Love Life with Matthew Hussey - 7 Surprising Signs He’s Attracted to You

Episode Date: March 9, 2016

If a guy were attracted to you, would you be able to tell? Sure, some signs men give are obvious, but many of them are much more subtle. In this episode I reveal 7 foolproof – and sometimes surprising – ways to be sure he’s totally into you

Hello everybody, this is Matthew Hussey with Love Life. I have an incredible show for you today, but I want to make sure you listen right to the end because I'm going to give you a special gift, a foolproof way to become the most intriguing woman in any man's life, and you're not going to want to miss it. So if you were to go to one of my first ever YouTube videos when I was fresh faced and more supple and young, I was about 19, I think, when I made this video. It was how to tell if a guy is attracted to you instantly. And it did extraordinarily well, has over 2 million views now. And it got me thinking we should probably

update this video because I could probably do a better job of it now than I did then. And it turns out that's true because I was thinking about what my answer would be to how to tell if a guy likes you. That very simple question, which really seems like a sort of high school question, doesn't it? How do I tell if he likes me? But at the same time, there are so many people wanting to know the answer to this question that it's unavoidable. We have to have a good answer for it. And in my video that I did back in the day, I realized I was perhaps slightly too superficial in my answer. So feel free to go and watch that when you get a chance. But I think I'm about to deliver the better answer to the question. So how to tell if a guy likes you, the less superficial version than the 19 year old me gave. Firstly, does he, well, I was having a conversation with a friend

where he said to me, you know, if he tries to impress you, then he probably likes you. And I said, that may be true, but unfortunately, it's hard to separate that person from the narcissist who just enjoys impressing people. Sometimes you go out at night, a woman, she could go out and have a guy describe how great his car is or where he lives, the size of his house or whatever. And it would seem like, oh, he's trying to impress me. He likes me. But we all know that that's more likely to mean he's trying to get into bed with you in the quickest, easiest way possible. So that doesn't necessarily mean he likes you. I would amend it to say the guy who likes you is the guy who shows he's impressed by you.

So when you talk about the things that you love doing, when you talk about your hobbies, your passions, your values, when you show your personality, this is the guy who is actually impressed by you as an individual, as a human being, and shows you the unique ways that he is impressed by you. It might be as simple as him saying, I love that after all you've been through, you are still so positive and you have this amazing thirst for life. And I love being around that energy. It's so you're inspiring to me. When a guy says that, you know, he's actually impressed by you. He's not just trying to impress you. That was the first one. The second one is he's not afraid to be earnest about his affection for you, even in front of people that he might usually be embarrassed in front of. So it might

be his friends, it might be his family, it might even be his colleagues. But the people that normally, if he wasn't sure about somebody, he certainly wouldn't be complimenting them in a certain way in front of other people or showing massive signs of physical affection. With you, he doesn't care. He's quite prepared to go through the embarrassment or the teasing of his peers in showing that he really adores you. Number three, when he once a month or however often it is, has to get dressed up for an occasion. He's in a suit or he's looking good going out to an event that night. You're the one he chooses to send a picture to. This is sort of a really beautiful thing because when a guy's all, guys don't like to seem like they care about you, uh, complimenting them when they're all dressed

up. We like to act macho, like when we don't care, you know, it's a, it's a woman's thing, isn't it? Being complimented on their looks. And so the stereotype is always that of a guy telling a woman she looks beautiful in that dress tonight. But guys often want to be complimented. I say often. Guys do want to be complimented to all of the time. So when he's looking great one night and he sends you a picture saying, wish you were here, and it's a picture of him in that nice suit, you know what he's really saying is, this is the best I've looked all month, and I want you to see me looking like this. Next, he calls you to tell you his news.

This means that he doesn't just call you at 11 o'clock at night because he wants to see you on a whim because he's lonely, but it's 6 o'clock in the afternoon, he's driving home from work and you're the person that he wants to tell about his day. He wants to tell you about the things that have happened, about the news that he's had, about the good or the bad stuff that's happened. When something happens in his life, you're the person he wants to share it with. Next, and I'm going to say this one applies earlier in the process. I'm talking here about pre-sex, right? When you're just starting to date someone, he's prepared to wait a year um or five years or until marriage or whatever that's a whole different issue and a whole different spectrum of beliefs that we would be addressing what i am saying is this is not a guy who is trying to rush into bed with you tonight and if you say no or slow him down gets frustrated and and wants to rush it and keeps giving you reasons why it should

happen tonight the guy that really likes you, though he may want to have sex with you tonight, isn't in a rush to have sex with you tonight because he knows he's seeing you again. There's no doubt in his mind. He's like, I'm seeing her. I'm going to ask her out again on Friday. So I don't need to rush this tonight. It doesn't need to happen tonight. And the last thing I would want to do is put pressure on her and make her like me less because I really like her and I want her to like me. So I'm prepared to wait here. So if he's prepared to wait for intimacy, it's usually a good sign. Next, he finds time to see you even when it's not convenient. So we often get excuses from people

like they're busy, they have so much going on and so on. And we're very good at allowing these excuses. And sometimes they're valid. Sometimes, but very rarely, because the truth is when we really want to see someone, we find time wherever we can. We find a breakfast, we find a lunch, we find 30 minutes after work, we find time between classes, we figure it out. It may not be perfect, it may not be optimal, it may not be as much time as we want or in the right setting, but we find it wherever we can get it. That's the difference. So anyone who goes out of their way to find time to see you and doesn't care whether it's in the bedroom or not, just wants to see you. That's a pretty great sign.

And then lastly, he wants to go to the movies with you after sex. Why is this relevant? Because the cliche is a guy saying, let's see a movie before sex. And then after sex, he's like, okay, I'm going to go and now eat a pizza with my friends. But the guy who has sex, and then afterwards, when you're both got your hair in that crazy flock of seagulls fashion, and you're both not looking your best, and you stand up up and he says, now let's just throw on some clothes and go to the movies. That guy likes you. The guy who wants to spend time with you after that, he likes you because he's trying to spend time with you, not just trying to spend

time with you for some agenda in order to get what he wants right now. If you went and watched the YouTube video that I did when I was 19, you will know that 19 year old me sucks compared to me today. Like I'm really great right now compared to that me. I mean, I was, you know, I was, I was, I was fine. I was cute and everything, but it wasn't this. This is the good stuff. So I appreciate you. If, by the way, you've been listening since 19-year-old me, thank you for sticking it out. I really appreciate it.

We've finally gotten to some good stuff. I hope to see you soon. I hope to have you as a listener for a long time to come. Thank you for being part of the show. Now, before I go, I want to give you that gift I promised you. I've put together a free guide called Nine Magic Texts No Man Can Resist. Just copy and paste any of the nine texts and you'll be able to be the most intriguing woman in his life, get him to finally ask you out, reignite his interest if things cool down and a lot more.

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