Love Life with Matthew Hussey - It Should Take Exactly THIS Long to Get Over Your Ex

Episode Date: January 18, 2017

Ok, here’s the formula to calculate the time it should take to get over your breakup: Grab a pen. I’ll wait…OK, now add the number of months you were together, and divide it by the number of fights you had about getting married and then… Come on, you know as well as I do that there’s no magic number when it comes to grieving the loss of your ex. But there IS a secret to lessening the pain and moving on to an exciting new beginning. In today’s episode, I tell you how.

This is Love Life and I'm your host, Matthew Hussey. It's so exciting to hear feedback from women who say things like, Matt, I tried the advice from your podcast and I met someone incredible that same night. But occasionally, I'll hear something like, when something finally starts to go right in my life, I have trouble trusting that it's real and I just can't enjoy it. If you can relate, I want you to stay tuned until the end of today's show because there's something really exciting I

want to share with you that has the power to change your way of thinking forever. But first, let's get to the episode. Today, we're going to be talking about an interesting subject of exes and more specifically, how long does it actually take to get over an ex? And it's really difficult, especially when, you know, I almost think the pain of a breakup is it's like that especially when you've come down with something bad and you're laying in bed day after day after day, you forget what it felt like to just feel normal. You don't sit there thinking, God, I just wish I felt a million dollars tomorrow. What you think is, I just want to feel normal again. And I think the same happens in a breakup.

You know, sometimes we go through that. And I think it same happens in a breakup. You know, sometimes we go through that and I think it is a grieving period. We go through that grieving period for so long that we start to wonder, God, when can I just feel normal again? I don't need to feel amazing. I just want to feel normal. And I say grieving because truthfully, in most cases, the breakup is the death of something. I kind of like to use this word grieving because I think in a way this situation can be almost, it sounds morbid, but can be compared to death. The interesting part about that is the socially acceptable amount of time to grieve someone is different in different cultures. There are parts of the world where people go to a funeral all dressed in black and everyone mourns and cries and walks away and goes through a period of real mourning for that person. There are other parts of the world, other cultures, other religions, where they don't actually give the event the same significance in terms of mourning. You can go to Bali and

when there's a death, people celebrate. They don't wear dark colors. They wear bright colors. They wear colors. They they get excited they dance they sing they celebrate because this moment has been given a different type of significance a different meaning and we all know it's the same in a relationship it's completely subjective at the end of a relationship you could decide well i'm gonna mourn right now because this is a terrible thing i've lost my soulmate or you can change the meaning of it to say this is a terrible thing, I've lost my soulmate. Or you can change the meaning of it to say, this is a celebration. And that's the difference. If you can give it a different meaning like that,

the grieving period is nowhere near the same. I always say to people, there's a difference between believing you've lost your soulmate and being disappointed that the person wasn't your soulmate. The big difference is one of those will keep you miserable for a lifetime. You think you've lost your soulmate, you'll be miserable forever. If you think that you're disappointed it wasn't your soulmate the big difference is one of those will keep you miserable for a lifetime you think you've lost your soulmate you'll be miserable forever if you think that you're disappointed it wasn't your soulmate you're going to be miserable for a little while until you actually find someone new so the key my friends the key to overcoming the amount of time it takes which is subjective it can be a day it could be a month it could be a year it it's up to you, is to decide what meaning you want to give that situation.

What is that breakup going to mean to you? Is it the end or is it a new beginning? Is it something that's sad? Is it a parting of ways or is it something exciting because it means a new adventure for you now? That's it for me today, my friends. This is Love Life with Matthew Hussey. I hope you enjoyed this episode. By the way, I would love to engage with you in other ways. Make sure that you're following me on Twitter. It's at Matthew Hussey. You can also follow me on Facebook at the same name and feel free to come to my website for more information.

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