Love Life with Matthew Hussey - Give Him 5 Extra Seconds to Get Your Number

Episode Date: September 23, 2016

(Sorry, guys, but I’ve got to give away one of our biggest secrets…) Ladies: Did you know that most times men walk away without getting your number because our interaction with you ended just 5 seconds too soon?  Well, today I’m going to give you 3 simple tricks you can use to extend your conversation with a guy just long enough for him to gather the courage to ask you out. Sneaky? Kind of. But it may just mean the difference between “it was nice talking to you,” and “can I take you to dinner on Friday?” So help us out, ok?

Welcome to Love Life, I'm Matthew Hussey. Now do you ever feel like you're stuck in a rut? We all do from time to time. The problem is just going through the motions cuts off our ability to grow and increase our happiness in life. Now what would happen if you actually began living each and every day with purpose? Let me tell you, it is possible to transform your life from ordinary to extraordinary. And it doesn't have to take months or years, but just a matter of days. Stick with me till the end of the show and I'll tell you exactly how to do it.

I realized that so many guys don't ask for a woman's number because the interaction stopped five seconds short and they walk away. She walks away maybe, and they've lost it and they don't know how to go and reclaim it. So ladies, this is a message for you. There is a way you can make it easier for men. And that's just to prolong the interaction by five more seconds. I have a couple of ways for you to do that. The first one is if you're in a situation where it's appropriate for this, and this happened to me recently, someone can just say, you could just say to the guy, I can walk you out. It's no problem. Let's say you're in a building and his car's downstairs. You say, I can walk you out. Go downstairs with him and walk him out. I'm not saying you walk five streets to his car or anything, but walk him out of the building. You give him that little extra time to decide what

he's going to do and how he's going to do it. So I can walk you out and then walk with him out. The second one is the extra question. Just ask one more question than you were going to. So for example, if it's in a shop, you know, that moment where you're flirting with someone who's, you know, serving you in a shop or the barista or whatever, and you're like, God, how do I do this? What do I do? In that moment, just say, do you need anything else? Or can I help you with anything else? Just that one line for a lot of people, especially if it's after they've given you whatever they're supposed to give you as part of their job. If they then say, is there anything else I can do? Or do you need anything else? It gives them that moment to both A, realize, oh, maybe, just maybe she likes me because she didn't have to say that last part,

and she did. It also gives him one extra question to use. So you could say, do you need anything else? He says, well, actually, are you from around here? Do you want to get together sometime or whatever it may be? Another question you can ask, by the way, along that vein is, so what are you up to the rest of the day? That's a line that says, I wanted to talk to you for longer. I did the thing I had to do. I was polite, but now I'm not being polite. Now I'm actually asking you what you're up to the rest of the day and trying to prolong the conversation. And of course, that opens it up for potentially meeting up for a drink later on as well. And the last one is, I'll call it the ellipsis. It's just saying to the guy,

hopefully I'll see you around. Hopefully I'll see you around. That little moment where you say hopefully gives him that little extra courage because what he hears is, oh, she does actually want to bump into me again. And if she wants to bump into me again, maybe I should just give her my number. Maybe I should just ask for her number. So hopefully I'll see you around at the end of any interaction where you know it hasn't happened yet. He hasn't asked for your number yet, but you want him to. So those are three quick things you can do. They're not going to work in every case because by the way, a ton of guys are still going to walk off wishing they'd done something that they didn't. But what we're trying to do here is always give a guy the path of least

resistance, right? In the beginning, I'm not saying to get into your pants. That's a different story. But when it comes to actually getting a guy to connect with you again, to want to take you on a date, you want to make it easier for him because so many guys, they want to do these things, but they just don't quite know how. And for those of you saying, well, guys do these things all the time. They get really bold and they ask you on a date. That's a certain type of guy. And if that's the guy that you always wait for, of course you end up with all the players and all of the loud, obnoxious guys and the ones who maybe are exciting in the beginning, but turn out to be massive flirts with everyone else. You end up with those guys because you're receptive to those guys. The guys who actually

need a little bit more encouragement or need you to make that path a little easier for them, because you know what? They're not in the habit of just asking random women for their numbers. Those guys may need a little more. So take care, enjoy it, use the three things, and I will see you soon. And by the way, if you're not on my Facebook right now, I have all of these radio episodes being posted on there on a regular basis every week. I have new articles from my brother, Steven, who writes for my website at Get The Guy. So you could go there and find out all of what's happening in our world and catch up. All right, I'll see you soon. And if you want that Facebook, it's facebook.com forward slash coach Matthew Hussey.

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