session with and it didn't work. She wasn't right. They didn't gel. I didn't trust her. Did she not finish her sermon at night?

You thought something was wrong? She wasn't. Something just wasn't right. She wasn't the same. And as a really good mother, I picked up on that. So I had a compatibility test. We met at the vocal path. I watched the interaction.

I needed to make sure they had chemistry. I wanted to ask her where she goes, how many walks, how many dogs are there. It was a job trial. Does she incorporate balls? Does she not incorporate balls? What is the level? I wish I was kidding.

The poo pick up technique, that's very important. I watched her do it. I made Delilah do a really big poo. No, I didn't. I didn't watch that. But I actually, I know you guys laugh, but Delilah is like, you want to know if you're taking your dog. I love my dog.

My dog is my best friend. I love him more than anything. I don't have anything else, all right? So then when I trust her with someone, I need to know that this person's responsible. She's not going to let her run in front of a car because that's a really big deal to me. And Delilah has no road sense. She would run in front of a bus. So I needed to make sure this was a responsible, caring, loving dog walker.

I don't even think I go to that length to find – maybe that makes me terrible. Well, you've got the – I think we need to have the intervention on you. The wheels are turning. Honestly, I've had people take care of my children who I have done far less checks on than what you're doing right now. Yeah, I think that says more about you than me. All right, we're back after this. It's the pick-up. The Bachelor finale aired last night, and from all accounts, it was a mess, Laura Byrne.

I know you watched it. It was a mess, but it made for very good TV. You know what? The only couple that's still together is Jed and Alyssia. But then you hear that she was kissing some other people since they've left the show as well. Well, I mean, this is why I want to know. So apparently they're together,

but they've hooked up with other people in between times. They're here now. We've got them on the phone. Jed and Alyssia join us. Hi, guys. How does it feel to be the only successful couple of the franchise this season? Well, look, yeah, I think it's great that we've, you know, we've put a lot of work in to get to the point where we're open

and seeing each other. Sorry, open, that's triggered me. I shouldn't have said that. No, no, no, we're not open. Let me get that clarified right now. But, no, look, we're in a good place. I think it's been a while since we've been able to be normal, so we're just sort of taking it by day and seeing how we go.

Speaking of open, I read something this morning that, Alicia, you've kissed other people since the show finished. Is that true? Yeah, yeah. So when the show finished, we had our four-night rendezvous, which is really nice. That's when like the walls came down and we really started to get to know each other. And then after we left, Jed ended up going through something pretty dark and we sort of decided let's not be together until we can be together again.

But we spoke every day like we were there for each other every day, regardless of the fact that we weren't officially together anymore and always just open and transparent. And now we're in a position, obviously, where I've seen him for the second time last night. It was, you know, the second time we've spent the night together. You're kidding. In six months? Yeah. So we've had to keep everything going by just text and call all day, every day. I'm happy to give a bit of context because I think it's odd.

I had some traumas from my childhood come up that I wasn't expecting to come up when I came off the show. I think I was sort of not doing my usual day-to-day things when I came off. and that allowed a bit of space for things to come up that I didn't know. I was clearly sort of not wanting to deal with but then happened and I think she held me so tightly through that entire thing. It's sort of at the time that was like our sole focus was helping me heal from that situation. So there wasn't a point where any love was lost or it was like I don't like you

or she doesn't like me. It was just – I think it was more like let's shift the focus from let's not focus on you and I as a couple. well, let's focus on him as a person. The formula really can work and it can be a beautiful thing. What is next for you guys now? Now that you can be together, does it mean you're doing long distance?

What does the relationship look like? I think right now it looks like us going out for dinner tonight for the first time and seeing how that goes. There'll be paparazzi. That's how that's going to go. Yeah, I know. No, we're just excited. We are very close.

I think we've grown immensely throughout this and people would never sort of quite understand the extent of how deep I think just our understanding of each other goes now. So for us it feels like a fairly peaceful, relaxed thing, like, you know. Yeah, not just taking a ring, just, you know, to take a ring and all of that. I want to come off and be as real as possible. Oh, I would have taken the ring, yeah.

If it was offered to me, which it wasn't. No, Laura was saying before that how much, because Laura, obviously you were on the batch with Maddie J, you got the ring. How much was it worth, you were telling us before, were you happy to say? Well, I think this one was around $25,000. Get out.

But I don't, okay, don't hold me to it. Now I'm worried that Larsen's is going to come for me. But, okay, I heard a rumour. If you didn't propose, you didn't get to keep the ring this season. Is that true? Exactly. So I knew she was going to say no, but I knew if I could word it a certain way and quickly get out of it,

I could still put the gorgeous ring on it. But I never got to tell her that for the whole time. I just thought I was, I'm like, am I getting punked here? Like, have I been not speaking English for the last seven weeks? Oh, no. So, actually, you're a very smart man, Jen. Okay, so there's been something that's been going down in my household recently that I want to see how you feel about this.

My beloved, Maddie J, my husband. It's so weird calling him my husband. It's weird hearing you say husband. No, we only just had the wedding, like in November. It was gorgeous. I say we, like we all got married. We only just had it. That's how I feel.

Well, it's one of those things, right? You get into a long-term relationship and you think you know everything that there is to know about your partner. You think that you've covered everything, all the ground. I can only imagine, but go on. Yeah, except with Matty J because he's very into hobbies. So he goes through these like phases of different hobbies that he wants to try.

We have just entered a new phase of hobbies. I love this so much. I love that he does this. This is sounding like a bit negative from you. You're not into this? I'm not not into it, but it's a really annoying hobby. What's he doing? Okay, so he's just decided to take back up something

that he used to do back in the 90s, which is where it should stay. He's really into beatboxing, and now I love a good beatbox. I love that. No. Are you talking like the – That one, yeah. That was horrible to listen to.

But, yes, that. He does it all day, all around the house. He is quite good, but it has become obsessive, and I wish I was joking. So he's actually pretty good, is he? I don't know. Can we get him on the phone? Listen, I've got Maddie up here.

I've got his number. We've been texting all day. There's a bit of a bromance there. You're one step ahead of me. Maddie's on the show. Hello, Matt. Thanks for being here. Hey, Maddie.

Good afternoon. How are we? Matt, I have just heard that this new hobby you're doing, apparently you're pretty good at it, but you're driving Laura up the wall. She's been complaining about it all day, this beatboxing thing that you've got going on. No, let me defend you and myself.

I'm not being driven up the wall. I just find it confusing that as a 36-year-old man, you've gotten really into beatboxing. It's an unusual hobby. Where did it come from, Matt? I feel like I'm not alone in thinking that. Laura, you told me you liked it when I started doing it. The only reason I'm doing more of it is because I thought you're into it.

That's not what she's been telling us off air, Matt. What do you mean? Yeah, she's not that into it, Matt. I'm not not into it. I want to be supportive of everything that you throw yourself into. Okay, sorry. We're going to have to hear this. So we're going to bring everything to silence.

We're live on the air. You've got the stage, Matt. You give us some of your beatboxing. Okay, here we go. I love it so much. That was actually pretty good. You started with a motorboat. Haven't heard that in a while.

I think we can work this into the show some. We're a new show. This is show two. I think we could build this into a bit of our production that we use in and out of the show. This started off as me being like, do you think that this is a normal thing? And now you have fully committed to encouraging it, Mitch.

We're going inside today. Hold on. Give me a beat again, Matt. I'm going to try and spit some pick-up lyrics. You can jump in too, Brittany. I'm going to give some background. So just you lay a pick-up beat, Matt, and then we'll jump in. And Mitch, was that last one too fast, too slow, or just right?

I think we need a little bit more length. Okay. And girth. Thickness, yeah. A bit of length there. Fill it out. If you want a lot of length, Brittany, you come to the right guy. Stop flirting with Natty J.

All right, hit it. DJ. Yeah. This is The Pickup with Brit, Laura and Nish. Your afternoon pick-up sitch. If you're a mum in the car, we know you'd rather be at the bar. The kids in the back in the baby seats. It is a crazy fit.

Maddie J is on the line. These three bucks in is a crime. What do you think? My God, I've created monsters. That, that. Now, that was a masterpiece. If that doesn't get us all signed, I don't know what will. That was Mozart.

Thank you, Maddie. I support, and I think we've converted the law, and we support the new hobby. Just confirming that wasn't free. That wasn't free. I'm charging royalties. Okay, don't get too ahead of yourself, Matt. Well, we all contributed to that one, Matt.

You ladies know Hugh Sheridan, right? Yes, we do. Well, this is actually a really tragic story. So Hugh has opened up about a horrific experience that happened when a couple spiked his drink. I was in Sydney a few years ago and I was around Melbourne Cup time. I actually got someone drugged me, two people. A guy drugged me and I knew one of them.

I was stuck for about eight hours. Truly awful. And the reason I bring this up is because you don't often hear it happening to men. It's often a female-led narrative. It's actually so frightening. I've been drugged three times, by the way. Are you kidding? Yeah, and I know that Laura's had a situation.

I have so many friends as well or female friends that have been in this situation too like it is so problematic but it's so prevalent and I think a lot of people don't know how prevalent it is because it's not wildly reported I know what happened to me I didn't because there was a part of me that was like well what are they going to do about it anyway how are they going to prove it like you just think that and I think that most women think that unless there's a way for them to feel that they 100% can be heard and something can be done about it and also I mean like what has happened to Hugh here often you don't know you don't remember because of the whole situation because you don't have you know you don't have your cognitive abilities you've been drugged you

don't know so it's really hard to then talk about something when you don't know the specifics but like you know even with what you're saying Britt like it's happened to you three times it's happened to me once I know so many women and I think that it's it's something that we have to be conscious of as women but you don't hear men like Mitch how many times have you left the house and gone out and thought, well, I better be careful that my drink doesn't get spiked. Not once. It is not a thought that is top of mind for me when I go out clubbing or drinking and with friends as well.

Never think about it. I think about it all the time. But this is the thing, right? Like the scary part of this story and something that I hope that everyone is really conscious about is that it doesn't just happen when you're at a nightclub or you're out with strangers. Like my experience was with someone who I thought was my friend. So I think, you know, and in this experience with Hugh Sheridan,

it was someone who he thought was his friends and people he knew. And I think that that is something that's very underrepresented and not talked about enough. So, I mean, it is so brave of you to come forward and share this story, but also just to really highlight that not only is it strangers, it's people that you know that can be the people at the bottom of this. Well, I mean, one of mine was on a date. One of mine was a barman.

So that made me very worried. Disgusting. So scary. Because you can be as careful as you want covering your drinks and, you know, walking around a bar. But if it's come from behind the bar when you've ordered it, it's out of your control. and the other one was a patron just at a nightclub kind of like out dancing.

Well, the other thing you hear is you get taught this. I mean, we got taught it in school when I was in school and you tell your daughters and parents tell your kids when they're that age about to go clubbing, when they're 17, 18. But this happened to Hugh when he was in his 30s. I mean, Laws, it happened to both of you in your 30s. Yeah, but I also think on that you become so – because when you are 18, you're very hypervigilant.

You know, you're 18 and you've heard all these horror stories and you think, oh, God, I'll cover my drink and you walk around with your hand over your vodka cruiser, whatever it is. But then when you get into your 30s, you think, I'm way past this as being a possibility. And this is completely irrelevant what I'm about to say, but I'm going to say it.

On the person I was on a date with that drugged me, he was the biggest geek, right? I was like, this guy's the biggest geek. Or unassuming. But very endearing. And what I mean by that is it was just for the cliche who you think is going to drug you. I do want to say it's a cliche, but who comes to mind

when you think of someone that's going to drug you out in a nightclub? This person for me was the furthest thing that I would have thought it would have happened with. And again, you can never judge a book by its cover. We know that. I'm so grateful that Hugh felt confident enough to come out and speak about this because I think it is such an important reminder for everyone, not just parents, but for anyone listening that, you know,

you have to be so conscious that this does happen. It still happens all the time and it is hugely underreported and underrepresented. and I just think, you know, putting and shining a light on it is like the only way to protect people. Totally. Good on you, Hughie. You guys know I've been going on and on about this new Stan

original series, Poker Face, which I'm truly obsessed with. Obsessed. At the moment. It's so good. It's got Natasha Lyonne who's from Orange is the New Black and essentially the character she plays is a blackjack dealer. She can just tell everyone's poker face straight away. She can read what people are going to play and what they can,

you know, what they look like on their faces. I always thought that I was good at that. Like I always thought I could tell people's poker faces and I also always thought I was a good liar. That is such an untruth since you dated a guy who was like, you know, had another life for two years. So I think you're particularly bad at it if anything, Britt. Yeah, he really debunked that, didn't he?

Not my best. Anyway, this character is a human lie detector. So it got me thinking, is that a real career choice? Do human lie detectors really exist? So what I've done is I've got the best in the business. I've got Dr. Louise Marler who joins us now on the line, the real human lie detector. Dr. welcome.

Dr. Louise, welcome. Hi. Yeah, hi guys. How does one become a human lie detector? It's really a career choice and I don't, you know, do lie detection as a living, but I do read body language and I read bodies and I read vocal psychology and I am fascinated about behavior, human behavior. So that's my area, my PhD, human behavior.

So are you going to tell us before we jump in, because Mitch has set this up, Laura and I are going to tell you a story each. One of us is lying, one of us is telling the truth. Are you going to tell us before we tell you these stories what you look for so we know like what's the tell? No, then it's cheating. I can't tell you beforehand. Now, listen, Dr. Louise, I'm not one to be dramatic,

but I'm about to be dramatic. Laura and Britt both have a story. One is a lie, one is a truth. Why don't we kick it off with you, Britt and Dr. Louise? Why don't we ask Dr. Louise? You've been watching Laura's and my body language. Who would you like to hear from first? Brittany, I'd like to hear yours first.

So a couple of years back I was – I'm a bit of an adventurer so I was going on an adventure and on the other side of the world I found myself deep in the Amazon jungle, believe it or not, and I had no food so I had to catch my food. So I was catching piranhas and stuff and I had to bathe obviously because – you laugh, Laura, but you get hungry in the Amazon. You get hungry in there, right? This is so stupid.

So I caught some piranhas and I was eating the piranhas And then I was really stinky because it's the Amazon. It's very hot if you haven't been to the Amazon jungle. It gets very – humidity is high. So I was bathing in the Amazon River and I accidentally got a parasite. It was definitely an accident. I got a parasite that ended up living in my liver. And I got very sick on that Amazon trip.

That was a real journey. All right, before we get your results, Dr. Louise, we're going to jump into Laura's story now. So, Laura, are you ready? Oh, I'm ready. Okay, hit us. So I also have an adventure story. Mine, however, dates back to when I was a little bit younger

and I lost my virginity in the drama room at school. It was year 12 and it was also not with a teacher, just in case anyone's going to worry. It was with a school student and it was on lunch break in the drama room yeah it's not my finest moment anyway i wish it was more of an adventure but that's it oh two very different tactics they're both very wild yes dr louise hold your judgment quickly we're going to go to a break when we come back we'll get the results but what are you thinking are you buying any one more than the other yeah yeah so good all right with dr

louise marla the stand original series poker face now streaming only on stand now we're joined by Dr. Louise Mahler, a.k.a. the human lie detector. It's all inspired by the new Stan Original series, Poker Face. I wanted to find out, is there such thing as a human lie detector? In my research, I found Dr. Louise, Britt and Laura, you've both just told a very fascinating duo of stories that have happened to you in your life, and Dr. Louise is about to drop her verdict.

Who is telling the truth and who is lying? Quickly recap what yours was, Britt. Long story short, I found myself in the Amazon on an adventure and I got a parasite because I was in the Amazon River and I was eating food from the river and it was, yeah, a pretty chaotic time of my life. Yeah, mine's also equally as long. I lost my virginity in the drama room at school.

Yours was short, I'm guessing. Let's get the verdict. To be honest, I don't know if I really recall it that well. Dr Louise, what are your thoughts? Well, you know, Laura reminds me of Kate, Princess Kate. Oh. why thank you nobody who knows me would say that so that's a true compliment how often do you think princess kate talks about shagging boys and drama rooms not often if she did she would talk about it

as clearly and as convincingly as you did i found that highly believable and consistent in the way that you told it your eye movement your flow of air in your voice your um consistency with your gestures everything but it could be that you're a massive psychopath and it really has to be the way that it goes I have to say it's a highly believable story everything about it Brittany wriggles like a jelly on a plate and so wriggle wriggle wriggle wriggle wriggle wriggle and funnily enough you're telling that story when you told that story you changed your behavior and suddenly you weren't wriggling and also when you're speaking normally you're not looking down bottom left and during the story you were looking down bottom left having said that your story was

so outrageous I mean everything you did Brittany just said liar liar pants on everything it was your inconsistency your change of behavior from what you did before that that made me say that wasn't a truth but then again you know that you're trying to you know look like a truth or look like a lie and deceive so who knows not a pure art all right the human lie detector is locking in princess kate ladies it's time to reveal who's telling the lie i am a psychopath and i am a i am a brilliant actor i am sorry louise but i i i'm a trained actor I wriggled on purpose I did the eye contact on purpose I was like I was like I'm gonna make her think that I'm thinking of this story as I go no my mum's gonna hate to hear

this but it was uh it was in her house and in my bedroom that's where it was not at drama school and I really did camp in the amazon jungle and get a liver parasite and get sick for years do not do that at home oh well I think that's lots of fun and um uh princess kate there is definitely a psychopath yes okay good to know um thank you dr louise you can get it now uh on stan it's the original series poker face now streaming uh that is us done for the day everyone you liar we've got kate middleton and a brilliant liar what a show you're amazing thank you now the world has gone absolutely maths mad it's back on on channel nine laurie you're officially you've got the you've got the bug you love married at first sight oh like you've lost me every night of the week when

on that's it's my favorite show it's good because it's all the things that you shouldn't do in a relationship but we have today john aiken joining us he is one of the relationship experts who's on the show who matches the couples and handholds them throughout the whole experiment yeah i have so many questions john welcome welcome to the pickup oh it's good to be here and look laura i'm so glad that you've come out as a maths uh tragic disgusting but brit brit you and i need to talk i can't believe you haven't watched it okay i don't watch it because i know i'm going to get hooked into it but i do keep up with what's happening like i always go the next day and read all the news articles and i get the lowdown from laura because i i am interested in i love

relationships we have a relationship podcast but i just know i'm going to lose hours of my life every night if i allow myself to well it does tend to suck you in and i think there are a lot of ingredients in maths that makes it so compelling i mean it is a show that kind of appeals to both singles and couples and i think it's also based on a fairy tale and you know the experts we sort of get in there and really try and hold them to account well john we know that there's like tens of thousands of people who apply for this show and you have the job of helping to match people together how do you go about actually matching these couples like some people seem particularly not well matched which might come as no surprise to you i think that's quite a diplomatic way of

saying, what were you thinking, John? What were you thinking? What was good enough day, John? That's what I'm getting from that question. Absolutely. Look, people do look at it and are often confused. The bottom line, it's a quite exhausting two-month process. We give them tests around things like communication, their values.

We kind of put them together and then sit back and watch like everybody else to see whether or not they can fall in love as complete strangers. We are matching them with the eyes on them getting over the line and finding the fairy tale. But in saying that, there are a lot of things that are uncontrollable, like chemistry. They can be difficult to date, let's be honest. And so when we put them together, a number of them simply do not work out. Well, there's one other woman that I've seen, and I've seen her everywhere actually since the show aired, and that's Melissa, the self-proclaimed freak in the sheets.

She loves to get freaky, and I'm all about it, and I think everyone in Australia is just like singing her praises right now. How important do you think this matched intimacy and matched chemistry and sexual exploration, how important is that in a relationship? Yes, well, that's a very good question that I think a lot of people are going to be asking as they watch this season. You know, how you talk about sex, who initiates sex, how much is enough in a relationship to keep it healthy.

All of that starts to become quite a conversation topic, not just between the couple, but also in the group. For me, sex is important because it's a good gauge of a temperature in a relationship. You know, if you're having it regularly, then, you know, you're connecting and you're reaffirming to your partner that they're special. When it's not around, you know, it can start to create a distance. It's not the only thing. you've got to have a lot more than just sex but I do think it's got to be made a priority in a relationship

for it to keep the connection going Well John you mentioned distance there and that's something that I wanted to bring up and lack of sex I mean those things go hand in hand our very own Brittany Hockley has just entered into a long distance relationship so not only is she not getting it daily which I'm sure she'd love to do but her new boyfriend

is thousands of kilometres away living in Scotland so do you have any advice for couples that are newly long distance? And can they last? Well, they can last, but I think what you've got to do, Britt, is to make sure that you have a number of things in place. Outside of that, Britt, what I would say is that you've got to know the time zones. You've got to be constantly contacting them at regular parts of the day.

You also need to see them face-to-face on a regular basis. So you fly to him or he flies to you. So any time you have a big calendar day, you've got to really make it special. But I think ultimately, Britt, if it's going to work, then you two have to have an end date in mind where he's either going to come and live here or you're going to live there. He's going to be listening to this. So it's probably pretty important that he's, like, consistently buying you presents and stuff as well. Is that right? Well, absolutely.

And that makes me feel very special. John, you don't have to agree with it. You're the expert, John. Brittney has hijacked this as a therapy session for herself. We're very sorry about that. But we are all – I mean, well, actually, I won't speak on behalf of the group. I am thoroughly enjoying that, and we can't wait to see what unfolds this season. All right, it's all going down.

I'm married at first sight on Channel 9. Give it a watch. John Aitken there, one of the experts. Thank you, buddy.