Love Life with Matthew Hussey - Get On Your Guy Friend’s Girlfriend’s Good Side

Episode Date: August 15, 2016

Well of course your best guy friend’s new girlfriend is going to be threatened by you. You two have a history that she can only imagine, inside jokes she just doesn’t get, and a friendship that’s stood the test of time… But the reality is, they’re getting serious and she’s not going anywhere. So how can the three of you make this relationship work? I give you 3 quick tips that will put your guy friend’s GF at ease, build your bond with her, and make sure that both of you stay the most important women in your best friend’s life.

Hello everybody this is Matthew Hussey with Love Life. Do you know the number one most powerful technique you can use to get any man addicted to you and only you? Take a second to see if you can figure it out. Don't worry if you can't guess what it is. It's simple to use but it's also easy to overlook which is why most women will never use it. I'll tell you what this subtle trick is in just a moment. But first, let's get to the episode. We have another beautiful, wonderful, gorgeous caller on the line. Her name is Aubrey. Aubrey, are you there?

I am. Thanks for that introduction. Jeez. Do you know that's the first time I've ever done that introduction? I promise. Are you sure? No, I swear to God, that's literally the first time I've ever done that. So you really are privileged here on the show. I really am. Thank you. Thank you for that honor. Well, Aubrey, what was your question?

Okay. So my best friend, who is a guy I met at work about a year and a half ago, he got a different job. He was working with the police department as a dispatch caller. And then so kind of hectic, a lot of training, and I haven't really seen him as much as I used to. Anyways, I got engaged a few months ago and now I'm a best man. I've only met his fiance just a handful of times and kind of been a little awkward. I was hoping for just some advice on how to handle this whole situation. First rule, make her feel important. When you talk to her, find ways to talk about how much he thinks of her and

all the beautiful things that he says about her. Never miss an opportunity to tell her something great that he has said about her, because you will find that when you go to her and you say, he said the most beautiful thing about you the other night. Um, you know, and I'm sure he's told you this many times, but I don't know. You just, I would want you to hear it. Um, you know, and I'm sure he's told you this many times, but I don't know. You just, I would want you to hear it. He said, blah, blah, blah. And then, and then tell her always find every opportunity to make her feel important and special. Uh, and like, this isn't a competitive relationship. You're actually someone who protects her ego. You're not someone who hurts her ego. Okay. So that's the first step. The second step is to find areas where the two of

you can actually connect. And obviously the big point of, uh, of commonality you have is him, right? But you can find things outside of him that are independent, that are unique to the two of you. Are there similar things that you're interested in? Are there similar things that you're excited about doing? You know, are there restaurants you both want to go to or shows that you really want to see? The best thing you can do is make her a friend in your own right, separately from him. And that means not always involving him. Go have your own relationship with her. It might mean that you both go out one night together or you, you know, you both go see a movie together, befriend her and show her that you are not a threat because it is, it's going to

be weird for anybody. And that's the key thing to remember Aubrey is that for anybody in that situation, even the most confident among us can sometimes be forgiven for feeling a little jealous or a little left out when someone has an important relationship, when our significant other has an important relationship that doesn't really involve us. Yeah, I couldn't even imagine, especially opposite sex. Like, that would be, I don't know how I would handle a situation like that. Precisely.

So now I want you to think about what would make you feel better if it was you. You know, what would put you at ease if it was you? You know, what, what would, what would put you at ease if it was you? And I think something that would put her at ease is if you made an effort with her independently of him. Um, I think it would also, uh, help her if when you're with her, you talk about guys you're interested in. You talk about things in your love life because that shows her as well that in terms of romantic interests, they're focused elsewhere. Now, you may look at it and think, God, that's crazy. I have no romantic interest in this guy. Right. But from her point of view, don't ever assume that she knows or thinks that. Yeah, for sure. And that's why I'm like, I don't really know. Yeah. So you could talk about

other relationships that are going on for you, other people you're interested in, steer that conversation well away from him so that she's always feeling like, oh, wow. Okay. Her romantic interests are completely elsewhere. She just has a friendship with, with my partner. Aubrey, you're so wonderful. Thank you for calling in. This has been one of my favorite phone calls. No, thank you. Your advice is, it always makes a lot of sense to me. And that's why I called. Well, you're a sweetheart. Thank you. Look after yourself. And I hope to speak to you again soon. Okay. All right. Thanks. Take care. All right, Aubrey. And thank you all for listening. Such a wonderful phone call. I am excited to be here with you. Come join me for the discussion on Facebook at facebook.com forward slash coach Matthew Hussey.

I'll speak to you soon. Now, on to the answer to the question that I asked you at the start of the show. What's the number one most powerful technique to get any man addicted to you? Compliments. It sounds simple, and it is. A well-given compliment will make him melt in your hands, but the exact words you need to use are crucial and easy to mess up. That's why I've created a special guide for you where I give you

my five most powerful compliments that you can give to any man to create a deeper connection. To download your five compliments guide, just go to lovelifepodcast.com forward slash compliments.