Lifeline - 160. Long-Term Rinky Dink

Episode Date: May 11, 2025

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and then gains weight and then has to buy other jeans and then gets skinny again and has to get new jeans because he threw the old jeans away. And then I asked you, do you have, you don't save the jeans? So be like, maybe I'll be skinny again. And you said one pair. And I think that that's the saddest thing

I've ever heard in my life. Why just one? Like if you know you fluctuate in weight, why don't you just keep them all? The fact that he only saved one pair, it makes it infinitely sadder. Let them answer though. Than if he saved all of his pairs.

I just wanna go and say that. Okay, what is the one pair? It's a pair of G-Star pants that I bought a few months ago. Oh, so they're new and you don't wanna be like- Oh, so you got fat real quick. So you got, you became a fatso like that. No, no, no, no, no, no, no months ago. Oh, so they're new and you don't want to be like- Oh, so you got fat real quick. So you became a fatso like that. No, no, no, no, no, no, no. Yeah, I have some of these.

Boom! No, I bought them and then they didn't fit. And since I hate returning shit, I just kept it. Okay, so it really isn't that. It's more the fact that you haven't had the chance to even wear them once yet. You haven't gotten- Correct, yeah. You need to, you need to lose weight to get these pants, to wear these pants. Exactly. Okay. So it's not what I said. So don't say exactly like

that because I, you know what I mean? You just don't know what I was saying. Exactly. You can't do that. You're the one that jumped to the conclusion of that. It's a sad thing that I have only one pair. No, no, no, no. I said to you- Fair, that's fair. It's not fair because I said to you, it's not sad to only have one pair. It's sad to, if you have jeans that used to fit and then you're like, I guess I got to get rid of all of these cause I'm fat, I'm fat now.

Fatter. Okay. Then I'm going to get rid of all of these jeans except these ones. They're so good. And if I lose weight again, I really I like these a lot. That's so sad. That's not what happened. No, that's not what happened.

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Booyah Booyah a tattoo on that. Isn't that crazy, dude? I'm like so famous now. Oh well okay. It's a mark of how famous you are if somebody takes something you say and tattoos it on your body. I'm basically Tom Cruise. Wow, wow that would be really weird to get a Tom Cruise tattoo. I want, how many people you think I have? Oh no no I know but I'm saying like of what Ethan Hunt that would be that would be where it would be so if I got a tattoo On his back on on your back a big back piece where he's Falling out of a plane. No, no where he's got the wire and he's oh that was the best part of any of them

The best part of any movie I've ever seen yeah, it's up there Brian De Palma made the first one dude my estro yes There it is right there. It's iconic. There's a new one coming out, right? Yep, yep. Crazy what this turned into, man. Yeah, I know. Just crazy what this turned into.

Oh my God, there's an IMF tattoo! I mean, that's better than his face, I guess. Is it? But it's so bad. Maybe not. I don't know. Since he stopped making sense under it, that's a good one.

How do you get so fucked up? Mission Impossible and talking heads? Well, maybe he's just like, I make no sense. I got a Mission Impossible tattoo. Yeah, maybe. Oh my God, that fucking fifth one, the cartoon one. Come on. I can't even believe someone would get a tattoo like that.

I would do that. See that right under that, there's him and the outsiders with the jean vest. That's the one I would get if I got a tattoo. Yeah, that's horrible. That's absolutely horrible. That would be horrible. That's horrible. I would get if I got Tom Cruise. Yeah, yeah, that's horrible. That's absolutely horrible. That would be horrible. That's horrible.

I gotta get that out. Look at that. Wow. What the? Oh, wow. So many. The cocktail one. Risky business.

So many. Anyway, oh, that was terrible. Interview with the vampire. Oh, look at him tatted up. Look at the fake cruise. Yeah. Yeah. I speaking of actors and stuff, I've been watching,

I never finished it, so I started it back over again because I wanna finish it, Mad Men. How far did you get the first time? Maybe four seasons? I think like a lot of the best shows, that show only, well, doesn't only get better it actually tails off a little at the end but like when I went back and watched the Sopranos or Mad Men I mean it's been years since I've been either one but

it's crazy to me how much better they get as they as they go on well what's crazy is about Mad Men is I would I would put Mad Men up there with for what I've seen some of the best written TV ever best Characters, I mean the way they write that show is amazing. I agree. Oh you do? Yeah Yeah, it's it's actually really interesting too the way that yeah, I did it Yeah, if someone just real quick, this is super interesting Matt Weiner created that show He was a big reason the Sopranos was so good He wrote almost all of season 4 was his idea and he almost redos that exact thing in Mad Men with

Don and Ted in season 4 anyway He if if another writer on an episode of Mad Men did more than 10% of the writing That writer would get full credit. That's how much Matt Weiner wrote of that show. He wrote like almost all of it. And his policy was, if more than 10% of it is someone else's, that person gets sole credit. Damn, that's crazy.

That's fucking baller is what that is, dude. I guess, yeah. To just be like that nice. Really nice, yeah. Because what that means for that writer is such a. I guess, yeah. To just be like that nice. So nice of him. Yeah. Really nice, yeah. Because what that means for that writer is such a, such a big deal. Yeah, true. To have their own episode of Mad Men.

Yeah, but it's almost like if you're gonna do that, don't tell anybody that you're doing that, right? Because then he kind of backfires. I guess. To the writer. Oh yeah, you wrote it? Well, you wrote 10% of it, right? And you go, no, I fucking wrote it, man.

I read it way later, like after it was already done. So yeah, that is Don Draper's I have a hot take dude. Yeah. Don Draper is a Mad Men guy. Just for those of you that don't know. The main guy, Jon Hamm, yeah. Yeah. And not Jon Hamm, Don Draper is a fucking dork.

But what do you mean when you say that? Dude, he is so dorky. And the fact that he was a sex symbol, cool, like I get he's handsome, okay, but that guy dried it up like none other, I swear. How do you figure that out? Dude, the things he says, the way he says them, what he thinks is cool and funny,

is so dorky, dude. He's like, can you give me, yeah, give an example. Uh, it's dry. He's, Mr. dries it up. Okay. But what, give just an example. He's Mr. keeps it dry. Okay. I, I can't think of an example, but I'm watching this fucking thing and I'm just like, man, this guy, this is unbelievable. Two knees above that equidistant, the Sahara. Dude. But you know how vastly underrepresented that view is. I know. I know, dude.

I mean, it's unbelievable, but bro, they shaped culture in 2000 in the aughts. They shaped culture. Don Draper shaped, dude, the reason Don Draper ran so G-Eazy could fly, you know? Hair gel became a thing again, not just for Koreans. It was unreal. They had ties.

People thought those skinny suits, they thought they were cool when really they were just a club promoter. Fuck out of here, dude. You don't sell ads. Also, it's just what the early 60s looked like. I know. It's made it even worse. It's like not a new thing.

It's just another era. People, I'm convinced the beginning of that that show was and I think this is even reflected in the quality of it It's just the kitsch of the era that your people were riding on and yes, that's what then it gets actually that great Yeah, yeah, yeah after that Don Draper is a fucking Door that's not the right word though. No, yes, it's exactly the right word. And I'm glad you brought that up because that's not true. It is exactly the right word. I just need evidence.

Dude, the first few episodes, he's just like, God, what the fuck does he say? He says some dorky shit. It's toasted. He says it's toasted. I know that. He does say that. But he's working.

There's no, you know. It's not just working, bro. You mentioned he's saying funny stuff. There's not a single time in that entire show where he makes a joke. Yeah, that's pretty much true, honestly. Yeah, yeah, there is. When?

A joke? He makes quips, he does quips. Yeah, he's quip, he's like a smart ass, and he's like quick on his feet. And that is so, and you know what? He's a dork. He's just serious. Yeah, what are we supposed to do?

He's like the most serious guy. How can he be dorky and serious? That's a good question, actually. Because he's not just serious. Yeah, what are we supposed to do? He's like the most serious guy. How can he be dorky and serious? That's a good question, actually. Because he's not just serious, bro. You don't think that show's funny? Are you saying it's dorky, like, when he's like, love was made up by? No.

Do I believe? No. At least that's corny. That's cool. You could argue that's corny, but like it's- Yeah, but that's not, no. He says stuff like, okay, this is something not no, he says stuff like, uh, uh, okay. This is something that his character would say.

Okay. Um, someone says, you know, like, how was, uh, how was your childhood? And then he'd be like, well, you have the time. Don? Yeah. That is so dorky, dude. I love it. Anthony gets it, bro. We're cool. Me and Anthony doesn't know dorky dude. I love it Anthony gets it bro, we're cool me and Anthony.

Anthony doesn't know fucking anything dude. Don Draper is so dorky dude. Well how much time do you have? Hey, and then the other fucking dork, the older dude who's just like, John Slattery? My daughter goes to therapy. She's a fucking crazy lady. Bro, you just got done saying how good the writing is

and now you're just wiping your ass with it. It's so good, dude. Which is it? It's unreal. It's unreal. It's actually unreal. And that fucking woman in it is so good. The young woman who is the visible.

Elizabeth Moss? Yeah, dude. She's a Scientologist. Big time, baby. That is so weird. Big time. She's so good though. Baby. Damn, that's crazy, huh? How could you be a fucking Scientologist? It's crazy. They get you when you're at a certain age and then like good things happen to you and then it's like I'll keep doing this and then it's like a weird club. Bro, just look at the cover of Dianetics. I know. I'm out. I know. Hey man, oh it's got lava on it? What the fuck does this have to do with anything? What's crazy is that he was an actual sci-fi writer. I know.

It's like hey how obvious can you be? Look at this shit. Look at that. I know. I wrote that. If you talk to people who had gotten high up inside like Paul Haggis or Leah Romini, the shit that they talk about, like the fact that they blew the cover off of it and told the world about it, it should result in nobody ever becoming a Scientologist again.

And yet- Right. They have billions of dollars in their coffers and just keep getting bigger. And you know there was some dick nose stuff too. What's dick nose? The parties where they like, you know there was dick nose stuff. But anyway, I digress. Diabetics is just-

Diabetics. So different. I just, it's such a stupid... Dude, Scientology... Hey, Tom Cruise is a Scientologist. John Travolta. Dude, yeah, but John Travolta, at least like he's in, you know, movies now, like with fucking Eric Roberts, you know? Tom Cruise is in fucking...

Yeah, he's the biggest movie star, live show. Bro, it's unbelievable, man. Anyway. So dude, fuck, what was I gonna say? John Travolta is the man. That's what I was gonna say. Don Draper is a fucking dork. Okay. Okay.

The character and dude, hey, I'm not sold on John Hamm either When people as an actor as an actor dude when people say oh John Hamm is so funny and stuff It's because he was done Draper and never funny and then people like oh he can be funny too that changes people's minds That sucks. It does suck. But here's the thing and this is what Matt Weiner was also genius at He 100% he admits this, he will not want it. He like 90% or more just cares about how someone looks

when they're considered for a role. Wow, I guarantee. John Hamm walked into the room and he was like, that's Don D'Ape. That's why he's not that great. January Jones is literal lead in that show. Lead, bro. She's so bad. She looks just like Grace Kelly and that's what's in the script and that's not that great. Janira Jones is literal lead in that show. Lead, bro. She's so bad. She looks just like Grace Kelly

and that's what's in the script and that's who I cast. Lead. Yeah, she's the worst. It's unbelievable how bad she is. Lead. But she's perfect for it. Best sleeper. Like just.

Yeah, it's really wild how little she's working. Oh, well, yeah, that's true. It's just like, what are you doing? You're not even doing anything. Hey, hey, you wanna be here? Cut. Nothing hits like playoff hockey. The road to the cup starts on FanDuel, your home for live bets all playoffs long, with new features like live SGPs, build a parlay any game, any period, or stack multiple matchups onto one slip with same game parlay plus. What's better than playoff hockey?

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Um, uh... What is on his name? My name is Declan. Of course it is. A confession. I'm 18 and I live in North Platte, Nebraska. All right Wow get out. I Was dating this girl taking a sweet all time. What's on his neck a neck was a year and a half and just over And then sweet all time we mutually broke up and That's You know, it's a boy Falling asleep sadness January, but my question is about something else actually

Guys fucking good this I have this friend and she's helped me get through it. Mm-hmm Okay, and she suggests that what I need is a ho phase. I mean, just ask about it. And it's taking so long though. He's doing his thing. Just wondering what you guys thought about that. A ho phase, dude. Also, if you just got any advice for a sad young man.

Aw, buddy, I'm sorry. I'm sorry, buddy. You're gonna do fucking fine. I'm playing with you, yeah. You're like, you're good. Yeah, you're good. First of all, just know you're good. Yeah, you are good.

You're 18 and you look like that, you're fine. Yeah, you got a cool vibe about you. And you have tattoos, I could see. You got a necklace on and that shirt is actually, it rips. So. That's a great shirt. You're fine. And this isn't gotta mean, do you ever think about how big the universe is?

Sometimes I'll just sit and I'll try and make myself think about how big the universe is. Because we think that this whole thing matters and it just doesn't, dude. It doesn't matter. It doesn't matter. Fuck, and that's sad if you think about it. No, it's great.

It's liberating. It is liberating, but it's also sad though, if you have a family, cause it's like, I want them to matter. They do to you. That's the beauty about it. No, it's great. It's liberating. It is liberating, but it's also sad though, if you have a family, cause it's like, I want them to matter. They do to you. That's the beauty of it. I know, but I want them to matter more than that. But they don't.

And that's beautiful. It's like, it takes the fucking stress out of life. Some of it, not all of it, but like you still gotta meet your basic needs and that of your family. But like, dude, it's a relief to know you're just a little fucking ant in the hill. Not even. I mean, not even. If you zoom out far enough, are you crazy?

Right. I'm just saying, you know, the metaphor plays best the way I said it. Yeah. But if you keep zooming out, it's even smaller than an ant. You're an ad, you're a split atom. You're less than that, bro. Are we in a jar? We might be in a jar. Oh, you're saying the earth isn't in a jar? How the fuck do you know? We never zoomed out that far. We all could literally, we could all be brains in a vat and we're just sitting in a jar

and we ourselves are just brains. Yeah, but I'm saying. We're creating our. But I'm saying the whole universe could be in a jar, dude. We don't know. We don't know. We don't know. Correct. Zoom out.

Zoom out further. I zoomed out. Zoom out further. Are we in a fucking, we could be in a Kit Kat rapper. We could be in a fucking, who knows? On acid.

The Kit Kat rapper. We could be in a Mason jar and being sold at some corny fucking bar in Los Feliz. Yes we could. Now that being said Declan, the ho-face thing I find to be very stupid advice. Because it comes down to something very simple. Do you want to do that? Yeah. If you do, then of course do what you gotta do.

If you don't, then absolutely do not try to make yourself go through what one might call a whole phase. That's like, what even is that? Don't, honestly dude, I had to learn this because I thought that, you know, like I fucked so much in my life and I was like. I mean, frankly, me more, but yeah, keep going. What?

Me more? Yeah, you keep going. Like, I was like, you gotta. I didn't even think, no, I wasn't even like you gotta. I was like, it's just what you do. It's what life is. Yeah, yeah. And I was doing it for sure

when I actually didn't want to. Well, for sure. I mean, and it's so weird to think that. And so I think now on the other hand, you should only have sex with when you really want to, when you really want to, when you really want to. Also that very simply avoids any potential unwanted drama within you, in the external world,

with whoever you're having this sex with. Like if you're just going through the motions, like dude, you're like a wrecking ball. And I'm not saying it's irresponsible. You can be responsible while sleeping with a lot of people. But like, you're much more likely to fuck something up, fuck someone over, hurt someone's feelings. Again, if that's what you want to do, you don't seem like you want to do that at all. So I would highly disagree with the advice

your girlfriend is giving you and just do what you're doing. It's been a year and a half. That is a long time. But dude, I've had two year periods, two plus year periods, where it's like the part about getting over the previous girl, it just takes its time. But what happens is, and you have no idea of knowing this, because didn't he say he's 18?

Friggin' was. Yeah, he did. Dude,iggin it was. Yeah, dude You're so young and that's not your fault and I'm not being like you'll get over it this time What I mean is you've only lived 18 years the the younger you are all of your experiences feel that much more potent and Outsized and important you haven't lived in us because you haven't lived Longer than the amount that you've lived. So true.

So the longer you live, everything lessens in emphasis and importance because you can put it in the context of a much longer period of time. And you're 18. I know this doesn't help you now because you still have your age on your brain. It doesn't, yeah. But if you can, for even just a second, try to take that objective view and be like, I feel this overly strong about my ex because of my age. And it's just true, it's just a fact

that when you're 25 or probably way before that, but at least by the time you're 25, you'll be like, fuck, what was that girl's name again? Well, yeah, maybe. What did she, no, at least you'll be like, wait, what did she look like again? You won't be able to picture her face. How was her top?

You know what I mean? How sloppy was her top? You'll forget, you know? But you'll forget almost every single thing about her. It's crazy. Yeah. Just give it a minute. How was the dome?

I can't remember how the dome was. Think about it. That's right. If he's 18 now, think about the crushes you had when you were 11. Do you give a fuck? Yeah, and those mattered so much. They mattered more than anything. You'd wake up thinking about them. In five years, you're literally going to be searching through the fucking tunnels of your mind about how the gash was, and you won't know. You won't remember, you won't be able to pull from anything. By the time you're 26, you will not be able to pull

how nice that hatchet wound was. You knew I was gonna get, I knew you were gonna say it and you said to piss me off. But you won't, dude. Was the top even sloppy? That's you. Hey, look, this is you in five years. Was the top even sloppy?

Okay. So don't come to me and talk to me about how you miss someone you don't know yet you don't even know your slot yourself okay you don't even know yourself yet and in five years you're gonna be asking yourself was the top sloppy? Kind of saying the same thing just different angles here. I'm sloppy? Kind of saying the same thing, just different angles here. I mean, but it's like, dude, you're going to thank yourself. You're going to thank yourself that you don't remember

how sloppy the top was. Sometimes I look back and think, wow, how much time did I waste missing people that I presently don't care about, think about, fucking even remember what they look like, or any of that shit. And that's not to say, I'm not trying to like minimize your experience. When you're 18 and heartbroken, it's a big, big, big deal. Also, dude, you don't even know what good top is yet. You know what I mean? I mean, you know, you don't rip it right back into the bedroom. So when you get older, you don't even know what good top is yet. You know what I mean? I mean, you know, you don't. Just ripping it right back into the bedroom. So when you get older, you'll for sure experience crazy top

and you will end up then understanding what true, True lovers. Great top is. That's true. That's true. That's true. That's true. That's true.

That's true. Then and only then. You know, you think you miss something that doesn't matter, right? Because you haven't lived long enough. Once you get to be 50, you know, I'm only 45, but once you get to be 50, 60, and you've experienced top all around the world, the sloppiest and the driest, you will, you will understand that this means nothing. So to the top, you know what I mean? No pun intended, but Tony Toppins.

Oh dude. I mean, just, I mean, look, dude, you know, you get some sloppy top in your time and that's fine. But you know, sometimes, you know, the top is the best, but it's just like, you know, it's probably not. Okay, we get it. All right, De you know, sometimes, you know, the top is the best, but it's just like, you know, it's probably not. Okay, we get it. All right, Declan, good luck out there, man.

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You look familiar. I was wanting to ask you guys how you or what techniques you guys use to boost your confidence when your confidence is really low and I sent in a video a few years ago of how to approach women and it's still really hard for me and I was wondering what is a good conversation starter if you're gonna meet a woman in public because you know the dating apps Yeah, yeah, yeah anyway love the show Thanks, buddy. Yeah, I've met. I think I've met him before I definitely know him from the podcast because he's a I know he's a

Avid watcher and I Michael right yeah And I think I've met him, but the, yeah, it's, you know what I'm thinking of on the way here, actually, that pertains to this is, top, no, the dating apps, it's really fucked a lot of shit up, right? And we were talking about that, weren't we? Yeah, we were.

Yeah. And so I was thinking about that. And then I was thinking about guys who just get it, right? Get ladies, you know? Because there's however many percent of men that do, and then there's other guys, and they just, you know, what do they do? Right. And that's mostly everyone.

I mean, that's mostly everyone. And so if you're in that category of mostly everyone, then, uh, what do you do? Uh, you know, you have to set yourself apart, but not too much because then you're a spaz, right? You don't want to be a spaz. Okay. You got to be cool within your own body, but also you have to take liberties, right? Because if you don't take liberties, you're going to be boring as shit, but don't be a spaz.

So there's like Spazville and there's fucking sleepy town and And you just wanna be on the, on the pushing over on the side of spaz town. But without, without being fucking completely, you know what I mean? One of those guys that just has too many wristbands and shit. Interesting way to drive that point home. I think that you, you know, I would often, I often think that what's a good conversation starter?

What's a good thing? What's a good, I, when you're thinking that, you're dead in the water. Yeah, I mean. You have to not be thinking that. You, it's, the two things you've asked are separate, but they're kind of of the same piece. Like confidence is what is necessary to what you're saying,

approaching women in public, right? But you know, there's no way to be like, I'm gonna tell you how to have confidence and now you're gonna have it. The best advice I can going to tell you how to have confidence and now you're going to have it. The best advice I can give to someone in your position, and I do often, is it doesn't matter if you really have confidence, not at first, but if you present as being confident, and whoever you're in front of, let's call it the world, the world witnesses that confidence, they buy it, them buying it makes them act differently towards you as if you are confident and that alone can fill you with actual confidence.

If the world is treating you like you have confidence, all you got to do is bounce it back at them. So it's like you have to start the loop but once the loop's looping, all you got to do is keep it looping. And it sounds really hard but I promise you it's not. It's like a version of fake it till you make it but not like the bullshit cliched version. When they say smile you'll smile more. It's like, well, fuck, we see people walking in the street they're just like this. Yeah, it's like, but you know, it, but the other thing is, it is hard to approach women in public

and then have some kind of success. Oh yeah, even if you are cool, they women don't want to be, they were like, what is this guy doing? What is he trying to do? Yeah. What's he trying to sell me? It's like someone, it's literally like somebody knocking on your door trying to sell you knives.

You're like, I don't need knives. Yeah, right. That's what it was like being a woman. You're like, I don't want, what do I want this shit like being a woman. You're like, what do I want this shit? What's from cutco? What are you talking about? What is it? And then the guy, but the guy's kind of like,

well, maybe you don't need them, but look, I got the scissors as part of it and it cuts the penny open. Look at that, the scissors could cut the penny, but that could happen. And you're like, I guess, I don't know, come in. Maybe one out of fucking 10. Yeah.

Dude, if Brad Pitt wasn't Brad Pitt, like wasn't famous actor Brad Pitt, but looked like that, maybe like three out of 10 times, he would get a girl's number or something? I don't know, man. I mean, he's, you know, he doesn't, it's not like he looks like a character from, guess who, like fucking Michael does over here. But I'm saying.

Right, but what I'm saying is, it's not like just cuz he looks like that. He's just gonna walk around and get everybody's no But it is a lot easier for guys like us. Of course it is Us and Brad Pitt, you know me and Brad Pitt but Yeah, dude, but but at the same time and I said this before this I think someone in a one-on-one recently, is like I've been places where I've seen

like literally like the fattest, like classic like loser-iest guy with what is objectively, and I don't know what she's like on the inside because I only saw it from afar, like a beautiful woman. Isn't that crazy? Taller than him, like fit, like just a beautiful,

Amazing. Healthy young woman. Sloppy probably. And this guy was just like a fat, shorter than her at least. Slob, roly poly guy. Joe Pesci style. Well, fatter though.

But fatter though. Joe Pesci but fatter. Didn't really have a, Sunglasses on. Kinda did have a style, but what he did do was he like, was very clearly comfortable in his own skin, whatever that was. Sometimes it's bravado though.

I'm positive that guy at some point in his life decided, well, this is the handout was dealt. Now I just gotta fucking act like I own it. Yeah, bro. And also just keep, if you just keep trying act like I own it. Yeah, bro, and also just keep, if you just keep trying, you'll get better at it, bro. It's hard now. Nothing matters, zoom out.

Nothing matters, dude. You know what I mean? Zoom out, zoom out, zoom out, zoom out, and then fucking, you will see how insignificant you are. We might be in a fucking Mason jar being sold in Los Feliz. Do you know? And you don't know that, dude.

So just go up to a five. You know, go up to a five, start with a four. You ever seen a one? Just go and start with a one. Go out into the world. The first person that you think is someone you might be attracted to. Try with a dude.

Just talk to her. Walk up to a man. Hey man, how's it going? Hit on a guy. You have confidence because you don't have nothing to lose. You don't care. You don't want the guy to be attracted to you. Get his number, take him out, hang out.

You know, after a few dates, sleep with him. Success, man, you'll be better at hitting on women in no time. So stupid, you know? But yeah. Be a bottom. It's true. Get power fucked.

It's true that you just gotta do it. Like, and honestly, I don't wanna say like, don't think about it at all and just walk over and say whatever comes to mind. But like, in a way, that kinda is how you have to do it. Because everything's fluid. Say you decide what you wanna say and then on your way to walk over there,

the situation is liable to completely change. A friend has come and joined her. A friend has walked away from her. She's laughing. She got a text. She's fucking ordering a drink. Anything can happen on the way over that you need to be fluid and change your plan and be enough on your feet

and be confident enough that your plan can change and it'll work all the same. That's why start with low cost. Start with ugly man, right? Hit on him. One end of the spectrum getting power fucked by an ugly man. On the other end of the spectrum, scooping it up from Dimesville, right?

No one's gonna hear, you know, you wanna start here, you maybe wind up somewhere here, you know? And that's okay, in there, there's a fucking six, there's a seven in there somewhere. You know what I mean? Every now and then, right? Yeah, you deal with fours.

Well, you fucked a guy, the guy power fucked you early, early on in your career. I don't think you need to start with getting power fucked by a guy. Ugly guy. By an ugly guy. Because honestly, even some good looking dudes, you get a little nervous around, if we're being totally honest. Yeahly guy. By an ugly guy. Cause honestly, even some good looking dudes, you get a little nervous around,

if we're being totally honest. Yeah, well. Come on. Nervous? I know I make some guys feel nervous and not because of my looks, but because of my charisma. Wow. I know I do.

All right. You know, so. Interesting. Interesting. Just try, try with fats first. And dude, just try. Try with fat first. And then- Don't do the thing- From fats to dimesville.

That everyone does, which is be like, I tried three times and none of them worked. You do not fucking give me that bullshit. Yeah, you might as well be getting power fucked by ugly guys. Do you know how many people there are in the world? People ask me, do you think there's many people there are in the world people ask me Do you think there's like there are soulmates? Do you think there's like one person out there for every person? No

Absolutely, not I think there are thousands of people out there for every potential one person. Mm-hmm Yeah, you can be happy with thousands of people. Yep. So just fucking roll the dice on my wife But that's true. It's just true. It's just the way the fucking cookie grumbles, the way your life shakes out, that's who you end up with. But it could have just easily gone a different way. It didn't. Don't tell my wife.

But it could. I'm the only one for my wife. No stress, dude. You're never going to see the person you go up to and try to whatever, get their number, whatever, take them out. You're never going to see him again. Who up to and try to whatever, get their number, whatever. Take them out. You're never going to see them again. Who gives a shit? What's she going to do, laugh at you?

If she's mean, sure. It is, yeah. But then she's an asshole. That's right. You know? So like, don't even worry about that. I'm the only one for my wife. You know?

Okay. So next one. Anthony, get out of the shitter, dude. Stop shitting, Anthony. God damn it. Hey guys, big fan. Love you, love you. So basically, I'm one of those people that always likes to find the movie or the show first and then spread the word to my friends and family. That's awful, that kind of guy. At least you realize it though. That's a huge step. I saw Sinners recently, loved it.

All right, bro. And I have huge step. I saw Sinners recently, loved it. All right, bro. And I have a friend that I talk to every day. Oh God, he's probably annoyed. I just want him to see it so bad. He's so annoyed with you right now? I mean, he's so mad that it might not be in theater soon. And he says he wants to see it.

It's in theaters now. When it comes out on streaming, it's like, no, you gotta see Sinners in theater, man. Oh dude, this guy, he's got. I hate being this kind of person. Yeah, me too. So does everybody else. I love sharing and I love talking about the movie after.

Just wait. So, like, how do I feel all right with it? And just forget it if he sees it, whatever, like, yay. If he doesn't see it, whatever, I just, I can. I'm so passionate, like... Great, great question. Great question. Here's the thing that's good.

The passion, bro. The passion's great. Start a fucking blog, man. Make an Instagram account, dude. Start an ex account. Annoying film guy, you know? Tweet, bro. That'd be great.

Stop using your friend as a computer. Dude, annoying film guy would be such a good ex account. Fuck yeah, bro. Do it today. Dude, it's like, oh such a good ex account. Fuck yeah, bro. Do it today. Dude, it's like, yo bro, hey, you know, dude, when people are like, dude, you gotta see, oh yeah, okay, thank you, thank you. Now, right now, let's talk about something else

because you already said that, okay? So that conversation is done, yay, good, congratulations, we finished a combo, yay, jumping up and down, hopping, dude, hugging. You don't need to be the guy who saw it first. You're a dork if you keep saying that. Now, what I really like about this guy is,

he is trying to change. He understands that guy is annoying, and he gets it, but he has too much passion. So therefore, start a Tumblr. Well no, start a fucking blog, Substack. Dude, start a fucking Substack and an X. Start a fucking sub stack and an X account. And just filter all your shit under that. If you want to talk about it so bad.

Get out there, jerk off. Get a Pornhub account, start jerking while you talk about films. All of the account, hit all social media from all angles. That gives me an idea, Anthony, I want to talk to you after this. Can't not rip everything towards sex and sex talk. Well, you Well, well. Could literally be talking about the Bible

and then we'd be like. Well, we know, I mean, you know, I mean, there were whores in the Bible, but. Yeah, and Mary, you know, got raped and that's why she had Jesus, it wasn't the son of God. Well, it was immaculate, well, you're saying, because it was, yeah, okay.

More likely, if we're talking about likelihood. If you're talking about likelihood, but the Bible makes it seem like it was just immaculate conception, but yes, okay. Correct. I understand. And that's not a thing. We know that, right? I mean, I guess you could kind of Spider-Man your jizz into a girl's hatchet. If you're God. No, I know. But I'm saying, yeah, sure. Yeah. If she held her ankles really far apart and you Spider-Man-ed it into her.

And God just did it from heaven? Just... No, I mean, you would go in In your own hand and you go, anyway... Achoo! And then you go, ew, you sneezed on my pussy! And then nine months later, wah, wah! You'd be like, oh, dude, I don't know what happened, man. It's a sneeze baby. What was her pussy doing so close to your mouth?

Ha ha ha ha ha! Well? You guys know the theory about Pantera, the Roman soldier? I love that band. Pantera, the Roman soldier who raped Mary. Oh no. And is the true father of Jesus. No.

It's so dumb how like, ugh. What? Those theories. Well bro, those were the, I mean. It's just like, come on. Yeah, but that, because those, that's basically who's on Reddit now, those people who make that shit up, you know?

These are the people who like make YouTube videos. Like they would do. Oh yeah, I mean, there's so much shit like that on Instagram and YouTube. It's actually a crazy, I go down that rabbit hole often and I just think, what? How do you think these things? I can't, I can't, I can't do that. I love it, dude.

It doesn't make you feel bad. Bad? It makes me feel bad sometimes. No, bad is not the right word. It makes me feel weird, but not bad. I can do weird, but some of the stuff makes me be like, oh God, some people, I start thinking how stupid people are and it just really bothers me.

Okay, well here's the deal. We talk about this sometimes not on the show, but you are bothered by the fact that people are stupid and shitty and you don't want it to be true. I don't I Know that people are stupid and shitty and I've known it for such a long time now I don't feel yeah bothers me. It really it really is something that I struggle with because I don't Actually, I I actually it's very hard for me to believe, it's very hard for me to believe

that people are actually shitty. Why though? It's in front of you all day, every day. Dude, trust me, I know. I know people have been very shitty, just to be shitty. I've experienced it firsthand. And I just, I can't believe it, bro. But it, you know, look, it's like, you just keep,

you know, I don't know. I wanna say I'm an optimist, but I'm not. So it's like- You are if you refuse to fully believe that people are shitty. It's not that I refuse, it's just hard. Like I've been, I've been, just, yeah, it's just hard like I've been I've been just yeah it's just so weird bro I guess people just grow up different and they're just they have it

out you know I mean the internet has made it a lot yeah well easier and worse to be now shitty yeah I mean dude have you seen that one girl is it Lily something who says the n word all the time? You know who I'm talking about? Nope. Oh, you don't? Is she a white girl? Yeah.

And she's just like, I'm racist. Oh, that's a shitty person. She was on Piers Morgan recently. Yeah, I just saw that. And under the comments, she has a podcast, of course, because everybody does. If you have a mouth. Oh, I do know this.

She's crazy. She's such a. And she just says stuff like, that's so, it's like the kind of thing where it's like, do you, you don't really believe that, right? That's right, yeah. But I think about this kind of stuff like, in my brain, I look at this kind of person and I think,

she doesn't actually believe this. She just, it's like, you know what it's like? It's like, you're a guy with a twisty mustache and you're like, eh, but I'm wearing it ironically. And it's like, yeah, but you're still looking like an asshole. It doesn't matter if you're doing it as a joke. You're saying you're still that person. So she could say, yeah, I say the N word

because of free speech and yeah, I'm racist and not actually believe it, but still she could, but why not take her out of her word? That, but that's what I have trouble doing. That's what I have trouble doing because I cannot believe somebody would be up there and be like, yeah, I'm racist. And you know, she says stuff on her podcast, like a, uh, uh, white people's factory reset button makes them want to help people. And black people's factory reset button makes them want to help people and black people's factory reset button makes people like makes them want to behead

people and rip their hearts out and it's like you're like that like you can't actually think that but you know that people do I know no no I know because then you look at the comments oh really and people are like finally oh my god Yeah, bro. It's insane. And let's say, let's even say that, God forbid, something like that is true. Like, let's say that there is a race that is just evil, okay? You know what, dude? I actually don't want to believe that. And even if it is true, then call me a fucking idiot. Just call me an idiot. I'd rather operate from a place where everybody

isn't assumed to be evil. I'd rather operate from that place. I think that's a good place to operate from. And if that means I'm impaled, you know what I mean? You don't assume everyone's evil and shitty, but be ready to be shown that. And when they show it, accept it because they're showing you.

Yeah. Let's save this for luxury. But yeah, we should look at her. But anyway, yeah, I went off. But yeah, so. What was the submission again? Was it the hitting on girls? Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Wow, we went all the way. Just do it. You gotta just do it, man. You gotta do it. Doesn't feel good, especially at first. You'll get used to it. Rejection is better than regret. Rejection is better than regret.

Rejection goes away. The pain of it, the sting of it goes away. Regret never goes away. Wow. That is true. Yep. Hi guys. The other day, I was talking to someone, and we were talking about fishing.

And near the end of the conversation they were like I hate fishing it's my least favorite sport oh boy here we go now I replied and I said fishing's a sport question mark and they were like well yeah but I don't like it and like talking. So my question to you is what do you consider a sport that most people wouldn't? And what do you think is like for sure not a sport? Right. Anyway, I love the podcast and I hope you all are doing well. Thank you.

I mean, if you're not, thank you, if you're not exhausted at any time, it's not a sport. You know what I mean? Well, let's, I guess let's distinguish between sports and games and then sports and hobbies. Well, you know, ESPN. Leisure activities. There's ESPN 9, you know, So there's like fucking pogo jumping. Right, but I think that fishing- Which is actually more athletic than fishing.

Because there's all different kinds of fishing, like when you just go out on a little boat with your cousin and are like, you got, grab a six pack and just like keep your rod in the water and you're just like chatting, that's not a sport. But then if you're on some big, crazy fishing boat, and you're competing with others about how many fish and what kind of fish you can get in terms of weight or type

or whatever, I guess you could call that a sport. But even that feels more like just a competition that is sort of made up out of a physical activity, which you could say is what a sport is but a Sport I don't I would not call fishing a sport. I mean dude, it's like It's a leisure activity lacrosse is a sport that's you know baseball basketball football a physical very physical game that has a very specific set of rules

that everyone has to follow. And there are opposing sides, whether it's two teams, one versus another, or like in tennis, 300 all for themselves. So like not darts. Yeah, darts is, no. Because people think that's a- They do, but I don't.

Yeah. Bowling is the most on the line to me. It's the most like, is it or is it not a sport? It's a game. Right? Is it a game? Yeah, it's not a sport, come on. I get, having it be on ESPN, that doesn't bother me, but it's a game. Yeah, of course.

You're just basically on the board instead of the board is in front of you. You know what I mean? You're standing on it Are the X Games still a thing? Yeah, didn't they start in the 90s like when we were kids I think the late 90s Yeah, that's so interesting to me like when you start a new yeah, because like BMX riding is for sure a sport 1995 yeah mid 90s.. Was the first season. Interesting.

Because that, you feel like it's a sport, but is it? It's, I mean, if running's a sport, why isn't skateboarding? Yeah, are there races? There's no like races. I guess, here's maybe what it is. If people are giving you a score for your performance, There's no like races. I guess, here's maybe what it is. If people are giving you a score for your performance, it doesn't feel like a sport to me.

Yeah, I agree. It feels like an athletic activity. I agree. There used to be a clear, I beat you. Yeah. By 10 seconds kind of thing. Yeah, or 10 points or whatever, yeah. Yeah.

Yeah, like, yeah. You don't get, if you get judged for style, it's not a sport. Yeah, it's not a sport. Like figure skating, I'm sorry, it's not a sport. Yeah. It's sport-like. There are heavy athletics involved.

Very, very, very, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. It's tougher than a lot of sports. Yeah, for sure. I would imagine it is. But yeah, I think that we kind of narrowed it down. But I think the most on the line is bowling. I think that that's the one. Because a bunch of big fat guys do it and are excellent at it.

If you're a big fat guy, although there are fat pitchers. Yeah, but not like bowlers. No truly obese man is a pitcher. Like Sid Fernandez is the fattest pitcher. He's like a pudgy guy. Wasn't there a pudge, a pitcher named Pudge? Catcher named Pudge. But that was his nickname because he

looked like a human thug. Not because he was fat, he was a catcher. Swartzway Rooter. One of the best catchers. Yeah, exactly. One of the best catchers ever. Ivan Rodriguez. Oh, yeah.

He didn't look like a f- He wasn't- No, he was like 5'5", and just had like a rocket arm. Oh, got it. And he was just like a mass of muscle. So they called him Pudge. I remember that guy, dude. Wow, I had baseball cards of him.

He was awesome. All right. Kirby Puckett was as close to a fat, excellent athlete that I've ever seen. The former twin center fielder. What a tragedy, man, man that guy what happened with him in the middle of his Amazing all-star. Oh right old series winning career

He had something happen with his eyesight that he couldn't bat anymore or field And he was like in his I think he was in his early 30s They like totally derailed his entire career. And then he like died at like 51 or something. What? I don't know if it was from. Of what? I don't remember what he died from. Look up Kirby Pocket right now. K-A-R-B-Y and then P-U-C-K-E-T-E-T.

Yeah dude, he died when he was 45. Holy shit. That's even younger than I thought. What did he die of? Does it say? What caused... Yeah. Stroke. He was just one of those guys that had like a fucked up body. So go to what ended Kirby Pockets' career. There we go. What's that? Oh, it was when he got hit by a pitch. Broken jaw from a fastball and subsequent vision loss from glaucoma.

Oh my, oh my. Back to back years. A broken jaw? When he initially recovered from the jaw injury, he woke up on the final day of spring training in 1985, unable to see out of his right eye. Because of the jaw thing? Subsequent, yeah, surgeries and medical interventions

failed to restore the vision, leading him to announce his retirement in 1996. Oh, fuck, that sucks, bro. He had that bad break and then he had to die too? 10 years later? Like, fuck off, dude. Yeah. The world is generally fair.

Fuck off. No, no, no, I know. The thing is, he was such a unique athlete. He was actually fat. Was he? No, no, no, I know. The thing is... He was such a unique athlete. He was actually fat. And was the best center fielder. He was like 5'10", actually fat, and like could leap over the fence and rob home runs. And just such a good hitter.

Yeah, crazy, huh? He was a center fielder, not even a first baseman, this fat guy. Yeah, he's running around. All right, well... Real fast, real fast fat guy. Yeah, he's running around. All right, well, okay, let's do. Real fast fat guy. All right, yeah, we'll do one more. Chris and Matt, what's up?

Let me get right to it. So I've been seeing your girl for a few months now. She's great, personality's great, we vibe super well, we laugh a lot, and we make each other very happy. She's got great family, friends, just good long-term potential. But right from the first date,

I could tell straight away she wasn't really my type 100% when it comes to physical attraction. She's definitely objectively cute and attractive, but definitely wouldn't be my first choice. And so I often find myself thinking, am I settling? I find myself just being interested in looking at other girls. And the only reason I say this is because

I've been in other relationships before where I was just so head over heels and I was just hyper-focused on her. And I guess I'm just wondering, would that always be the case if you truly found someone that you should stick with long-term? Like, am I wasting her time and am I not really fully in it? So what do you think I should do, guys?

Thank you. I think it depends on how old you are, but I do think that that visceral, I want you feeling, is very important. I would say it's very important. It's important, but it's one of many things that are important.

And just the fact of the matter is, not everyone, in fact, a great minority of people are gonna meet someone who rings every single bell. And if this girl rings every single bell, except that you're attracted to her, but not like crazy attracted to her, I mean, that's a tough thing to turn away from.

I guess it is, yeah. Like, unless you're just unattracted to her, but that's not what you're saying in any way. So I just think it's, and it comes down to person to person, like what's important to you? Like is what's important to you someone that just drives you crazy sexually and you wanna be hump a dumpin' like rabbits every night? I mean, that goes away, I sexually, and you want to be hump-a-dumping like rabbits

every night? I mean, that goes away, I guess, eventually, anyway. That's what I was going to say. If you're talking about long, long term, there's very few people, very few people, that you'll still want to rinky-dink after five years. And that's just five years. You know?

Yeah, I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know.

I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. Yeah, I like the rinky dink. And then you're talking 10 years, you're talking 15 years. If we're talking long term, we're talking long term, right? Long term rinky dink. Long term rinky dinks are rare. So it's best, I think, I mean, I might be getting into the weeds here, but if there's someone who rings every bell except the hyper attraction one, I would say stay in it, but look for shit to do to just

keep it interesting and like she'll be open to it if she's all of those other things that you just said and you know don't throw in the towel though just because you have to like meet someone else who you think you have a better chance of a long-term relationship with before you're just like, nah, I can't, I hate this like, I don't want to waste her time thing. Nah, yeah. Get the fuck out of here with that shit, dude. It's your time and it's her time to make up her mind about what she wants to do with her

time. Like, you can't be making up her mind for her. If she likes you and loves you and wants to be in a relationship with you, you're not wasting her time. But if you're wasting her time, you don't wanna be in a relationship with her. Yeah, yeah, you're not wasting time. I would go for it and just see what you see.

Yeah, keep going, dude. Yeah. What you described a really good situation. Yeah, that's true. You know? And if you are basically attracted to her, or attracted to her enough to have like your carnal desires met, let's say. Also, it depends what you want. Like, if you want a family and stuff, then yeah, definitely go for it. Yeah. But if you're like,

if you're a guy who was like, no, I don't want kids and you know, I mean, maybe you don't need to. I don't know. Yeah. Sounds like he's looking for someone long term, I would suspect, because he wants to maybe start a family some day. But yeah, it's weird what nature is like, when you're attracted to who you're attracted to.

It doesn't have to do with the... You can get yourself into real trouble, though, when you're just chasing the big boner. When you're chasing the big, big boner, you are gonna run into a buzz saw. And it's happened to me before plenty of times. Don't chase big boner? Don't chase the biggest possible boner. Don't chase the maximally stretched out penis skin. Okay, yeah.

You don't need that. You just need a boner. You don't need like a skin ripping boner. Diamond cutting, capillary filling. Yeah, you don't need that. You just don't unless you're 18 or 19 and you're just like raging hormones. Well then, yeah, but then you have a diamond cutter anyway. If you're a fucking adult, an adult, then like, other things tend to matter,

and then more other things tend to matter, and then suddenly that attraction is one of 12 really important things. Right, you don't necessarily need the gavel. You want to have kids, right? Yeah. So, yeah, hear ye, hear ye, hear ye, you know? Um, alright, well, yeah, I guess. You want to do another one?

Yeah, we can do one more. Let's do another one, yeah. Chris, Matt, what's up? Love you guys. Make me laugh every week. Matt, thanks for our one-on-one session. Yes. Last week it was helpful.

Yes. See? I need to know your thoughts about parents who obnoxiously overparent their young children in public like like like the way that they try to show everyone like hey I'm such a good parent because you know my kid is learning things or you know just talking loudly to their child and imagine something more or more like you know yeah yeah that's a virtue signaling fitting you know what the plumbing does the plumbing carries the water it's I know what he's

doing to adjust this it makes you mad angers me I don't really get I have three kids of my own so I'm not just hating on parents people that are just overly parenting in public thoughts Cheers making a show of how they're parenting in there. Oh, that's weird. Yeah I've never I would never even think of that. So that's so weird, but that's weird if that's a thing Yeah, I guess sure. Of course it is. Why why wouldn't it be? That anything like that is annoying. Yeah, but you're putting on a public performance for people that didn't pay for a ticket and don't want to be at the show. It's like...

That is annoying, except for when you're doing it with... Then the kids are there, you're making it about you and it's like, it's not even about the kid. That's very annoying. Yeah. So yes, that's a no the kid. That's very annoying. Yeah. So yes, that's, that's a no, no, that is a no, no. The only thing that drives me more crazy actually is just a parent being shitty and verbally abusive in public. Cause then I'm like, Oh, you don't even know how bad this is that you're

willing to do it in public. What are you doing private? Like that shit bugs fucking creeps me out and there's a lot of that too. How do I don't understand how I? guess there are some sort of like wild problem childs, but I Don't know how you like dude I've got two kids and they're so awesome and well behaved like I would I

So awesome and well behaved. Like I would, bro we wouldn't stand for that shit. I guess there are outliers of kids with just brains that go haywire, but I mean usually it's the parent, right? I don't know. Well, out of the podcast. Thought I went with the podcast. No, I really don't know, I really don't know. It's such a mystery.

Kids are such a mystery. Kids are the biggest enigmas fucking know the podcast. No, I really don't know. I really don't know. It's such a mystery. Kids are such a mystery. Kids are the biggest enigmas fucking in the world. Well, until you watch fucking Do Not Attempt with Matthew. And then they're just like, oh, yay, oh. Until you watch David Blaine, Do Not Attempt, and you go, OK, those are actually some mysteries. All right. Thank you for watching.

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