Life Uncut - What's your SITUATIONSHIP?

Episode Date: May 5, 2020

Happy Tuesday lovers! If it wasn’t for the podcast right now we would have no idea what day it is!We need to address that the OG Bachelor Australia winners Tim and Anna are having a baby and I'M NOT CRYING.... YOU'RE CRYING!!!!Today’s food for thought; Situationships. A situationship is like relationship no-mans land. You don’t know what you are, you don’t know what they want, heck, maybe you don’t even know what you want! Sometimes an undefined relationship is exactly what you need. It’s fun, sexually satisfying and liberating, but more often than not, something’s gotta give, and someone is gonna catch dem feelings. After that, it usually goes down hill rapidly.We deep dive into all aspects of situationships, after we’ve caught up on the goss of course ;)It is thanks to today's sponsor, Marzena natural waxing strips that we are able to bring this to your ears.Join in the conversation on our facebook discussion group Life Uncut Podcast or follow our instagram @lifeuncutpodcastIf you loved the ep, subscribe and hit 5 stars and if you’re feeling extra generous this fine Tuesday head on over and leave a review and share the love, because, well, we love love xSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey guys, welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut. I'm Brittany. And I'm Laura. And it feels like it's been a minute. Well, it's only been a minute since we got a little bit jazzy last week and did our Tuesday episode on the Thursday. So this all feels like it's come very quickly. And we're slightly ill-prepared.

Don't tell anyone. Don't tell them that. Oh, shit. Oh, dear. We're actually not ill-prepared at all. I have prepared this chat and it will be brilliant. Guys, we have a cracking episode for you. Of course we do.

And we are so hot and ready. This episode is on situationships, just FYI. so strap in usually we have a bit of a chat first we leave the listeners hanging then we drop what the topic is but you just like jump straight in i was trying something new you're like please don't do that ever again there's some big news in our world it's in the bachelor world yeah the batch world tim and anna the og bachelor couple are having a baby and it's just like i know you and matt a proof but this is real proof it's like the oh we weren't proof enough for you no you're proof enough but there's something about being an original gangster bachelor like the first in

australia and i just think it's nice they're both great people they love each other like seven years now they have done it in the right sequence of events like they had a long-term relationship then they got married now they're having a baby we were like shotgun vegas had a baby still not married we don't know what we're doing you we don't count no you were in your own race you definitely count we set this shit on fire look your journeys were were both very different but that's okay everyone's journey is different there's always got to be a no frills bachelor couple babe that's me i'm here for it man i think i'm the no frills if anyone's no frill you're the no boyfriend bachelor couple thin ice laura burn get them where they hurt actually that that hurt

but also it puts me in hysteria like whenever I think about it and I'm like yes Brittany that would be you but when someone else burns me and cuts me off at the knees it's like hurts for a second and then you have to laugh but you know it's only me cutting you off at the knees no guys you guys can all laugh but I just think I think that's really brilliant I love that they're the original gangsters lived apart they've lived together they got married in this beautiful ceremony and now they're having a baby and can you imagine how cute it's gonna be also it's the biggest fu to all of the shitty media who six months ago was like tim and anna are breaking up tim and anna live separately and and the media can be so quick to try and dissect and shit on

someone's relationship just because they're doing it against the norm i'm so happy for them but this is such a beautiful way for them to be like screw you daily mail that's another thing i wanted to bring up is how does daily mail who reported that they were pregnant like two weeks before they announced it. How does Daily Mail know? I would like to ask Tim and Anna this actually, let's get them on. But I'd like to ask that, but I think what was happening, I read and heard some things that Anna just hadn't been drinking at some events. You know, you know how the Daily Mail works. They've only got to see one thing for them to speculate in hopes that there's a percentage that they're right. There's been no events. Well, it's a mystery. It's an X-file. The reason I ask

this is because when Matt and I were pregnant, they knew. They knew before we came out and said we were and i hadn't been to any events we hadn't done anything and then the second that we did go to an event and i had had a glass of water but i was also driving and they knew i was driving so it shouldn't have been that suspicious they were like laura's pregnant that's a baby bump and everything was inflated but they knew and i don't know how i think that they get insider knowledge from like appointments where they have scans where you guys have like obscene appointments who knows or even maybe someone from the clinic actually gives that information up like i really think that the paps in sydney or the paps in australia have such crazy amount of insight to stuff before

it even happens you literally need the tiniest belly and the media says you're pregnant you know what this reminds me of poor jennifer aniston i love jennifer aniston she's my crush she'd almost be my whole past i think she's the best thing since sliced bread the media have been speculating she's pregnant for 20 years she literally will say i'll drink a glass of water i'm pregnant i eat a pasta i'm pregnant i put on one kilo i'm pregnant it's actually really shit especially if you're someone who's in a position where you want to be pregnant or you're having some fertility issues and then you're constantly getting this line of question it's bad enough when it comes from your friends and family which happens to so many people that but then to have

the media put this microscope on you and be like when are they having a baby why aren't they pregnant oh look they're pregnant oh is that a baby bump also imagine if they were reporting on that early and you were and something happened like like what happened to you and you miscarried it's just like an even more of a slap in the face i think it's a really touchy subject and they need to be a bit more careful with it but moving on to someone else that has just announced they're pregnant and I think this is going to be the most good looking child in the universe Gigi Hadid and Zayn they are so young she's 25 I think I know that that's when our parents were having kids and I know that's when a lot of people have kids like I'm I'm not against it but when I was 25

I was out getting blackout drunk and eating toast for dinner oh my god I was like do I have toast or cereal for dinner I have toast for dinner like five out of seven nights toast or salmon right wasn't it the true meals of a single girl single girl meal yeah salmon i don't know you're judging me i feel like you're judging me but they've come out as pregnant and i think the funny thing about that is they didn't announce it it was speculated in the media first again the paparazzi and the media agencies everybody came out saying that she was pregnant she had no choice the poor thing but to say well yeah yeah i am that should be something that's so special and so sacred to a woman. And then that gets taken away from you. Imagine being 25, you're pregnant for the first

time. And then you have to announce it to the whole wide world because it's already been taken away from you. That opportunity to have your pregnancy announcement, it's been taken away by the media. It's just like, you're already emotional enough. It's just wild to me that they're even allowed to do that. Absolutely. But I cannot wait to see that child. It's being born to great genes and great money. You're like, and I hope that the media reports on it and I do not care. But what has actually happened in your week this week? Do you know what? I feel like this week has been the first week for me where the whole coronavirus and isolation and like the weird state of the world, the anxiety around it and the fear around it and like the ominous pressure that

I think everyone's been carrying around feels like it's started to lift a little bit. And I know that we can't like all sit on our laurels, but I do feel like there's not quite the same immense fear you know when you go to the grocery store or you go down the street it seems to be that there's a lot more people out and about doing stuff and just kind of getting on with life than what there was before and I'm here for it I am ready to get back to normal okay so I am going to be a bit contradictory at the moment with you like I like when we disagree sometimes go on then Bondi is like normal it's ridiculous so everyone if you guys don't know Laura and I do both live in Bondi it is the epicenter of Australia for coronavirus and we struggled to get there with

the lockdown but eventually we did and everybody started to do the right thing well most people but it has been opened up it is almost like normal there are people everywhere I feel like the fear has gone which I think is great because nobody should be afraid like that but I do worry as someone in the medical industry I do worry that we are jumping the gun a little bit early and we might have something like similar to Singapore so Singapore was sort of like the world leaders in what to do and how to get back on track with corona and they eradicated it and I put that in like inverted commas they eradicated it and got back to normal and the world was praising them then they got their second sweep the virus came back again and it was worse than

the first time and that was because they just jumped the gun a bit got a bit ahead of themselves and they are saying that a lot of countries are going to get their second sweep they don't know what it's going to be like but i'm just a bit fearful that west we still have we still have cases and we i just think we're jumping back in a little bit early purely my opinion people are going to disagree with me and that's absolutely fine i i'm just a normal human that has an opinion that's what i think i think we should have held off a little bit longer okay when i say and i am going to disagree with you just you know to keep on the current trend brilliant but it hasn't gone back to normal like the restaurants are still closed everything is like you can't say the

Bono's normal the beaches are still totally shut you can only it's like one person in one person out environment like I think that the when I say that I think that the fear has lifted I just feel like the way people go about their day and the anxiety around it doesn't seem to quite be so heavy like I remember going into Woolworths and there was this real franticness around how people were shopping it was it was like they were too scared to even talk to you or look at you and you know you'd cough and they'd run down the aisle kind of thing and I just think that there's a little bit more calm in people i still think that that people are abiding by the laws around this area i don't think we're going to go back to that situation where people are buying out the

supermarkets yeah like that craziness has stopped now that was the unknown the fear of the unknown nobody knew what was going to happen we were looking at other countries and we were just thinking the absolute worst and everybody was spending for themselves well do you know what i did read today which might come as a surprise to you what have you been listening to the corona cast at all not in the last few days no so there was a guy who this is a few episodes ago this is not today's episode this is going back about a few weeks ago i'm a bit late to the party guys but there is a physician called dr norman swan who got on there and talked about how it may be possible to catch coronavirus through your farts what is that for real make sure guys no bare

bottom farting you know a face mask is just like jeans for your butt it's a butt mask it's literally just jeans just wear undies just don't free ball it's a butt mask free fanny and free ball wear your underpants guys stay protected i'm gonna have a face mask butt mask all the masks i'm gonna look wrap yourself up let's like let's get back to this next week but until then people stay woke stay safe and wear your pants do you know what i learned today tell me that too hot to handle our favorite couple harry and francesca harry was actually dating someone else up until the finale aired this is the best juice in the world as you know if you listen to last episode we love too hot to handle we're obsessed it's disgusting brit had recommended to watch too

hot to handle we talked about it for way too long and we're going to talk about it again but i had read that harry and francesca had broken up between when they're filming finished and when it's come out to air which makes me highly suspicious as to how in love they might be or how many Instagram followers they thought they might gain from this whole thing. Well, it's definitely true. I've gone and had a little stalk of their page. Their posts, when they post together, the world froths it. They get so much engagement, so much love because people love love like us.

We love love. I mean, it's the reason why we follow reality TV dating shows because we want the happy ending at the end. But it does make you wonder for sure when it comes out that he had another relationship that apparently he was even putting on Instagram. I don't think it was even that secret. it anybody who's followed reality tv it's very obvious that if you are the couple at the end hashtag relationship goals you're going to get some sort of instagram notoriety out of it they

kind of come hand in hand and he would have known that and francesca would have known that from seeing all the other tv shows that have gone before them well funny you say that because harry was on a reality tv dating show previously right he was on this new zealand heartbreak island or something and why he knows he knew he knew how to play that he knows how the reality tv world work this doesn't mean that we don't like them we love them no we sweat here for it we're just here calling a spade a spade and i think the proof is in the pudding like if anybody who has watched too hot to handle and now has gotten onto their instagram these guys have skyrocketed over the space of about three three and a half to four weeks from a hundred thousand followers to close

to 3.5 million followers that is insane well speaking of reality tv so many people have been asking on the instagram page and on the facebook page and we are here to tell you we don't know when bachelor in paradise is going to air i like he doesn't know when bachelor in paradise is going to air you say we like we're a couple also i just want to know if this woman right here is in a goddamn relationship because if she's not i would like her to bring back her dating stories to the podcast so I am waiting just as much as you guys are waiting yeah as an update and I can't get back to all of you but you do message a lot I actually do not know hand on heart I do not know when it's going to air I do know it will air and it will be soon so just keep your eyes out as everyone knows

who's been following this podcast since the very beginning Brit's number one my favorite thing was her outrageous dating stories because they were so outrageous outrageous they were outrageous and now we have no meat raffle anymore and we just have to sit here and wait and pond up there will be great amazing loving beautiful stories to come i will sit patiently yeah all right so brit was there anything that you have watched or listened to or read this week what are your recommendations i do have a recommendation for something to watch actually i have two if you're looking for a tv series just to get so deep into and so stuck into this vortex i recommend money heist have you watched that i've never seen it no idea it's spanish it's dubbed what is with you and dubbed

obsessed tv okay why i recommended elite to you guys which was like a dubbed show as well in spain turns out spain only has a limited number of actors because a lot of these actors are in this new show money heist money heist is four seasons you will be sucked in laura i promise you it's super high action um a lot of sex a lot of beautiful people my recommendation um another recommendation i have is a movie i watched this week it's a bit you have to actually download this one it's a bit art housey didn't go to cinemas or anything like that as far as i know but it's huge cast it's basically vince warne and mel gibson it's called dragged across concrete and i haven't watched a movie in a long time where i haven't looked at my phone i haven't

emailed I haven't done anything I've just been really hooked onto the movie a lot of action I just love the way it was filmed maybe as someone that's acting and in that world I really appreciated the way it was filmed the dialogue and everything but I was just really into it it is disclaimer it's it's violent if you don't like violence don't watch it I don't usually like violence but I loved this film they're my recommendations Laura what about yours I don't normally get time to listen to or watch much like my life is pretty filled with just running around after a small child and trying to stop her from running into sharp corners and objects you did get too hot to handle in there though that is my whole life priorities and that around hot too hot

to handle but if you have a free hour and a half it's just one it's one episode or one movie i guess you'd say it's a documentary it's called murder to mercy it's just come out on netflix and it follows the story of this young girl santoya brown who was she was convicted of murder and it talks about the talks about the laws in tennessee in the states basically which is like crazy is if you are a juvenile and you commit murder in tennessee back in the day you would have to sit trial for them to decide whether or not they were going to try you as an adult and some kids as young as 11 or 12 were tried as adults and if you were tried as an adult for murder the minimum sentence that you would be given is 51 years so these young children who

were being so 12 year olds have been tried for 50 i've been 51 years for murder and it's and it's blanket it's like it didn't didn't take into account like your circumstances or the reasons behind it was if that was if you had committed murder no matter like what your age was no matter the circumstances if it went through as an adult trial 51 years so what year was this so she was convicted in 2004 but then it follows her story through i mean murder to mercy it kind of gives away the plot twist right but it's it's just the most amazing story about a woman who had a really really troubled upbringing and she had no hope in the world like she was a child who just was abused as a child ended up prostituting herself out really young got involved in drugs had like a

horrible boyfriend who she thought was her boyfriend at the time but then realized actually he was just a pimp who was using her and she and she killed someone because she was scared and frightened and then it goes through the story of how she ended up in the system and then the amazing people and the team around her and like people like Rihanna got behind it and like all these celebrities trying to like help free Cyntoia Brown and actually push the reform for the the law changes within Tennessee guys I cried from the beginning of this to the end of this it is if it's very very triggering it's like there's a lot of domestic abuse in this there's a lot of childhood violence and childhood trauma but it was just the most beautiful story of redemption

and story about how people are not defined by their past and just because a child makes bad decisions or a child behaves badly doesn't mean that they're a lost case they need to have a support team around them and it is goosebumps like like I feel upset listening it is incredible and I cannot recommend this enough I think honestly I cried from the beginning to the end And Matt was like, do we need to turn this off? And I was like, no, this is so important and everyone needs to watch this. How old was she when she went to jail? She was 16.

16. So she literally never had a childhood. I'm sorry, but if you've already been a prostitute and abused and you've murdered someone, your childhood was tight. You don't have one. And she never had one in the first place because her mother was also a victim of domestic violence and rape when she was a child. And her mother had abused substances the whole time that she was pregnant. And so Centoia was actually born with fetal alcohol syndrome. just goes through this cycle of just like systemic family abuse and and what that can do to a child

and the trauma that they will take through with them through to adulthood but it has a really really beautiful ending and she is like an advocate now for sex trafficking and it's it's incredible I cannot recommend it enough but I don't give that recommendation very lightly it's just a heavy really heavy thing to watch it reminds me actually of um I recently watched the trials of gabriel fernandez did you watch that i haven't seen it you should watch that it's it come it like weighs heavily on my heart to recommend shows like this because it's so tragic but it also should be highlighted to the world that this this sort of thing's going on but it's essentially just a system that let a little boy down he was in such an abusive

abusive family like it's horrific i'm not even going to talk about it in detail here but it's just about the system that let him down how he fell through the cracks how many people could have helped him but didn't and I think it really highlights an awareness of if you guys ever thinking something's going wrong or you think you can help someone do it but it sounds like very similar to the show you've just recommended Murder to Mercy so I think these are two shows that are really important and people should probably I guess be brave enough to delve into I think that that's the perfect word for it because there's nothing it's not entertaining and it's not something that you really watch and like you're like oh I want to watch this but it was so poignant

and so incredible to see the difference in this woman that I so deeply recommend it it's just it moved me like nothing has moved me in a very long time well now where do we go from that sorry guys usually it's all really uplifting uh recommendations but you know like oh they're so equally as important we're all about the laughs and the light-heartedness but you and I have a very deep and serious side too and and this is something that obviously like really pulls at our heart um especially you being a mother I'm not a mother and I actually in this case I don't think it matters it doesn't matter absolutely not it really doesn't it's the full spectrum right and I think one of the things that was the most interesting part about this whole documentary

was the shift in perception over time so since 2004 to today 2020 children who were tried at the time she was tried as a prostitute she was tried as as an adult like someone who was living like this deviant drug addicted life but now if she was tried today in 2020 because of the law reforms she would be tried as a child that was sex trafficked but she wasn't given that yeah she wasn't given that chance when she was that age so it's really interesting to see how something that's so close to us like it happened in our lifetime how much change has happened and how people's Empathy has changed. Okay, well, recommendations aside,

I think it's time to jump into something a little bit lighter, a little bit funner, and that is our favorite segment, Accidentally Unfiltered. That was so like canned 90s com funniest home videos or something. That's what it sounded like. Why are you doing spirit fingers? I don't know. I'm trying to like dance out the side here.

Okay, let's say it again. Our favorite segment, Accidentally Unfiltered. That was so rehearsed. It's the only thing that's rehearsed. Do you have one, Laura? I have an Accidentally Unfiltered today. And guys, if you aren't sure what an Accidentally Unfiltered is, basically this is a segment that we have brought to the podcast,

which we freaking love. And it is when you guys send us your most embarrassing fuck-ups. And we just laugh in your face. Pretty much. No, we laugh with you, not at you. We laugh at you and also with you, if you're ready to laugh at yourself. But it could be when you have accidentally sent a message to the wrong person or you sent your mom a dick pic, who knows what you've done.

We've all done something. We've all been there. Maybe not the dick, actually pretty much the dick pic. Anyway, so this one is very, very fitting for the current Corona pandemic. Everyone's working from home, everyone's on Zoom calls and this one is specifically about a Zoom call fuck up. So I was on a Zoom call with my class this morning.

Now I haven't been up this early in a while so I was really, really groggy. I put my camera off and I muted myself because I just wasn't asked to be into the conversation. So I felt this gurgling in my stomach. Of course she did. Realized what I needed to do. And I realized I got to break some wind.

So I had a plan. I'll just mute myself, release it, and then unmute myself as though nothing happened. So I clicked the mute button, let it rip. And then I unmuted myself. There was an eerie silence in the room. And then some people started giggling and then I knew something had gone terribly wrong.

and then I realized I was already on mute from when I joined the call and she unmuted everyone heard me free the beast everyone watched me everyone saw me out of the blue unmute myself cut the cheese and then mute myself again which is the worst thing that happened to me in lockdown yes girl also who says cut the cheese I have what is that term good though because cheeses are very smelly sometimes they're also delicious but that was just a weird tangent my god i would die like love hey did she have to unenroll from school yeah she's moved to switzerland she's on her way there now she's neutral yeah she's out of you could you fucking imagine and then having to like get on the next zoom call with your class i actually couldn't and what do

you do also i want to know what do you do do you just address it no she left she just then exited the meeting is what she said so she she exited the lecture that's funny because everyone gets a notification like britney exited group like you get you get a notification right it's like almost worse you you've totally just taken claim for what you've done she should have just like typed and texted me like did someone just fart who's that like just like put it on someone else imagine if this was real life though like you're sitting in a uni a lecture hall and you're sitting there everyone's quiet you stand up drop a fart and then walk out because that's what it is isn't yeah like you you purposely unmuted yourself you made more of a big deal about it like if you had

just been vocal the whole time they wouldn't have known who'd farted it'd be the equivalent of in a lecture hall standing up lifting your leg and doing it and then leaving i feel like that's the equivalent and then being like mic drop by felicia well i do think we need to get into the topic for today brits this is a topic there's we have a topic guys we're talking as i said early on jump the gun as it were we are talking situationships which even if you are in a relationship right now i am sure as hell that there has been some point in your life where you have been in a situation ship oh so if you guys don't know what a situation ship is it's essentially just a relationship that hasn't yet had a label it hasn't been defined it doesn't have a name

so anything that precedes dtr do you know what dtr is laura down to relationship oh my god no it's actually not it stands for define the relationship so it's that conversation that you have you my boyfriend yes it's that conversation where no one wants to have it at any age but it's funny because every age from like 16 to 50 that conversation happens but it happens differently and it's and it's called the define the relationship moment the DTR moment it's very different from the other moments which might be the DTF moments very very different they do not have to go hand in hand please do not confuse the two but also I find it very ironic and it's not lost on me that the whole premise of a situationship is when you have an undefined unlabeled

relationship and now we're going to call it a label how 2020 of us we're labeling make sure we label the unlabeled relationship that you have dude everything has a name this it's a situationship now but last year it was a booty call the year before that it was friends with benefits no they have names so i think booty call is different to situationship not if it's a booty call every week. I think a booty call is literally just a booty call. That's when a guy sends a you up text and you slight go over there and you know, you're not going to watch Netflix. You know, you're going to get 10 minutes into that show. You're not going to be watching Centoria Brown, getting all deep and crying on the couch, holding each other. You're going to sit there and have a

bit of popcorn and then have sex. That's it. A situationship could be more than that. Like you could actually be investing emotions and time and semi dating and seeing the guy three or four times a week you could be thinking that it's heading towards a relationship but that guy said oh I don't want a relationship I like I'm too busy with work I don't want anything serious and it could go on for a really long time and it's still just a situationship yeah and I guess I guess that is the difference I guess the idea is it's a not it's a type of non-committal relationship but there are so many types of non-committal relationships and like you just said they all have labels now and like I just said booty calls one night stands situationships they're

all types of non-committal relationships which unfortunately are so common now that they're almost more common than a relationship and i think one of the interesting things about situationships as well and like you guys are gonna get so sick of this word so it's we're just gonna use it over and over and over to describe everything in this topic but one of the interesting things about it is like in theory they're meant to be two people who want something casual coming together and both of their like sexual urges are satisfied right like that in theory sounds like a great concept. In reality, it doesn't always seem to work out that way. Like in reality, these types of relationships, these casual relationships that don't really have an

end date and don't really eventuate into anything, usually and more often than not mean that one person is more emotionally invested than the other. One person ends up getting hurt. And so what we wanted to unpack on this episode is your situationship that you're in doing you damage. do you need to leave this relationship because it doesn't have an end date it's not going anywhere and you're wasting time on this or for example have you bunkered down with someone during isolation and then realize kind of now oh actually I don't really want a long-term relationship with this person I was using them as an emotional crutch I think these are all questions that you can ask yourself if you find yourself in these situations but whether or not you're in

one now I can guarantee that there has been a point in your life where you have been in a situation ship oh yeah if you haven't been in it you will be in it because they are so common and I think it's like this paradox of choice now with online dating I think that's something that has fed the situation ship because people are so scared to commit now because you can so easily and accessibly swipe and find someone else to talk to no one wants to commit in case something better is around the corner now don't get me wrong there is a time and a place for a situation ship absolutely but without doubt the time is going to come it's science that you're going to catch a feeling it's called oxytocin you cannot do anything about it you're going to go into a

situation ship being like this is cool i want this too i don't want to commit i want to be casual i want to see what's out there i want to have sex with you and have someone to talk to but not not be doing anything wrong if i'm with somebody else people love that liberating feeling people love the freedom the time will come and as a phd relationship expert author and speaker at berkeley university amy medcalf says 90 of the time the people that are going to catch the feelings are women because of our friend oxytocin when you kiss and cuddle and feel affection and have sex and have intimate moments whether you want you or not you release oxytocin and all of a sudden you want more we have touched on this in a past episode many many moons ago it was one of

the early early episodes we did and I guess I had talked about a relationship that I had that lasted for a whole year and I'm sure there'll be somebody else out there who can identify with this I met a guy I really liked him and I convinced myself that I was we were just seeing what happens we're going to see what happens after a few months realized I wanted to date him and I and I said you know like where is this going we had that chat and he made it very very clear he verbalized to me that he wasn't interested in a girlfriend because he was really really committed to his work at the moment and he wanted to prioritize work. He thought having a girlfriend would take away from that. And I was like, okay. But in my head, I was like, well, we do everything that couples do. We go out

for dinner. We, I see you three or four times a week. Like we hang out all the time. You treat me like you're my, I'm your girlfriend. I treat you like you're my boyfriend. I was like, I like, he's going to change his mind. He's going to change his mind. So I, so I stayed and I hope that he would change his mind. And then a few months later we had the conversation again, his mind hadn't changed, but like in the meantime, he'd bought me Christmas presents. like he'd celebrated my birthday. We still behave like we were a couple. And it dawned on me after about a year, literally a year of dating this guy, that nothing was going to change. And that even though he was behaving in a way and acting in a way and showing me physically

that I was the relationship, he had verbally been saying to me for all this time that he wasn't interested in anything more than what it was, a situationship. And I was projecting what I wanted onto that. I got really hurt when that relationship didn't work out, but it was because I was so much more emotionally invested in it than he was. So was the reason that he was saying he was acting like your partner, but didn't want it? Was it because he wanted to see other people? Was that the only reason? No, he wasn't seeing anyone else. That's, that's the crazy thing. So what was it? He just didn't want to be tied down. He didn't want to have the responsibility of my emotions or my feelings because he knew I wasn't end goal for him.

Like he knew he didn't want to stay with me longterm, but, but I was good enough. Like I was good enough for that point in his life and what he was after right then and there. And it wasn't what I wanted. And that's the thing that I think sometimes you need to stop and reflect on if you find yourselves in these never ending relationships where you're not actually flipping it into a relationship, it's not actually turning into anything. And that is, are you, by having this situationship, stopping yourself from actually having the type of relationship that you want? Laura, that's a really important point to drive home. What you just said about you knew deep down basically that you weren't in goal for him but you thought you could change him and you thought

if you hung in there long enough and projected what you wanted onto him he would change I think it's so common and I did that for almost two years I had this situationship in Sydney I've spoken about him before if you guys are long-time listeners I've spoken about the guy that basically I went to New York for I did this really romantic gesture tried to like win him back because he had he had strung me along in a situation ship for many years i became i started that thinking i can do this too you're going to be casual for me also uh while i look for my penguin you'll be my side penguin and he actually became my emperor penguin i was so obsessed with this guy and i was like this is the guy i'm gonna marry it was like we're in a relationship met each other's friends i met

his family i was borderline upset i loved him i loved him and he didn't love me and he would keep he kept saying, you're not the one. And I would stay and stay and stay. We went to dinner. Like you guys were in a relationship without being in a relationship to the point that I was so convinced that I went to New York. I mean, I was convinced because he said, come to New York. He said, he said, I've made a horrible, I've made a grave error, Brittany. Like you're the one for me. I flew to New York thinking he's my emperor penguin. He was like, meh, changed my mind and left my point of this is I should have listened to him the whole time the whole time he was saying to me like I'm not going to change but like every woman out there you want to be the exception you

convince yourself you are the exception you're like I know he says that but I will change him and I think it's really important for women to get to a point where we have to actually maybe listen to their advice and listen to the things they're telling us and physically showing us if they are telling you if their actions this is really important if their actions are all over you and you feel so loved when you're with them and the sex is amazing but they're literally saying to you I don't want anything you have to disregard the physical connection and you have to listen to what they're saying because the physical the physical connection it's always going to be there it's sex they're men you need to listen if they say to you you're not the one you have to bite the

bullet and accept that he's not going to change and that's when you really need to assess what is good for you are you actually really happy being in this situationship or are you telling yourself you're happy in it because you are scared to lose that person actually brit that's such a good point and then i was listening to when we were doing some research for this episode there is this guy from the states and i i love his stuff his name is matthew hussey he's a relationship expert i love and i love him i recommend him guys he's got his own podcast it's called love life with matthew hussey he explains that even though you might kind of convince yourself that it's something casual as in like as in like oh we're just we're just seeing what happens

by definition, your relationship is not casual. If, if one of you ends it, you're going to be hurt. That's not casual. You're, you're emotionally invested in that. In which case, if you are emotionally invested to a point where if it ends, you're going to be really heartbroken and upset, then you have to address the elephant in that room. And that is, what is this? What the hell is this? And where is it going? Because you can't sort of sit in this indefinite ambiguity because you're fearful of them saying they don't want to be with you because that's not going to change anyway so if you're just allowing this situation to kind of continue and to carry on the way it is without defining are we boyfriend are we girlfriend are we in a relationship because

you're so scared that they're going to walk away from you you don't have them anyway I totally get that I have been in that situation before where I've I've known the answer I know what he's going to say and that's why I don't ask because I'm not ready to stop seeing them like I know that he's going to say you're not my person so I just don't approach it because I think well I'm not ready to lose you yeah I'm not ready to not see you yet so you sit in it but ultimately I think it comes with age and emotional maturity you get to a point where you you know it's easier to cut it and you know the better thing for you to do is if you are really wondering and pondering and thinking that question what are we it's so much better to ask and get the the honest answer than it is to bury

it and sit in that situation that's not right for you that's going to hurt you even more down the track but also I think when we speak about this idea of like the fear that it's attached with having these conversations it's not only are people afraid to sort of say you know what is this like do you want to be with me and then the fear of rejection from that person it's almost like we build them up to be something so much more important and amazing than what they are we think we think oh but maybe I'll never find something better than this or maybe this is better than nothing they may be having this person who shows me affection even though they don't really want me is better than being on my own that all feeds into this fear that you think you're going to

be on your own forever but unless you open up your your life and your space to meeting someone new if you're in a casual relationship but you're emotionally investing all of your time and energy into it you're never going to meet someone new anyway i recently had a girl that i know she wrote into the podcast and i've known her for a very long time she has said to me i have been in a toxic relationship for two years. Like this guy sponges off her. She has an amazing job. She owns her own house and she's under 30. She's done very well for herself. He does nothing. He lives off her. She pays for everything. She's always been the person to monkey branch, like relationship to relationship. And she was too scared to end it with him because she was in a situation where

she's like, it's better than nothing. She's been listening to our podcast and she literally wrote in she said you thank you girls because you gave me the strength to leave this situation ship she's like I was in a hundred percent in a relationship that was just I was just too scared to be on my own um so I don't think I told you that Laura she wrote in and was the same thank you girls for we get so many of you guys right in saying that that these episodes have touched you in different ways and I was I had a similar conversation on the weekend with um someone who was saying that they got something out of one of our toxic relationship conversations and I was like sometimes it's really exposing for us to put all of our life and all of our past like terrible

dating experiences out there and be fully exposed but we do this because we have lived it and we have made these mistakes and we have dated some absolute fucking doozies we need to make i need to make a burn book and just say we'll put that on the facebook group now i have dated some absolute doozies and so this like this understanding what we're talking about comes from the life experience of two people who have dated for a very long time and so if we can give you this information really emphasize the very long time but if we can give this out there and help someone when they're at a pivotal fork in the road in their relationship to make a better decision and to get out of something that's not fulfilling and doesn't give them the relationship that they want

then that's exactly why we're doing this and that was why we did it so having people you write in and say that's absolutely brilliant oh man it warms the cockles of me old heart no that is the two glasses of wine you that's also pretty warming just to get back on to the topic of situationships one thing that I really want to drive home is that the concept of this is that they're supposed to be casual if you find that you were investing too much of your time of your emotions too much of you into something and you're not getting anything back from it as in it's not going to be long term you can't see this person in your future in a year's time two years time six months time then I think you really need to ask yourself like why the hell are you doing that

because there are so many other things that are not just relationship that are like your friends, your family, your work, read a bloody book, learn about politics. There are so many other things that you could be doing that are much better use of your time than investing in someone who's not going to be there in six months or 12 months time and whose lack of emotional commitment to you and whose lack of any sort of commitment really apart from just physical affirmation leaves you feeling rejected people in a relationship they make plans weeks months years in advance you make plans because you know that each other are important you know that each other are in each other's lives people that are in situationships they are like hey what are you doing tonight and it's 7 30 on

a saturday yeah am i seeing you tomorrow because they're like 8 p.m whatever their friend just cancelled on them that's a situation i this is like the biggest red flag for me when i go back to this guy who i dated for a year i'm like he's not a bad guy i don't have any hard feelings towards him he's he's a really nice guy he's got a great girlfriend now like they're very very happy good on them but i clearly i'm not zero jilted yeah good on you motherfucker i was like like i was obviously not the girl for him and he knew that but i remember it being anzac day i'd gone to the Anzac service at dawn in the morning and he also lives in Bondi I knew he was going to it but that night I hadn't slept at his house so I was like okay well I'll see you there he was there

we were at the same service I mean the service in Bondi is huge there's hundreds and hundreds of people and he just didn't text me to tell me where he was and I was like okay that's weird and then as the day progressed I was like I'm gonna be at this pub and then I wouldn't hear back from him for like four hours then he'd be like oh sorry we're not there anymore we're going here now and he just dodged me the whole day like fully dodged me just fully blanked me and how bad did you feel like shit I felt like my boyfriend had just completely ghosted me because he wasn't your boyfriend and then I realized I didn't have a boyfriend this is the point of the whole story exactly and the point is you thought he was your boyfriend you felt like he was your boyfriend I

felt like he was my boyfriend because he physically had made me feel like that but verbally he had said I don't want anything I'm not committed to you and then I was angry at him I was like why didn't you want to hang out with me and he and he said he was like I don't I don't get much time to hang out with my mates I'm working a lot I see you so many nights a week I wanted to just hang out with the boys you're being crazy and I was being crazy because he had said it time and time again what he wanted but I was the one that was pushing it to be something else and I was the one who was like well but your your actions say something different your actions say something different but he was saying point blank to me I don't want to date you I don't want to date you

I was like fuck I'm gonna get real crazy on your ass okay you know that that reminds me of my of my story with my situationship this guy two years deep right he invites me to his 30th birthday party okay why invite me I've met your family you know how I feel about you you know what I've wanted he couldn't he could never let me go right he would be like it's not you it's not you I'd be like great I'm gonna move on then don't contact me three days later can't stop thinking about you made a mistake come back this was two years he invites me to his 30th birthday party and this was the breaking point for us i come to his party it was huge it was a dress up all his friends and family were there who i know obviously because i've been around for two years i'm taking photos

for him because he was getting drunk so i'm like you know i'll take the photos for you had a great proper camera taking photos the whole night he is on the dance floor looks over to me makes eye contact with me turns around and starts making out with this girl it was it was the biggest stabbing the heart the biggest fuck you i've ever seen so uncalled for came from nowhere and that was him driving home britney this is a situation and you were like i will stay challenge accepted strap me in scotty i'm gonna win this fucking race red flag after red flag after red flag like that guy is not a guy that you should have given a second thought to no but we know how my brain works no but also when you really want something you forgive a lot of bad behavior and when you

have convinced yourself that something is right for you and you've convinced yourself that that's the person you're meant to be with, the level of shit that a lot of people will forgive and go back for more, it's almost like you become a glutton for punishment. And something I want to touch on just, which is a little bit left to center to what we've just been talking about, but maybe you are not the person that's like pushing this to be a relationship. Maybe it's the person you're dating. Maybe you're the one who's been verbalizing, actually, you know what, like, this is casual. We're both cool. We're both fine. Like I'm not here and I'm not going to sit here and shit on this idea of having casual relationships because I've had them. And I

think that they can be totally fine. And they are instances where both people are consensually having a casual relationship in which, in which point like in case happy days, they can be brilliant. Absolutely. Amazing. There's a time and place. Amazing time and place. But if you know for certain that the person that you are seeing every couple of nights, hang and bang with that, they emotionally are invested in you and that they are going to be hurt when this ends and you're just using them as like attention and a way of getting like a little bit of a fix because they make you feel good, I really think you need to kind of stop and think like it's not okay to use people as emotional band-aids and it's not okay to use other humans as emotional

crutches. So if you are doing that to someone at the moment, really stop and think about why you're doing it, about what you get out of it and about how you're potentially going to damage someone when you leave. So if you know for a fact that it's not what you want and your isolation situation ship has just been a temporary thing, then maybe now is the time to start putting some distance between it and making, you know, really defining what that is. Because even if you've said it verbally said, I don't want a relationship. If you're behaving like you want a relationship, then you need to take some responsibility when you hurt that person. See, I don't know about that

Because, I love when we do this, I think if they've been really honest with you and said, like, this is not going to go anywhere, like, I'm not looking for that, but I love spending time with you, they have, they've put their cards on the table, they have told you what they want, because I think you can still form, you can, when, okay, this is what I think, don't get me wrong, situations have a time and a place, but I think you can, like, deeply care and have feelings for someone and love someone and want to be with them and love spending time with them knowing they're not the one I think you can absolutely do that and I think that's what people get trapped in a lot of the time that's what a situationship is you know

they're not your end goal but you still adore them you have fun and you have the connection you have sexual chemistry but you just know they're not the one that's where I think it's okay as long as you have blatantly said to them this will never go anywhere but I adore spending time with you I think where it gets really sticky and tricky is when they come back to you saying I love you and I want more that's when you may need to take a bit of a moral higher ground I think and take some responsibility if they if they have confessed their love and that's that's all they want you need to be a bit okay I love having sex with you I love spending time with you but you're way more invested in this and I need to be a mature person here and cut it that's where

it differs for me well that is exactly what I mean and what and I don't think it needs to go so far as the person coming and saying I'm in love with you I think if you know deep down that the person you're in a situation ship really wants a relationship out of you and that's that's what they're hoping for and that's what they're invested in and you know that but your actions are leading them on it does come a point where like as much as you might have said you don't want something if your behavior is lending itself to them thinking that you're going to change your mind if your behavior is making them think that they're in a relationship you know and it's almost a relationship if they just wait a bit longer or hang on a bit longer then I really think that

that's misleading and I think that that's unfair it's borderline selfish isn't it it's so selfish once you get to the point that you know they're way deeper than you are ever going to be they want way more than you were ever going to want it's selfish you're doing it just for you and for instant gratification and I think that you need to take a bit more responsibility I'm not guys are not the only ones to do this like I mean obviously girls do it girls do it too I mean I've done it to guys and I say this and I don't say this because I'm like judging people who are in this situation right now, I have done it to guys. And then I have had to be like, Oh, look, I don't want to be with you. You know, you're crazy that you thought this was going to end

in a relationship. They're not crazy. I made them think that it could have been a relationship. I made them feel loved. I like use them for an emotional crutch. And that in itself is unfair as well. So I think, you know, with age and with experience and with understanding about how we have to be responsible for other people's feelings, like that has from an introspective place made me go okay I can identify that that people do this and that I have done it in the past and that it's just not a good way to treat people I stand by this wholeheartedly if you want to see someone speak to someone or be with someone it doesn't matter how busy you are you will absolutely find a time they will absolutely find a time so if you're sitting at home wondering why he hasn't

texted you back why he can't make time for you in his week it's probably because he just doesn't want it badly enough oh yeah like I mean people are busy sure but you always make time for the people that are your priority. Obama has a wife. Come on. Like if Obama can have a wife and a relationship and like several kids, then the guy that you're dating who's super busy can also have a relationship. It's just people prioritize what they want when they want it. And I think we like to overcomplicate things because we want to think that we're the exception. But if someone's saying that they're too busy for relationship, they're not too busy for relationship. They just don't want to be with you that much. And we have to kind of sometimes step back and go, oh, that's what

they mean by that guys are simple they're simple creatures especially and I know I'm saying guys specifically but I really think that they're not being cryptic they say exactly they say exactly what they feel and like we've said they don't get so caught up in in the intensity of the connection of the physical side of things because that might be amazing but if they're verbally saying what they want then that is what you have to go off I feel like we're sounding really blunt but I wish someone told me this in the past okay so you've established you're in a situation ship you're either cool with it or you're not but I think regardless it's important to set some boundaries so are you going to talk to each other about seeing other people are you going to talk about

if you sleep with someone else how open are you going to be I think it's really important to set the tone straight away it's almost like an open relationship isn't it what what's acceptable and what's not with you two what is valid jealousy what is something that they've done wrong you need to establish that or it's going to be toxic and go downhill rapidly but I think you also need to do that just from like a safety perspective as well like you want to know if the person you're sleeping with and seeing a couple of nights a week is also sleeping with other people and I mean yes that information might hurt you to find out but that ambiguity can hurt you a lot more and I think it really ties back into what we already said about this this fear of them saying something

that you don't want to hear that is so true regardless of if it's a casual situationship or a relationship you need to know it doesn't really matter what it is you need clarification you need a boundary so that you aren't anxious you aren't working yourself into a fit how many times have you guys said to yourself or said to a friend I don't know if I can I don't know if I can ask him if he's seeing someone else I don't know I don't know is what he did wrong I have said that to I've said it to you before I've said to heaps of people before I've said he did this but I don't know is that classified as wrong in what we're doing the fact I didn't know I should have been asking him so here's an interesting question so at how many weeks in how many dates

in like at what point is it acceptable to kind of reach out to someone and be like what is this are we together are you my boyfriend yeah it's that's so hard I actually have had trouble with that forever it comes when you are seeing each other multiple times a week when you've started to integrate into each other's life like maybe you've met his friends or family maybe he has met yours you've you've had public displays of affection I think things like that that's when you can say well hang on are you doing this with anyone else or are you just doing this with me when you're sleeping together multiple times a week you are 100% entitled to know if he's sleeping with someone else I don't think that there's anything wrong especially if you do want

a relationship and you are after something more serious, there's nothing wrong with having conversation pretty early on in seeing someone and being like, Oh, like I'm, I'm looking for a relationship. It doesn't have to be, I'm looking for a relationship with you. Just I'm looking for a relationship because then, yeah, then you've defined what you're after. And I think it gives that person an easy early opening to say, Oh, I'm not looking for a relationship or, Oh, okay. Yeah, I am too. Like they need to respond to that with something. And their response to that early on is going to give you a pretty clear indication as to whether or not this is going to eventuate into something be open be clear with your intentions you are completely entitled to know where you

stand in a relationship where you stand with someone and they are entitled to know what you want also if you guys are in a situationship and you're loving it and you don't want more and you just want sex you just want casual you don't really mind what else they're doing brilliant girlfriend happy days happy days there's a time and a place and it can be absolutely amazing and enjoy that time because you might never have it again yeah and I don't want people to think that we're we're here saying that they're always bad because like there's definitely been times in our lives where we've had very very like amazing consensual casual relationships that have ended well and you know they don't always end terribly and someone doesn't always have to be hurt out of

this it's part of the journey every single relationship of any kind that you have is going to teach you something and it's going to project you to where you're meant to be but contradictory to that if you're in a situationship where you know you want more and you know you're not happy with it and you know deep down that you are catching feelings and they're not you need to find a way to overcome that whether that's either asking for more and being absolutely upfront and honest regardless of what the answer is going to be or being brave enough to walk away knowing you're not going to be fulfilled in that relationship it's so important to find out the answer regardless amen emotional health ladies emotional health

you know that we never finish an episode without our suck and our sweet which is basically just our highlights and our lowlights of the week isn't it just suck and sweet as in like suck of a lemon no suck of a lemon and sweet of an orange is that what it is no it's just like suck is shitty and sweets yum and so you're reading too much into it no when we were in the batch house elise came up with suck and sweet but it was like we called it lemons and oranges same thing it's just that we always called it suck and sweet but yes laura stop trying to reinvent the wheel laura it's just sucking sweet do you have one you're like stop making this so fucking hard yeah just tell me your highlight and your low light woman okay am i starting with my low

light i always forget how do you not know the rules we've been doing this for like a year yes Yes, you always start with a low lie because you want to finish on a high. Okay, so I got booked by a ranger down in Bondi because I didn't. You were naked again, weren't you? I was running around. Needy runs. No, I was walking Buster just near the promenade and I didn't have him on a lead because he was really, really tired.

Guys, if you don't know, I have a three-legged dog. He has his leg amputated from the shoulder. and he sort of gallops yeah he's a really big dog he's like a cross between a bull mastiff and a great dame but he's very very very soft-natured he's the biggest baby sweetheart and never ever ever have i ever been booked by a ranger because usually rangers are like oh your dog is quite clearly disabled and he finds it really hard to walk on a lead because after a little while he gets super tired and he gets pulled to the side where he doesn't have a leg anyway this ranger came up and he this is it britney he pretended like he was going to pat buster

and instead he patted him was like oh nice dog and then he scanned his microchip with the little scanny thing that he carries around and i was like you are an evil man my god it was evil it was evil that is disgraceful i know like if you're gonna book me just straight up say you're gonna book i was like my dog is disabled don't fake affection like this is there are so many levels of this and i'm not okay with and anyway and then i started to get real crazy on the promenade i was like i would like to know your name and your details and look i know there's going to be some people who listen to this podcast and they're like it's the law i understand it's the law i sometimes rules are meant to be broken people i was like i want your name i'm calling the main ranger guy we ended

up getting off with a warning there's a lot of conflicting information out there about three-legged dogs and leads and whatnot is there any information about three-legged dog on a lead there's not i was like the laws do not accommodate for my disabled dog i got very theatrical on his ass and so he um yeah he didn't find me after all we got given a warning so you can't do it again i can never do it again he's poor buster it's lead time for the busty boy body power rangers there you go so that was my suck my suite is a recommendation that I actually said a couple of weeks ago which was magic Fergus is a friend of mine and Matt's he does this like live zoom magic show and we did it the other day for our staff so basically we had like a like all of our staff at Tony May the

shop has been closed I haven't seen any of the girls in weeks now and so we did a zoom staff meeting on a Friday night and did this little magic show and it was so cute and did they love they loved it and we do different tricks he did the same tricks but obviously like different people were choosing different cards and things and i still can't figure out how he does it because he's that good he's amazing so we had some of you listeners actually writing saying that you hired fergus and you had his show and you loved it so i think that's great you actually listened to our recommendations you're loving them equally i think that's brilliant what is your suck my suck this week my nana took a real turn and um within a day just had to go and get a pacemaker put in

so that happens so quickly like it really does just happen so that was a bit of a i could kick up the butt i think maybe to go and spend some more time with her and just really not take life for granted i guess but she's doing really well now and she's booked herself into the hairdresser so she's she's pretty good essential services i was like nan um i'm gonna come straight over and help you like when is good for me to turn up she's like well i've got hairdresser this day and I've got this this and I was like oh so you're doing pretty well it's like she's the recovery these days the surgery is so brilliant I take my hat off to them but also it's like such a reminder and it's I mean it's horrible that this has happened but it's such a reminder and such a

awakening as well that during this whole pandemic we are told that we have to isolate from the elderly and we can't go and see our grandparents and that they're the people they're the people who are most at risk but they're also the people who are the most alone and I think it's really important to try and like at least if you can't go and see your grandparents like make sure you're calling them there's so many people who are feeling very very lonely and alone throughout all of this for sure and a call goes a really long way way further than you can ever imagine my sweet so remember a few weeks ago i told you that um i couldn't find my fitbit i knew it was i hid my fitbit from myself because i it was vibrant i was so sick of doing walks i'm so sick

of my step count I remember being asleep like in this half slumber and I must have been getting a message that was still linked to my Fitbit so it vibrated I remember my Fitbit being I could hear it vibrating through the night I was like this is so annoying so I got up half asleep and put it somewhere that it wouldn't vibrate because I was only like semi-conscious I don't remember putting it where I put it I've lost it and the battery has now died so I can't find it so I was the other day I was going through my drawers I was like maybe I just put it in my drawer an under drawer I closed drawer I just like that you actually got up with like wouldn't you just take it off and throw it on the floor no it was already I don't I wasn't wearing it it was it was like on my

bedside table so and when it would vibrate it's like you know it would make the noise on the table and it just kept going so I went and put it somewhere and in my mind I'm like okay I'm half asleep, but I would have put it somewhere soft that it wouldn't vibrate. So I started to go through my drawers. I was going through my undie drawer, did not find my Fitbit, found $10. And it's not, I'm not even making that up. I don't know. I'm not even saying it like, it sounds like a made up story. I found $10 in my undies. I don't know how it got there. I don't know who put it there, but I was like, brilliant. That is your suite for the entire week. It's not even like $100. It's $10. It was tough times. And you can't underestimate $10. You can't even use that money

because no one's taking cash. I'm aware, I tried. I was like, Sherry, coffee's on me this morning. Got there and they're like, we don't take cash. I'm like, oh, damn it. You're like, I'd rather find my Fitbit. So I know how many steps I've done. I still can't find my Fitbit.

It's going to be the mystery of 2020. Guys, thank you for listening to another episode of Life Uncut. Do you know what I just want to say? Last week's episode, I'm just going to throw another spanner out. Last week's episode on gaslighting. If you haven't listened to it,

it's the last episode. Get it in your ears. it got such amazing feedback. I mean, I'm not surprised because there are a lot of people out there who've experienced it and there are a lot of guys out there who do it, but I really mostly guys. So yeah, for sure. Most of the guys, the studies, the studies have proven it's mostly men, but honestly, it often just surprises me just how, how much some of these topics hit home for some of you and how you find yourself as in these same situations and can relate to the stuff that we're putting out. And we feel so grateful that we're able to bring you this podcast. We feel so grateful

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