Life Will Be the Death of Me with Chelsea Handler - Practicing Intuition with Laura Day

Episode Date: March 12, 2026

Laura Day joins Chelsea to talk about developing your intuition, manifesting your future, and the real purpose of the Ego.  Then: A new wife wants to take her fertility into her own hands.  A couple fears their looming vacation could make or break them.  And a terrible accident leaves a formerly childfree wife with kids to help raise.  * Pick up your copy of The Prism here! And check Laura out at:  https://lauraday.com/events https://www.instagram.com/lauradayintuit  * Need some advice from Chelsea? Email us at [e-mail] * Executive Producer Catherine Law Edited & Engineered by Brad Dickert * * * The views and opinions expressed are solely those of the Podcast author, or individuals participating in the Podcast, and do not represent the opinions of iHeartMedia or its employees.  This Podcast should not be used as medical advice, mental health advice, mental health counseling or therapy, or as imparting any health care recommendations at all.  Individuals are advised to seek independent medical, counseling advice and/or therapy from a competent health care professional with respect to any medical condition, mental health issues, health inquiry or matter, including matters discussed on this Podcast. Guests and listeners should not rely on matters discussed in the Podcast and shall not act or shall refrain from acting based on information contained in the Podcast without first seeking independent medical advice.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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May 17th, Modesto, California. And then June 4th, Port Chester, New York. June 5th is Boston, Mass. And June 12th is Portland, Oregon. And then Seattle is June 13th. So suck on that, everybody. Go to ChelseaHandler.com for tickets. Hi, Katherine.

How are you? Hi, Chelsea. You've got a full house today. I do. I'm back in Whistler. I went to Finland. Then I went to Istanbul. Then I went to LA for one night.

Then I went to Vegas for my show in Vegas. and then I'm now I'm in Whistler it's a tilt-a-whirl it's a tilt-a-whirl truly okay tell me about Istanbul because you seem like you had a really magical time there it was pretty it was pretty beautiful it was a beautiful trip it was just so cultural like you learned so much it was like a history it's not considered a Muslim country it's considered a secular country but it's it's 99.9% Muslim so they call for prayer all day long and we got like a huge history on the Ottoman Empire, the Byzantine Empire, Mehmed the Conqueror. It was like full on. And then one side is Asia, one side's Europe. So you can like be on two continents, you know, in one trip.

So yeah, it was really beautiful. Finland was absolutely stunning. One of the most beautiful, most peaceful places I've ever seen in my life. And then we went to Helsinki, not as beautiful. That felt like I was in a Russian bathhouse. There was ice everywhere. There was more ice in Helsinki than there was in Antarctica so let me just put it that way and it wasn't the good kind it was just slush everywhere was a shit show oh no so it's like warming up and getting slushy and mushy yeah yeah it was it was just all bad it was there's a black snow and all they do in Finland is sauna and karaoke so they may as well just put the karaoke inside the sauna and kill two birds with one stone and not even leave the fucking house do you have a karaoke song do you

have a go-to? No, I don't. I don't do that. I don't participate in karaoke. Don't participate. No, I don't have a good enough voice to make anyone listen to that. I know better. My dancing is bad enough, so I figure I just bless people with that. And then I'm back on the road this weekend. I'm in Cincinnati, or no, Cleveland, Columbus, and Cincinnati this weekend. So I am on the go. The LSD is here and ready to stay, guys. I got a permanent injection. I mean, And speaking of things that'll change your mental state, our guest today is an intuitive. Yes, exactly. So hopefully this will help you deal with everything that's going on in the world,

because I just keep bouncing around trying to avoid everything, which I know is not a solution, but I'm trying to gather my strength. She is an intuitive, as you said, and author of the new book. It's called The Prism, Seven Steps to Heal Your Past and Transform Your Future. Right. And you can also find free intuitive activations on her YouTube page and live events on her website at lauraday.com slash events. please welcome Laura Day. Okay. Laura Day, who is the author of The Prism, Seven Steps to

Heal Your Past and Transform Your Future. And who doesn't need to heal their past and transform their future, Catherine? I sure do. So this is a great book about, well, it's a guy, it's kind of a workbook. It gives you things to do. I've done a couple of them so far. How do you self-describe? What do you describe yourself as? I describe myself as a practicing intuitive, but nobody really knows what that means. Basically, I'm a psychic, but I hate that word. I don't own a crystal ball. It doesn't really mean anything. Really, I'm somebody who in the early 80s was an experimental subject for tests on extrasensory perception, which means your ability to move your attention in time and space, which in the early 80s, there was a lot of interest in. It was less

esoteric back then and more scientific. So practicing intuitive, and most of my books are really about how do you as a person, as a company, engage these extrasensory perceptions to create better lives as opposed to complicate your life with more theology. Right. And you talk a lot about a space and time continuum. You actually talk about quantum physics in this book. So what a perfect opportunity for you to break that down for us. Why don't you give us a mini tutorial on quantum physics? Because I think we could all use one, myself included, obviously. Well, although we experience time on a continuum, which means there's a past, present, and future, physicists would describe time really as a place where it happens now and that we move ourselves

around in that place. That doesn't mean that we can't change, that things are predestined. And it's one of the things I hate the most, the idea of predestination, you know, that somebody else is pulling your marionette strings. But what it does mean is, and there's a lot of research. I mean, I'm basically a math and science nerd. I went to Stuyvesant, which is a think tank for everyone who wears wire-rimmed spectacles. But what it really means is that we can shift things in the moment that maybe even happen, but certainly that will happen. And it's using that skill. My day job is I work for four Fortune 500 companies, and I predict the future. And that is my job. But I do it for companies because, A, they'll fire you if you're wrong. So it's your

crazy barometer. And B, I think it's very dangerous for people who aren't learning to do it in community or for themselves because people believe anything and you've got to be, skepticism is such a wonderful thing. So I really, my soapbox is do this in community, do it for yourself, do evidence-based things, make a small shift and notice what changes, be evidence-based. And I mean, you focus a lot on your thoughts, right? You know, in this book, it's all about kind of your intention and your thought and making things happen, imagining them to happen for yourself, making them happen for yourself, right? Would you say that's an accurate assessment? In the beginning, yes. In the beginning, I ask you to set three goals. And that's because goals

are the container for our efforts. You know, when we don't have goals, we're just scattering our energy everywhere. But after that, this is really, I think the big difference between this and most self-help is this isn't about changing yourself because you can't change a broken system with a broken tool. It's about do something different and then notice what happens. So identify what it is you want to change and then try one small action that's different and notice how the world around you responds. Because one of the things that all sciences are now agreeing on, even biology and medicine, which is miraculous, I come from a huge line of doctors and changing their minds is nearly impossible, is that we live in an interconnected world. So really a tiny change doesn't just change

you, it changes everything around you. Because I know that things are interconnected, I made my mantra, wow, yes. So every time, and I'm someone who says no to everything, every time somebody would say, why don't you try this? Or please come here or please speak here. I'd say, wow, yes. You need a catalyst, something outside of yourself. You cannot think or act outside the box. You are the box. You are the prism. A catalyst is so important. And that's why I write self-help is because it is a catalyst. You do something different. And I always tell people,

pick the thing where you say, oh my God, a psychic did write this book. I cannot even believe she's asking me to try this. Pick the thing that really you go, yuck, that doesn't resonate with you. Because if it resonates with you, it resonates with an old you. Oh, interesting.

Okay. Okay, wait, let's circle back to the quantum physics, linear time-space continuum. Because what you said was basically, we all, our conscious sentient beings here, think, okay, we're in a time continuum where it's a linear. Today's Monday, tomorrow's Tuesday, the next day's Wednesday. That idea. So I want to have a better understanding of how you see things. I wish I could say I was wise. People confuse intuition with wisdom. Intuition is where someone

gives you a question or target and your attention goes someplace and you report and it responds to that target. It doesn't become part of you. My husband's wise. I'm not. You give me a question and my attention goes there and I can describe it and it's usually accurate. I don't experience intuition as mystical at all. It's like almost being in a multidimensional graph and you go to a different place on the graph. And most of what I work with, you know, although, you know, now that I'm 66, I let myself be, have fun with a little more of the esoteric. God knows when I was 20 and working with companies, I didn't. I didn't even speak about some of my more esoteric experiences. And I always pray that my companies don't watch my Instagram. But, um, you, you and

me both, sister. But my experience of intuition is just that it's data. When people are talking about things, for example, I have a multisensory experience of them. When people lie to me, unless I'm intimately involved with them, in which case I have no boundaries, so I can be taken advantage of easily. But when people lie to me where it's one step removed, I know because I'm seeing the film or experiencing what actually happened. There's a myth that an intuitive knows everything about you. They don't. It's like having one piece of a puzzle, the piece you want them to look at that you ask

about, or if you're not asking anything, the piece you're most stressed about, you know, that gathers the most attention. But, you know, everybody has these experiences. And when I was in my early 20s and I was being studied and, you know, the universities would say, well, I mean, basically they were saying, oh, she's a freak, so she can do this, but most people can't. And my first book is taking the experience from the tests done on me and getting everybody to do them because everybody can do this. It's just, we train intellect, we train socialization, we train all of those things over a lifetime. We don't train our intuition. And that

is dangerous because, I mean, I'm sure that everyone, especially women who are more aware of it, have had the experience of you're doing something that someone else wants you to do that they haven't even expressed that they want you to do. That's completely not in your best interest, but it feels like your decision. That's telepathy. That's that porosity that we have. And we actually are very porous. And there's a lot of research. You can go on PubMed, for example, and search precognition science, search telepathy science. There's a lot of research now. And when I started in the early 80s, a lot of it was descriptive.

So you would be given coordinates and you'd describe what was there. But now they have tests and they name them these really complex things that you would have trouble looking up. But they have tests where because we have the instrumentation, representation, you can see that your brain reacts to a photograph that a computer will randomly generate next. So the computer hasn't generated the photograph, but if it's a horrific one, you can see that the brain reaction happens in advance. And when people train this skill, which is why I think it's so important to train it, A, we live in the moment, which is where our

power is. You know, your power is not in the past. Your power is not in the future. Your power is in the moment. Of course, you know, having a sense of the future helps you strategize and recontextualizing the past helps you function because we have, you know, we're not taught to be the heroes of our own stories. We are, even if you were victimized. I come from a family of suicides. If you are standing here you are the hero of your own story you are doing well enough and and so the past is important in terms of that present context because when you are empowered now all of a sudden your vision opens up and you know the reason i like the the metaphor of the prism is the prism refracts things and takes in things. And your prism is formed in the first seven years of your life.

You want, the minute that you have an ego and I, you want to start saying, okay, this is what I want. I have these beliefs that I may not even be aware of, but what's functional right now to have the things I want in my life? And that always, again, takes a catalyst. my suv is worth more than ever time to upgrade there's never been a better time at plaza auto group locations get top value for your trade and shop hundreds of new and pre-owned vehicles across 11 locations and if you can't come to us we'll come to you with best-in-class pricing unbeatable trade values and 70 years of trust it's easy to see why families choose the plaza auto group plaza auto group celebrating 70 years family owned and operated visit plazaautogroup.com

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letting them do our show we've had a lot of great guests like sarah sherman not that great actually can you help me can you help me shape this how about we flip it on his head okay how about we flip the script okay what if the surprise woman who actually you think is the straight man is actually the one who's acting weird adam scott this entire time you've been expecting adam sandler to come to visit the show i i would never let go of that i have i would never set expectations for something like that it seems like if the universe allows for something like that to happen i'm open to it i'm always going to accept you know danny mcbride fine yeah it's all this fragile masculinity exuding i could smell it walking down the hallway to be honest

i was like is that weed nope it's fragile masculinity ben stiller no because a lot of times in out of context people don't get it or even know what a circle is you know what i mean like you're like oh what's the state everyone's so dumb except for you fake right fake and and also not interested or just like oh i've got my life i don't care about your life and a lot of other big shots that wouldn't be where they are without us oh and by the way will ferrell told us personally he loves the show and he wants to be a guest on every episode but he's just so busy listen to hollywood handbook on the iheart radio app apple podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts you talk about ego in the book and that it's not a bad thing so let's talk about why it is a good

thing to have an ego okay so um when people talk about spirit what they're really talking about is energy. They're talking about that oneness of energy. And the oneness of energy, though, it isn't doing anything. It's blended. It's perfect at the stage it's at. Ego is really a mechanical structure, which we are. We're spiritual beings, but spirit is energy. It's a structure that allows us to create. Without an I, you can't create anything. You're just an amorphous mass. So the ego is I love, I create, I want, I hate, I believe in, I fight for anything that is an I. It is literally the structure. It's how we take in information because, of course, you put 20 people in the same room and everyone experiences it differently. So it's the facets

through which we take in information, but it's also what we put out and what we create outwardly. So people without strong egos are really, I mean, intuitives, for example, don't have strong egos because part of the reason they're intuitive is they had to survive early and they didn't get to form that sense of I. When you're born, the difference between you and your environment, you don't sense a difference. There's no mechanism for, I am separate from my caretakers. I'm separate from this bed. You know, you have some drives, but you don't have a separateness. So your separateness is your ego. And if you're not separate, you can't create.

You know, people always say, oh, I'm just one with my partner. I'm thinking that relationship's going to be in trouble. because you can't have a relationship unless you're separate. You can't impact something unless you're separate. So your ego are all those parts of you that create and that interpret. And it's so important. Ego gets a bad name because we think of ego as damaged ego. Or just as it has a negative connotation, right? Egotistical. Yeah. Egoist, egotistical. There's an egoist and then there's an egotist. I've looked up the difference between those two things a couple of times. Because I think when you think about

spirituality, I know in my experience, it's always connected to like the most spiritual people are supposed to be devoid of an ego. Like if you think about the Dalai Lama or you think about, you know, monks, like that's the idea, right? Is that they have no ego. They're just spiritual beings. Of course, we know from the news, and I'm not talking about the Dalai Lama here, who knows, but we know from the news that a lot of those pure spiritual beings are amassing wealth and doing very non-spiritual things. I mean, if you think about being in a physical reality, in a physical world, spirituality should be the commercial break, and interaction, creating things, being in community, dealing with your basic needs while still being a generous part

of your community, so much harder. Unity is easy. Transcending ourselves, our egos, that's easy. Good head injury will do that for you. Drugs will do it for you. Lots of things will do it for you. What's really hard is being true to yourself and negotiating all the time, which is what we have to do. How can I be the person I want to be and still get my needs met and still be part of this community because we are communal animals and we are interconnected? That's really the difficult part. This is my bias because I think life is really hard enough without having to breathe a certain way for half an hour, do yoga for an hour, chant for an hour. I mean, I just, I would have to give up hygiene. You know, I think it's hard enough to deal with this life without thinking, what did I do in a past life?

And so I really deserve that. Or am I worthy of? And my bias is really if it doesn't help you create more soundly in your community, in your life, then what is it doing for you? We spend a lot of time fixing ourselves, but I think we live in a world, and my experience as a teacher, is that we fix ourselves in relationship to our lives, to our world, and to one another. And that removing yourself to fix yourself idea, for me, it doesn't feel like it works. I mean, certainly my husband is a longtime meditator and it's like not so secret anymore because he has a big mouth wife, but he is a, you know, expert teacher other than a screenwriter, a gojifian, this really intricate kind of meditation. And I get why he meditates because he's using his brain all the time and it's like a whiteout for his brain. And I get that.

20 minutes. But devoting your life to not being present, I don't quite understand. Devoting your life to not being present in order to be present. It's very confounding. It's like quantum physics. I'm like, I can't get a, you know, I don't mean to interrupt you, but like I was watching this show last night at my friend's house and we were saying, somebody mentioned being in a simulation, right?

That we're all in this. What if we're all in a simulation? And I'm like, well, who gives a shit if we're in a simulation? We're not going to know about it and we're in it. So let's have a good time while we're here, right? But with relation to quantum, sorry to keep circling back on quantum physics. I know you're not a scientist or a physicist.

I'm not a physicist. But I want you to just convey your understanding to, or, you know, help me with your understanding of actual, like when you say we're not, you know, time isn't linear. Like I want my listeners to have a clear understanding of what the other possibility is. Okay, so the other possibility, So all of you are sitting here right now. Whether you're aware of it consciously or not, there's a part of you that already knows your future. And there's a part of you that actually can take other people's position in your past.

there's a part of you that may even be in many different lives that you're not aware of because the brain really is a limiting organ when you think about intuition. And what that means in reality is that if you're living fear-based, and I'm a very fear-based person. I was born to save a suicidal, manic-depressive mother who had to be told to get dressed before walking out the door. So, I mean, I'm totally fear-based, but I do my own work. I have goals. And so what the goals do is they notice in my future, without my having to be conscious of it, they notice this future that exists already, because time is a place, doesn't create that goal. This future does because there are infinite futures and it informs my present. Now, is it something that

I'm always conscious of? No, I'm the kind of person who can walk into a wall. Someone once told me that you can stab me in the back. I'm furious. I want to get back at you. Then a moment later, I forget it. I sharpen the blade. I look for who it belongs to. I give it back to them, and then I get stabbed in the back again. But I've somewhat grown out of that. But you pick, you know, we don't pick our futures, even though we have an infinite amount, because our future is often based on what we've been patterned to see and experience. But what intuition shows us, and I've been a practicing intuitive for really almost 50 years now, is that there are so many futures. And the fact is that the reason what I do works, that I can predict accurately, is I'm

predicting a future that one person can't change. So when you're predicting a large market, one person can't change that you as an individual can change your future because you have infinite futures but you are you're aware of them but your brain limits that the other thing is what i call mediumship which is different than the traditional explanation which is you know all of you if you just notice for a minute one moment you're suddenly anxious and then you think of your friend And a moment later, your friend calls you out of the blue and says, I've just had a car accident. So we're so porous. So what we think of as our experience, our thoughts, our bodies are actually not often totally our own. And again, learning how to train that, learning how to have a stronger filter in your prism allows you to choose where in reality your attention is and where it should be is in you in this point in space-time. So basically what intuition is is all five of your senses.

It's not a sixth sense, no such thing. But they move around. You're much more mobile than you think you are. And you can improve upon it, you know, with, with, with, first of all, with this book, the prism, which are the seven steps to heal your past and transform your future. So I get an understanding, I'm getting a better understanding of like your explanation of it, which you describe in the book, but you know, throughout the course of the book. But I also think one of the points that you're, you're making is that what you, and I believe

this, that you can improve upon your intuition by being more aware of it, right? And your porousness, Like it is it's just like anything in life. If you go and play tennis every day for six years, you're going to get better at tennis, just like you're going to get better at intuition and intuitiveness if you are actually paying attention to it. And also, there are two things. One, if you never saw a door before, you wouldn't know how to open it. And that's what intuition is. We don't have receptors for certain things. Like, people give me so much help and so much love, but when I was little, I had no receptors for the generosity of others. I was the oldest of four children born in four and a half years in a traumatized home. Now, I feel like I have way too much almost goodwill and gifts because I grew receptors for that. So, one of the things that doing something different does for you that doesn't resonate with you, because that's an old you, is it allows something to bump into you and open that receptor for what you thought wasn't there. It was like when I was single at 50 and someone said, oh, there are no men out there. It's like, thank God I'm so out of touch with common reality because that was not my experience.

And, you know, I was going through so much that was online at the time that if you searched me, you certainly wouldn't date me. I'm psychic, for God's sake, you know. So it was, you know, we do create our reality. And that is such a very important. And it's not easy. You know, of course, we have those old triggers. But you can change it.

The other thing is, I do something every morning and whenever I'm feeling off, which is I say, who's inside of me? Because we are porous. So who does this feel like? Is this my anxiety? Because anxiety is supposed to show you the danger and have you do something about it. So anxiety shouldn't be a constant state, which for me it often is. And sometimes it's caused by other people's anxiety. That's what I'm saying. So I say, who's inside of me? And then I notice, who am I arguing with? Who am I having a negative discussion with? Negative being they're saying something about me. what's running through my head? And is it helpful? Because if not, let me redirect it

to a helpful discussion. Where am I? Because if I'm not in this room speaking to you, if I'm astral projection or remote viewing, if I'm somewhere else, then my power is not in creating my life. So where am I? And practicing mindfulness, which is not meditation, and it's not just awareness. Active mindfulness is being in yourself and then shifting your position if you notice mindfully that your back hurts or taking a breath if you notice that you're stressed, really making the moment powerfully work for you. And then also, what time zone am I in? Because the only time zone you can make a difference is in the present. Past is easy. You don't have to do anything. Future is easy. You don't have to do anything. And on some level, being in someone else's life is easy

because you don't have to do anything. It's all kind of toxic unless you're directing it toward your goals, but it's easy. But being present is hard because you've got to do something about it. But when you do and when you document it, other important point, memory is so misleading. You know, document. When you have a goal, document the things that come from left field. Notice and document. And document those kind of out-of-the-blue senses of what may happen. And allow yourself to place them in time. You know, people confuse intuition with vagueness. And I always get all my students about this. You know, they give readings like, I see love. I see you need to drink more water. No. Intuition is there's a deal you're trying to make. It's going to happen mid-September. You're getting paranoid about the delay, but the delay is really fine. I get a J involved in it. Like, it's really just all of these little data points that you spit out. But when you're doing it for yourself, you need to write them down. And what you find, like I review my data points when I'm neurotic every day, when I'm less neurotic every week, and I notice, oh, I hit here, I hit here, I hit here. This is precognitive in a way I can trust it.

Or, whoa, I was way off here. That lets me know that there's a part of my prism that's not clear, that's not working, Where I am, you know, we repress what is painful to see, which is legit, you know. Right. Okay. On that note, we're going to take a break and we'll be right back with Laura Day. My SUV is worth more than ever. Time to upgrade?

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you smiled at us. Not a lot of people smile around here. It's when you're alone that you're most receptive to the world as it is and not the lies you're sold about it. It can be a time where you push your limits, change your mind, or wake up to a new version of yourself. So whether you're a solo travel veteran or you're too nervous to book your first trip, I hope you listen to Solita on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. And we're back with Laura Day. She's written several books. The most recent book is called The Prism, Seven Steps to Heal Your Past and Transform Your Future. Are we going to do

callers? Yeah, we've got callers. Okay, great. Laura, are you ready? We're going to have some callers call in to get your sagacious advice. So our first caller is Katie. She says, Dear Chelsea. I always think it's funny how many people ask Chelsea advice on having kids, parenting, et cetera, when she's so clearly not about that life. And here I am asking for myself. Here's my issue. I've been with my partner for almost six years. We have a really beautiful, healthy relationship, and I'm so grateful for everything we've shared. We've always talked about wanting to have kids, and he used to say, eventually. When I was in my 20s, I didn't feel any rush. Now I'm 32, turning 33 this year, and I feel ready to start a family. Although our

finances aren't exactly where I'd like to have them be, I trust we'll have what we'll need. The problem is he says he doesn't feel ready and probably won't be ready for at least two more years. I don't want to wait until I'm 34 or 35 when getting pregnant could be a lot harder, especially because I want to have two or three kids. Based on my tests, the fertility doctor we met with recommends trying to get pregnant now or freezing my eggs or embryos if we want to wait, but we both have agreed we don't want to do IVF. I'm feeling powerless and feelings of resentment are creeping in as it feels like he could be taking away the possibility of us having kids naturally, even though I know he can't help not feeling ready. I saw the quote, being ready isn't

a feeling, it's a choice. And since we agree we want to have kids and are up against a biological clock, it just seems time to make the choice. What if we can't get pregnant naturally if we wait one or two years? How can we preserve our relationship despite this major disagreement? Okay, I've got the idea. Okay. Perfect. Bye. So, Katie, this really isn't an intuitive issue. Using the prism, you go to the second ego center. And the second ego center is really, how am I being nourished and what are my boundaries?

And I think that really just from all of those words, what's really clear is you do have a biological clock. There are realities. Either you guys freeze eggs and zygotes, or this is a bigger relationship issue, which clearly has to be dealt with now. And I think my gut is that you're in a kind of anxious-avoidant balance in general. You anxious, your partner avoidant. And that's a very hard balance to get out of. So I would do the second ego center and start with what are creative solutions, but also what are my boundaries? What am I able to do on my own? Because you've given your power away here. My partner this, my partner that. And again, this is just one person listening because this isn't an intuitive issue. There are too many facts. Yes, miracles happen, but there

is a biological clock. So what I would do is do the second eco-center, which is how am I being nourished in my life entirely? Let me deal with that issue. Let me deal with boundaries. And it sounds to me like your boundary is, I want a family. And so I'm going to have to make some difficult choices. We make contracts in relationships, but I think this is a you issue, not a couple's issue. You know, you need to decide for yourself that having the kind of life you want because having a child is a life choice. And what you want is more important because the reality is what you're being told doesn't make sense. There is a biological clock. I would add to that, Katie. First of all, I mean, I don't think it's just a you issue. I think this

is actually something that you should bring to a couples therapist with your husband because he doesn't get to make that decision for you. You're in a marriage. You're in a union. You've made an agreement to have a life together and to, with the understanding that you were going to build a family and putting your life and, and like, and your fertility kind of postponing that when you're kind of in your prime and kind of leaving your prime soon. That's not to say you can't have a baby when you're 38 or 39, who knows? Maybe you can, maybe you're one of those women that will be easily able to get pregnant. But like, it's not fair that he gets to make that call when you're the one carrying the baby, when you're the one who's ready, no one's fucking ready

to have a baby. No matter how long you prepare, nine months is not enough time to have a baby walking the house. And they're not walking, I know, but they may as well be at that point because that's what an impediment it becomes. Yeah. What I mean by you issue is don't give that power away to him. Yes. Yeah. You know, this is about, this is about you and a partner, a partner needs to respond to that. It's fine to say, well, one day, but one day that's not, that doesn't respond to the you you are that's some mythical creature yes and you've also been together for six years so it's like it's not like you're in this marriage and you're like all right you're not rushing you're not changing the game plan this has been the game plan and you're trying to stick to the

game plan even though you're not financially ready i loved what you said about i i trust that we will be fine and that everything but we need will be provided for us i think that's such a great attitude to have about everything and i really do think that you when when laura speaks about boundaries? Absolutely. Like this is a boundary. You're ready and you want to start trying. And that doesn't mean you're going to have a baby by the end of the year. And one of the things that I, the Prism Life, asks you to do is look at what the can-do is. Check your insurance right now. It may be in vitro, you know, maybe the harvesting is covered. Look at those things right now when perhaps you're in a position where you have the right insurance. Like

really deal again with the you issue, which is I want to make sure I retain this ability to have something I want in my life. Because we mystify things, we magicalize them, and we emotionalize them. And then it distracts us from just doing the bare bones things that really can safeguard us in our daily life. And Katie, I also want to say, last weekend I was at a baby shower. There were 10 women there, three of whom were pregnant, all three in their 30s, all three pregnant through IVF. I know you say you don't want to have to do that, but IVF is not something people want to do. It's something people have to do when they really want to create a family. Everyone would opt for the free baby instead of the $100,000 baby, but I would really, really encourage you to go freeze

your eggs and maybe not even embryos at this point. If money is an issue, there are some places that do what they call a split program where you go and donate your eggs and like half of your eggs get donated to someone who needs a donor egg. And then, you know, you keep half of them and it's, I think, low cost or free to be able to freeze your eggs. So I would very like intensely encourage you because when you freeze your eggs, you're freezing them at the age you are now. And so when you go to use them later on, you have these sort of quote unquote younger eggs. so katie also i don't think this is a one-off issue i think this is about you know i think this has happened in so many different things in your relationship and and dealing with that issue

is super important oh okay are you already in couples therapy no i'm in my own personal therapy but we haven't done couples therapy yet but he's open to it good but also there's a time element that i think you should address right away like that's not you know because you don't want things to delay. This is about, this is about you. And I think we're often not taught, especially as women to make things about us. This is about, this is about you preserving your choices and not having things withheld from you. You know, we don't wait around for any man, even when we're married too. There you go. I like that motto. Thanks Katie for calling in. Thank you so much. Can I give a suggestion. If we do it shorter, because really intuition works in the absence of information,

so does the prism. It's what's the issue and you go to that target. Okay. What I can do too is I'll kind of give you like the bullet points of the email. Does that feel a little bit more on like- Perfect. That'd be great. Okay. So our next caller is Erica with a K. She's at a crossroads in her marriage, feels that they are sort of best friends and roommates, and she feels like that's a great thing, but her husband feels like maybe that's a reason they should split up. They're sort of waffling between separation and divorce, but are kind of trying to give it another try.

Yeah, I think that that kind of sums it up. Hi, Erica. We have Laura Day, our special guest today. She's an intuitive. My intuitive gut is that there's really deep love and attachment between the two of you, but also a lot of disappointment on both of your parts. And that's a very difficult thing to work with because I think I think that neither of you are really working to be together you're both in your own disappointments and and really focusing I think more I think the trip maybe may put a lot of pressure on you whereas focusing in therapy on doing things that build common values I think both of you had so many plans of what you were going to build and to

some degree, a lot of that didn't work out, wasn't in sync. So I would work on the fourth ego center, which is really about worth and value, each of you working on your own worth in the world and bringing it back to each other. Because I think that that will, in a strange way, the marriage is the elephant in the room. It's really about each of you being a little bit disappointed about your own lives. And I think if you work on your life and your partner works on their life, that that's going to be much more helpful to each of you and to the relationship. And I would do the fourth ego center in the prism, which is about, you know, what do I value? How am I valued? And how do I create that sense of value in the world? Does that make sense to you? Yeah. You

You know, I agree that we probably are putting pressure on this trip for something to come up of it and to maybe save us and that we have maybe not independently grown as two individual adults and have been a little dependent on each other as we've grown up. And it's only been us. We're childless. Family is an hour away. So we've been very dependent on each other. That's not a bad thing.

I think more than anything, it's that you've been dependent on each other, but you're both a little disappointed in your lives. It's not even just your marriage. It's your lives. And I think that if you helped each other work on your lives, that's really going to be the key to the excitement coming up. You know, you're getting some help to do the things you want in your life, and your partner getting some help also. That was actually initially the spark in the relationship is that you're both such rich people. And that, I think, would be – so if you've planned this trip and you're going on this trip, what are your goals right now? What are your partner's goals right now?

How do you make this trip about not about the marriage but about helping each other find what you need in the world? I really think that's going to be more bonding. And again, that's one intuitive's sense of things, because there's a lot of love. I go into a lot of relationships, and it surprises me how little kind of respect and love there is in a lot of relationships. There's a lot of respect and love in your relationship. it's that you're there's a lot of disappointment that doesn't have to do with one another it's just because you're a pair it gets projected on one another you know it's really about your your your lives and the wonderful people you are and how you haven't been able to express that and be valued for that in the world so make that trip this trip about doing that not about your marriage don't worry about your marriage for right now make it about wow how do we spread what it is we want

to do as individuals in the world together, and how do we support each other? I really think that that, and either way things work out, that's going to be a better foundation for it. Agreed. I think so too. Thank you. Thank you for sharing. That's a big deal to share that kind of vulnerability. I think also like a fun exercise for you guys to do together that is a separate activity, but you'll both do it, is like while you're on this vacation, every morning do like a gratitude journal. Like what do you want to happen today? What, what would make today great? What are you focused on today? Like what are your intentions for the day? You guys do these separately,

but you have your, each have your own journal. And then again at night, like what made today special? What was your highlight of the day? What are you grateful for today? Like, I feel like that those kinds of things are unifying when done separately as like a couple or even with the friendships, like do something that takes you out of your comfort zone while you're on this trip so that you can also focus on other things rather than focusing just on your relationship. Okay. Thank you. I like that. We can do that. You know, and then you could compare notes and stuff and talk about it. And like, that's another way to connect that you probably haven't tried yet. And it's make, and it's

reminds you of like all that you have to be grateful for and all the like rich experiences. It could be the beach that you go to one day, or it could be a restaurant that you go to. And that's fine too. But like expressing that is a, is a nice exercise. Yeah, we'll do that. And I hope you have a great vacation. I think we will. We're really looking forward to it. All right.

Thank you, Erica. Thanks, Erica. Bye. Well, our last caller today is Cindy. And Cindy is 48. I'll give you the broad strokes. So she is in a really big life situation. So she recently ended a relationship of six years after a family tragedy.

her partner lost both her son and daughter in like motorbike accidents about four months apart and they found themselves caring for two young children Cindy never really wanted to raise kids and so that was part of her deciding to leave the relationship but also because it just didn't feel like the right relationship anymore so she's struggling with two things how to sort of still be a part of these kids' lives because she does love them, but also maintaining a friendship with her ex and being there to be emotionally supportive to her. So hi, Cindy. We've got Laura Day here. She's an intuitive. Oh, hi. Hello, everybody. Hi. I think that what you're really talking about is wanting to be part of a foundation, but having for the children,

for your ex, and having them be a part of a foundation for you, but in a way that's doable for you but my sense is that getting into the emotions of it is not helpful right now but what your ex could really use help with and maybe can't admit this too much is organization and if you could just like that is sometimes the most wonderful gift is is without processing because I think there's a lot of tangles there's a lot of brambles you can get into here but if you just offer to do things that are things you want to do so they're foundational for you too because I think that that you're as you stated your resentment gets in the way but I do think that this is family for you and that that's important to you and that it's part of your

foundation and part of your identity. So if you honestly say, what are the ways that I can give what's needed, which is kind of organizational support, set the boundary of I'm only going to do what's really life-sustaining for me because otherwise I'm going to resent it, I think you'll find that there's a lot of crossover in what you want to do and what these children and your former partner need. Yeah, that makes sense. That makes a lot of sense. Are you dealing with any anger from your former partner about leaving the relationship? Her anger towards me? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, I am. She, you know, she reminds me a lot of times like, oh yeah, well, you don't want to, before I left, there was like about eight months where we, where I was trying to separate

and she's like, oh yeah, I forgot. You don't want to be here anymore. So that kind of, you know, that type of stuff going on. Yeah, that's a really hard decision to make. And I mean, I'm happy for you that you were able to make that decision in your best interest because it can be a complicated decision to make

and a lot of hurt feelings left behind. So it's good that you took the steps to take care of yourself in the first place and then are trying to show up in the ways that you can now. okay well i mean i wish you well and i i hope that i hope that you just you know moving forward you really just take it with you to move with love you know to move with love towards them because her feelings are going to be of abandonment right and she's gonna and the kids and all of that but to move forward in a really loving way and if and if at any time she asks you for the space

and to not be involved or if there's somebody else in the picture like to always remember to be respectful of that as well. Because that's her, she's in this and she doesn't really have a choice in the matter. So you can try to be as supportive as possible. But if she doesn't want that, you know, support from you, then you also have to accept that. Right. Absolutely. Absolutely. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. Well, thank you for calling in. And I'm so sorry about all of those things that have happened. Wow. That's a lot to handle. A lot. Thank you. Yes. Yeah. It was a lot, but thank you. I appreciate you. Thanks, Cindy. All right. Okay. Thanks. We're going to take a break and we'll be right back to wrap up with Laura Day. The Hard Rock Bet Casino app is here,

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and Love Island deserve the same level of discourse. I'm Eli Rallo, and every week we're connecting the dots between books, the internet, and the conversations everyone can't stop having. I'm going to have to look up this story. I'm obsessed, I'm obsessed. From best-selling authors and your favorite book talk creators

to the latest pop culture moments, nothing is off the table. It's like if you can hide some real messages inside compelling characters, then that is a Trojan horse. Whether you're looking for literary deep dives, smart pop culture conversations or a community of readers who love to think a little too much, you're in the right place. Listen to Pro Society on the iHeartRadio app,

Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. See you between the pages. On the new podcast, Solita, we share the messy reality of traveling alone as a woman. I can wait four hours for the next bus or this random dude is offering me a ride on his motorcycle, I chose option B. I'm Julie Pinheiro, and I travel by myself because it's a rare space where I can say yes without asking anyone else first. I'm on a mission to reclaim the word solita, trading the pity for possibility. Every time I tried to be alone, I kept meeting people and they were like, you smiled at us. Not a lot of people smile around here. It's when you're alone that you're most receptive to the world as it is and not the lies you're sold about it. It can be

a time where you push your limits, change your mind, or wake up to a new version of yourself. So whether you're a solo travel veteran or you're too nervous to book your first trip, I hope you listen to Solita on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Okay, and we're back. So Laura Day, the book is called The Prism, Seven Steps to Heal Your Past and Transform Your Future. And it's a guide, it's self-help, It's how to, how to just kind of really focus on what you want out of life and how you're going to get it, you know? And I think that that helps really change your frequency when you have an idea, you

know, I've never been somebody who makes like a list of goals or I'm kind of like fly by the seat of my pants, but that seems to have worked out for me more often than it hasn't. I mean, of course there's been, you know, ups and downs with everything, but the idea of actually really, you know, I wish when I was younger, I had all of this information that's in this book and the knowledge to know that like when you are patient with yourself and you are very aware of what you want out of life and what your intentions are, that has a grand impact on the outcome of them. So what's really important to realize is a miracle does take a moment. Bumping into your love, sitting next to someone who has the job offer on the train,

you know, bumping into a social worker at a cafe who can solve your mortgage problem. I mean, a miracle really takes a moment. We tend to get stuck in this idea that now is forever, for better or for worse, now is not forever. And your next move dictates your future. Yes. Okay. Well, thank you so much, Laura Day. Thanks for being here today. Thank you for having me. Take care. Okay, guys, I am officially on my high and mighty tour. March 13th, Cleveland, Ohio. March 14th, columbus ohio march 15th cincinnati ohio and then march 20th is denver colorado march 27th portland

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