Love Life with Matthew Hussey - A Totally Counter-Intuitive Mind Hack to Get More Done

Episode Date: January 11, 2017

Ok, you’ve got a million things to do today, and you’re not going to rest until you get it all done. So you work and you grind and you keep checking off your list until…you just hit a wall. You���re out of energy, you’re out of motivation, your list is still a mile long and – wait – what? It’s only 11am? We’ve all had days like this, and when they happen, we either a) just give up or b) try to “push on through” to get it all done, at which point we… just give up. Well today’s message is a must-listen, because I’ve got a totally counter-intuitive mind hack that’s going to help you squeeze much more productivity out of a less-than-motivated day. You’ll be shocked to learn what it is. Hint: You may even get to knock off with a cocktail at 4pm.

Welcome to Love Life. I'm Matthew Hussey and I have an amazing show for you today. But first, let me ask you, did you know that there are three female mindsets that drive men absolutely wild? Okay, you're right. Confidence is one, but can you guess the other two? I'll give you a minute to think about it and we'll come back to this at the end of the show. But first, let's get into today's episode. I was at the gym the other day and I was lifting what was, for me at least, a really heavy weight. And my trainer at the time, he'd originally said to me that I had to get to 10 with these reps. And I was lifting this weight and I got to number, I think it was number four. And it was so heavy that I was about to drop it. He could literally see me about to drop the weight.

And then here's what he said. All right, get to eight. And all of a sudden my brain did something really interesting. Instead of saying, put the weight down, my brain said, oh, we have to get to eight. Okay, maybe that's possible. Maybe I could do that. So I started lifting again, miraculously, because I thought I had nothing left. I started lifting again, and I went five, six, seven, and I just about pushed out the eighth repetition. Now, here's what's really interesting to me about that. I wasn't faking it at number four when I thought I had to put the weight down. I thought I was realistically losing all of my steam and had nothing left to give. And yet when the expectation was lowered a little bit

to eight, all of a sudden my psychology was, I can push through and get to number eight. Now, why is this so important in life in general? Because I believe that so many of us only get four repetitions done in a day of whatever it is, four reps. We have a four rep day instead of an eight rep day because we believe we have to make it a 10 rep day. In other words, the expectation of just how much you have to do before you go to sleep tonight and processing all of that and thinking about all of that is exactly the thing that makes you short circuit early in the day and decide to give up instead of looking at it and saying, okay, you know what? Firstly, an eight rep day is better than, than a four rep day, right? So if I can just get, if I can push this

to an eight out of 10, that's a fantastic day. Sometimes the key to getting more done in a day is to lower your expectations. Because when you lower your expectations a little bit and you push through the things you have to do, it gives you the encouragement to keep going anyway. And you know, you may even get to eight and decide to push out the last two anyway. But it's also about focusing on what's right in front of you. See, when I gave up on four, or when I was about to give up on four, my brain wasn't thinking about the one repetition right in front of me to get to number five. It was thinking about how I couldn't fathom how I would reach number 10. And thinking about how I couldn't fathom how I would reach number 10. And thinking about how I couldn't possibly reach number 10,

put this negativity in every part of my body and I dropped the weight, or I was about to anyway. If I could just focus on getting to number five, this would be a lot easier. So I really believe in focusing on the thing that's right in front of you, the next step, before worrying about the thing that's behind that. It's really, really important. So that's it. Two tips in there. One, don't be afraid initially to lower your expectations, to give yourself the confidence to get more done. And secondly, focus on the thing that's in front of you now. Focus on the task at hand before you try and digest the entirety of the rest of your day and everything that will make it a productive day if

you get it done. If you can focus on the thing in front of you, get that done, and then focus on the next thing, you'll find that you'll trick your brain into being able to do more than trying to eat the whole day at once in one foul swoop. In one foul swoop? No, wrong metaphor. In one meal. Keep that in. Don't even edit that. Let's just leave it in. Let's not try and be perfect. All right. I'll speak to you soon, my friends. Take care. I love you all. Come join me on Facebook, by the way. Facebook.com forward slash coach Matthew Hussey. I'll see you soon. Well, did you guess what the other two mindsets are that drive men wild?

Good news. You don't have to rack your brain forever for the answer. I'm giving you free exclusive access to a Q and a session from my live seminar, where I coach real women on how to deal with hot and cold men, how to find out if a guy is single, how to be strong and confident in a relationship and more to get your free access to three female mindsets that drive men absolutely wild, just go to lovelifepodcast.com forward slash mindsets.