Love Life with Matthew Hussey - Have An Opinion, Dammit

Episode Date: September 7, 2016

“I like that restaurant.” “Ehh...I didn’t really like that movie.” Listen, anyone can say these things about anything. Liking or disliking something doesn’t mean you have an opinion. Having a compelling reason why you do or don’t like it is what makes you intriguing. Want an example? Boy, do I have one for you in today’s episode… Warning: I go on a bit of a rant, but I think you’ll find it amusing (or perhaps you’ll just think I’m a little crazy). Either way, I guarantee my advice will make you a lot more interesting to the guys you date!

Matthew Hussey here with Love Life. Do you ever feel like you keep attracting the wrong kinds of men? I can understand how frustrated and hopeless this must make you feel at times. All you want is a good guy who appreciates you and treats you well. Someone who's a partner in all of life's ups and downs. But instead, you end up with jerks. Well, you're not alone. So many women can relate.

I want you to smile right now because today I'm going to give you a simple way to get rid of the jerks and only attract quality men into your life. Before I give that to you, let's get into today's episode. Today on Love Life, I want to talk about having an opinion on things. Because that you like it just makes you like the millions of other people that like it. But why you like it is what makes you unique. So here's an interesting one. I was watching a show with Anthony Bourdain on CNN. And he was going around Montreal with these two chefs who were showing him around.

And one of them said an interesting thing. He said, I think Montreal is the best place in the world. And as I was listening, I thought, hmm, I wonder why that is. Because of course, just saying Montreal is the best place in the world isn't that interesting. And there are people that say that about all different places across the world. And of course, you thinking Montreal is amazing just makes you like many other people that live there. But then he started to describe it and he started talking about the food and the culture and the way people live there and the sense of pride that people have about being in Montreal and the fact that it's like this beautiful European place. And he went into all these ideas about why he loved Montreal. And then he said, and the fact is it's freezing cold. And the great part about that is that it drives away all of the people that are not supposed to be here. And I thought that's really interesting. Now I get it.

I get why he's saying that. And I get his unique passion for the place. I want you to think about the things that day to day you say you like and don't like and ask yourself this question. Do I do the boring thing of just saying I like that, I don't like that because anyone can do that? Or do you do the interesting and more unique thing of giving your esoteric or idiosyncratic idea of why you like or don't like that thing? Do you get a little more interesting about it? I hate, like, this always comes up when I talk about movies, because people always say that one of their favorite movies is Love Actually. Especially in America, it comes up a lot. You start talking about movies and people are like, oh, I really love the film Love Actually. And I

hate that film. Like, I love films and I give a lot of films the benefit of the doubt. And I hate that film for so many reasons that I feel like I don't even have time to go into here. I feel like there's so many characters in that film. How could you even care about one of them? There's like 100 characters all falling in love at the same time. There's not one story. It's like 100 people that we're supposed to follow and care about. And I care about none of them. There's Keira Knightley looking at her in a wedding dress and going, I look quite pretty actually. And you go, you're Keira Knightley.

Of course you look pretty. What are you, are we supposed to imagine that you didn't think you looked pretty? That's the character you're playing in this movie what an insult to the rest of us mere mortals who don't look like we were carved out of stone when the the dad at the end is with the little kid and he's falling in like you know like he's i don't what is he like six seven and and he falls in love with the little girl who's like six or seven and the dad entertains the ridiculous affair because the girl's at the airport and the dad's like, oh, I'll take you to the airport. I know a shortcut.

Firstly, there's no shortcut to the airport in England. There's no shortcut. And secondly, why would the dad take the kid to the airport? And they run through security. I don't know if you've seen that scene. They just run through security like that's okay and that's safe for a dad

to just let his kid run through security. It's ridiculous. The whole thing is completely mental and full of disgusting British cliches that I feel like it's just made for Americans. The whole thing is made for it. It's made for Anglophiles outside of England. It's not made for British people. And if you're British and you like that film, I don't understand you. It's ridiculous. It's self-indulgent crap but my point is my point is that um you know i like uh or dislike that film rather for very specific reasons and i could just say i don't like love actually and that wouldn't nearly convey the uniqueness and the intrigue

of why i don't like Love Actually and why that guy likes Montreal and why you like that film or that place or that person. The thing that makes us interesting or intriguing is why we like or don't like things. And if you're not giving your opinion on that, then you're missing one of the most powerful ways to convey a compelling personality. That's it for today, my friends. I feel like I need to go to bed. After that, I've really exhausted myself. I think we'll sign off there. Thank you so much for listening. We'll see you on the next episode of Love Life. Okay, so we started off today talking about how you want to finally stop attracting the wrong men. I told you I have something for you that will show you how to make a quick shift that will bring the right kind of men into your life. Well, I've created a powerful training video for you called The Three Mindsets That Drive Men Wild,

and it guides you through the simple steps that you can take to attract the kind of men you truly want. To get your free access to three mindsets that drive men wild, just go to lovelifepodcast.com forward slash mindsets.