Love Life with Matthew Hussey - 1 Simple Attraction Trick Men Can’t Resist

Episode Date: March 7, 2016

Today, I want to talk to you about the power of compliments… But not in the way you might think. I don’t want to focus on GETTING compliments and how that improves your self-esteem, but rather how GIVING compliments can create rapport with men and dramatically improve your love life. Make sure you listen until the end, because I’ve got a challenge for you, and I’ll also hand you 3 quick tips to make you instantly more attractive to everyone you meet.

I'm Matthew Hussey and this is Love Life. If you've ever felt like you didn't know the right words to say to a man to create attraction and chemistry, then you can't afford to miss what I have for you at the end of today's episode. Stay tuned, because I'm going to hand you five phrases that are so simple yet so powerful with men that you're going to be furious at me for not giving this to you years ago. I have a little bit of a bone to pick with the human race today. And that's that as a society, we don't give more compliments. There's a lot of talk about getting compliments.

And what, you know, I just wish people would compliment this and compliment that. And I don't know, I just don't feel great about myself. I feel a little insecure about certain parts compliment that. And I don't know, I just don't feel great about myself. I feel a little insecure about certain parts of me. And I don't know, I just feel like people are thinking of this when they look at me. Instead of all of that self-reflection all the time, one of the best things we can do is pay other people compliments. When you walk around and you're able to get out of your head, which is, by the way, what it requires to compliment someone else.

You have to get out of your own head. All of a sudden you'll feel better. It's a bit like when you do charity for someone else. You know, people say, well, what's the best way to get out of a depression or what's the best way to get over a breakup? When you're in a really depressed state, one of the best things you can do is actually find a way to go give. How can I go and focus on someone else and what they need? Because when I'm focused on what someone else needs, I'm not focused on what I need in that moment. Here's one of the other big benefits. When you pay someone a compliment today, you're also going to help yourself by how likable you become. The person who goes out with that giving attitude of, you know what, my job right now in this room is to make other people feel good, that then

becomes this reflected glow that comes back at you. Let me give you an example. I'll prove it to you. If I said to you, if we were at a party together and I pointed some guy out or some girl out and I said, by the way, I just want to let you know that person just came over to me and told me that they thought you were extremely attractive. Isn't it true that whether or not you were attracted to that person, that person would now glow to you for the rest of the night? You would think about them when you'd be looking around to see if they're in the room. Even if you didn't want to go home with them, you'd be looking around to see if they're there because they're the person that finds you attractive. Isn't that true? So here's my challenge to you. I want you to go out

today and pay three compliments to three separate individuals. I'm going to give you a couple of quick tips for that. The first one, be direct. What that means is don't just go up to someone and say, oh, I like that sweater. Go up to someone and say, I love that sweater on you. That looks great on you. Okay. That way you're making it personal. You're making it direct to them. Second, be specific. Don't just be generic and say you're really good looking. Go up to someone and say, I love your eyes. You have a really unique color in your eyes. You know that, or say something about someone's smile. You have your smile lights up the room. You should smile more. I love it. And thirdly, remove any sense of agenda in your compliments. See, one of the greatest

advantages of giving regular compliments is when you actually see someone that you really like, it's going to feel natural to you. See, when you're the guy who just gives the compliment to the one person you want to speak to, your agenda is clear. You put all of your attention on them. They can feel that you want something from the interaction. And all of a sudden there comes this desperation. Instead, just decide you're going to have that standard of complimenting with everybody. That way, when you come across the person that you really want, it's going to be natural. It's going to just be free flowing.

And they're going to see that you're just a sociable person regardless. So three compliments. Do it today, enjoy yourself, let us know the reactions, come to howtogettheguide.com and let me know what stories you've created in your day as a result of this. Now before you get too mad at me for not giving you the five phrases years ago that could have saved you all that high. This guide is based on years and years of studying the exact words to say to trigger deep chemistry with men.

I'm happy to say that all of my effort was worth it because these five phrases work so incredibly well with men. So let's not wait another minute. To download these five phrases, just go to lovelifepodcast.com forward slash confidence.