Love Life with Matthew Hussey - How to “Work It” With Your Work Crush

Episode Date: February 15, 2016

Uh oh… you have a crush on a guy from work.   This could get tricky… Should you try to ignore your feelings and keep it professional?  Hope he makes the first move?  Make a pass at him in the elevator?  My answer is “none of the above.”  In today’s episode, I’m going to give you some practical, risk-free tips for you to test the waters and see if he’s ready to move out of the “work zone” and into the “flirt zone.”

Matthew Hussey here with Love Life. Quick question for you. Do you know the nine words that you can text a man that will make you completely irresistible to him? No, I'm not talking about sexting. This is much more intelligent because it allows you to keep your standard and drive him crazy with desire at the same time.

Think you can guess what it is? I'll come back to this at the end of the show today, so make sure not to miss a minute. Hello, everyone. This is Matthew Hussey from Love Life. Okay, so we've been getting a lot of fan questions here at Love Life. We are going to take one right now. So let's get this person on the line.

Hello. Hi, who's this? Hi, my name's Sarah. I'm a huge fan. Hi, Sarah. How are you? I'm great. Really excited to be talking to you today.

I'm very excited too. What was the question you had? Okay. So I met a guy through work and we had a business lunch meeting and now I have a crush on him. And I'd love to see him again. So do I have to wait for him to make the first move?

And how do I get it out of the work zone and into the dating zone? Okay, so presumably you have his number. Yes. Okay, so you have his number. Have you been texting him since you met up? I texted him and said, thanks so much for lunch. I had a great time. And that was kind of it okay do you think there's anything you could have done differently at that point um well i did say um hopefully we could hang again soon

and then he texted back yeah that would be great so now i don't know what to do i feel like do i make the next move or do i wait for him to make the next move? Okay. So firstly, one of the great things about texting is it takes all of the pressure off. I wouldn't advise jumping straight in and being like, you know, let's get together today or something like that. Because it would be nice for you to have a bit of banter by text to see where you lie with him. You know, is he into you? Is he in a flirtatious mode with you?

Could he be in a flirtatious mode with you? Those are things that you're going to find out by texting him a little more. And you never know. He might be keeping it professional right now because he doesn't know if he can take it in that direction either. So inevitably, one person has to test the waters a little bit. You can do one of a couple of things. If you want to invite him out, but have it be slightly more casual, wait for a moment until you're out with a bunch of friends or colleagues and ask if he wants to join. Oh, that's such a good idea.

Yeah. So that gives him a chance to actually come and join you in a really casual environment. If you don't want to do that just yet, but you want to test the waters and see if it could be slightly more flirtatious, what I would do is start texting him, and you could text him something that you've been talking about in the meeting. If there was something funny that happened in the meeting and something that happened to you today reminded you of that, you could text him and say, oh my God, I just saw that thing we were talking about, how crazy.

Whatever it is, you can re-engage using that thing that happened then whatever the ongoing joke is but what you can then yeah and then you can after that start to be a little more flirtatious one way you can do it and this is a great technique and i'll tell you why after i've said it is you can text him and you can use this for any business meeting by the way or any professional setting you can say shame I didn't meet you in another setting you're cute oh my gosh that's such a good line and it's a casual and fun it's casual and fun what it also is is it's a way for you to say that it's almost a way of disqualifying someone and as soon as you disqualify a guy in this way, it makes him want to work for you. So when you say it's a shame we didn't meet in

another setting, you're kind of saying no to him, but you're saying you think he's cute. So this is now creating this weird challenge in his mind where he's going, well, I know she likes me, but we're not supposed to. And of course, as soon as a guy feels like there's something he's not supposed to do, immediately that's the thing he wants to do. So that technique is going to really work. You can also say something like, see, why is it you always meet the cute ones over business and not socially? What a nightmare.

I love that line. I love that line. I'm writing that down. So that's a great way to test the waters. If he comes back to you with something really lame and boring and and cold then you can go okay he's not taking that that bait for flirtation but it gives it opens up the avenues for him to do it and feel comfortable with it too and i think you'll find he'll take the bait oh my gosh that's amazing best advice thank you so much of course so have you guessed what those nine words are that will make you irresistible to men

no well i've included that and eight other equally effective scripts in a free guide i've created for you called nine magic texts no man can resist the text i was talking about at the top of the show is number two of nine just copy and paste it or any of the nine texts tonight, and he'll be eating out of the palm of your hand. To get your free guide, just go to lovelifepodcast.com forward slash Texas.