Love Life with Matthew Hussey - How Your “Baggage” Can Make You MORE Attractive

Episode Date: December 2, 2015

I’m Matthew Hussey and – by popular demand – I’m so excited to be launching my new podcast, “LOVE Life.”  In this first episode, I’m going to tell you a little bit about how I became the world’s leading dating expert for women and what you can expect to get out of the show. (Here’s a hint—even though the show is called “LOVE Life,” you’re going to learn about much more than just dating…you’re going to get some proven, practical advice you can use right away to get the most out of every other area of your life.)  We’re also going to get into a topic that all women can relate to – “emotional baggage.” I’m going to show you a simple trick to reframe your thinking that will actually make you MORE attractive to men based on your past experiences.

I'm Matthew Hussey. Welcome to Love Life, which is now by popular demand a podcast on iTunes. I couldn't be more excited to deliver on something that women in my community have been asking for for years and to reach a whole new audience of women who want to live their best lives, whether that means an amazing relationship, a satisfying social life, the career of their dreams, or all of these things and more. Now, before I give you some helpful advice you can use right now, I need to ask you a favor. Under my podcast picture on iTunes, I want you to hit the subscribe button. This will make sure that you and I stay connected and that you'll get each new show as soon as it's released. Did you click subscribe? Great. Let's start the show. Hi, everyone. This is Matthew

Hussey from Love Life, my new radio show, which I'm extremely proud of. A little intro to me, because I think anytime we listen to anyone in life, we have to actually believe that the person we're listening to has some aspect of credibility or that we would actually want to listen to them in one way or another. I think we live in a world today populated by mentors who have no idea what they're talking about and haven't even got the results that they're asking the people they speak to to get themselves. So I want to go through very quickly my background so that you know a little

about me and you can decide for yourself whether you even want to bother listening to me. My background is as a mentor and a coach to people. I started out, believe it or not, at a very young age at 17, working with people on their confidence. And as I started to work with people one-to-one on their confidence particularly men what started to happen was these men would come back to me and they'd say you know what I really enjoyed what you talked to me about my business but I need help in my love life they'd start talking to me about the women in their life we guys know that so often our confidence is tied to our abilities with women and although back then I didn't know all that much about women, I did know how to put on a certain level of confidence and make it look like I was confident.

And at the time, that's really what I was helping other people do. After a huge number of those clients, I started to run seminars for guys. And two years on, I'd coached 10,000 guys in their love lives. Women started coming to me at this point saying, well, can you do the same thing for us? We know that you're hooking all these guys up, but we want to find people too. And I was honest with them. I said, well, you know what? Guys are simple to me. I can help guys.

I know how to make guys look more attractive. I said, but women, I don't fully understand you yet. I don't know all of your issues. And they said, it doesn't matter. We want to know about the guys. We don't care about learning more about us. We can learn that in a magazine every week on some pseudo psychological article. So I started working with women to help them understand guys better from all of the knowledge that I'd got from guys. And by the end of a two year period,

I'd coached a huge number of women. I started a company called Get The Guy, which now helps women all over the world. To date, we've helped 50,000 women in my live events. We've helped over 3 million women online. It's turned into a bit of a sensation. And I now work with people not just in their love lives, but on their businesses, on their personal lives, and just about every issue you can think of when it comes to personal change. So I've been privileged to be able to have my own TV show and to travel the world doing my events, write a New York bestselling book. But the truth is what I've always loved and what I always come back to is just working with people

and communicating. And for me, one of the most exciting ways to do that is the way I'm doing it with you right now. You know, you can listen to this in your car, you can listen to this on your device, you can listen to this anywhere you are. And I'm really it with you right now. You know, you can listen to this in your car. You can listen to this on your device. You can listen to this anywhere you are. And I'm really excited about that because for me, TV becomes something that gets overly fake and produced. And we never know what we're watching. But this is just me and you. I get to talk to you and work with you on certain things that you're going through in your life.

You're going to hear me talk very candidly about certain things that I agree with or don't agree with in life. And most importantly, hopefully we'll come to some truths together. Not because I'm so wise and talented. That's far from it. The truth is I've just worked with enough people that I'd have to be an idiot to not know by now some of the patterns in the way people operate. And I'm really excited to share those with you. Okay, today's topic. We're talking about baggage.

We all know that baggage is something that holds us down. It stops us from actually moving forward. And today I want to work with you to get rid of that baggage once and for all. We all have our own insecurities and the fact is none of us grow up without them. We all have something. The key is to accept the parts of ourselves we know we can't change, but figure out how do we play our hand in a really masterful way. And what I'd like to do today is actually give you an example of how we do this, how you reframe something that seems negative

into something that actually is really positive in a certain set of circumstances. Now, I've spent the last five years coaching 50,000 women in live events on how to go out and find great guys. Well, we had this one woman who came to my seminar who was a single mom. She went out and instead of doing her normal thing where she says, look, I just want to let you know that I have kids, which of course, as soon as you say that, you make it like you have a disease. And I just want to let you know, before we have sex, I have a terrible thing. That's going to hurt you forever. Um, no, don't frame it like that. Don't, if you frame it as baggage, it's baggage to him. And why this woman did, she went out one night and instead of doing this, she said to a guy, you have the cutest dimples on your cheeks. You have them. They're

not as cute as my daughters, but they are so cute. And of course, what it did is it didn't make it baggage. It made it something she was completely comfortable with. And that guy started dating her immediately after the program. So that, my friends, is how we take something that either us or everyone else sees as a negative and turn it into something that's actually incredibly empowering. Enjoy playing the hand you were dealt, my friends, and I will see you soon. If you want more information, go to howtogettheguide.com. I will see you there to answer your comments and questions. Thank you for listening. And if you liked what you heard today, be sure to leave a five-star review and comment on iTunes,

which will help me reach more women out there just like you who deserve the life they've always wanted. In the iTunes app or on your desktop, just look up the show, click on ratings and reviews, and then click write a review. Thank you. I appreciate the support more than you know, and I'll catch you next time.