Love Life with Matthew Hussey - Is Passion Overrated?

Episode Date: January 13, 2017

“There’s so much PASSION with this new guy I’m dating! We can’t keep our hands off of each other!” “I just want a job I can feel PASSIONATE about…” People throw around the “P” word every day, and it certainly sounds like something to strive for. After all, you should feel strongly about the important things in life, right? Well, in this episode of LOVE Life, I share my opinion on the topic of passion. It’s slightly controversial, but I think you’ll agree with me when you understand my reasoning behind it. So let everyone else chase the “sugar rush” of passion. Meanwhile, you can pursue something worthwhile that actually lasts.

Welcome to Love Life, I'm Matthew Hussey and I am really excited about today's show. But before we jump into it, I want to ask you a question. Have you ever been texting with a guy, maybe you've been on a few dates, when suddenly his texts stop cold? One minute you're flirting back and forth late into the night and the next minute he disappears into thin air. It's not your fault, guys do this all the time. The question is, what can you do

about it? Well, I can tell you exactly what to say to reignite his interest after he's gone cold. Stay with me until the end of the show and I will tell you. I have something I want to talk about and I'm going to deal with one thing in this episode, but it's something I'm going to bring up again a few times, because I think there are so many qualities in people that are overrated. I also think there are a lot of qualities in people that are underrated. Today, I want to talk about an overrated quality. Now, bear with me, because when you first hear this, I think you're going to disagree with me, but by the end of this, you're definitely going to agree with me. So, is passion overrated? I'm actually going to disagree with me, but by the end of this, you're definitely going to agree with me. So is passion overrated? I'm actually going to specify here that I'm talking about initial

passion. People tend to lord passion as this amazing quality. You know, people talk about job interviews. When you go for a job interview, you should be passionate, be passionate, be passionate. Be that person who goes in and is excited about the job and excited about the company. Be passionate. Or at the start of a relationship, it's all about passion. Oh my God, there's so much passion between us. We feel so amazing together. We have this passionate relationship. We have this passionate sex. We spend passionate time together. is the number one giveaway of the dabbler. Passion is the number one giveaway of the person who is fad based, who jumps from one thing to the next. You know, I've had a company now for a few years and I know that anyone who comes to me for a job, back when I used to interview people, my initial thing that I was looking for was passion. You know, how excited is this person about working for us? And I realized how much I

overrated that as a quality, because the truth is the same person that was really passionate on day one by day 30 could be coming back to me saying, you know what? I know I told you I'd give you all my hours and I'd work every hour God sent. And I'm so passionate about this. I'm going to make it my life. But I found something that I really need to do for myself right now. And I'm so passionate about it. And I really need to pursue that. In other words, the person that comes to you with a level of unwarranted passion in the beginning is the person that can feel it about something else two minutes later. So we have to be very careful how much we rate passion. It's more rare to find someone who can finish something than it is to find someone who can start something. Anyone is to find someone who can start something.

Anyone can get excited about the beginning of something. That's when things are inherently exciting. That's when they've got this fad novelty nature. But finding someone who can finish something, that's really different. Real passion isn't about a sugar rush. It's about an enduring love that you both benefit from and suffer for. Because we know when we really love something, we suffer for it. And my message to everyone out there, whether you're employing someone, whether you're starting a relationship with someone, find people who are measured in what they say, not just extremely passionate about it. When you find someone who's measured about what they say

and measures out their passion and shows you through their actions, not their words, you'll find someone you can trust. So my conclusion is passion ain't overrated, but initial passion massively is. Okay, at the beginning of the show, I promised you that I would tell you what you could say to reignite a man's interest after he's pulled away. I've actually put together an entire free guide for you called Nine Magic Texts No Man Can Resist. Just copy and paste any of the nine texts

and you'll instantly be right back in the forefront of his mind. So ask yourself first, is this guy worthy of me? And if the answer is yes, try one of these texts out and let me know what happens. To get your free guide, just go to lovelifepodcast.com forward slash texts.