Life Will Be the Death of Me with Chelsea Handler - Minisode: Didn’t Make the Cut with Chelsea + Catherine

Episode Date: February 13, 2026

Chelsea and Catherine get an update from a caller who’s making big moves.  And a bride-to-be has to cut friends from the guest list. * Need some advice from Chelsea? Email us at [e-mail] * Executive Producer Catherine Law Edited & Engineered by Brad Dickert * * * The views and opinions expressed are solely those of the Podcast author, or individuals participating in the Podcast, and do not represent the opinions of iHeartMedia or its employees.  This Podcast should not be used as medical advice, mental health advice, mental health counseling or therapy, or as imparting any health care recommendations at all.  Individuals are advised to seek independent medical, counseling advice and/or therapy from a competent health care professional with respect to any medical condition, mental health issues, health inquiry or matter, including matters discussed on this Podcast. Guests and listeners should not rely on matters discussed in the Podcast and shall not act or shall refrain from acting based on information contained in the Podcast without first seeking independent medical advice.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Okay, guys, the High and Mighty Tour is about to begin. Tour starts on February 13th, everybody. DC, I will see you there to jump things off. February 14th, Atlantic City, which I just added. Madison, Wisconsin. Milwaukee, Wisconsin. Detroit, Michigan. Cleveland, Columbus, and Cincinnati, Ohio.

Denver, Colorado. Portland, Maine. Providence, Rhode Island. Springfield, Massachusetts. April 3rd, which is in Roanert Park, California. That has just been added. Chicago, of course. Indianapolis, Indiana.

Louisville, Kentucky. Albuquerque. Mesa, Arizona. Kansas City, Missouri, St. Louis, Missouri, Minneapolis, Minnesota, Nashville, Tennessee, Charlotte, North Carolina, Durham, North Carolina. May 6th, I'm doing Netflix is a Joke Festival. I will be in Los Angeles. That is a new announcement. Saratoga, California, Monterey, California, Modesto, California, and Port Chester, New York, Boston, Massachusetts, Portland, Oregon, and Seattle, Washington.

I will be touring from February through June. Go to chelseahandler.com for tickets. If you want to come see me perform, I will be on the High and Mighty Tour. Hi, Catherine. Welcome to a mini-sode. Welcome to a Dear Chelsea mini-sode. It's actually very exciting.

We're doing these on video now because we're on Netflix. Hi, Netflix. Hello. Hi, Netflix. Hello. I'll see you at the Netflix is a Joke Festival on the 6th of May. And people can just get tickets to that, right? On ChelseaHandler.com?

Yeah, the best place to get tickets for my show is ChelseaHandler.com, so you don't get gouged by Ticketmaster. Okay, perfect. Well, I've got some follow-ups from a couple previous callers. So one is from our Haley Lou Richardson episode. She was dating online and kind of lived in a small town and was thinking about moving to a bigger city for more opportunity. The advice had been kind of like, dip your toe in the water, set your hinge settings to a wider array of people and like the cities because you can always travel there if you're close by. So Lauren says, I just wanted to send an update that I am officially moving to Madison, Wisconsin, May 1st. I just wanted to say thanks

again for the awesome opportunity to be on the show and to Chelsea for her great advice. I see that Chelsea has a show in St. Louis on April 24th. I plan to attend with friends and can't wait thank you lauren oh great that's exciting so she moved yes yes love it love it i love it i love it yes you're always encouraging people to take big moves and it's nice to hear when people do i'm always encouraging people to move yeah that really changes the energy up it does it does you know somebody was saying this is caleb heron who i don't know if you're familiar with him he's an amazing hilarious comic but he was saying he's like i he was living in la he's like i felt like I need to just sort of shake my life up in every way, just a little bit.

So he still travels here a lot, but he moved to like Missouri and is just like having a great time. I feel like Nikki lives in St. Louis, Missouri. Nikki Glaser. I feel like she does too. I'm pretty sure she does. Yeah. Cause she wants to, yeah.

I don't know if she still does, but I think, and she wasn't living with her parents. She just moved there because she's from there. I think during COVID, a lot of people just move back to wherever they like more, you know, once you realize you don't have to be anywhere for anything. Yeah. Or like Haley Lou moved to Arizona. Yeah. Well, our next follow up is from Ethan. He called in on a mini sode. He was the guy who was having like a long distance relationship with someone in Chicago. He's in California. And they were like toying with whether the guy would move. He was very in love, very tearful. So Ethan says, Hey there, hope you're doing well. I wanted to give you an update. The boy from Chicago and I have worked everything out. We've decided to be long distance friends for now and let things develop naturally. It feels healthy and pressure free and I'm genuinely happy. happy he's still in my life just in a way that makes sense for both of us ethan so not a big

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and she's having some wedding, potential wedding drama. So she says, Dear Chelsea, I'm a 28-year-old woman and I'm getting married next year. My fiance and I are having a destination wedding, which means we're working with a strict guest cap of 100 people due to venue restrictions. We both live very full lives and have a lot of friends, so getting a final guest list took forever. I have a large friend group of about 20 girls from college.

We stayed close for the last 10 years, talk regularly in various group chats, and take annual girls trips together. There are a small handful of women from this group who I adore but don't keep up with one-on-one who didn't make the guest list. I feel confident in this decision to not invite them, and I think they'll completely understand and agree about our level of closeness. However, I'm dreading the way they'll find out. Save the dates are going out soon, and I know the group chat will inevitably be full of photos of people receiving these save the dates and general excitement around the event. I hate the idea of these few women finding out they're the only ones not invited because they didn't get one. So my question is, is it better to say nothing and let the sun fold naturally, or is there a kind, mature way to acknowledge it ahead of time without making things awkward? Does addressing it beforehand create unnecessary discomfort or is it actually the more respectful

move? I'm in a situation where it feels like I'm too close with them to not address it, but not close enough to actually invite them. You're the queen of sisterhood and what it means to be honest and a good friend, so I love your opinion, Marie. Hi, Marie. Hi. Hi.

You're so cute. Oh, my God. Thank you. You're welcome. How many of the girls did you, out of the 20 girls, were you not able to invite? Three. Okay. Which is horrible because I feel like if it was a bigger group, it was half of them. This is self-explanatory. I would just let it like play out naturally, but the like small group

makes it feel targeted and I just don't like it. Yeah. And there's no way to include them even without guests, if you could? Not really. I've just compromised so much with my fiance. say, like my friends already take up the whole event. I have to let him invite people from his life too. So I just feel like, again, I'm like confident in the decision not to invite them. And I don't think that they would be shocked. I just, I don't like the idea of, of being like, I didn't receive mine. And then I definitely think three is a tricky number to leave out out of 20. So I think that's a little sensitive. So I think you should be, you should treat it with some sensitivity and reach out to the three girls beforehand. And maybe there's something

nice you can do for them that doesn't involve inviting them to your wedding or sending them a nice card. It's a great idea. I mean, you want them to find out sooner than later, but I think you should definitely say something before. Just say, listen, it was huge compromise to get as many people as I wanted to invite to this. Like we have a limit and we have limited funds. We have a limited capacity. I know you guys will totally understand, but I just wanted to let you know that I wasn't able to invite everyone from our group you know and that makes it clear that they're not invited to the thing but I definitely think you should reach out before they find out another way and just and you can also say I know you're going to understand I'm sure have any of

the three been married have they been through this experience yeah one of them has and I think like what adds a different dynamic to this is I'm the first one that's ever not invited the whole group like we very much are a group that just we just are like come one come all we all love to hang out together so I think that's like playing in my mind a little bit I'm like I have to be the first one that's like creating some sort of right smaller group which which kind of sucks but yeah I just have never really heard I like I love your advice but I'd never really heard of somebody like telling someone they're not invited to a party before they yeah yeah I know but but I think you I think it's a nice thing to do considering that everything you keep saying just reinforces the

fact that I think you should do it. If they've all been included in everything, I think you should double down and listen, your friendship is very meaningful to me. I don't want you to take this as a sign that it's not. I still want the 20 of us to do things in groups and all of those, in your own words, obviously, but I don't want you to take not being invited to my wedding as a personal affront. I actually tried to figure out every way I could do this and it's just not possible for me to go over the amount of people that I have right now, you know, and lay it out for them. But I think it will be appreciated more so than, than them finding out because then there's awkwardness and there's tension. So like, just get rid of the tension before there

is any. Yeah. And I love the idea of sending them something, whether it's like a little box of chocolates or some flowers, and then really, really hit like the nail on the head of like, I had, there are a hundred people, my husband has a big family, et cetera, et cetera, like blame it on the venue having that cap I think is helpful too that way it's not just like oh well you know we wanted to have a small way you know it's like really there's a strict number I like it I mean I yeah I had a feeling I should address it so it kind of answers my yeah of course that's why I came here I guess um but yeah something felt wrong about just not saying anything just like happen especially because we are so active in different

group chats um I think that's just like the day and age now everything is online and in different everyone's sharing everything 24 7 so you might also think about the girls that are invited maybe just having a separate group chat being like hey not everyone from our big group is invited but i wanted to have a separate chat here since it's a destination wedding and making plans and just kind of letting them know not everybody from the group is getting a save the date but you guys will get yours soon and i'm so excited to have you etc i love it well thank you yeah okay the number's small. So it's weird. I hate that the number is three. I know. I don't like that either. So that's what's bumping me. I know. I know. I know. I know. Yeah. I would like to expand it, but I can't.

There's groups that live together. There's like a whole dynamic that I just, I'm trying to navigate. So I'm thankful though, that I have such a great group of friends. So yeah. And make sure you put that at the end of the letter. Just say, I'm really grateful. You know, this is just one of the things that I'm not able to negotiate or mess with right now. So, I mean, I hope to make it up to you in the future in some way. Yeah. Unless people say no, then they can be on the second tier, but that feels worse. Right. Yeah. Right. Yeah. I don't like this. Well, you're getting married. Try and focus on the positive, I guess. True. Very true. Yeah. All right, Marie. Thank you. Okay. Thanks for calling in. Good luck. Have so much fun. Bye. Bye. Bye. All right. Well,

That's our mini-sode for today, Chelsea. Okay, love it. Wonderful, wonderful. Okay, guys, the High and Mighty Tour is about to begin. I'm in D.C., February 13th. February 14th, Atlantic City, which I just added. 15th is Norfolk, Virginia. February 19th, Madison, Wisconsin.

February 20th is Milwaukee, Wisconsin. February 21st, Detroit, Michigan. February 22nd, Rama, Ontario. That's Canada for those of you who don't speak Canadian. March 13th, Cleveland, Ohio. March 14th, Columbus, Ohio. March 15th, Cincinnati, Ohio. And then March 20th is Denver, Colorado.

March 27th, Portland, Maine. March 28th, Providence, Rhode Island. March 29th, Springfield, Massachusetts. April 10th is Chicago. I'll be at the Chicago Theater. April 11th, Indianapolis, Indiana. April 12th, Louisville, Kentucky. April 16th is Albuquerque, New Mexico.

April 17th is Mesa, Arizona. April 23rd is Kansas City, Missouri. April 24th is St. Louis, Missouri. April 25th is Minneapolis, Minnesota. April 30th, Nashville, Tennessee. May 1st is Charlotte, North Carolina. May 2nd is Durham, North Carolina. May 6th, I'm doing Netflix is a Joke Festival.

I will be in Los Angeles. That is a new announcement. And May 15th, Saratoga, California. May 16th, Monterey, California. May 17th, Modesto, California. And then June 4th, Port Chester, New York. June 5th is Boston, Mass. And June 12th is Portland, Oregon.

And then Seattle is June 13th. So suck on that, everybody. Go to ChelseaHandler.com for tickets. If you want advice from Chelsea, write in to DearChelseaPodcast at gmail.com. Dear Chelsea is a production of iHeartMedia. Follow Chelsea on all socials at Chelsea Handler and find Catherine on TikTok at FlashCadabra.

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