Love Life with Matthew Hussey - Do You “Earn Your Tip” in Life?

Episode Date: June 17, 2016

Waiters make their tips based on good service. But regardless of what we do for a living, we all serve others in one way or another. So the question becomes: When presented with a complication, do you use it as license to complain, or an opportunity to show your value to others? In other words, do you “earn your tip?” The right approach can create incredible opportunities, and we’ll explore how to do that in today’s episode.

Welcome to Love Life. I'm Matthew Hussey and I am really excited about today's show. But before we jump into it, I want to ask you a question. Have you ever been texting with a guy, maybe you've been on a few dates, when suddenly his texts stop cold? One minute you're flirting back and forth late into the night and the next minute he disappears into thin air. It's not your fault. Guys do this all the time. The question is, what can you do

about it? Well, I can tell you exactly what to say to reignite his interest after he's gone cold. Stay with me until the end of the show and I will tell you. I have a nice little topic for you today. I was in a restaurant recently and I remember adding a complication to my order. I said, I can't even remember what I said. I said, I wanted a side of something or could I have something on the side? And I remember the waiter looked at me with that kind of, like, really that look of, of just being frustrated. And I could tell he was the sort of person that would go to the back room and complain and go, this difficult customer. And he wants this and he wants that different. I got thinking about this and it's something that I

think about a lot because I always put myself in someone else's shoes and I say, well, you know, what would I do in that situation? And after thinking about it, I thought, you know what, if I was To me, someone giving me a complication, someone giving me something outside the norm, that gives me a chance to earn my tip. That gives me a chance to distinguish myself from everybody else. I would be looking at that and saying, absolutely. Did you want it like this or like this? Oh, no problem. I'm going to get that for you. Anything for you. No worries. I would want to use that opportunity to show them what my value was, because we don't always get opportunities to show our value. You know, when someone just orders their meal and doesn't give us any challenges, then it becomes a little harder to stand out. It becomes a little harder

to show our worth. But when someone gives you a challenge, when someone gives you an extra bit of work to do, to me, that's an opportunity to distinguish myself and stand out. And I think it's a shame that so many people see those moments as an opportunity to complain and feel frustrated instead of an opportunity to create more opportunity for themselves, whether it's a tip and it's more money or whether it's, you know, the manager looking over your shoulder and a potential promotion. That to me separates people who do well in life from those who don't. And the real tragedy is that if you take these two types of people, the one that sees it as a chance to complain and the one who sees it as a chance to earn their tip. If you look at this slight difference in mindset,

although it creates drastically different results, it doesn't mean they're working different amounts. In other words, both of these people end up working hard. But the person who sees it as an opportunity to complain in five years will look back and say, I've worked hard. I've worked damn hard for five years and I haven't got what I deserved. And the other person will have worked the same amount, but with a different mindset and will have everything. They'll be given opportunities. They'll be given the tips. They'll be given the promotions. There may even be customers at that restaurant who want to hire them for something else because they see they're great. And when

someone sees you're great in one area, they assume you're great in another area. That person will get opportunities given to them. And that person will say, you know what, if you just work hard and do a good job, good things come to you. And the other person will say, you know, I've been working hard all my life and nothing good has come to me. Both of them in their own way are right.

But unfortunately, for the person that complains that they work hard and that nothing good comes to them, it becomes self-fulfilling. And the fact that they use those little opportunities to complain and be frustrated instead of seeing them as challenges and opportunities, the fact that they do that is exactly what brings them what they end up getting. Whereas the person who always sees it as a moment to shine gets what they deserve out of the mix as well. Both of them work hard, but get completely different results. I want us, the people here that listen to Love Life, myself included, to be in the category of people who see everything as an opportunity.

Everything as a chance to earn our tip. Do that and we will have more opportunity than everyone else, even the people that work hard alongside us. Thank you for listening to Love Life. I will speak to you soon. Come join me for the discussion on Facebook, facebook.com forward slash coach Matthew Hussey, and I'll see you in the next episode. Okay, at the beginning of the show, I promised you that I would tell you what you could say to reignite a man's interest after he's pulled away. I've actually put together an entire free guide for you called Nine Magic Texts No Man Can Resist. Just copy and paste any of the nine texts and you'll instantly be right back in the forefront of his mind.

So ask yourself first, is this guy worthy of me? And if the answer is yes, try one of these texts out and let me know what happens. To get your free guide, just go to lovelifepodcast.com forward slash texts.