Love Life with Matthew Hussey - (Matt Monday): Surviving Heartbreak

Episode Date: September 25, 2023

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🎵 Hey everybody, Matthew here. Welcome back to the Love Life Podcast. Something a little different today. This was from a recent video that we put out on YouTube and it really is designed to be something a little more experiential for anyone who is going through heartbreak right now. I encourage you to go and watch the video on our YouTube channel. But listening to the audio can be something that you can just repeat over and over again when you feel like you need to draw on some strength and make those incremental shifts to feeling better when you're heartbroken. So take a couple of minutes now and come back to this as often as you need to. Who you've been in the past does not define who you are today. You woke up the hero of

your life today. Who you've been in your past does not define what you can do today. You didn't follow through in the past? Who cares? That was in the past. You have new information now. You're evolved now. You're a new person now. You can make different decisions.

Anytime you go through something difficult, a piece of you dies. But you come through and then a bigger you comes back. We have to get out of our minds this idea that who we are is this static thing. At some stage you did new things didn't you? At some stage you did something new that taught you something new about yourself or you overcame something or you handled stress that you never had handled before. You handled grief that you'd never handled before. You dealt with a difficult situation or you dealt with a heartbreak you never thought you'd survive. You did something. You've been through things that have changed you. We're afraid of the old us dying. We're afraid of letting go of that because this new person,

this new woman that's going to come back, that what she's capable of might scare me. That might mean doing some new things. That might mean change. So it's easier to stay where I am. It's easier to hold on to the old me. If we want to get to the next level of our personality, of what we can become, someone who is the hero of our life someone who goes after what you really want someone who stops caring so much what other people think stops living life by what other people think we have to start upping the stakes so the only sustainable way to be a certain way is to go out there and say,

this is who I want to be. That's why I'm doing it because I can't get to 90 years old and look back and know that I didn't spend my life being this person. I'm not kind because I want kind. I'm not sociable because I want a boyfriend. I'm not generous so that people will think highly of me. I do these things because this is who I want to be because this is the person I'm not generous so that people will think highly of me. I do these things because this is who I want to be because this is the person I'm going to be proud of in my lifetime. Thank you so much for listening to this episode.

If you've been through something difficult, but you are striving each day to create a new start for yourself. I commend you. Know that we are with you and that we are sending you love. And if you want to create that fresh start with us, I'm actually going to be in Florida for our yearly live retreat in just a couple of weeks on the 9th of October. If you want to join us, there is still time, but not much. Come over to mhretreat.com.

And if I don't see you there, I'll speak to you in the next podcast. Thank you.