Love Life with Matthew Hussey - How to Stop Your Jealousy NOW

Episode Date: March 21, 2016

You’re at a party when you notice your guy across the room talking to another woman… and she happens to be gorgeous. Suddenly, your cheeks get hot and flushed, your breathing becomes more rapid, and your heart pounds in your chest. You even start to feel tears welling up in your eyes. It’s that awful, ugly feeling – jealousy. What can you do to stop it? In today’s episode of LOVE Life I’m going to teach you a trick that will immediately stop your feelings of jealousy and put you back in a confident, high-value state of mind. This is something that you can tell yourself every time you feel insecure that will instantly remind you why your man is attracted to you the most.

This is Love Life. I am your host, Matthew Hussey, and I am so glad you're here that I wanted to do something special for you today. Since I get asked so many questions about texting, I've decided to put together a free guide for you called the 9 Magic Texts No Man Can Resist. These are literally copy and paste scripts that you can use in all kinds of situations to get a man to ask you out, to create attraction and desire, and to become the most intriguing woman in his life. Now, I'm going to tell you exactly how you can get your free guide at the end of the show. So stay tuned. First, let's get into the episode. Today, I'm going to make a big promise to you. That promise is that in the next couple of minutes, I'm going to eliminate any jealousy you're feeling right now. Now let's think about where jealousy comes from. Jealousy comes from comparison. You see your partner talking to someone else and you immediately

compare yourself with that person. If we feel better than that person, we tend not to feel jealous. If we feel like we beat them in every category, we feel like, oh, they're not a threat, therefore I'm not jealous. As soon as we feel there's a comparison where we don't win, that's where we get jealous. Now, jealousy comes from those moments where we feel inferior. And I'm going to show you how to avoid feeling inferior ever again. Here's how we make ourselves special in a way that no one else can replicate. Someone once said to me, they literally gave me the most amazing compliment I'd ever had. They told me that

I inspired them. I made them laugh. I was generous to them. I was great to be around. I was thoughtful and I taught them things. They told me all of these things. Then they told me that was the reason they loved being around me. The point is when this person told me that, I realized that I wasn't special because of any one category. That's what's going to make you irreplaceable. So the next time you see someone that you care about giving attention to someone else or getting attention from someone else, here's what you've got to remember. This person may scare me in one category. We may look at him and say, oh, he's tall and good looking, but is he tall, good looking and funny? Is he tall, good looking and generous? Is he tall, good looking and as thoughtful as me? In other words, is this someone who really beats me in every category or

am I just focusing on one thing? I guarantee that in 99% of cases, jealousy arises from focusing on one area of insignificance in ourselves. But the package that you represent will always make you feel 100%. So here's what I'd like you to do. Instead of focusing on just excelling in one area, focus on diversifying that portfolio and saying, you know what? I'm going to be that person that brings so much to the table in every area. I'm going to be that person that represents so many good things that it doesn't matter if one person excels in one category, they can never compete with all of the things that I am as an entirety. And you know what? If someone still leaves me at that point when I'm being all of those things, that really means that I can let them walk away with a good heart knowing that

this person wasn't the person for me and that someone else was genuinely better for them. And at that point, my friends, I don't think it's about jealousy. I think it's about logistics and two people that genuinely work together. So with that, I say go enjoy your relationships, forget the jealousy, and focus on the package you bring to the table. Thank you for listening. Now, I didn't forget. At the beginning of the show,

I promised you a special gift. To get your free nine-text guide filled with copy and paste scripts that you can use on any guy, just go to lovelifepodcast.com forward slash texts. you you you you you you you you you you you you