Love Life with Matthew Hussey - How to Own Any Room in the First 5 Minutes

Episode Date: July 15, 2016

If you think that people with charisma are just “born with it”… If you think people who influence others or tell captivating stories are spontaneous and it just “comes naturally” to them, then you are going to want to listen to today’s episode of LOVE Life. Not only am I going to dispel this myth once and for all based on my own experience, I am going to give you a set of free, downloadable tools you can use to learn how to develop these skills for yourself. Hint: It includes a shocking expose written about me by my brother Stephen AND a secret screenshot of my iPad. Curious yet???

This is Love Life. I am your host, Matthew Hussey, and I am so glad you're here that I wanted to do something special for you today. Since I get asked so many questions about texting, I've decided to put together a free guide for you called the 9 Magic Texts No Man Can Resist. These are literally copy and paste scripts that you can use in all kinds of situations to get a man to ask you out, to create attraction and desire, and to become the most intriguing woman in his life. Now I'm going to tell you exactly how you can get your free guide at the end of the show, so stay tuned. First, let's get into the episode. One of the things that I have had a mild obsession with for as long as I can remember is understanding how people have impact. And I focus so much on this because I'm a big believer in the idea that if you know

more about people and if you know more about how to influence people, the world can be your oyster. And for me, that's everything. Life is hard work plus influence. If you don't have influence, you can work as hard as you want and you'll never get what you deserve. So I've been focusing on this for a long time. And the reason I'm saying this today is because I was recently on the Elvis Duran show and I actually went on in sweatpants. It really looked like this morning when I went on, it looked like I'd given up. Like I went on in a t-shirt in sweatpants. It really looked like this morning when I went on,

it looked like I'd given up. Like I went on in a t-shirt and sweatpants and I sat down and the first thing that Elvis Duran and the other presenters said to me as I walked in, they were like, whoa, look at these sweatpants today. Like remember when Matt first came in and he was all done up and he was wearing a shirt and now he's just, he's just come in in sweatpants. He really doesn't care anymore. And we, there was this joke to begin with that I then led straight into a story about the plane journey that I'd just been on. Cause I'd just been on a red eye plane to New York in order to do the show. And I, I launched into this story using the segue of my sweatpants and spent the next three minutes telling a story that if I don't say so myself, had everyone laughing uncontrollably. I was extraordinarily funny and charming and charismatic. And my brother of all people called me up while I was in New York.

He called me up after listening to the interview and he was like, I see you. I know what you were doing there. That's not, this was not something that you just went on and spontaneously did. I know you. I know, like, cause he's seen me mastering impact for years. He knows that I do this stuff consciously. And he said, you didn't just go on and spontaneously talk about it on the Elvis Duran show. I said, no. He said, so what did you do? I said, well, as soon as the story happened, I started writing about it on my iPad. I took out my iPad and I started writing the details of the story and he goes, send me that picture. So I sent him a screenshot of my iPad and it had all of these disjointed thoughts about the story that had just happened. In other words, I had predetermined already that I was going to talk about this and I already had it constructed in my mind in a way that I knew would trigger laughter and trigger fun and create an energy as soon as it happened.

In other words, what my brother picked up on that no one else did is that I was always going to tell that story in the first three minutes, no matter what happened. And this is something that's incredibly important for people to recognize about impact. Because when people think about influence, when people think about charisma, when they think about how to create what you want in situations, they often think that people are either naturally charismatic or that they're spontaneous in their funny stories and their jokes, or that it somehow just comes naturally to them. They don't have to work on it. And I'm here to tell you, and I'm only saying this right now because my brother wrote something of an expose on me

that he showed me out of respect to my brother. He showed me it and he said, I want to release this to people because I want them to stop talking about how talented you are and start recognizing that what you're doing is something that is predetermined and premeditated. And if they understand that about you, then not only will I stop having to read these bloody comments, but at the same time, they'll see that they can do it for themselves. And I read what he wrote and it was incredible. It literally broke down step by step what I was doing and what I told him on the phone I was doing during that interview.

And the reason I'm telling you about it now is because I want you to see these steps that he broke down because I've just given you the first one. The first big one is preparation. All right. And by the way, in the piece that he's written, there's actually the screenshot, the real screenshot of everything that I wrote. So you'll be able to compare that with the interview when you listen to it, because I'm releasing them both together. But you'll also see a series of other things that I did that he pointed out. And it is going to be fascinating for you because it's going to dispel those myths about those people that you see who you think just have this charm and charisma. You're actually going to see what it is they're doing so that you can break it down for yourself and start using it today and stop thinking that other people have something else that you don't. Trust me, I'm not a very funny guy. But having this stuff enabled me to be humorous, to be funny, to tell a great story, to be charismatic, to take an interview like that with, you know, Elvis Duran is an exceptional presenter and someone who's been in the business for many, many years. But I can still go on there and hold my own with that person and hold court

because of the techniques that I'm about to teach you. How useful would those be in your own life with people that you see as intimidating, people that have been in the game a lot longer than you, interviews, dates, you name it. All of this stuff is going to be incredibly helpful to you. So here's what I want you to do. I have both the expose that my brother wrote on me and the screenshot of my notes and the interview piece that I'm talking about so that you can look at this all together and study it. And I have a link for you to go to to find that. it's howtogettheguy.com forward slash behind the curtain. So that's howtogettheguy.com forward slash behind the curtain. It will be incredibly helpful to you. So you have my brother to thank for that. I was the reluctant victim of this little exercise, but go check it out. Howtogettheguy.com

forward slash behind the curtain. And please look at me the same afterwards. I'll see you soon, guys. Take care. Thank you for listening. Now, I didn't forget at the beginning of the show, I promised you a special gift to get your free nine texts guide filled with copy and paste scripts that you can use on any guy, just go to lovelifepodcast.com forward slash texts.