Living The Red Life - Strange Lessons Learnt From High Achievers

Episode Date: April 11, 2024

In today's episode, I delve into the distinctive behaviors of successful individuals, focusing particularly on their morning routines. I elaborate on this to help you understand why you should craft a personalized routine tailored to your goals, without being swayed by societal norms. Drawing from interactions with high achievers across various fields, I've noticed unwavering focus on self-improvement and goal attainment, contrasting it with the common tendency to prioritize external validation.Successful Individuals invest in efficiency and effectiveness, often spending generously on tools and services that enhance their productivity. They often have unconventional spending habits, such as prioritizing premium travel options and outsourcing tasks to optimize time management. I also touch on the importance of prioritizing health and longevity, from my personal experience of how this impacts my daily life.CHAPTERS1:29 - Obsessively Focused on Yourself and Your Goals5:26 - The Importance of a Personalized Morning Routine6:47 - Intentional Use of Social Media vs. Unintentional Use8:00 - Investing in Efficiency: Spending Money Wisely10:06 - Prioritizing Health and Well-being for Success12:10 - Obsession with Health and Longevity15:08 - Building and Protecting Your Circle of Influence16:57 - Transitioning from Popularity to Selectivity18:00 - Embracing Uniqueness: Going Beyond NormalConnect with Rudy Mawer:LinkedInInstagramFacebookTwitter

One thing I recommend is create this strange, unique, perfect morning routine for you. Don't worry about other people. Don't worry about what other people do or say. Just create something for you that gets you in the perfect place. Why? Well, we're going to wake up every morning for many, many, many, many days to come, hopefully, right? If we live to 80, 90, 100, thousands of days, we're going to wake up and repeat something

in the morning. This could be a good setup for the day, or it could be a bad setup for the day. Okay. So build a routine that sets you up for a good day versus a bad day. Cause guess what? You're going to live through it a lot of times. My name's Rudy Moore, host of Living the Red Life podcast. And I'm here to change the way you see your life in your earpiece every single week. If you're ready to start living the red life, ditch the blue pill, take the red pill, join me in Wonderland and change your life. Guys, welcome back to another episode of Living the Red Life. Today, we're going to talk about the strange traits of successful people. Why are successful people having all of these weird ways of living life that define the

norm? We're going to dive into them today. I'm going to share some of my strange traits and beliefs and some of the strange traits, beliefs, and habits of very, very successful people that I've noticed hanging around with A-list celebrities, hanging around with billionaires, hanging around with ultra, ultra millionaires, hanging around with world champions, gold medalists, right? And I'm privileged because I learn a lot from those people. And here today, I'm sharing that with you. So let's dive in straight away. Trait number one, they are obsessively focused on themselves and their goal, almost to a level of arrogance. Now, this doesn't mean just before I start that they don't care. They actually care about other people and philanthropy and charity a lot, but they are obsessively focused on themselves and their goal.

And this is one strange trait I see with all successful people that they share, that they're very dialed into them. And why is that important? Because most people in the planet, most people that aren't successful are the opposite. They are focused so much on what other people think, what other people do, what other people say. They are so obsessed with reality TV. Why?

Because they love gossip and drama, right? Versus being focused on them. Successful people are obsessively focused on them, their own routine, their own goal, and the people around them, right? Which, like I said, they do care, but they obsessively care about those people close to them, not so much just random people and caring about what random people are up to. So one of the strange traits that I'm recommending

today is become obsessively focused on yourself. Become obsessively focused on your goals, your desires, right? And what's happening in your world. And I have this saying that Les Brown loves, he always jokes about it. One of my favorite sayings is, I'm living in Rudy's world, right? And I say that, and I said this to Les one time, because he was asking me about some stuff about whatever people were doing and politics and stuff. I'm like, Les, I honestly, I don't know, I'm just living in Rudy's world. That was my answer. And he said, I'm going to use that because I've built this kind of system internally where I'm so focused on me, right? And that keeps me very driven, very aligned, also very happy because I'm not worried about

all these other people out there and what they're doing and the politics and stress and wasting time on it. So that is the first trait that I want you to go away and focus on is focus on yourself. The second trait of successful people is they are obsessively focused on their morning routine. Morning routine, you hear a lot, people do ice baths, they journal, they meditate. It's become a big thing in the entrepreneur space because it sets you up for your entire day. Now, I'm not here to teach you you've got to do this, you've got to journal, you've got to do meditation, you've got to do 50 push-ups, right? You've got to take an ice bath. Every single person out there in this room should do their own morning routine. And this should be built around your

goals, your habits, your desires, and what gets you in the best possible place to have a good day and be productive. So for some of you, that could be getting up at 6am and journaling, meditating, working out, and taking an ice bath, right? And that's probably going to get you pretty well awake, right? By 8am, you're probably going to feel pretty good because there's certain things in there, psychologically and from a chemical perspective, your own internal chemistry should make you feel happier, more focused, more energized. It's scientific proof of that. However, some of you don't need that. And like me, actually, I don't do a lot of that stuff. And I've tried it. I can wake up, right? Start my day

and I can have good energy, but I have a couple of non-negotiables that are different. For me, I have to get 30 minutes of sunlight. That is the biggest non-negotiable for me. So wherever I am, like I was filming a TV show in LA and I had to just go stand outside and be on the phone or on a zoom or take a walk to get that sunlight. So morning routines are so important. And every successful person has this kind of unique morning routine. So one thing I recommend is create this strange, unique, perfect morning routine for you. Don't worry about other people. Don't worry about what other people do or say. Just create something for you that gets you in the perfect place.

Why? Well, we're going to wake up every morning for many, many, many, many days to come, hopefully, right? If we live to 80, 90, 100, thousands of days, we're going to wake up and repeat something in the morning. This could be a good setup for the day, or it could be a bad setup for the day, okay? So build a routine that sets you up for a good day versus a bad day, because guess what?

You're going to live through it a lot of times, okay? The third thing, the third thing that's very, very important. A lot of big successful people don't spend as much time on social media as unsuccessful people. This is even true with some people that have massive social media accounts and are massive influencers. They spend a lot of time creating content and some of them will spend a lot of time researching social media, looking at trends, but it's intentional versus unintentional. Unsuccessful people spend a lot of time on social media doing nothing, wasting time.

I mean, I saw a sad statistic the other day that the average American spends over an hour on social media a day, and all you're doing is browsing, right? Whereas intentional successful people have no time to kill. Most unsuccessful people have time to kill, right? You see the difference? So what I recommend, right, is don't get lost in the social media kind of frenzy where you open it quickly, 20 minutes later, you're still scrolling. If you want to be on social media to look at viral content, to learn something, to be inspired, you know, to reverse engineer an ad, right? Whatever it might be for your marketing, great, go for it. But be intentional in it, not unintentional where it's controlling you. And this is a famous saying from Les as well, actually, that I really loved. And I don't think

it's his, I think he got it from someone else, but it might be his. But it's successful people control their day, unsuccessful people have their day controlled for them. That is the same with social media. Successful people control their intake. So for me, I am on it a lot, but I'm looking at top content creators. I'm looking at trends. Last night I was watching some YouTube videos because I'm really focused on YouTube now and I was reverse engineering top videos, what elements they had, getting inspiration, looking at analytics. So again, it's intentional use versus unintentional use. I might have YouTube on for a motivational video because I enjoy them, but it's intentional use versus unintentional use. The next strange, bizarre thing that successful

people do is they blow a lot of money on stuff that makes their life more efficient. OK, now I've seen this for myself, actually, and I waste a lot of quote unquote waste, a lot of money on stuff that I would never have dreamt to do 10 years ago. Stuff that would have made me feel sick to my stomach 10 years ago, because 10 years ago, when I had no money, I was obsessed with saving every penny. It's probably more like 15 years ago, actually. But 15 years ago, I was obsessed with saving every penny. So good examples of that is I would scour the internet for like 50% off discounts or coupons when ordering a pizza. I would bike to work instead of driving to work in the freezing cold in England at like 6am to the gym just to save a couple of dollars in gas money. And of course, I wanted to work out, so it did

help keep me fit, but it was because I wanted to save money. So I've gone from this ultra poor mindset to this abundant mindset, but also this mindset where I spend bizarre amount of money on stuff that makes my life better, more efficient, right? So I'll give you a couple of examples. I try to only fly first class and I will pay obscene amount of money just to fly first class, even if it's like a short fly. And sometimes I even say to myself, is it worth an extra grand and a half just for like a two hour flight versus an exit row. But I still generally do it because it puts me in a much positive energy state and productivity state for the day versus

when I go in and occasionally I'm forced into economy if I have to like book a change my flight last minute for filming or something and there's no first class tickets. But whenever I'm in economy, it puts me in this negative energy state because I'm crammed, I'm uncomfortable, I'm around less successful people, and it smells and it's gross. And I just don't like and you have to wait ages to get on the plane. So again, for me, it's about paying a lot of money, not because I want to say I fly first class, but because I want to have a good energy state, right? Another thing I do is I always call two Ubers, an Uber and a Lyft, right? Because I want to save time and I get very frustrated if I'm waiting seven minutes for an Uber. So I call both to see which one gets there first and I just

lose the cancellation fee on the other one, right? And I have multiple, you know, for the last few years, I had multiple people in my life supporting and optimizing my time, assistants, social media managers, staff members that do little aspects of my life. And I might spend 10, 15, 20 grand a month on people doing those little aspects of my life when arguably I could not do them or I could do them myself. But to me, the ROI of my time and energy is so profound that even people that bolt on the side of me and do these little things have a massive ROI. So I've seen, and I'm not like an extreme example, but I've seen many very ultra successful people spend a lot of money on making their either energy or time better. Okay. So I think that's something you'll learn over time when you understand the kind of power of it. I didn't used to appreciate it. I

thought it was all BS, honestly. But now I've kind of like learned how my energy and mood and environment impact me so much in like, you know, general happiness, energy levels, like actual physical energy levels. And then also from like a creative standpoint and also a mood standpoint, right? If I'm in these better energy states, I'm a better person. I'm more motivational, inspirational, probably better communicating and more enthusiastic versus negative, right? So it's definitely worth the ROI. Okay, so that's the third one. The fourth, the next one, okay, ultra successful people. I've seen this trend in the last five years is they spend obsessive amounts of time, energy and money on their health, mostly because many of them were not healthy. And then they realize the importance of it. So

this has been interesting for me to see because I grew up in the health and then they realize the importance of it. So this has been interesting for me to see because I grew up in the health and fitness space and the sport world. And I've grown up, you know, and now I know a lot of billionaires and millionaires and ultra successful people. Five, six years ago, a lot of them were overweight, unhealthy, unfit, didn't work out. And there's been this big trend in the industry where now like pretty much all of them, you know, they're on like hormone replacement therapy. If they're older, they all work out. They all kind of go keto or carnivore diet or low carb. They've lost a bunch of weight and great for them, right? They all look way younger. They're probably way more energized, probably healthier and happier,

right? So another thing that I've seen amongst all of them in common is you especially billionaires is you get to this point where they're like okay now i'm ultra rich i've achieved a lot in my business and now i'm like i've they have this like new era of goal setting that's totally different to how most of us set goals in like changing the world and flying to space and redefining an education system, whatever it might be. So now they've transitioned into this new kind of world and this new goal that they have. And they are really obsessed in how do I stay alive longer. So again, a strange trait of successful people is this obsession around biohacking, health, longevity.

And I'm, you know, I think it's strange because of how much time, energy and effort people put into it, but not in a bad way. I think it's a great thing. And I'm not saying you have to spend a lot of money on it yourself, right? You don't have to have these like $20,000 machines all of a sudden. And, you know, a lot of them also have like seven different doctors, like eight different personal trainers and nutritionists, which I think is funny. But you do have to realize the direct connection for money and business. And I think when you're in your 20s, you can get away with it without it. And then as you get older, you start to see the impact that it has both in a positive and a negative way. And the final one I want to share with you today is kind of an interesting

one. It's probably the hardest for a lot of people is a strange obsession around their circle, right? And the people around them. And one thing that I've seen all successful people do is be very big judges of character, judges of energy, judges of how someone is positive or negatively affecting the energy, and then being very intentional. And I see people, very successful people, I see them gravitate. And what I mean by that is very successful people, I see they either gravitate towards someone with good energy and positivity and someone that they've read and believes a good person or successful or has something to them versus going the other way, right? Where they're

maybe going to like, you know, someone negative, someone that moans, complains, has a bad outlook on life, is like slow, is like, you know, kind of like just going through the motions. And I see ultra successful people like a magnet, right? They're pulled to this person. And then, you know, when you put two ends of a magnet together, they're pushed away by that person. And a lot of people that are ultra successful will do it so much so that they're like really obsessed around getting the right group and then cutting out the wrong group. So one recommendation for you is, and obviously I'm not saying you have to cut out family where you never see them again and like you now hate them, but you might spend 95% of your time here. And then when you spend 5% of your time in this group, you kind of put up a

force field. That's kind of, I've done a podcast on this in the past. Like when I spend a small percent, probably 2% of my time with normal people, I have this like force field around me where their negativity and energy and stuff can't get to me. And I actually analyze it and kind of laugh internally about it because it's wildly different when you see this like positive group of entrepreneurs versus negative group. I and really just how divided they are in their mindset and their energy levels. So successful people are obsessed about building their circle and obsessed about protecting their circle and keeping the wrong people away from it and out of it. And I think so much of us don't do that because, well, many reasons. Firstly,

a lot of us grow up in life trying to be popular, trying to be friendly, trying to make friends, trying to be liked by everyone. So I think it's a weird like transition, at least for me, because that's how you grow up as a child. You want to, you know, get to know everyone, be friendly, accept everyone for who they are and blah, blah, blah. And then you kind of flip the opposite way where you're now like saying no and trying to remove people out of your life and spend less time with them because they don't serve you. And again, it doesn't mean you do that in a horrible way. It just means you do it in a way that protects you and serves you and gets the most out of your life, right? Because you're not, you know, maybe a family member is different,

but you're not contracted and oblig, maybe a family member is different, but you're not contracted and obligated to have to spend time with most people in life. So I think understand that it's okay to create boundaries and create the right circle. And then in summary, after all of these are said and done, I could keep going, but successful people aren't normal, right? And one thing that's really important to understand is if you want to be really successful in any aspect of life, you probably have to go to an extreme because anything that is seen as normal by definition will create normality or average or the mean, right? The medium. So if you want to do anything that is not normal, right, like become a millionaire, become a pro athlete, whatever it is, build a big charity, whatever it is, by definition,

you have to do things that are not normal to have any chance of actually having that dream become a reality. So it's very important to understand that it's very important to understand that it's okay to be different. And actually, in my opinion, it's very good to be different. And just understand that by studying successful people and some of the things I've just taught you today on the show and other things you might learn from myself and other successful people from listening to podcasts, YouTube videos, and all those things by really applying these things to your life. Hopefully you'll have more impact, you'll have more income, you'll have a better life, a better quality of life, better

energy, more happiness, less negativity, and everything will come together to ultimately do what we're all trying to achieve here, which is building our dream life. Okay. And that's what the red life's all about, building this unique life, living in wonderland and building a dream life. And I think it all starts with knowing it's absolutely possible for every single one of you listening. And I hope those weird, strange, successful traits

help you kind of, you know, maybe implement a few things into your life or a guiding light on some things you might want to focus on. So until next time, guys, keep living the red life and on some things you might want to focus on. So until next time, guys, keep living the red life and I'll see you very soon. Take care.