Living The Red Life - Unlocking Billionaire Mindsets with Brian Dalmaso

Starting point is 00:00:00 There are success principles that anybody can learn, but it starts with a decision, and it also starts with ignoring the past. You need to forgive and forget. It doesn't matter where you are or how you got here. If we keep focusing on the past, we will keep manifesting the past. And that's just straight physics, right? If we keep looking backwards to make decisions, you're going to keep getting the same results. So it has to start with a change in thinking and building a new paradigm, which is what we specialize in. My name is Rudy Moore, host of Living the Red Life podcast. I'm here to change the way you see your life in your earpiece every single week. If you're ready to start living the red life,

Starting point is 00:00:36 ditch the blue pill, take the red pill, join me in Wonderland and change your life. Guys, welcome back to another episode of Living the Red Life. Excited today to have Brian, my friend on. He is a mindset expert, mindset guru, mentored under Bob Proctor himself, was one of Rob's top consultants. And he's been at many of my events helping some of our members. He's done some work with myself where we've gone backwards and forwards on elevating my mindset to that billion dollar level that I want to get to. And I wanted to bring Brian on today to help you guys get your mindset in order for 2024 to win, to go bigger than ever that you thought possible, to win bigger than you ever thought possible, and to just totally crush this year.

Starting point is 00:01:22 So Brian, welcome. Great to have you here. Hey, Rudy. Thanks for having me, bud. It's a pleasure and Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. I'm looking forward to absolutely crushing 2024. Yes. So let's dive in. When we talk about mindset and all those things and goal setting, there's so many different approaches to it. Some people think it's woo-woo and blah blah blah like what is the difference with with bob with yourself like the principles you teach versus other mindset experts and gurus no that's a great question and unfortunately the industry is loaded on the internet with you know law of attraction experts and mindset experts and most of them have not studied metaphysics and quantum mechanics in the there's a science behind how the world's most successful people think and act and operate.

Starting point is 00:02:09 There's metaphysics and physics laws and principles that apply that were just not taught in school. You can go to Harvard Business School and not learn anything about the mind-body connection, you know, the conscious, the subconscious, and the body. So, you know, one thing that separated Bob and his 63 years of work that got passed on to me is he studied, you know, science and theology and even religions and metaphysics and quantum mechanics. What we're talking about is not based on opinion. It's not a theory at all. It's literally based on the physics and the success principles of the world's most successful people. So that's really what makes it different. I love that. I love that.

Starting point is 00:02:48 Yeah. So what I would love to talk about is one thing you said there, the mindset. I can't remember exactly how you said it, but the mindset of the world's best. Right. Can you talk to me and tell everyone like you've worked in this industry for a long time, worked with top entrepreneurs, obviously worked closely with Bob for many years, athletes. What are some of the things you see working with the world's best that if we all started, you know, as beginner entrepreneurs or intermediate entrepreneurs, if we started to master would give us more success? That's an amazing question. And here's the challenge, or here's what happens. You have the Steve Jobs and the Elon Musk, you have the one in a million type people, and just for some reason, they're just born a little different, right?

Starting point is 00:03:36 Most of the world is looking at those people and they say, well, Elon can do that, but I can't do that. And obviously, that's an extreme example. But the reality is, is anybody can learn to think and act and operate like the top 1%. We're not taught how to do it in school. But what Bob mastered was, was the principles behind that. So some of the things that separate or even like yourself, you and I talked, you have a lot of unconscious competence. We teach on something called the knowing doing gap, which you don't really have much of one. You get an idea and you implement. And I can probably dig into your early days and your childhood going back. You and I talked about some of the things you did with college loans and

Starting point is 00:04:16 investing in properties. You just think differently. But for the people that weren't kind of born like that, we can teach that. So this knowing-doing gap is something that plagues most people. And I do mean like 99% of the world. It's the difference of between knowing what to do and actually doing it, right? Everybody knows that you should, you know, drink water and eat fruits and vegetables and lean proteins. Everybody knows some version of what healthy eating is, but most of the world isn't doing it. The reason for that is because the subconscious mind is about a million times more powerful than the conscious mind at storing programs or decision making. So we can get a New Year's resolution. This is going to happen this next week, right? Millions of people are going to flood the gyms and two or three weeks

Starting point is 00:05:00 later, they'll be gone because they don't understand. They don't understand mindset. They don't understand how to build the mental programs in their subconscious mind that are going to cause them to stay at the gym or stay on the diet or to discipline themselves in sales, to reach out to a hundred people or do whatever it is, whether it's health, wealth, business, they're all mental programs. And closing that knowing doing gap is one of the things we specialize in yeah it's funny i mean that that's the that's the expert i guess a little more scientific approach i call it um people have too much procrastination and no discipline so but i see that like i see it with my staff i see it with my staff. I see it with friends, family members.

Starting point is 00:05:45 I see it with people that say they want to be successful people in that, you know, I've coached thousands of people, you know, so I see this, like everyone, everyone wants the success and the reward, but few people are willing to put in the work or kind of of implement so so you're saying you know i would love to to dive into that because i'm sure a lot of people listening they might not want to accept it but but that that is a lot of people right so and we agree of course right so how how if that's someone listening um how do they work through that and fix that?

Starting point is 00:06:26 Well, the quick answer is to join us in The Matrix in one of our programs. It's not something you're going to cure on a podcast. I can give you the principles of why it is, but that's why we have our company is to dig deeper with people. But the reason is, again, understanding mindset. So let's start there. Almost nobody can explain what mindset is. You and I talked about this, but everybody agrees that we need to change the mindset to get different results, whether it's in business, relationships, body, whatever that is. So let's start by defining

Starting point is 00:06:56 mindset. A person's mindset is all of the mental programs that are stored in the subconscious mind from birth, controlling all of the results. So if we understand that we're born a blank slate, and our parents are introducing programs like walking and speaking, and then we go to grade school, we don't learn much there, high school, they're teaching us memory, right? Little math, science, English, not teaching us wealth building, decision making, self image, any of the things that actually build wealth. They're not even teaching us to think. They're teaching us to memorize. So the inherent problem is this system that we all go through. And that's why it's like one in a million people kind of disconnect from that. But for everybody else, we can build the mental programs over time of billionaire. And I'll give you an

Starting point is 00:07:45 example that'll cut right to the chase. And anybody listening here, I want you to just really listen to this podcast, what I'm about to say here. If you imagine, instead of being born and growing up, how you grew up, whoever's listening, the process of how you grew up, and there's nothing right or wrong with that. I want you to imagine instead that you were born as Warren Buffett's son or daughter. And I don't know if he's a good guy or a bad guy. I haven't met him yet. But at least financially, right, over 10, 20, 30, 40 years, you would all have the mental programs called billionaire. And you would all be multi-billionaires just from being exposed to that environmental stimulus, right? And you wouldn't think any, you wouldn't wake up every morning pinching yourself, oh my God, I'm a

Starting point is 00:08:29 billionaire, right? It would just be part of your mental programming. And that example usually sets people free to say, wait a minute, he's right. You know, how I grew up, I didn't grow up with Richard Branson or, you know, a role model or like, you know, my parents were divorced. They grew up in situations where they weren't taught wealth. So how would you ever normally learn anything unless you're in the environment, in the mentorship with somebody that can give you those mental programs? So that's sort of the global problem. It's societal and generational ignorance. What Bob has done over 63 years of study is boiled this all down into programs that we can teach.

Starting point is 00:09:06 And that's what he taught me to do. And that's why I have the Matrix Success International is to really, I always say from broke to billionaire. We have programs from people at the bottom and people at the top. And like you said, even you and I have worked together, even though you're relatively speaking, you're very successful. You're a really good example, Rudy, because most of the world would look at you and say, oh my God, he's extremely successful. But you're hanging out with Richard Branson, Grant Cardone, like in the world of people that you're hanging out with, that I see, you're sort of at the entry level, right? Yeah, I'm up and coming.

Starting point is 00:09:41 So you're also young, but that's a perfect example, right? And you probably spend more now than ever on mentorship and getting around, you know, billionaires because you've made a decision to be a billionaire. And you may not know all the hows or let's go back 10 years ago because I think you've been a billionaire decision for a long time. Long before you ever knew how, long before more capital is what it is, you had a decision in your mind, like, I don't need to know how, but this is what I want. And that's why I say you're an unconscious competent, because almost everybody else in the world, they need to know how first. And that's the problem. Yeah, so so part of it is just realizing, well, I mean, and obviously, you coach through this, but I think for a lot of people, it's just, you know, maybe accepting and being okay with you don't have to always know how, right?

Starting point is 00:10:33 Like I often say, I just trust the dots will connect, right? So I really focus on the core disciplines every day and being big picture, right? Doing big picture things and then i have and then i have to trust the dog will connect and it's an interesting question because a lot of people ask me well really what how are you going to get to a billion or whatever and i tell them more capital is just like a holding company vehicle it's not going to be the thing that gets me to a billion right it's just like it's, it's part of the journey. And I don't know what company it will be. You know, most billionaires,

Starting point is 00:11:08 if you ask them five, 10 years before they start that company or become a billionaire, they don't always know about that company, right? It's like- A million percent. It takes you on. Yes, you hit it right on the head.

Starting point is 00:11:20 And I'll even go a little bit further. Most times you won't know how, not only maybe you won't know, you may have no idea how, and that's what confuses people. But what I said, let's 10 years ago, when you set the goal, right, of a billion, what I would have said to you is if you knew how you'd already be there, and this goes to everybody. If anybody listening knew how to get to 100,000 a month, you would already be there. So you're almost never going to know the how. I really want this to sink in because this tends to free people.

Starting point is 00:11:50 Say, wait a minute. I don't need to know how. What I need to do is make a decision. I want to get to 100K a month. And then you need to work spiritually, intellectually, and physically towards that goal. And that's what we teach. And that's what you've been doing to you. Like, I just I work with what I have with who I'm with. And I do the disciplines. Well, the disciplines are studying your craft, right? For you, it's been multiple industries, massive physical action, networking, getting with people connecting, right? And then whether you realize it or not, you're doing a spiritual component. And I'm not talking about religion, I'm talking about visualization. I promise you that you spend time every day, and I've even asked you this ever, visualizing. You visualize billionaire. You visualize being, you know, you and Grant are

Starting point is 00:12:34 already friends and you and Richard are friends, but you visualize being peers though, not just friends and up and coming. You see yourself already, you know, at the level of, you know, a billion, two billion, 10 billion, you know, whatever level of you know a billion two billion ten billion you know whatever that is and nobody ever taught you that that's why i say you're an unconscious competent yeah yeah it's funny because i often i often joke it's like eventually it becomes borderline arrogant right and that's why i think some people like it comes off that way right it's not but it comes off that way well it's not's not arrogant. No, it's just, yeah, it's people's perception. Yeah, but it comes off that way to normal people, right?

Starting point is 00:13:09 Because it's like, you know, and a good example of this is, you know, I'm filming a new show that's going to come out on a major streaming platform, one of the big ones. And I posted about it and I wrote, filming my new hit TV show. One of my old staff I'm still friendly with. And we kind of joke, he kind of took a dig and said, how,

Starting point is 00:13:31 you know, a new hit TV show, but you just filmed the first episode. And I go, yeah, of course, why would I film a TV show if I wasn't planning on having it be a hit TV show?

Starting point is 00:13:40 Right. And that was like a subconscious thing for me. Right. Cause I have no intention of doing something that is not going to work. So I think that's like a good example in some ways. It's a perfect example. Perfect example. Yeah. So here's something like that. Right. So you talk to you said an old friend or an old employee, you know, run that idea by Richard Branch. Richard, this is what I said. He be like that's brilliant right so we always need to pay attention to who we're listening to and taking criticisms

Starting point is 00:14:11 through i promise you grant grant would be like this is the number one show in the world bro you would say that before it launched and but look at his results right he he's thinking into results and that's what most people miss we and there's a difference between being cocky and and narcissistic versus just understanding um the energy behind success which is where you're right you're not being you know narcissistic about it you're helping people right but i think the yeah ali is a great example right like i am, right? He became famous for that when he just started before he got in the ring. And like he's, I mean, one of the best examples in the sporting history of him believing in it before it became true. And then it became true.

Starting point is 00:14:57 Conor McGregor. Yeah. Tom Brady. Right. Tom Brady got picked the sixth round draft pick like nobody was looking at him. And he met Bob Kraft and he said, Bob Kraft, you just made the best decision in this franchise's history. Right. Yeah, that's not narcissism. That's belief. Yes. It's belief in yourself. Right. And I think let's let's shift to that for a second, because I mean, this is all great because I was fortunate to have from my parents the beliefs that that instilled into me.

Starting point is 00:15:27 One of the biggest things was that I could do anything I wanted and achieve anything I wanted. But I think most children's upbringing is the opposite, right? They're not good enough. Unfortunately, yes. Dad has high standards and telling them off and putting them down. So how does someone break free and shift that belief system now to more like how I have it? Well, again, I would say to come join us in the Matrix,

Starting point is 00:15:51 visit the Matrix Success International. But the long and the short of it is you have to start building a new paradigm. You have to consciously choose and understand and say, wait a minute, just because I grew up one way doesn't mean I have to believe my parents' belief system. And that's what doesn't mean I have to believe my parents' belief system. And that's what most people have, society's belief and parents' belief, right? Those are the two biggest. And then there's also spousal belief systems. So we have to make a decision and start to build new mental programs. And we do this through a principle called auto-suggestion.

Starting point is 00:16:20 It's a deeper dive. Some of our programs are six-month deeper dives. But that principle is right in the book, Think and Grow Rich. What I can say and give away for free here is everyone should have the book, Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill and study it. That was the book that started Bob Proctor's journey. And if you look at the lineage of what we're teaching, it actually started with Andrew Carnegie, the world's first billionaire. He mentored Napoleon. Napoleon mentored Earl Nightingale.

Starting point is 00:16:49 Earl mentored Bob, and Bob mentored me. So there are success principles that anybody can learn, but it starts with a decision, and it also starts with ignoring the past. Like you need to forgive and forget. It doesn't matter where you are or how you got here. If we keep focusing on the past, we will keep manifesting the past. And that's just straight physics, right? If we keep looking backwards to make decisions, you're going to keep getting the same results. So it has to start with a change in thinking and building a new paradigm, which is what we specialize in. Yeah, it's funny. funny you know i became way more obsessed over the

Starting point is 00:17:26 last few years like i you know i like like with this right because like i i grew up with a good mindset i you know got into personal development when i was 18 and you know i listened to i i did audio books for all of those les brown all of the stuff and you know it was kind of i think it just felt natural to me and good right like i think some people maybe it's there's a lot of resistance because of past traumas and upbringings and limiting beliefs but it just felt natural for me which was great i mean it actually just pushed me to to kind of play into it because especially growing up in england all of these things are seen as like super arrogant and no one understands it, right?

Starting point is 00:18:07 So I think me moving to America was another big pinnacle shift because now I started hanging around with people, you know, not the billionaires I hang around with today, but, you know, people that were trying to be millionaires at least, but had more of that mindset. So it's funny how, it's so funny how that upbringing and that environment

Starting point is 00:18:25 just dictates success and how you have to really work hard to move past that to kind of become the entrepreneur that everyone listening wants to become, right? And we talk so much about marketing tactics, funnels, strategies, hiring. But if this is like the foundation, right?

Starting point is 00:18:43 Like if this stuff isn't in place then they're just not gonna the other stuff's not gonna work as well right it's always like kind of trying to try and run with a ball and chain on you through for the whole marathon you've got to get rid of the ball and chain before you can run the true marathon and do it properly and and quickly and efficiently so what would what would you say as a you know last couple of minutes today to someone someone that wants to be a millionaire or maybe if some people listen a millionaire they want to go to that 10 20 30 mil what are just a couple of tips you would give as a general takeaway to start working on the mindset absolutely so that

Starting point is 00:19:24 there's universal laws that come into play, like transmutation of energy is law of cause and effect, which is energy out, energy back, the law of rhythms. But Bob used to talk about a law of compensation. And this is not really like a physics law, but it's a law that he made up because he called it a law, right? The law of compensation stage is three things. It's the need for what you do, your ability to do it, and how easily you're replaced. So let's take you, for example, digital marketing, branding, celebrity, all the things you're into. The need for what you do is probably the highest it's ever been in the world, right? With everybody starting companies and brands. So

Starting point is 00:20:02 there's a big need for what you do. Your ability to do it. Again, you're probably in the top 1% of marketers globally, because you've done this every day, all day, you have a healthy obsession. And then how easily you're replaced. So you are replaceable, but not easily, right? As the head of more capital. How would somebody replace? It's the same with Bob, right? Same with me and the matrix. I could be replaced, I suppose, but it's very difficult. So all that somebody needs to focus on is number two, your ability to do it, whatever that is. If it's e-commerce, if it's physical fitness, if it's sales, whatever industry or business you're in, you want to focus on your ability to do, which means daily study. And it's actually so simple, Rudy, that most people miss it. It's, do you want to find a mentor and follow a proven system?

Starting point is 00:20:48 This is what you guys teach in marketing, right? And in that case, you're the mentor and you guys have proven systems. With us in Wealth Mindset, we're the mentor, we have proven systems. So if somebody is in real estate and you want to make seven figures a year or a month, just find somebody who's done it, right? And it could be like Robert Kiyosaki. Like you don't have to physically get with them. People leave all this advice in their knowledge and books. You can study somebody, but you also can connect with people.

Starting point is 00:21:15 You know, I reached out to and I attracted Bob Proctor and nobody thought that was possible. Right. I saw him speaking and i ended up being a friend of his and working with him one-on-one so you can't get to most people you just recently you know last couple years i saw i got really friendly with richard branson most people wouldn't even think they could do that but yeah i'm going back out there and yeah two two months three months right but but that's what's interesting with that is because so many people think it's not possible when you actually go do it it's like easier right yes exactly it gets easier and easier not harder and harder um so the one thing i'll leave with is is you want to be working on all three planes i didn't

Starting point is 00:21:55 even know up until so i should back up too i was i always have i had pretty much a normal lifestyle up until my mid-40s i'd been an engineer, an architect, a builder. I was married and divorced a couple of times, made money, lost money. So I didn't even meet Bob until my early 40s. So for anybody listening, it's not too late. It doesn't matter what age you are, where you're at, what stage of the game you're at. None of that matters. It only matters if you want to make a decision to move forward, to create a better life for yourself. So I wasn't like you, like 18, 19, you had that unconscious competence. So I should be a good case story. If I can do it, anybody can do it. But you want to be working on all three planes, spiritually, intellectually, and physically. And spiritually is the visualization, tapping into God or the universe, whatever you believe in.

Starting point is 00:22:41 Intellectually is studying your craft or industry industry getting better and better and better and then physically is taking action and in the early days i think you'd agree you know you take massive measurable trackable action day after day after day persistence and if you apply those three things and then the fourth thing i say is to let go and let god and that's not a religious thing there is there is a higher force there's something that grows an acorn into an oak tree right so in your case with the tv show like why would you even think it wasn't going to be you know a hitch to hit yeah right that doesn't make sense it's like turning a light switch off and wanting the light to be on so there is that component of when once you make a decision

Starting point is 00:23:20 you stop worrying and doubting and fearing and only see success. Only see success, right? And I'll wrap up with this. Steve Jobs said, I'm going to butcher this a little bit. He says, you can't connect the dots going forward. You can only go there and then connect the dots backwards. So you'll never know. You'll never know what the next step is. You just need to work on those three planes, get into a positive mental attitude, and one

Starting point is 00:23:44 day at a time, just keep making connections, building your businesses, and working on those three planes. Get into a positive mental attitude. And one day at a time, just keep making connections, building your businesses, and working on those three planes. Love it. Yeah, never too late. I just started my, quote, unquote, Hollywood career. I got my IMVD profile and the TV show and everything. And I'm 32 and uh i always remind myself that like i mean it was morgan freeman that started at about 50 years old so i got plenty of time i started early right my absolutely i mean george clooney didn't get discovered i think till his 40s um

Starting point is 00:24:17 who's the guy that played silence of the lambs he was in anthony hopkins was like 53 yeah that's you're young you're still young bro yeah yeah but i think that that's the difference between limiting beliefs and that positive optimistic mindset right so yes i've just seen how that's so important in in every aspect of life business entrepreneurship so guys amazing episode um you know try and get to one of my events brian's there teaching uh some of them he's got his own events going on he's got his own courses programs live zoom calls that i jump in um you can't you can't you know you feed your body every day multiple times a day make sure

Starting point is 00:24:57 you're feeding your brain multiple times a day um and don't ignore this stuff. Like every successful billionaire, athlete, entrepreneur, actor, they all have this in common. This is like one thing they all have in common. So, Brian, thank you so much. Just let everyone know how did they get a hold of you, follow you. We'll put it in the show notes too, of course. But if someone wants to follow you and get more of the content, where do they go?

Starting point is 00:25:21 No, absolutely. They can go to MatrixSuccessInternational.com is our website and then obviously on instagram that's uh just brian dalmaso which is b-r-i-a-n d-a-l-m-a-s-o and between those two uh if they interact somebody on my team will probably reach out we can book a call brilliant thank you so much for coming on uh this was an awesome episode and perfectly timed as we enter the new year and, uh, I'll see you very soon guys until next time, keep living the red life, work on that mindset and build something great. Thank you.

Starting point is 00:25:52 Thanks brother. Be well.

Living The Red Life - Unlocking Billionaire Mindsets with Brian Dalmaso

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