Love Life with Matthew Hussey - How to Invite Him Over for the Holidays (Without Freaking Him Out)

Episode Date: December 5, 2016

The holidays can be a magical time of new romance and quality time spent with family… But attempting to combine the two? Now that can get stressful. So is there a way to invite the guy you’re dating over to your house for an eggnog without making things seem too serious and freaking him out? Actually, yes. It’s quite simple, and in this episode I’ll give you a word-for-word script you can use that takes all the pressure off and makes him want to meet you under the mistletoe…even if it means meeting your mom, too.

Welcome to Love Life, I'm Matthew Hussey. Now do you ever feel like you're stuck in a rut? We all do from time to time. The problem is just going through the motions cuts off our ability to grow and increase our happiness in life. Now what would happen if you actually began living each and every day with purpose? Let me tell you it is possible to transform your life from ordinary to extraordinary, and it doesn't have to take months or years, but just a matter of days. Stick with me till the end of the show, and I'll tell you exactly how to do it. Short and sweet episode today, but I know the holidays are coming up, so I had a question from somebody the other day and she said, if you, if you want to ask your boyfriend or the guy that

you're seeing to come and spend time with you and your family over the holidays, how do you do it without seeming like you're too desperate or putting him under pressure? So here's what you do. This is going to be a very easy one. All you say is if you haven't got a lot going on, uh, or if, you know, you know, if for any reason you don't want to spend time with your family or you want to come and spend it with mine, um, we'd love to have you. And I'd, I'd love to spend time with you that day. Um, and don't worry, I'm not, we're not going to start calling you part of the family or anything like that. Uh, I just wanted you to know you're welcome and I'd love to see you. This is a really nice way of handling this situation because on one hand, you're not asking him.

What you don't want to do is say, do you want to come to mine for the holidays? Because as soon as you do that, you put him under pressure. You give it, you make him have to answer you yes or no. And that's not always a nice situation to be in. Instead, when you say to him, if you haven't got something else going on, we'd love to have you, or I'd love to see you, then that allows him to come back to you and say, actually, you know what? I do have to see my family, but I'd love to do it with you on another day. Or yes, I'd love to, but he'll feel like if he does say yes, he sold himself on it. You didn't

pressure him into doing it. And also the reason I slipped in that little line about saying, you know, don't worry, I'm not going to start saying you're part of the family or anything like that. It's just your playful way of reminding him that this isn't your way of trying to move the relationship five steps forward in one go. He doesn't have to take it super seriously. It's just a chance for you guys to spend some more time together. And of course, the benefit for you, because you may say, well, I want him to take it seriously. Well, I say to you that if he's spending this time with you and your family, he's going to get more invested in you anyway. He's going to get more attached to you anyway. So you don't have to try and force that. The fact that he will be spending it with you is going to do that all on its own. So that's it. Go talk to that

person that you care about. Let them know that it's an option. It's a nice risk-free way of inviting them over to your place for the holidays to spend time with you and the people you love and enjoy it. Even if he doesn't go, by the way, don't take it as some massive sign that he doesn't like you. He has his own stuff going on as well, but it will also mean a lot to him that you invited him. It's a very loving thing to do. Good luck. Enjoy the holidays, my friends, and I will speak to you soon. If you aren't following me right now, go to facebook.com forward slash coach Matthew Hussey. So earlier we were talking about being stuck in a rut if you want to discover the secret to living

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