Life.Church with Craig Groeschel - When Christians Let You Down | Doubting God: Part 4

Episode Date: May 8, 2022

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The biggest complaint about the church from many people around the world, unfortunately, is they would say that the church is full of a bunch of narrow-minded, judgmental hypocrites. We are in a message series called Doubting God. And sadly, there are many people who doubt God because there are Christians who claim one thing and they live another. Have you ever noticed that? There are people who say, hey, this is what we're in.

about, but then the way they live, they do something entirely different. And this can honestly be very, very confusing. You may have seen it somewhere in your own life. You might have a classmate that posts Bible verses nonstop on Instagram during the week and then parties her little brain out on the weekend. And you say that's a little bit confusing. Or you might have worked for a boss that talked all about Jesus in the business and then treated the employees with disrespect. And that can confusing. Or it might have been a dad that corrected his daughter for dressing immodestly, and they found out later the dad had a porn problem, and that's confusing. Or sadly, it might be a pastor that you admired and you looked up to and you found out the pastor wasn't living

the life that the pastor was claiming to live, and that can be very confusing. It's a little bit like a gym that I read about. Why do you go to the gym? You go to the gym to get in shape, right? I read about a gym that has free pizza Friday. That's confusing to me, honestly. It's confusing. I got some hope is alive people here today that are celebrating sobriety and we're really excited about sobriety. It would be a little bit like going to an AA meeting

and having margarita Monday. Or Tequila Tuesday or Whiskey Sour Wednesday. Stop me, I could go on all week long. I've been there before. It's a little bit confusing when people claim one thing and then they end up doing something else. And sometimes a world that would like to believe in God looks on at the people of God

and says you claim one thing, you do something different, and that's confusing. And tragically, when some people think of the church today, they think of scandals, they think of abuse, corruption, hypocrisy, judgment, and hate. And people look on and scratch their head confused and say, if Jesus came full of great, grace and truth. Why do so many Christians seem to be full of hate and lies? In fact, there's a piercing

quote by an author named Bryden Manning, and he wrote this. He said, the single greatest cause of atheism in the world is Christians who acknowledge Jesus with their lips, then walk out the door and deny them by their lifestyle. This is what an unbelieving world simply finds unbelievable. And that's why the title of today's message is, when Christians let you down. Let's all pray. Father, we ask that in your presence, and by the power of your living word, that your Holy Spirit would help heal those who are hurting, give me wisdom, God, to teach your word in a consistent manner with your heart that lives would be changed and Jesus would be glorified. We pray this in his name. And everybody who agrees says, amen, amen. If you've ever been

confused and maybe hurt, disappointed or disillusioned by Christians that don't live like Jesus, you're not alone. Jesus didn't like it when people claimed one thing and lived another. In fact, when you look at the gospels, Jesus never spoke more harshly about anyone or anything than he did, those that he called hypocrites. In fact, in Matthew chapter 23, there's what theologians call the seven woes. Seven different times Jesus said, woe, to those who are claiming one thing and living something else. This is what he said in verse 27. He said, what sorrow awaits you, teachers of religious law and you Pharisees. Then he calls him hypocrites. Now watch what he says. for you are like whitewashed tombs, beautiful on the outside, but filled on the inside with dead people's bones and all sorts of impurity.

You're putting on a good show, but on the inside you're filthy and you're so far from God. He said, outwardly, you look like righteous people, but inwardly your hearts are filled with hypocrisy and lawlessness. 17 different times in the Bible you'll see the word hypocrite. Every time you see the word hypocrite, Jesus used the word hypocrite. And every time Jesus used the word hypocrite, he was correcting those who claimed one thing and lived another. Interestingly enough, Jesus was the first person to use the word hypocrite in this context. Originally, this was a word that you would have thought of in the Greek Actors Society,

where the actors would be called Hippocrates, which was they'd put on a mask, and they would act like one character, and they'd put on a different mask to act like another. And this was the first time that anyone, to our knowledge, used the word hypocrite outside of the context of the theater, and Jesus was saying, hey, when you're giving to be seen, you're a hypocrite.

Whenever you're fasting to impress, look how holy I am, you're a hypocrite. When you're praying to be heard, you're a hypocrite. When you're acting like you're generous and yet you're taking advantage of the poor, he said, you're a play actor, you're a hypocrite, and Jesus had zero tolerance for hypocrites. What's interesting is you'll notice, he wasn't calling out their sin. He wasn't calling out their sin. What he was calling out was their show.

He didn't say, woe to you who cuss on the, golf course when you slice one off the fairway. He didn't say, woe to those of you who watch really bad shows on Netflix every day of your life. He said, woe to you who are hypocrites. Woe to you that do the wrong things, but act like you don't. And in Matthew 23, verse 33, Jesus called the hypocrite's this. He said, you snakes, you brood of vipers, how will you escape being condemned to hell. Jesus, why don't you tell us how you really feel about this? If you've ever been frustrated by those who claim one thing and live something else,

Jesus was frustrated by it too. It kind of raises the question, why do so many Christians get it wrong? If we really hope to represent Jesus in the church, why is it that sometimes we do a good job and other times we fail? miserably. And I want to look today at three different reasons why so-called Christians could get it wrong, and then we'll look to some teaching to see if we can find healing. Why do so-called Christians occasionally are often get it wrong? Number one, we need to recognize this, that some people who claim Christ aren't really Christians. There are some people who go to church

and they call themselves a Christian, but they really are not born of the spirit of God. They've never been transformed by Jesus. They may be a church member. They may carry a Bible. They may claim one thing, but they've never been converted, forgiven, and transformed by the power of Jesus. In fact, Titus 116 says there are some that claim to know God, but by their actions, they deny him. In other words, we need to understand that going to church doesn't make you a Christian. Following Jesus does.

claiming God or going to a Bible study doesn't make you a Christian following Jesus does. Even believing in God doesn't make you a Christian, but following Jesus does. Why is it sometimes the so-called Christians, let us down, hurt us, betray us, do things that are really, really horrible and disheartening, is because some of them are Christians. To give you an example, my family in high school, we moved to a small town in southern Oklahoma, and there was a very well-respected teacher in the community who also taught in Sunday school, and people looked up to this man and admired this man.

And in the sixth grade, this man started abusing my sister, we found out later on along with many others, and sexually abused her in a horrific way for years. And from my posture, I can't judge where the guy's start. with God, but he may have claimed him and his actions denied him. And tragically, there are some who claim Christ, but they simply do not know him. And that's why we often hurt because of what

they do. Why is it that sometimes so-called Christians fall short? Well, some of them claim Christ, but they are not really walking with and following Jesus. There's a second reason, and that is this, Some are Christians, but they're not mature. They're Christians, but they're still young in their spiritual development. We could say they're baby Christians. They haven't learned everything yet. And the author to the Hebrews describes them this way in the fifth chapter, verses 13 and 14.

For someone who lives on milk is still an infant. In other words, they're a baby Christian and doesn't know how to do what's right. Solid food is those for those who are mature, who through training have the skill to recognize the difference between right and wrong. Why is it that some Christians do say the wrong thing or act in the wrong way or betray your trust or morally do something that's confusing? It's because they actually are born into the kingdom of God, but they're still developing in their faith. They're still immature and they're still growing. I'll give you a very embarrassing example, but in college, I was building my testimony for a few years.

Did any of you know what I'm talking about? I was living, yeah, so someone was like building, maybe still be building your testimony, you're so excited. And I was living in a way that was really far from God. And so was my buddy, who was maybe as wild or wilder than I was. And one week, unbeknownst to him, I knelt down and prayed, God, if you're there, I didn't even know how to really pray. if you're there, just show me and I'll give you my life. And he came back after being somewhere else, unbeknownst to me and had a similar experience.

And when he came in, I said, I don't know how to tell you this, and I don't really like my words today, but I said, I think I've decided I'm religious. That's just kind of what I said. And he goes, no effing way, that's what he said, because he didn't know any better. And he said, me too. I was like, that's amazing.

And so to celebrate, we went out and got wasted. That's what we did. Now, for those of you that choose to follow Jesus today, I'm recommending a life group or baptism as your next step, not Margarita Monday with 19 margaritas, okay? I'm not recommending you do that. But I was a brand new follower of Jesus. I didn't know any better.

I was still maturing. I didn't know what was right. I didn't know what was wrong. And it's really still no excuse to say, why did they do something that was so hurtful? but is an understanding and explanation, there are some people that are still developing in their faith. Why is it that sometimes we find ourselves disappointed

and let down or even tragically hurt by those who call themselves Christian? Well, some of them aren't really Christians. Some of them, they are Christians, but they're still maturing. And number three, some are Christians in maturing, and they still mess up. They still fall into sin. They're still tempted by a very,

sly and slippery spiritual enemy that still can wage attack against the mature and faithful followers of Jesus. And when they do mess up like this, this doesn't necessarily mean they're a hell-bound hypocrite. They may love Jesus and in a moment of peer pressure tell a lie. They may genuinely love Jesus and speak harshly when their flesh rises up. They may love Jesus. They may love Jesus. and be in a bad spot in their marriage and give into temptation and betray their marital vowels. And it's a heartbreaker and there is no excuse. But the explanation is that sometimes even the most faithful, given to temptation, are deceived and step off of the path and end up hurting others. And I'm going to tell you right now, no matter how mature you are, you're still vulnerable.

And the moment you think you're not, you're even more vulnerable. Be careful when you think you're not vulnerable to temptation because pride often comes before a fall. Here's the problem, though. We're all going to let each other down at times. And the problem is, whenever we fall short, you know what we do? We blame our circumstances. If I do something that's not acceptable, I'm like, hey, you know me. You know I didn't mean that. It wasn't that big of a deal. I was just tired. I was just under pressure. I mean, you know my heart, don't you? You know I'm not that kind of person. Come on. Hey, it was a bad day. It was a bad week. It's not that big of a deal. I mean, you've done things too. If I fall short, I blame my circumstances. But the challenge is when someone else falls short, we tend to blame their character. Oh, they're the bad ones. Oh, you're the wrong one. Oh, you're the wrong one. Oh, you're the hypocrites. And when we blame our circumstances and someone else's character, isn't that hypocrisy in our own lives? Oh, you think I'm stepping on your toes now. Just get ready because it's going to get worse. You better just pide your toes up under those chairs wherever you are.

Why is it that when we sin, God doesn't just like fall off the throne? Oh, I don't think they do that. I can't believe they did that. I can't believe they did. God isn't shot because he knows that we're prone to sin, that we are born with the sin nature. He knows that when we do mess up, is because we are sinners in need of redemption.

In fact, scripture says this in Psalm 103, verse 14, what God knows. God knows what, how weak we are. We give in to peer pressure, we give in to temptation, we're vulnerable, we want to be liked, we tend to take the easy way out. He knows how weak we are, and he remembers we are only dust. Would you look at the person sitting next to you and say, you're just dust? Just tell them right now. You're only dust.

Tell them you're only dust. In fact, if you want to make it really, really fun, you're ready for this. The new American standard version translates it this way. It says, we are butt dust. And you have to say it right. Because if you say it this way, we are butt dust. It totally changes the meaning. Look at the other person, your second favorite neighbor and tell them, you're butt dust.

Just tell them that right now. You ain't nothing but dust. You're butt dust. Tell him that. Your butt dust. You're butt dust. This is in the Bible. Some of you, you're butt dust.

and that means sometimes we're weak. And sometimes we say the wrong things. And sometimes, unfortunately, we hurt people. And so when you find yourself hurt by Christians, maybe your expectations were too high. Maybe you were just expecting something out of someone that's never going to always be like Jesus. And so I just want to tell you right now,

when I do something that lets you down. For example, some of you are leaving, in the church because I said, but dust. I say something sarcastic or I say something that's inappropriate or something you theologically disagree with or whatever. Just remember, I'm a bag of dirt. That's what I am. I'm dust.

And so are you. You're in nothing but some potting soil. That's what you are. That's what you are. You just go in there, sit there looking all church pretty with your makeup on and your best shoes and your little Instagram hashtag thing. Your filters, you're still potting soil. That's what you are.

You came from dust, you go back to dust. We were born with the sin nature, redeemed by Jesus, but still capable of sin. And this is the first time in the history of church. Anybody's clap when I said you're capable of sin. But we are. We are. In fact, in Acts chapter 13, there's a really powerful story about Paul and Barnabas. And I want to show you this story, Acts 13, verse 49, says, the word of the Lord spread

through the whole region. So God's moving. Good things are happening. The word of the Lord is spreading. But what happened? The Jewish leaders incited inside. I want to want you to notice who they incited. The God-fearing women of high standing. These were the prayer warrior ladies. These were the faithful women of God. These leaders inside of the God-fearing women of high-standing and the leading men of the city. These were the ones everybody respected. And, what were the What did they do? They stirred up persecution against Paul and Barnabas and expelled them from their region.

Good church people got led astray and hurt Paul and Barnabas. So you know what Paul and Barnabas did? They quit church. They left Christianity. They called everybody a bunch of hypocrites. They didn't do that. They could have, and they would have.

if they had focused on the offense. But in their mind, I can't tell you for sure what they said to themselves. But every time I've been hurt by those who claim Christ, I tell myself this, I tell myself that the church didn't let me down. A person let me down. The church didn't betray me. A couple of people betrayed me. I tell myself, God didn't let me down.

a big old bag of dirt, let me down. And so the logic goes like this, and I understand it. They hurt me, I can't trust the church, so I'm not going to go to church anymore. We do that with church, we don't do it with restaurants. Right? I had bad service, so I'm never going to eat again. Took 15 minutes to get my burger, the fries weren't good, I'm never going to eat again. We don't do that.

We go back because there's food. in the house. And when people let us down, we go back because there's spiritual food in the house, and we worship God in the house. Paul and Barnabas decided this. They decided we're not going to let the sins of people keep us from the goodness of God.

We're not going to let what they did. Draw us away from the grace, the love, the power of God. Who let them down? Some dust. some dust. And watch what they did. Scripture said, the very next verse says this. So what did they do? So they shook the, so they shook the dust off their feet as a warning to them and went to Iconium. And the disciples were filled with joy and the Holy Spirit. What do they do? They shook the dust off their feet.

and they went on and they were full of joy and the Holy Spirit. I don't know who this is for, but somebody you've been hurt, and at some point, and I don't want to minimize your hurt because I know there's deep hurt. At some point, you've got to shake it off. You got to shake it off. And some, again, I don't want to minimize it, meaning he touched me, she lied to me, they abused me. That takes a lot of shaken and a lot of praying and maybe some counseling and some more shaken

and some more praying and maybe some more counseling. and maybe some more introspection, and maybe some more humbling yourself and more asking God to help you. But at some point, you got to shake it off. And when you shake it off and when you let it go and when you start healing, you go on full of joy and full of the Holy Spirit. I don't know anybody full of joy who still carries a grudge, even if they're not sorry. Sometimes you've got to shake it off. Sometimes you've got to shake it off. And I'm not telling you it's easy.

I got to shake things off a couple times a week. And about once a month, I've got to shake something big off. I've been doing it for years. There's a verse in the Bible that says, wherever two or three gather together in my name, one of them's mean. It's not really there, but it's kind of true. Not just in the church, just wherever you go,

anywhere you go, everywhere you go, anywhere you go. People are people. People let you down. And so the biggest complaint about the church from some people is full of a bunch of narrow-minded, judgmental hypocrites. And so I just want to say from the bottom of my heart, if you've been hurt in the church, if you've been hurt by a Christian, if you have disdain for the hypocrisy inside the church, I apologize because we have a disdain for the hypocrisy inside the church, I apologize because we,

We have not always gotten it right. We haven't. We in the church sometimes say one thing and then do something different. As much as I don't want to admit it, it is dead on true. Some Christians, some church leaders, have abused their power and hurt people.

Sometimes Christians can be arrogant, we can be harsh, we can be unkind, we can be unloving, and it's not right. There's nothing wrong. right about is not God honoring. It's not what Jesus wants. And I'm sorry. Sincerely sorry. I'm sorry when we don't get it right. I'm sorry when I don't get it right. The reality is all of us have been heard by hypocrites. And if you're honest enough, you'll have to recognize,

and let me just say it, you've been a hypocrite too. You've been a hypocrite too. None of us are perfect. The only thing I can promise you is as much as I don't want to at some point, I'll let you down. I'll say something you disagree with. I'll lose my temper. I'll slip into a moment of pride. I'll be critical of somebody else. I'll be more focused on being right than being loving.

And when I am that way, I will repent before God, and I will apologize. As I have two different times in the last week, I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I should have done better. forgive me. And two Christians looked on and said, of course, as Jesus has forgiven me, so I forgive you. And that's the beauty of the body of Christ. So I just want to say this, and I don't want this to be, I don't want this to come across as unkind, but I want to say it. If you've lost faith in Jesus because of people, maybe your faith is in people when it should be in Jesus. If you're

doubting God because of what someone else did. I just say look to Jesus because he never let you down. Look at how he lived. Look at how he loved. Look at how he confronted the hypocrisy. Look at how he would confront it in us. How he lovingly corrects us and convicts us and changes us. look at what he did in the gospels. If anyone in power would abuse their power, Jesus would correct them and defend the oppressed, the widows, and the poor. When church people might snub their nose

and those who are different, people who are nothing like Jesus, they liked Jesus. They liked him because he loved the sinners and the broken, and the prostitutes and the outcast, he loved them where they were, but he didn't leave them where they were. When someone was caught in sin and everybody else wanted to stone him, kill her, kill her, kill her.

He just ran them off, looked down and said, honey, where are your accusers? She said, they're all gone. He said, then I don't condemn you. Now, go, don't do it anymore. Go your way and sin no more. The love of a Savior. When people accuse Christians of being narrow and judgmental, just remember, everywhere that Jesus went, he showed compassion for the least, for the last, and for the lost.

If you've ever been hurt by hypocrisy, Jesus, he has zero tolerance for hypocrisy, but he has unlimited grace for a sinner in need of forgiveness. He continues to love. He continues to heal. He continues to offer hope. That's how good. He is. And so when we get it wrong, and we will, I'm sorry, please forgive me. I'm a bag of dirt. We're not perfect, but we're striving to be perfected by one who lives inside of us. We're not going to make excuses. We're going to continue to be conformed to reflect the goodness of Jesus. The man that abused my sister and others. I apologize, claimed Christ this whole life.

And our family together decided to forgive him. It took a lot of years. It took a lot of shaken. It took a lot of counseling. It took a lot of praying. He's a box of dirt. Sometimes you've got to shake the dirt off. And we wrote him a note, explaining to him

why we would forgive him and presented the gospel to him. presented the gospel to him. And his nurse read it to him on his deathbed when he was dying. And I understand from her that she was very moved and he was very moved and they prayed together.

And I don't know what happened to him in that moment, but what I know happened to us is we let it go. We let it go. Because Jesus has zero tolerance for hypocrisy. But he's got unlimited grace for a sinner in need of repentance. and I can't speak for you, but I want to offer the same grace to others that was given to me.

And if you let me down, or if I let you down, what do we do? We do what spirit-filled believers do. We repent, we apologize, we show back up in the house, and the world looks on and doesn't say they're a hypocrite, but the world says, wow, they're different. and they will know that we are disciples, not by our theology, not by our buildings, not by our worship style, not by our sermons. They'll know that we are disciples of Jesus by how we love one another.

One of the most powerful ways you love is to forgive. And so if you're carrying a hurt today, I understand. If our church has let you down, I sincerely apologize. As hard as we try, we don't always get it right. And in the same way that I've been forgiven, I want to forgive others.

And my prayer is that you would find healing. Shake the dirt off. And find joy as the Holy Spirit fills you. So Father, we ask today, for you to do what only you can do, for miraculous healing from heaven. As you pray today, I really don't want anybody looking around right now. And I am not going to hard, I'm not going to push you on this.

I'm just going to give you a chance. For those of you that have a hurt, it may not even be like a church hurt. It may be a family wound. It may be someone that lied to you, someone that betrayed you. It could be in your marriage. It could be that your kids aren't respecting. It could be a family member. It could be a parent that's no longer alive that hurts you.

It could be you were abused when you were a child. You're carrying a wound right now, and you may not be ready to shake it off, and you may not even be ready in this moment to forgive, and you don't even think you can heal, but you want to reach out to God and ask him to help. If that's you today, just reach out and ask him to help. Would you lift up your hands right now? Just lift up your hands. You can type it in the chat.

Help me heal if you want. Father, there are so many today, and God, I know it grieves you when your children hurt. And so we just look to you, we look to you, and we ask God that you would do a work by the power of your Holy Spirit, bring healing in our hearts. God, I would believe there would be some that even by faith in this moment can say, I choose to let it go. I choose to forgive.

And God, I know there are others that it would be, this would be a step in the process of healing, but we take that step. We take that step toward you. In the same way, God, you've forgiven us. give us the power to heal give us the power to display your grace your forgiveness and the world will look on and say oh my gosh they love so well

they love so well they love like Jesus loves God for those who've been hurt I ask in the name of Jesus that today would be a significant moment toward healing in their lives we believe you're here we believe you hear of the cries of our heart and you'll bring healing as you keep praying today there are those of you that you're not right with God. There's some of you like me. You grew up in the church and claimed Jesus,

but you were not following him right now. There are many one day who would stand before him and say, Lord, Lord, didn't we go to church? Didn't we do good things? And I'll say, I didn't know you. There are those of you you've claimed it. People think you're a Christian, but you're not. And today is the day of your salvation.

Others of you, you look like you're far from God, you've messed up. Let me tell you who Jesus came for. He came for people like you, for people like me. He came for broken people. He came for sinful people. He was without sin. He became sin on the cross. He died in our place and God raised him from the dead so that anyone, and this includes you,

no matter how broken you are, no matter how far from God you are, anyone who calls on Jesus, you'd be forgiven, you'd be healed. He has zero tolerance for hypocrisy, but he has unlimited grace for a sinner in need of forgiveness wherever you're watching from. Those who say I need is grace. I want his forgiveness. I step away from my sin. I step toward Jesus by faith.

I give my life to him. That's your prayer. Lift your hands high right now. All over the place. Lift them up right here. Praise God for you. Right here. Others of you today saying yes.

Both of you right over here. Come on somebody. Let's give God some praise today. Others of you saying yes, Jesus. Jesus. Those of you online, just type it in the chat. I'm giving my life to Jesus. And wherever you're watching from today,

would you just pray aloud? I pray Heavenly Father, forgive me for my sins. Save me by your grace. Thank you, Jesus, for your perfect work. Fill me with your spirit so I could know you and show your love. My life is not my own. I give it all to you. Thank you for new life.

Now you have mine. In Jesus' name, I pray. Somebody better. give God some praise right now for New Life in Christ.