Lifeline - 37. Toxicity In Your City

Episode Date: December 18, 2022

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Hello? Hello? Hello? Hello? we are recording it's the show called lifeline we're recording it's this show that we do it's called in lifeline not shouldn't swear in the first minute. Okay, well bleep me out, dude. Bleep him out. Censor me. Make sure to bleep him out. Honestly, you censor me, see if I care. Me and my people will rise. Wow, my people.

Who are your people? My people are you. Okay, so I'll rise. Some of those people over there. Is my hair okay today? Your hair's pimping, pimping. Let's see. It's okay?

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you're not allowed to make what? Merchandise for a cigarette you can't have any kind of advertising at all yeah what's going on that's a a real thing oh god that's a real thing i didn't know that when did that law pass oh we were young remember billboards you couldn't you couldn't advertise like mr camel had to go no i don't remember the marble man wasn't allowed around anymore i don't remember this yeah dude weble Man wasn't allowed around anymore. I don't remember this. Yeah, dude. You don't remember that?

Yeah. No, I remember the ads in like... So you can't advertise cigarettes? No. Wow. I didn't know that. I guess I haven't seen it yet. At first, it was within certain distances of schools.

Right, right, right, right. Well, that makes sense. And then it was just in general. Yeah, because... Now it extends to like the internet and everything. Yeah, because you don't see... Wow, that's crazy, huh? The only place you can is a place that actually sells them.

You can put it in your window that you sell. How do you know this? You always ask me how I know things. I know things by being a person in the world. But like how is something that like you can advertise cigarettes only in places that sell cigarettes, not something you forget? That's more what I do. Like retaining that info is crazy.

I mean, just i read about the law and then i look deeper into the law and learn those laws don't forget i don't because i go if i read that i would go huh and then i'd say but i think about something else and then i forget it here's the thing though that's the thing'm interested. I have a wider interest than you do. Okay. It's why. Trailing into dick territory. Trailing into dick territory.

It's why I'm smarter than you. No. In general. No. It's one of the reasons I'm smarter than you. No. Because you're smart. You just don't apply your brain in the right way.

I'm very smart and also I'm smarter than you. No way. Yeah. No way. way plenty of people no one who knows us would ever say that people that'll do can you imagine the kind of person that would be like oh yeah chris is smarter than matt can you even imagine what that person would be like i'm pretty fucking smart man even dumb people know that i'm smarter than you so it's being so we're treading into dick territory. Sure. You know. Sometimes you got to tell it like it is, you know. No,

I'm very smart and there's different kinds of smarts. Okay. So how about street smarts? You have those? Yeah. There we go. But not more than I do.

I think maybe. But this. Well, you can't really measure that though. You know what I mean? Yeah, that's true. Yeah.

Yeah. Yeah. You can't even measure really smartness when it comes to knowing things either. Yeah, but you can because people talk to me then they talk to you and they say oh matt's smarter oh well it's december 18th we got one week before christmas what are you gonna do you're gonna get lifeline merch what are you gonna do oh you know what honestly you should have your holiday shopping already done by the way i'm wearing that don't push me um merch here that uh you can get at chrisleea.com. Oh, and I'm wearing the Lifeline

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How about that? You do this and you talk like this. Okay. So I will be in San Diego January 7th, chrislee.com. Portland and Seattle, I'll be there later on in January, and Lakeland, Daytona, and Jacksonville. San Antonio, Sugarland, Texas, New Orleans, Providence, New York City, Chicago, Kansas City, Springfield, Tulsa, check all these, Austin, Midland, Texas, Minneapolis, Columbus, Cincinnati, Ohio, and Boise. I will be there. Get your tickets at chrisley.com.

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What's up? Remember this? Remember this? Remember this? What's up? Yeah, I do remember that. What do you think i do remember that as a matter of fact i will tell you this much david sullivan's first and we talk about david sullivan a lot he's my friend who's really fat big head you know lifeline lives they've seen his enormous head yeah and he's really fat and he's short and he's fucking shits in his pants a lot and uh he basically is uh a great actor okay and he is and he does his first acting role ever

was i forget what show it was on but his he had one line and it was was that did you know that no i didn't know yeah did he play fat guy who smells? Fat guy who smells? Fat guy who obviously smells is what it was called, even though it's on TV. Fat guy who obviously smells, who has an enormous head. Yeah, and he goes, I dropped something, hold on. And then when he walked in for the audition,

he said, they all said, oh, you're perfect for this. Yeah. Because don't even do the line. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, and he got the part. So anyway, hit my head.

It's all great. Hit my head a little. All great. I will will say this and it sounds defensive sounds defensive but hurt so minimally and i'm so happy about that i was worried you know it's weird yeah i don't like you that much but okay well you do right but you know what i mean yeah but when you potentially get hurt uh it's so sad for me like i my heart breaks. What the fuck, bro? I don't need that. I don't. Why is your heart breaking?

It's not in service of you. Fix it. I'm just saying like I have an immense, it's like a mechanism within me biologically. It's just like automatic. Brotherhood. Yeah. If I see you in potential pain or in harm's way. Like hitting my head just like that?

I was like, oh, no. What? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Wow. I wonder what that's all about. I would have made fun of you for it. I needed to know you weren't actually hurt first. But even if I was hurt, how bad could that have possibly hurt?

It would have been like, ow, oh, shit, okay, it's over. You could have got a concussion. Not from that. Could have. No. I said so. No, dude. It doesn't matter if you said so.

You're wrong. No, no, no. Listen to me. I said so no dude it doesn't matter if you said so you're wrong no no listen to me i said so okay so i don't like you don't have to i got it i'm fine you're good yeah i mean you're gonna be cross-eyed and falling asleep by the end of the episode you're very uh you're very capable and i don't feel bad when you almost hurt yourself because i don't i know you're very capable and i i'm secure in that. What is it about me that makes or was it about you that makes it seem like I'm not capable of dealing with pain? Don't like it? No, I have a hard time relinquishing control.

And when I see something that makes me feel any kind of negative emotion that is out of my control, it's a ding, ding, ding reminder that I don't control anything in this universe. Everything's random. Nothing matters. And we're all going to fucking die in the same sad, depressing fucking way. Alone, drooling, fucking absolutely having no thoughts in our minds because they're mush.

Okay, well, that's if you die of old age. But not if you die from a train. You're not alone and you crash in a train with tons of people you all die and you your last thought was really with it you could be with it good good way to go although that's not automatic not a good way to go not a good way to go is just like just like out of nowhere i don't like thinking about it yes i don't like thinking about it and we're talking about i don't like thinking about and we're talking about it gets

it makes me really sad dude i used to stay up at night and think about this shit when i was a kid what is it you just stop living wow don't even want to talk about it dude i used to be up at night i used to run into dad mom's room ask him about it they get pissed off tell me to go back to sleep head tires look but there's no there's nothing after you die the lights are just out we don't talk about it you were talking about it hopefully there's a jesus christ hopefully there's somebody back there wow if it's nicholas cage all good really hope that there's something after we die wow lost your fucking mind dude uh yeah who knows man all i do all i know is i started talking about being religious on my podcast how i wish i was religious and like so many people wrote me about jesus christ and it

paragraphs of course they did dude nobody just talks about jesus a little bit you either talk about jesus not at all or it's just yeah it's unbelievable yeah it's because jesus to a lot of these people a lot of people were born and raised with jesus in their life but a lot of people that write messages like that found jesus yep dude and they can't help it they got all the information and they can't wait to to show the information they can't wait to just unblock that fucking verbal damn of just like and they say and they always say jesus they do yeah i like jesus jesus people say jesus you know when you go to church and they're like and jesus said and you're like dude you don't need to be like this about that jesus christ yeah like there's some kind

of robot jesus christ what's up bro you need a coffee he's tired no fuck you all right cool i was fucking popping at the beginning of this episode what are you talking about okay you were popping i got worried about you hitting your head i was scared i know but it's okay and i'm fine are you sure yeah honestly i'm telling you right now, dude. It was the kind of thing where it didn't even hurt at all. I was worried about you. Yep, but it's all good. So should we go into, let's get into a thing.

And we'll talk to these people about these people in the videos. Nicolas Cage. Nicolas Cage. All right, cool. Let's do it. Matt and Chris yeah in the Lifeline merch today

I'm gonna try to make this fast I live up in Canada I've been a server for four years I've worked in lots of different places I've done fine dining sports bars I bartended at a bowling alley my question is

how do you deal with workplace toxicity? And I feel like everywhere I've worked in the restaurant industry, there's always clicks. There's always drama. And I really, honestly, I just enjoy what I do. I love meeting new people and I like learning new things. And I have a lot of fun just getting to interact with people every day. And it doesn't feel like a business transaction for me.

Like I genuinely, I'm feeling fulfilled of my job but everywhere I've gone I've always had like debilitating issues with like management or staff or like like there's always just been something is it the industry do I need to leave the industry because that's just the way it goes leave the industry because that's just the way it goes or do I need to like start you know like because I've tried to stand up for what I think is right in the way that like a restaurant should function and it just like it always it always has backlash and it always um isn't the result that i want do i need to you know just keep pushing for what i believe or do i spin move out of the restaurant industry interesting um let me know yeah i don't know i feel like uh first of all i don't think it's just the restaurant industry i think that what you're describing clicks and hostility and toxicity and

like group think and sort of nobody wanted to change that's just what life is yeah that's talk yeah that's not your workplaces if you're going to use toxic like that then it's just fucking that's work work is toxic work you should that's how it goes i wish we were just lounging around not making and not trying to fuck and not having to go to work you know i mean you know and you know you love what you do and that's great it's weird though you have a great attitude and i i i would think like if you work for me or with me or if i work for you i would be like open to what you have to say so it's kind of odd that you know people are i don't know what do you think like i think just show up to work enjoy the customers tune out the drama at work and don't uh don't go this is the only thing i would say in terms of

like maybe be careful of but like don't go into a workplace and at any point within the first six months be like you know how we should do it we should do that like this like right get your bearings find where you fit in every in the place in your place at work and that either the hierarchy or the click whatever and then sort of develop a rapport understand where you are understand where everyone else is and then sort of try to maybe steer the ship in this direction or that direction it would be great if we didn't realize because she seems so sweet that she's a person that goes in first day of work she's like this needs to change this needs to change you're a bitch and you're a fucking asshole she did say something about trying to have her input heard no i know it's something like that i know but i'm saying i don't know she seems too sweet for that maybe but you know she's making a video for us

she knows what she's really like yeah she didn't air anybody's business out, though. I feel like you... Yeah, it's just... Here's the other thing, too. You can reframe your mind. If you're going to work looking to build relationships and looking for lifelong friends and to be a part of a clique or this and that,

then you're just going to set yourself up for failure yes he came out with a good one but the thing is it's work and that's what it is reframe your brain look at it as work you can enjoy what you do but at the end of the day it's work and it has toxicity in our city and our city i can't believe it took you that long to do that i tried so hard not to do it but it's just just like, oh, I got, oh, I just leave it because I wanted to. And I feel like if you want to make friends and be a part of, my click, my click, my click, my click, my click. Broke, just fucking broke.

This is a musical, this podcast, okay? I mean, I know. I tried to steer it that way early on with my progen. So if you're worried about the toxicity in our city, in our city, oh. Saw that guy once at fucking Erewhon, and I was like, hey, what's up, big fan? And he goes, oh, hey.

And then saw him again and kind of went like, hey, and he didn't even look at me. So I don't know, but I feel like, yeah. Serge Tarkanian? Yep, the guy is unbelievable, dude. Unbelievable. Yeah. Best line of all time.

Why'd you leave your keys up on the table? Because I wanted to. That's unbelievable, dude. Love how it's defiant. What is it? Why'd you leave your keys up on the table? Because I wanted to. And defiant and about nothing, but seriously,

also an insight to how he is personally. And I love it, dude. But yeah, if you're going to do a job that's what it is if you whether you're serving fine dining whether you're serving at a bowling alley or whether you're fucking you know serving dance moves whatever you're serving dude looks doesn't matter what you're serving you could be serving an ace because you're a tennis player right a tennis ball yeah but you need to go in with a different mindset these people are not working here because it's different mindset these people are not working

here because it's fulfilling them these people are working there because they want that dollar dollar bill and it's different so already you're in a different mode that they are yeah you seem like a sweet person i'm gonna go with that yeah so these people are different modes you've got your friends because you made them as friends don't look to work for your personal life like they say don't mix business with pleasure well they say that if they're russian i meant with pleasure not this pleasure uh yeah and he figured it out and he's good dude fairly well put yeah very well put you meant to say fairly uh yeah dude so i think that that's really where the buck stops there um because i don't know i

have friends with i have work friends you know comedian friends but my real dogs you know my real fucking the motherfuckers who ride or die very few comedians and more non-comedians right yeah yeah yeah yeah i think so yeah yeah a little. More what? Friends that are non-comedians. Yeah, because those are the real motherfuckers that know the real you. You don't just see them in the halls or the workplace. Yeah, no, yeah, for sure, yeah. So anyway, but yeah, just don't, you know, don't be surprised. Just be in that mindset, in that mode, I feel like.

Anyway, we figured it out. Great. Okay. Next advice. Chris, been a big fan of yours since I was 13 years old. I saw you here in Connecticut in 2018. Matt, my dad's a big fan of you from the show. His dad's filming it.

My favorite D'Elia is Bill. Whenever you guys call him, his laugh just gets me. He's great. A little bit about myself. I'm 20 years old. I'm a chemical engineering student here at UConn. Wow. Nice.

I have two jobs. I go to the gym five days a week. I don't party. I'm very dialed in and happy with what I'm doing. My question comes in regards to a girlfriend i have never had feelings really reciprocated with a female that type of movie you know thing how the you know romantic relationships are portrayed i've never really had anything like that at all uh and every time i've gotten close i just continuously get hurt to the point

where now i'm 20 years old and i live like a divorced guy, kind of angry at women because they keep hurting me. And it's, it's more how I go about it myself, but you know, my life is good. I'm happy. I have friends, you know, it's just great. But I also know I'm lacking in a major department of affection because I block out, Chris, I know you've talked about this a lot. I block out a lot of my emotions and I just go I'm just gonna stay you know whatever so no one can hurt me I'll be in school for a while going to grad school gonna be here for a while so you know there's ample opportunity to meet a female so I'm not too worried but I want I want to know what you guys think about getting around that mindset of I'm staying away from girls because they're just gonna keep hurting me anyways uh yeah love you guys okay love you too first thing just up front don't get mad at women don't get mad at women in general

you haven't met all of the women in fact you've met a very very low amount of them so don't go getting mad at them just because you had a crush on three of them and they didn't reciprocate right right okay you don't like deserve their affection in return. Now, that's the fucking tough love part now. That's over with. No more tough love, just regular love now, okay? Okay. Like you said, you're fucking 20,

so you're young as hell. And if you wanna know what relationships are like, even if you haven't been in one, here's a place to not look for an example of how they should be. Movies. People have seen too many movies. Absolutely.

No relationship has ever been like any relationship in at least a Hollywood movie. There's just no fucking way. Well, movies end, dude. Movies end on a fucking high note. Yes. Life ain't, life's not a high note.

Life's full of notes. And they're up and they're down and they're down and full of notes and they're up and they're down and they're down and they're down and they're up and they're down and shit gets fucked up dude jerry mcguire ended nice you know why that's why the graduate is so fucking good yeah because they they go a little bit longer than the end and then you see their smiles fade and then they're just like oh now we got to live our life actually like there's no such thing as a happy ending uh that's much more honest yeah than a fucking cameron crowe movie for sure um but all all that being said that's just like a foundational

thing just be you're because you're so young and you have a you're in this like um petri dish of call like college life yeah you're gonna meet so many women just by the fact that you're in this like petri dish of college life. Yeah. You're going to meet so many women just by the fact that you're standing there. Right. They're around. They're around. And this is not a, that's unique to college and grad school, whatever, same thing.

You will meet more women and you will have a variety of experiences with them. Some good, some bad. There's no reason to generalize about all of them you're going to meet one and i know you're probably sick of hearing this but dude you are 20 yeah no i know but that's so true one that actually that you actually like that actually likes you back and then you're going to be like oh my god remember how bitter i was yeah and what you're feeling now is not even going to make sense to you i had a chip on my lease a little bit like give up the grip a little bit it'll go it'll pass it'll go it make sense to you. I had a chip on my shoulder. Release a little bit. Give up the grip a little bit. It'll

pass. It'll get better. I had a chip on my shoulder when I was younger about women, you know, and it went away. But the, you know, it can go away and, you know, because it's hard to grow up and you want, you know, when you're figuring out your sexuality

and you like, you know, you like women and they're not liking you or whatever it is. mean not every woman's gonna like you um but yeah dude you're you're the good thing is is that you're very self-aware you're you seem like you've got a good head on your shoulder on your shoulders and it's okay to live right now for the way you want to with the way you're for your work and you're you know you should be focused on school and work and shit like that all that other shit will come but just be open to it dude don't just shut them out and say you know the second you adopt this yeah oh i don't like women or i don't like this you're already half of that is you just saying it if you just stop saying that and then actively

think like okay maybe i'm wrong about it dude you're gonna find someone the next day it's also not true and you know that's not you know that's not right you know because you can tell you know that's not right um which part just he dude you know it's wrong to hate a certain group of people like first and i know he kind of just he was just speaking and not everything he said was like we shouldn't fucking hold him to the to the fire hates him i think he said he like, we shouldn't fucking hold him to the fire. He didn't say he hates him. I think he said he's angry at him.

Right, right, right. Which is still stupid. But yeah, dude, you got this. And also, you know, he said he's what, a chemical engineer or whatever? Yeah. That's crazy. Yeah. So yeah, focus on your work because we need people like you to focus on your work and

don't get lost. You could be calling with all sorts of women problems. And then what happens is all your chemical engineering gets fucked up and then people die. And chemical spills and shit. Yep. Whoops. But baby, I didn't mean to. Oh, no.

The chemical spills. Yep. Right? You got to be careful. And then what does it deal with? Toxicity in our city, in our city. Literally. Okay.

Yeah. Literally toxicity in our city. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So that could be the episode named Toxicity in Our City. Yeah, I think it's going to be.'re just toxicity okay but uh yeah i feel i feel you bro but just get on get it come on bro you're so regimented in the rest of your life chill with the women yeah dude chill with the women don't put the fucking kibosh on that shit don't really do anything just change your attitude how about this i love all women i can't wait to

meet the fucking one that I'm going to spend the rest of my life or whatever with. You know, like just tick. Ah, yeah. What's that? I don't know. Just what he's doing, you know?

Cool. Sounds good. I'm for that. Let's do another one. This was him walking. Oh, yeah. Well, I knew that. But I didn't know what the tick all yeah was.

It was the shift of perspective. Got it. Everything's rosy. And now he's walking down the street. Yeah. And dandy as shit. Okay. Dandy the shift of perspective. Got it. Everything's rosy. And now he's walking down the street like, yeah. And dandy as shit. Okay. Dandy as fuck.

All right, cool. Dandy as shit. A podcast host. Mike Alba. I got a bone to pick with you because I can't stop saying, oops. Wow. And life rips and things that you guys say. And now all my friends and family. Yeah, they don't like that.

Are so annoyed with you that's okay dude what advice would you give on not repeating things like i have revert they get stuck in your teacher he just fucking went back to got back to his life dude that didn't end the video dude didn't even give a fuck did it kept going it's still on this is ed tv right um yeah uh yeah dude naked chicken stuck in your head it gets stuck in my head all the time but here's the good thing i'll create a thing and then people will start doing it and then i stop doing it because everyone starts doing it okay so be your own creator but what i would suggest too is make everyone in your life also talk like that yeah i know way better dude everyone talks the way we created because we created it and we won't back down dude no we will not back down there will be no backing down yeah

remember the first time we said so drunk i remember the first time i said so drunk no yep it was with uh that um camera operator we used to work with i don't want to say his name but mike okay well he was drunk we don't have to say his last name he was drunk and uh yeah no not not not alba though no i know yeah yeah and uh and he was drunk and don't have to say his last name he was drunk and uh yeah no not not not alba though no i know yeah yeah and uh and he was drunk and i forget we were probably somewhere up in sacramento or some shit doing that thing oh yeah and he was drunk and and we just i just said drunk and we were already doing this stuff and then you laughed so hard because i texted it ask a possibly drunk for the first time um yeah milestone what a milestone it was a milestone dude

we who knew dude i love when you create shit and you don't know it's gonna be a thing that's popping off in your family with your friends and it's a thing that's everything though you know what do you mean technically everything is not planned that it's gonna pop off no i know well i know that but but there's so few things that actually pop off yes and sometimes you're like oh that's gonna pop off and it it has no legs right no legs right yeah but there's a deeper issues and the fucking um defensivo yeah that shit that we do that that who knew that was gonna pop off yeah yeah um so yeah just roll with it even harder man alienate your alienate yourself don't even have family members that don't do it this is a cult bro bro. Super cult.

Subscribe, by the way. Just make them talk like you. But that's kind of what I mean by this is a cult. I don't actually mean talk about how the end of the world is coming. But I don't want him to get it twisted like if they don't get on board, then he separates and goes his own way. You don't want to be solo like Travis

Bickle. So basically he's failing if he doesn't get them to yeah keep being around them and just you're failing bro be better at it yeah get better try and fucking get him on board also dude maybe he's not doing it well maybe he's not doing it he didn't do oops that was great that wasn't a great it was he was forcing it you know an announcer yeah yeah yeah yeah and then also well you know life rips is obviously you can't force life rips because life obviously just rips but like yeah the just just uh you know, life rips is obviously you can't force life rips because life obviously just rips. But like, yeah, just, you know, relax into it. Make it be a part of you.

Ease into it. Yeah. There's a difference between, hey, here's this cool shirt I'm wearing. And hey, here's me in this shirt. Be more the hey, here's me in this shirt guy. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? Don't go out and get it.

Have it be in you and go with it when it comes out. We've never said more nothing than what we're saying but you know what we mean you know what we mean though um yeah very cool very cool all right next all right so i'm in a bit of a dilemma my dilemma is that every person you put on the show is white trash no i'm kidding um i am in a dilemma though uh and yeah i don't have a therapist because you know expensive but i would if i could but that's why i have you guys anyways um my issue is that every guy that genuinely likes me and cares for me never gets me and it's like really good for me i fucking like i don't like freak out in front of them right but like i like get so unattracted to them i get the ick and like

i don't know why and i'm like do i have daddy issues and i'm like no my dad was pretty good like i don't know why like i'm not lesbian i'm not asexual it's just like i don't know what to do about it like do i go like i don't know i'm i'm i'm confused you think you're confused i'm fucking confused like why why do you like woman like i mean a one-woman show a one-woman show that's the most sunburned person i've seen without that that's the most sunburned person i've seen that didn't say anything about their sunburn. I thought she was. I thought that was makeup that she was doing. I had no idea.

That's sunburn. Is it? Okay. It has to be. It's fucking November, dude. But anyway. Yeah. Okay.

So what's this question she's asking? She's asking. She doesn't. She likes guys that don't like her and girl. And she likes guys that don't like her and guys that like her. Don't. She gets the ick. What the fuck? Chris, explain. Yeah. What's going on? I don't like her and guys that like her don't she gets the ick what the fuck uh chris explain yeah what's going on i don't get it don't replay it once a guy starts to like

her she gets turned off oh dude oh you got problems you gotta go to therapy once a day you got once a day you gotta go to therapy every day that that is the worst possible thing that's so weird man you gotta go to i don't want to say it's weird, but it's fucking weird, dude. Hey, dude, he got problems and it's fine, but figure it out, right? It very clearly has to do with how you feel about you. Yeah, dude. Because if every time a guy starts to like you, you're like, ew, this guy sucks. Then you clearly have to think about how you think about you.

You've got it you've got an insecurity issue about yourself you've got to realize deep down and i mean deep down like in your heart deep deep down in your tummy deep all right right under your pussy you got to realize that you're the shit and if you do then them liking you isn't gonna dry y'all up right it's not gonna dry y'all up and you're gonna be like oh shit my towel budget has skyrocketed okay yeah you know what i'm saying i know what you're saying i don't think that that's really right accurate it's not accurate i think it's not an accurate portrayal of her potential you don't think that the towel budget will go up if she loves herself? That's absolutely ridiculous.

That's ridiculous, dude. That's ridiculous. You're basically proposing that she's going to make herself wet. Because people are going to like her, and then she's going to be able to do the horizontal mambo more, and her towel budget is going to have to go up because she's going to always have dirty towels because she's snail-chilling. I don't mean to be gross, but it like well you're being gross yeah so it's

like deep deep love for yourself you have to have deep love for yourself overboard some people just need to like themselves a little bit more you don't have to go around this world having a deep immense love for yourself i think you do you don't i don't have that for myself you just need well then there you go i know but i'm insecure and I know, but you need a healthy dose of everything. A healthy dose of everything. Everything in moderation. But you can't be so down on yourself that every time someone else likes you, you're like, ew, this person's a fucking moron.

That's not good. You got to give yourself a little bit of love. See what happens. So you think I'm going overboard and you've got to reel it back in a little bit? Yes. Okay. Yes. Yeah, dude. I mean, I think that basically you just got to reel it back in a little bit for yes okay yes you yes uh yeah dude i mean i think that uh basically you just got to work on loving yourself a little bit

more and then once a guy likes you you know maybe he fucking maybe it doesn't i don't know it is kind of weird though it's like that whole thing i can't remember what comedian says it but i don't want to be a member of any club that would have me yeah that's groucho marx is it yeah um and it's just like uh yeah it's just it's a tough thing right because it because it's that exclusivity that oh you don't like me well what the what the hell yeah i mean it would make more sense if you were younger we've got to get past that shit though it's like a younger person like i could see being like oh well you like me now it's time to move on i gotta got to get somebody else to like me. Right.

But like you don't look that, no offense, you don't look like a teenager. Yes. Yeah. Work on loving yourself and as you work on loving yourself every day, put a little cash aside, right?

Every day. And then once you truly love yourself, you'll be able to go buy the towels that you need. Wow, okay. But another thing I would say, why is she saying everybody in the show is fucking white trash that was a joke i think i mean i don't i don't i think that was a joke yeah i don't feel like that that's not even true first of all no i don't think so at all not even close well what's to say go up i mean the eyebrows on

this chick right here why we stopped liking guys a guy the second he returned oh yeah go go on the internet for this answer. Yeah. The worst. Girl likes a boy. Boy likes a girl back. Never mind. Girl doesn't like a boy anymore.

Who gives? Having a crush on someone is almost like a drug. It makes you giddy and nutty, warm and fuzzy, nervous and eager. It's almost an addictive feeling. Yeah, I agree.

With emotional highs and excitement, we feel just a simple interaction acting as fuel for the rest of our day. Yeah, sure. Yeah, I get it. Sometimes it's about the thrill of the chase. Yeah, I understand that do they have ben ben benedict cumberbatch you know go down what's he saying in that the thrill of the chase the blood pumping through

your veins is just the two of us against the rest of the world that's what he said in some stupid movie um you want you always want what you can't have yeah but that's fucking supply and demand dude but that's so immature like supply and the man right just yeah in this that could be a title to supplying the man supply end of the man okay but honestly get over it get over whatever's stopping you you're an adult be an adult fucking we hate saying get over it because it's not so easy but be an adult in the adult fucking world yeah she dissed our audience our audience i don't i don't like i mean it was let's just assume it was a joke because it's just so not true it wasn't even a joke

what's the joke then that we have white trash in our audience as white trash what's the joke that's not a joke you don't make that joke up out of thin air

that's nothing yeah so you're like saying you're saying it's literally the same thing as saying like how come everybody who calls in is a donkey yes

okay yes I mean we've definitely had one or two except that's not an insult white trash is a donkey? Yes. Okay. Yes. I mean, we've definitely had one or two white trash people. Except that's not an insult. White trash is a derogatory term. Oh, get it, get it. Okay.

Maybe she's white trash and she's projection. That's what I'm saying. Maybe that's why. With that fucking sunburn. Right. Yeah, true. And she did have some wood paneling in the background, I think. She's fucking... I hate to name call, but, you know. know park calling the kettle we could have been like that

but we didn't do it right i said something like that when you did yeah okay cool all right i don't listen all right cool all right here we go oh oh wow an hourglass his head is an hourglass wow a peanut what up chris and matt so my question to you guys is i've been working in this retail phone retail store for a year and four months and i'm on trade school doing hvac but i also find another good paying job position but you know i'm kind of loyal to my job and i don't know if i should quit i could definitely get significantly significantly more pay in my in the other job but i'm just very doubtful i don't know what to do how do you think i should take this to my boss and how do you think i should tell him uh that i'm leaving for a better

position i appreciate you guys for your time and thank you there's never been more there's never been someone there's never been someone that is more equally percentage every single race that's ever been that guy's the bomb dude yeah he's a great oh dude that guy you're right he's the most loyal person in the world and you can tell just by his head defend you to the death yeah he would do it and he would never leave you dude yeah he had his same girlfriend from when he first met the girl right right and marry her has kids would defend their honor his mom so much unbelievable and always shows to work in a fucking black tank top dude and eats dinner with a black tank top on

right right right can you play the beginning of that and loves taco tuesdays because i want to hear what he says the very beginning yeah taco tuesday what up chris and matt so my question to you guys is i've been working in this retail phone retail store i'd be working for a year and four months and i'm on trade school doing hvac but i also find another good paying job position but you know i'm kind of loyal to my job okay what is hvac uh he yeah okay what were you gonna say i was gonna say i think he's just trying to um find uh this is the job he's working until he's done with hvs yes but then so in the interim like he found a better job for just the interim part oh about so trade schools he's not stopping trade

school no matter what sounds like okay don't stop trade school you're gonna make a fucking good living doing that shit hvac is highly in demand motherfucking people need that shit yeah uh okay so i don't know what it was but yeah yeah um dude if you got a better paying job in the interim talk to your boss and just be like hey yeah i love it here and i love you but i need to make money and this other job is offering me more money how am i gonna buy fucking black tank tops for taco tuesday yeah yeah no but seriously though like you are clearly a good guy your boss understands that you are a good guy because he knows you already he'll understand dude he would do the same thing yeah i know you can't stay at a phone company just out of loyalty you're loyal to a fault dude you're loyal you're loyal to nokia you know like just fucking move on dude they don't

they don't care about you they don't give a fuck yeah you know ever since snake you know it's like dude he's fucking you know go to your boss and be like look boss you know i'm loyal to my soil but still man like you know you just want to say loyal yeah i did i did loyal to my soil is the stupidest thing in the world and people say it people say and mean it you know i'm loyal to my soil dog yeah yeah it's not good to say no it's not good to say at all dude yeah but people who say it all the time and then they do like this hey man i'm hey dog i'm loyal to my soil oh my god more hey dog i'm loyal know man you're doing good though you're fucking you're gonna be the shit dude that guy would look job fucking awesome if he uh put for real war like

um what do they call it mascara Mascara, like the purple. No, that's not mascara. Is it? What is it? Blush. Eye blush? Eyeshadow? Eyeshadow?

Dude, you should wear eyeshadow. I'm telling you. Why? Change your fucking life. Because he got real nice eyelids and shit. They were always at half mass. The guy looks high,

but he never smoked weed, you know, because he's well to the soil. No, yeah. He doesn't do drugs. He should do both jobs. Both what? Jobs?

Yeah, take the job and then just reduce his hour to the phone place. Oh. Then he might get overworked with the trade school though. Yeah, three things. You don't want to burn out. If you're Jamaican, you can do that. Well, he's a little bit equal race for everything.

No, it's Haitian, not Jamaican. The guys that stack jobs like that. Oh, it's not? I thought it was Jamaican. No, no, no. The Haitians down in Florida. Really? They got like eight jobs. Okay, Haitians. Okay, fine.

You make me out to be a racist. No, no, no. Okay, fine. You make me out to be a racist, but no, no, no, that's you making you out to be a racist. Oh, uh, all right.

So what else we got? Hey, Matt and Chris. Uh, my name is Ollie. I didn't probably tell from my accent. I'm from Australia. I don't know.

I'm actually going to be, you look like that though. And everybody that looks like that is in the U S for about a year. Um, I leave in a couple of weeks. Obviously, it's going to be a bit of a cultural shock for me, rocking out from another country and everything. So I was wondering if you guys had any tips or advice for me on how to kind of fit into your culture a little bit better.

I know you guys do stuff like tipping and driving on the wrong side of the road um things like that which we don't really do here um so yeah i was just wondering if you had any advice for me on how i can kind of fit into your culture and little things i can expect when i get there anyway any advice would be um super handy um so yeah have a good one and uh life rips yeah hell yeah dude you're gonna do great you're an australian guy that looks like that american and it's gonna love you yeah dude that's the end you don't need to know anything about about american culture true you're gonna kill the guy's acting like he's in japan it's fucking australia you know no i get i get where he's coming from but he doesn't

realize what he's bringing to the table go back back one. You know? Yeah. Scroll up. American women love the accent. Yeah. No, he'll be fine with that. You look good. He looked good. Yeah. I feel like he could probably... He's fine.

He'll be fine 100%. I understand. Yeah, you tip in Australia too, don't you? Oh, no, you don't. Do you tip in Australia? I don't know if you tip in Australia or not. I don't think you tip anywhere besides here. Do you tip in Australia? Do you tip in Australia? Dude don't you? Oh, no, you don't. Do you tip in Australia? I don't know if you tip in Australia or not. I don't think you tip anywhere besides here. Do you tip in Australia?

Do you tip in Australia? Dude. I said it so fast. He said he's going to be here for a year. A year. Oh, dude's going to have fun. One year. One year.

For a year? One year. Or in a year? One year. Guy's going to be fucking loaded up, man. Yeah. Guy's going to be loaded up, man. He's going to do good.

Chick's going to love that dude. Yeah. Oh, the guy can't wait. The guy can't wait. Yeah. i went to australia once bath bathe bathe daily like make sure you're clean yeah not to profile australians but like no americans are clean freaks yeah more americans are clean i i i take a shower every single day uh people always think i don't i take a shower every day and your boy smells fantastic i don't know they think our hair looks greasy i think we get both but that has nothing to do with how often you shower they just say shit like we look like greasy birds but dude i'll tell you

right now i shower every day and your boy smells fucking fantastic i shower every day yeah i understand but i'm yeah good that's fine i mean i don't think you need to shower every day but i i do and i guess i don't every day yeah i'll miss a day every once i don't miss a day yeah I don't think you need to shower every day, but I do. I guess I don't every day, yeah. I'll miss a day every once in a while. I don't miss a day. Yeah, you don't, yeah. And I smell fantastic, and you would admit that. Yeah, you've never smelled not good, yeah. So there you go, haters.

Everyone thinks that I look like I smell bad and I don't shower. Who thinks that? I don't know. I'm just, maybe, I don't know. I'm just saying I smell good. Nobody thinks you smell bad, no. Okay, well. You smell good, dude.

I think if people looked at me and you think, do you think that guy smells bad? They might be like, yeah, he might smell bad. No. I don't. me and you think does that could you think that guy smells bad they might be like yeah he might smell bad no i don't i mean maybe because i know you so well i can't really get out of the mindset but you're you're like a clean freak look at all these things cultural gift giving gifts are usually given on special occasions or often imagine googling this and try to find out like people tend to open give this is so asian to look up for america but what is it it's? It's rude to ask directly how much a gift costs. I mean, you know.

Oh, this is really nice. How much was this? Thanks a lot for this chocolate. How much was it? What did it set you back? Every gift, you know. It is insulting to give away or re-gift or throw away. Oh, thanks so much for this. I know a guy would love it.

How much was it? I'll tell away. Oh, thanks so much for this. I know a guy would love it. How much was it? I'll tell him. Tommy. Yeah. Get over here. Look at this. Re-gift or throw away the gift. Don't do this.

If you do so, do not make this gift known to the, do not make this known to the gift giver. Wow. So they're saying, if you're going to be shitty, just don't tell anybody about it. We know, you know.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Is it rude to eat with, look at this. Is it rude to eat with your mouth open, lick your plate, bowl, lick your plate. What are you, a dog?

All right. So thanks for meeting with me. Really good steak, huh? Damn on, eh? This steak was great. Are you paying for it? How much was it all? Can't wait to throw this up in my friend's mouth.

Disgusting. Hit three all in one. Asking how much it is. Licking the plate and fucking regifting. Yeah. Wow. All right. All right. All right, cool.

You're going to do fine. It doesn't matter what the cultural morals are here. You look like that and sound like that. But that's hilarious to ask as an Australian. I get it, though. It's not that crazy. It's not that weird. I went to Australia, and I just pretty much winged it,

and I think I was pretty polite and good. You're on the most wanted list in Australia, though. You didn't know that? Yeah. You know why? I robbed six banks. Yeah. That'll do it sydney australia robbed three banks two in melbourne and then one in adelaide giving yourself up well this yeah there's no extradition or is there yeah there is definitely between australia and yeah cool let's go next

i mean oh oh oh didn't you guys guys there. What's up, Chris? No way! Been a long-time fan. Love the new show. I was wondering if you got some advice for me. Finding more alone time with your significant other when you may have a baby, you may get a new puppy,

you know, something like that, and your schedule's a little bit busier than it used to be. My girlfriend and I, we just got a puppy. Things are always great. It's just sometimes you find each other a little bit more tired.

Just wondering what you guys thought. Give some advice thanks guys that was cool video dude every time we talk about something the beginning of the thing it shows up later on the episode he's doing that cigarettes thing and you were talking about advertising cigarettes in a place what about cigarettes then we're talking about advertising cigarettes in a place and you couldn't do it and then he's fucking stacking cigarettes oh oh this is really weird man didn't even notice um yeah dude uh okay okay i feel differently about this than i think a lot of people so why don't you go ahead i got something i could go so look i have a wife and a son four dogs i i maybe i'm codependent I don't ever want alone time I I don't want that I love being at home and I you know look I do go on the road but I bring them a lot I go on the road and I guess I

I guess I I don't I don't know like you have a job you work nine to this is what I don't get you have a job you work nine to five say and i don't know if you do or not but like generally you work nine to five you are away from your family i guess that's technically not alone time but when you get home don't you want to just be with your family what is alone time to you first of all you he means quality time with his partner i thought he said he wants more alone time no did he not say that? He meant with his partner. Oh, all right. Well, that's different. That's different.

Okay. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Quality time with a partner when you have things like a baby and a puppy that distracts you. Oh, he meant alone time with his significant other. Okay. Gotcha. Yeah. I mean, I don't know.

People do date night once a week. Yeah. People do date night once a week. Yeah, I mean, I think typically, specifically men are very resistant to the committed day of the week or time of the day that you do this thing. Men are very knee-jerk. They have a knee-jerk preference for spontaneity, but there really is something to be said

for the thing that's on the calendar that you do all the time it's like maintenance dude it's like this is the this is the uh time you have therapy every week this is the time you have just youtube time every week it's like you gotta as life gets longer and we get older like more and more shit fills our life and you got to schedule the shit that's important and that's a good way to fucking make sure you commit the time and you know when it's on the calendar you know he said he's sometimes he's just too tired it's like well then rest up for that shit make sure you're not tired at that time you know my my i had a therapist that used to say this is a while ago but she used, like, dude, you take your car to the shop, you got to take your relationship there too.

You know, like it needs maintenance, basically what you were saying. Yeah, dude. I think men view quality time as being together and women view quality time as doing something, you know, with the person. So, bro, I don't, you know but but this guy seems like he's coming from more of the female perspective and he well he's just willing he's whatever he's done for whatever got it as long as it's i see quality time yeah i don't know sometimes you're you know you're in a relationship where it's like but we want more quality time it's like what the fuck dude i used to be with this with this girl that was like uh well we never talk and i'm like all we've been doing is talking

and i don't she's like yeah but we just talk about bullshit i'm like oh so she meant about things i mean deep shit yeah but we do um what do you want me to say i've been with you for two years what do you want me to i don't understand i never understood it i still don't understand no you don't talk about deep shit you don't so she was right you should apologize to her right now that's my one x i don't talk to anymore okay well i think that it's high time to talk to her and to apologize to her hey sorry i never talked about deep shit who the fuck was that yeah um yeah yeah you don't talk about deep shit though i'd rather talk about pants or something i know that but you should mix in

deep shit goes a long way what did she want what did she mean what who my my ex you don't talk about shit of substance that matters big ideas big things that matter in life the future the fucking go to see my new act bro i'm crushing see what i'm saying oh that's all you want to talk about whatever that and like people who have seen you on stage and liked saying oh that's all you want to talk about whatever that and like people who have seen you on stage and liked you whatever that's like you'll be like oh costas mandalore i love that guy he's a fan of mine you know what i mean who's costas mandalore the the sexy greek guy uh that was in a bunch of shit in the 90s you would be like oh i love that guy and i'd be like why and you'd be like oh i saw him at a show he's in a saw movie and also he was in something i literally just watched called blowback with uh um uh that ufc fighter uh

fuck what's his oh he's in a bunch of the song movies he was sexy dude is he still sexy uh no no I mean he's you know he's like more of a uh a non sexy guy now like a character actor kind of guy yeah oh look at his IG oh look at him with the dog yeah yeah so he's

there's Costas Mandel or that's it there he is being a fucking pimp where is he right there yeah how about we click on one but that's just him because that's better yeah right there oh he keeps there we go there he is that's him no that's a different person unless that's from a while ago no yeah uh where is he not even in any of these pictures there he's on the right oh it was with james khan that must have been when he passed uh oh wow what is that dude is that you gotta show it i mean his fucking legs are spread so wide dude yeah costas is back it says how much is he so ridiculous ridiculously famous in brazil you know in greece oh he's greece he's he's greek he's he's greek okay well anyway uh no i i talk about elevated things a lot okay

yep you're gonna get in such a big argument me and you after the show um yeah so okay well all right all right do we want to do one last one or one last one hey what's going on guys this is connor coming to you from shanghai china whoa whoa and i have a question for you guys about patients um so i'm under lockdown along with everyone else in the city 25 million people you can believe it so what's going on in china with the outbreak here zero zero covid policy is what's going on could be from a while ago too oh right it could be still going on you see that shit no i know there's a new thing going on oh right yeah no it's a while ago it could have been a while ago yeah who knows when they have an outbreak they shut things down jesus yes exactly yeah shut it down dude it's it's

not even that bad china china doesn't want it dude cough a little bit china doesn't want it okay let's do it and um it's uh it's a difficult situation for a lot of people because we don't know when lockdown is going to end. It's similar to solitary confinement where we are confined to our apartments. We can't see anyone else. We can't go outside. We can't go for a walk. What? We can't see anyone else.

We can't go outside. We can't go for a walk. What? And originally it was supposed to last five days, and it's been 40 so far. Oh! Probably closer to 50 when you guys see this video. So the question is how to deal with this situation that we are in and how to be positive and be patient um when you know you can't control it and you and you don't know when it's going to end um which i think a lot of us um foreigners

and chinese people included are are struggling with uh to some degree yeah um i love it here i love being in china and uh so you know doing a spin move as Chris would say and leaving China is not going to be an option for your advice to us let me know what you guys think and as always life rips even when it doesn't

bro you gotta get those prison workouts in those burpees and jumping around and just fucking get shredded there's no excuse not to be shredded at the end of the day i mean not the end of the day but then that's crazy this is obviously an old video but man i mean dude you got to be shredded you got to be jacked pick up a talent get good at those fucking uh you know where you try to fucking swing the ball up into the cup you know i mean how do you eat by the way how do you get i was just gonna say how does that work you got to be able to go to a grocery store i guess or something i don't know

who knows government workers just come in like sealed up suits and they're just like your dinner oh my god bro what a nightmare oh i think honestly that's that fucking sucks man what do you do what's even the advice video games uh, workouts, you know, read. I have a good one. I have a good one. Become an expert in something you've always been interested in. Don't become good at it. Don't become pretty knowledgeable about something.

Become a fucking expert. Like whether it's like a historical thing you wanted to know about some kind of uh science thing you wanted to know about whatever it is just like a certain animal wildlife a fucking x become an expert at that and you can because you have access to the internet if nothing else yeah do they have the access to internet in china well yeah it's their i'm kidding it's their internet but it's it's still internet i know right you know i mean they get the limited internet but yeah yeah but it's pretty it's pretty you know watch my specials that would be great um yeah over and over again watch christy's specials yeah dude oh man that's a rough one dude i'm sorry sorry that that happened what else even

is there to say this is fucking brutal yeah that's brutal 50 days of not even fucking of not even seeing people and no human touch my gosh he said he sounds like he lives with someone though right if he lives with someone thank god dude that's great but also if he doesn't though scary to live with someone also you definitely have to start singing r&b because look at your face right i mean dude the guy beers, it looks like you strap it on, strap it off. 100%. This is how he gets ready to go out. That's the beer. Yeah, the guy's just fucking. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. He does that. In the shower.

And a chain with a cross on it. Oh, yeah, dude. 100%. All right. Well. Yeah. That's the show, my friends. Go to chrislea.com.

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