Love Life with Matthew Hussey - How to Overcome the Most Painful Rejection

Episode Date: February 8, 2017

There are few things in life that hurt worse than loving someone who doesn’t love you back. It can make you question your own value: If someone I hold in such high esteem doesn’t think I’m worthy of a relationship with him, then something must really be wrong with me. In today’s LOVE Life, I’ll help you understand why this isn’t true, and we’ll take a look at some of the real reasons why it didn’t work out. I’ll also give you my best advice on what to do while your heart is healing and how to know for sure when the right person for you comes along.

Matthew Hussey here with Love Life. Quick question for you. Do you know the nine words that you can text a man that will make you completely irresistible to him? No, I'm not talking about sexting. This is much more intelligent because it allows you to keep your standard and drive him crazy with desire at the same time. Think you can guess what it is? I'll come back to this at the end of the show today. So make sure not to miss a minute. I want to talk today about a sensitive subject, rejection and a particular type of rejection. And that's when we've gotten to know someone and maybe we've been dating them for a little while. It doesn't mean we've been in a relationship with them, although you may have been, but just someone we've, we've gotten a little close to and whose opinion has come to matter to us. When this person that we hold in high esteem rejects us, that can be really, really painful

because then we say, well, that my logic says that if this person makes smart decisions and if this person has a good eye for people and if I respect this person, then it must mean that it was a good and smart decision and a good judgment for them not to be with me. Now, it doesn't even matter if this person says all of the right things, because sometimes when you hold someone in high esteem, they'll say some really sweet things to you when they say that. You know, they'll tell you that you're an amazing person and that they wish the same for you and that they've really enjoyed their time with you. they'll say all of the right things.

They won't have done anything wrong necessarily. But you'll notice that none of the right things that they say make a big difference to the pain that you feel because you still feel the reality of the fact that they decided they didn't want you. There are a couple of things that I want you to remember about this type of rejection. The first thing is that it can happen to anybody. It doesn't matter who you are.

It doesn't matter where you're from. It doesn't matter how much you have. This type of rejection can happen to anybody on this planet. Sometimes we make it very personal. We make it about ourselves. And that's when we start saying, well, if someone that great didn't want me, then there must be something wrong with me. I must not be as great as that person. Everyone gets rejected at some point. And sometimes the

hardest thing in the world is when we think we're pretty great and someone that we also think is pretty great tells us that they don't want us. It's a really tough thing to have to go through. It tremendously can bruise our egos and leave us wondering if we're as great as we thought we were. But always remember this, you know, there are times in our lives where we've rejected great people. There are times in our lives where we've let go of a great thing or where we've overlooked a great thing. Just because someone is great, it doesn't mean they don't have the potential to be wrong. It doesn't mean they don't have the potential to decide something today that a week

from now or a month from now or five years from now, they won't look back on and say, wow, I really did let a great person go there. It can be even more complex. It can be that someone else may have come along in their lives right now that is like a shiny object that seems to be saying and doing all of the right things in the short term, but actually on closer inspection won't turn out to have all of the great qualities you do. But unfortunately you're losing out right now because they seem like they have it all in the moment. And on reflection again, the person who decided they didn't want you may find that they were wrong in the long term, that you had great qualities they should never have given up. We're all capable of being wrong in this way. And maybe this person we hold in such

high esteem isn't the person for us. Maybe they have qualities we like, that's important, but the person we're ultimately going to be with has not only those qualities that we like, but has more that we didn't even know we like yet. And that when they turn around and shine their light on us and decide that they want us, it's going to be a completely different thing. So my point is this. My point is that we've never done anything wrong or that we can't improve. No, of course we can improve. There are many reasons that someone can feel we're not

the appropriate person for them at this stage in their lives. And sometimes they're right. And sometimes they're wrong. The important thing is that we continue to work on ourselves. We continue to make ourselves the most incredible version of ourselves. And we keep searching for that person who not only has great qualities, but also wants to shine their light on us and say, yes, you're the person for me. Remember, always the right person is the person that chooses you, not just the person that has all of the great qualities that you like. So have you guessed what those nine words are that will make you irresistible to men? No? Well, I've included that and eight other equally effective scripts in a free guide I've

created for you called Nine Magic Texts No Man Can Resist. The text I was talking about at the top of the show is number two of nine. Just copy and paste it or any of the nine texts tonight, and he'll be eating out of the palm of your hand. To get your free guide, just go to lovelifepodcast.com forward slash texts.