Love Life with Matthew Hussey - Can Women Have Sex Like a Man?

Episode Date: December 18, 2015

Welcome to the new “hookup culture,” where a woman can sleep with a man she’s just met with no strings attached and no emotional consequences.  Or can she?  I take on this controversial subject in today’s episode of LOVE Life and tell you what guys REALLY think of a woman who sleeps with a man on a first date. This has got me all fired up, and I can’t wait to hear your thoughts on the topic too…

Matthew Hussey here with Love Life. I have a question for you. When you think about going after the things you want most in life, how do you feel? Excited? Inspired? Capable of doing anything you put your mind to? Or do you feel overwhelmed? Discouraged? Like you're facing an insurmountable obstacle? If your answer is overwhelmed, you're not alone. Most people feel the same way. And the reason is this. Most people think that in order to achieve their biggest goals, they have to take big monumental actions. And that makes them give up before they even begin.

But the truth is, the key to achieving our goals is consistency. Small actions done regularly. Consistency can make all the difference between achieving your dreams and staying stuck and unfulfilled where you are. So let's set you up for success. I'll do my part by showing up every few days with a new episode filled with advice to help you live your best life. Think of listening to my show as your one small action you can do consistently. Here's your first assignment. Go to iTunes and click the subscribe button. This will make sure that you get the latest episode as soon

as it's released. Ready to get started? Let's go. Hello, it's Matthew Hussey here, and I'm going to go on a little rant today. I have been seeing increasingly this idea in the media of our new hookup culture. So much so that it seems to pervade a lot of what we do now. I see the New York Times talking about it like it's now a given, this hookup culture. It's like the New York Times seem to have adopted it as a thing now. Oh, we now live in a hookup culture. But when all these people are talking about hookup culture and how, well, ladies, you can do it now, you know, and it's often not men saying it to women. It's women saying it to other women. It's women writing books saying women, it's okay. Things are different now. You can sleep with a guy on a first date. It's all good. Every time I hear this, I go,

okay, it's, we know it's all good. Like, that's fine. Of course women can sleep with a guy on the first date. It doesn't mean they want to. Every time I hear this, I think, do you know what? I've coached 50,000 women in live events. I've coached 3 million women online. Never has one of them come to me and said, Matt, I need your help.

I just need to get laid more. Can you tell me how to do that? No woman ever says that to me. said, Matt, I need your help. I just need to get laid more. Can you tell me how to do that? No woman ever says that to me. You know why? Because most women don't want that. I'm not going to generalize and say all women. Some women come out of a relationship and they're in a novelty period. They want to have that moment where they have their fun and play around. Women go through that phase, but not in the same way that most men do. Most men can have that player lifestyle for a while and it's not going to affect them in any way. For a lot of women, and this is, again, this is going to be controversial. I know people are going to

jump on me for it. I'm going to say it anyway. Most men don't have their self-esteem affected by hooking up. They don't go around sleeping with lots of women and feel awful at the end of it. Whereas it's more likely that a woman is going to sleep around and feel used by a bunch of men at the end of that process. That is more something that a woman is going to feel than a man. So right now, I want to reverse this change in culture. And the way I want to do it is by first defying that this idea of a hookup culture even exists. Second, I agree with you ladies who are out there proselytizing this idea that it's okay for women to have sex quickly. Ladies, I think it's okay to fill your boots.

If that's what you want to do, go have fun. I don't mind. But if you want a relationship, then you might need to think about it slightly more practically because while you're being told that it's okay, men are still in their minds valuing their girlfriend potential, the potential of the woman that's in front of them as a girlfriend by whether she sleeps with him too easily or not. So while you're thinking it's fine by doing it too quickly, you're still canceling yourself out of that market of guys who are going, well, the one who I'm going to be with is going to make me wait a little bit. She is going to make me earn this thing. So ladies,

I'll finish on this note. You're not a slut. If you sleep with a guy on the first date, but you have drunk the Kool-Aid. If you think that it's the only way to get what you want, my friends, I'm Matthew Hussey. Take care of yourselves. If you want more information, go to way to get what you want. My friends, I'm Matthew Hussey. Take care

of yourselves. If you want more information, go to howtogettheguide.com. I will see you there and feel free if you want to jump on me to do it there. Take care. Thanks for listening and making me part of your weekly ritual toward achieving your dreams. Now, if you're getting a lot out of these episodes, please do me a favor and help me spread the word so that other women like you can find and enjoy the show. In the iTunes app or on your desktop, just look up the show, click on ratings and reviews,

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