Life Will Be the Death of Me with Chelsea Handler - Minisode: Two Open Wounds with Rosebud Baker and Andy Haynes

Episode Date: November 1, 2024

  Rosebud Baker and Andy Haynes close out their couples counseling session with a discussion about what it’s like raising their baby in NYC, the joy of running errands, and why bringing your kid to a restaurant is chaos.   * Need some advice from Chelsea? Email us at [e-mail] * Executive Producer Catherine Law Edited & Engineered by Brad Dickert * * * * * The views and opinions expressed are solely those of the Podcast author, or individuals participating in the Podcast, and do not represent the opinions of iHeartMedia or its employees.  This Podcast should not be used as medical advice, mental health advice, mental health counseling or therapy, or as imparting any health care recommendations at all.  Individuals are advised to seek independent medical, counseling advice and/or therapy from a competent health care professional with respect to any medical condition, mental health issues, health inquiry or matter, including matters discussed on this Podcast. Guests and listeners should not rely on matters discussed in the Podcast and shall not act or shall refrain from acting based on information contained in the Podcast without first seeking independent medical advice.    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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If your bookshelf and your For You page are equally important to your personality, welcome home. Pro Society is a weekly podcast that's part book club, part group chat for anyone who thinks Pride and Prejudice and Love Island deserve the same level of discourse. Each week, we're connecting the dots between books, the Internet and pop culture with your favorite writers, book talk creators and plenty of overthought opinions. I'm obsessed. I'm obsessed. Listen to Pro Society on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts. Welcome back to A Couple's Counseling with Chelsea. I am here with my friends, Rosebud Baker and her husband, Andy Haynes. Hi, Rosebud and Andy.

Thank you for being here today as a couple on the subject of having a baby. Like, I mean, I know you guys are married, but there's a level of permanence that comes along with the baby that kind of, so I'm curious as somebody who will never be married or have a baby, what does that shift feel like? Because before you get the baby, anyone can just leave. and yes it's it's hard to get a divorce but it's not that hard right it's actually not hard I mean anyone can do it it's achievable yeah well here's where I stand with it it's like when Andy and I are having problems if I think like worst case scenario you know like oh my god what if we're

gonna what if we get a divorce and we have to like split custody of like you know and all this shit Andy's not someone that I could ever look at and be like I never want to see you again there's never you know like I married someone and I had a baby with someone that I want in my life no matter what whatever happens so I kind of remind myself of that if there's ever a moment where we're like going through a really bumpy period and we're like oh my god what's gonna happen you know you kind of can't live in fear of that happening because if you do you will end up just like committing to a life that you don't care if you're happy in or not you know like you gotta be willing to go okay this could happen but we don't want it to we're gonna work towards not

letting that happen no matter what but if it were to happen at least I know like that that's happening with him because I love him just as a person you know like outside of now I feel like i'm getting a little too like sweet but yeah don't show your underbelly to the masses but yeah i want him in my life no matter what well i think also what you something you said is really important is that if you're so working so hard to avoid the breakdown of a relationship it's probably more inevitable you have to work with the notion that if that did happen everything would be okay and i think you have a higher chance of survival being a pragmatist about relationships right like that way you have a healthy attitude and you're like of course you don't want your relationship to

break up but you also can't look at the possibility of that as like the uh you know ending your life like it's gonna ruin everything in your life and i think a lot of couples do that they get so codependent with each other that the thought of a breakdown in the relationship is like oh no no no i'm gonna be alone i'm gonna be alone and it's like no you're not everyone's gonna everyone survives you know right and it's not like you're looking forward to it but it's understanding you have the knowledge and like the capability to handle the situation yeah it it did it did change our relationship immensely though because when we were you know like wait what did having the baby oh for sure because like i i commuted to london for six months the end of 2022 and i would be in

london for four weeks to six weeks what were you doing there i worked for a soccer team doing like making content for a soccer team and then doing comedy over there and we we wouldn't talk for four days you know sometimes like that's nice and we had a kind of relationship where it wasn't like i mean i didn't love not talking to her but it was i wasn't worried and we had a relationship where we could check in you know shoot a text every couple days and i wasn't like oh what's happening with us. And I remember when Rosebud told me she was pregnant, I was like getting ready to go back over to Europe and do a bunch of stuff. And it was like, and I hadn't told her everything like my, because it wasn't even like that. Our marriage wasn't like, where will you

be then? Where will you be like that? And, um, now it's like, where are you going to be at 2 PM today? Yeah. Like we can't leave the house without checking in with each other. That was like a huge, and i don't know why i didn't even think about that i didn't either i don't think i don't think most people think about it because you're pregnant for nine months but you're not the day you bring that baby home you're you're never leaving your house again it was so nine months isn't really enough of a preparation i know you wanted it to be shorter because your pregnancy you were dying in the end but like it's just not enough time to prepare no to have a baby in your house and you can never fucking do anything again

without checking to make sure. There's no, there's literally nothing that can prepare you for it. I just was like, I guess I thought, both of us were like, we thought like, oh, we'll have a baby there, but like, we can just like do whatever we were doing before. We just have a baby.

We'll take her to the comedy club. It's not even, it's so crazy how I can't even focus on what the thing that I want to focus on if she's around. Cause I'm just like watching her and laughing. And do you feel like you've had to make a lot of sacrifices since you've had the baby with your like personal lives or? I was saying last night, if we went to, I was like, if somebody thinks that they're ready to have a kid,

they should bring, they should go to a nice restaurant with their significant other and bring a bat on a leash. Yeah, yeah. And just see how that goes. Yeah, go to a movie theater with a dog that you give a cup of coffee. Yeah, it's like, it's just, it's nonstop. and it's the best way to describe it is it's the best thing i've ever done and it also ruined my

life you know what i mean like it's like that kind of juxtaposition it like ruined our lives for the better yeah but it fucking there's days where it sucks ass and then there's days where it's like oh my god like that's the coolest thing and it's the coolest thing i've ever seen and it's not even like it's just cool to us it's not cool to anyone else so there's something that there's something about that that like i feel like so much closer to him based off of that yeah you know i can see that it's like trauma bonding yeah it is trauma bonding yeah for sure i'll tell you this i've learned that i was doing this selfishly but all the women in marriages with babies you should know that if your husband is offering to do a lot of errands and chores it's actually it's a hack

they already know that oh they already know this okay i'm sorry yeah everyone knows that you guys aren't doing chores no we are doing that you're doing it to get a vacation you're doing chores but i get to leave you yeah oh my god i was so fucking furious that drove me fucking crazy his errand running oh my god he'd be like i have to move the car i'm like i'm moving the car i just started taking his errands that's the number one thing i miss about la is what running errands just getting in a car doing a bunch of shit oh yeah i loved it running errands really Target. Yeah, that's so weird.

Trader Joe's. He was so excited. Oh, yeah. So you must be so fucking organized, right? Your house is so organized. Yes. He's always like taking shit out of drawers and reorganizing drawers. Yeah.

It's funny because Rosebud is also organized, but it's all surface. Like you'll open a drawer and it'll just be like an old Nabisco's bag and a bubble gum and her underwear. Nine iPhones ago cords. Bubble gum in my underwear? Probably, but after it's been in the drawer for a little while. Yeah. If we're getting to the pudding blowjob.

The toffee pudding. Toffee pudding. I mean, I think you guys are going to do the toffee pudding. Someone's going to get it. We just don't know who it's going to be. We have a really nice white duvet. You have to wait for you at a hotel situation. You don't do that at your own house, obviously.

She was in a car, so that's cleanable. Right. We need some kind of booth situation where we can use the shower attachment. Let me tell you something. That's never going to happen in your life. Whatever Chelsea just suggested, it's never going to happen. I know it's not. I should have suggested it before you had a baby and before you like hit your one year

anniversary. It still wouldn't have, I wouldn't have done it. I'm going to do it to somebody. I fucking think it's great. I mean, give somebody a toffee blowjob and pour toffee and ice cream on their dick while you're, I mean, that's so nice. It was a sundae? It was like a toffee pudding situation, but it fell out of the cup.

And I just thought this is going to inspire millions. Like so many women are going to want to do that. I mean, and I'm not like, you know, a, I mean. Well, you got to find, yeah. You've got to find someone that you really want to pleasure. Right. But it's a very nice idea. For sure.

It's a really nice thing. Because think about what would happen if somebody was on the receiving end of a blowjob, a toffee pudding blowjob. That would be like one of the best days of your life. You didn't get me a birthday present. You get a Willy Wonka golden ticket and a toffee pudding blowjob? Yeah. Maybe it could be a belated. Just something for you guys to think about.

I feel like all couples need to think about it, and that's why I'm introducing it. We'll revisit when she moves out. Okay. Yeah. Go ahead. If you even still have a penis at that point. Jesus Christ. My SUV is worth more than ever.

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are you done? Are you wanting to have more children? Like what, do you have any plans? are you just being in the moment i'm i'm being in the moment but also i feel like this is i think we're one and done yeah i think we're one and done yeah it's it is an impossible job it's also like i think it's like if we stay in new york it's so much different you know if yeah if you can go someplace where like it's normal to have three and four bedrooms but manhattan is just Like it's, and it's also like, I take her out and it's like, it's already, I have a wild animal and then it's like a guy smoking crack and another guy's shitting in the corner. It's a lot.

Yeah. And it feels like I didn't want to like completely give up our lifestyle when we, when we got pregnant, I was like, look, I don't want to forget myself. I don't want to forget what, what makes me happy. I don't want you to forget what makes you happy. and i want to keep doing the things that like fill us up so that our daughter isn't like being raised by two shells you know right so i just want to like do a great job now and if at some point we're like oh i think we actually could do this again we have six baby girls in a freezer

somewhere down the embryos yeah so we can six girls that's a high number of girls yeah you're from a family of girls and you're from a family of girls yeah yeah so i guess that does add up yeah yeah but i think we're good with with one yeah i think it's just we want to do our jobs i think we're just like we spent the year getting used to this and then i think now we want to do our jobs so that our daughter sees two really happy parents i think that's kind of the goal you know and whatever that means i don't i don't know where we'll live i don't that's the nice thing about it and i don't know what would you ever consider moving out of new york yeah we've thought about it every time we come back I'm like I'm not leaving and then every time we leave

I'm like I think about it so it's you know everywhere I go I think about living yeah I mean every fucking place I go I'm like I could live here same I'm like Napa I'm like I don't know why I don't live in Napa yeah Healdsburg yeah Healdsburg I love Healdsburg man I I'm just like I love outdoor stuff so it's really hard sometimes with New York but Andy loves imagining a life somewhere else it's everywhere i think that's what we're drilling down on is that we all everyone is always fantasizing about what it would be like but we did go to seattle and it was like we got off the plane and it was like so clean and i was just like oh my god like because i'm from there and it was just like oh this is like what air used to be like yeah yeah the pacific northwest

is where it's at yeah for the clean air and for the toffee pudding blowjobs is that where the book takes place we're gonna we're gonna end on that no we're gonna end you guys this was very sentimental i really enjoyed it was it too barbara walters no not at all because you know what it's sometimes they're ridiculous and sometimes they get serious it's kind of good to have it all over the truck it's all i care is that it's sincere okay you know yeah no not at all yeah all right good we're like two open wounds i know i love it i love it thank you thank you guys for doing it i appreciate thank you for being open enough to come and do it i mean not like it's a real therapy session, but it was for us. You are talking about your dirty laundry. Yeah. And that's all for this

week with Rosebud and Andy. Tune in next time as we continue Couples Counseling with Chelsea. You can check out Rosebud and Andy's podcast. It's called Find Your Beach. Andy will be on tour in Dallas, Oklahoma City and Tulsa in September, Amsterdam on October 25th. And then he has two dates in Milwaukee in December. So check out is Instagram and TikTok at I'mAndyHaynes, H-A-Y-N-E-S, for tickets to those dates and for more. And you can find both Andy and Rosebud on YouTube. Rosebud will be taping her new special on September 16th in New York at the Village Underground. And you can get tickets to this and more of her dates at RosebudBaker.com. And you can find her on Instagram and TikTok

at RosebudBaker. Upcoming shows that I have, I'm coming to Texas, I'm coming to St. Louis in Kansas City. And then I will be in Las Vegas performing at the Chelsea Theater inside the Cosmopolitan Hotel. I'm coming to Brooklyn, New York at the King's Theater on November 8th. And I have tickets on sale throughout the end of the year in December. So if you're in a city like Philadelphia or Bethlehem or San Diego or New Orleans or Omaha, check ChelseaHandler.com for tickets. Okay. i survived nine months in captivity and i've spent my life exploring how other people survive what should have destroyed them i'm elizabeth smart and these are the survivor files every

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