Love Life with Matthew Hussey - (Rewind): 3 Flirting Tips That Actually Work

Episode Date: August 22, 2025

So, I want to know what flirting means to you. Does it mean seductively glancing over the bar whilst caressing a cocktail glass? Does it mean subtly leaning over so that he smells your perfume? Or does it mean asking him where the bathroom is, sheepishly turning away, and then walking off to the other side of the room and hoping he just “gets” that you like him? I’ve noticed that when it comes to flirting: everyone has a different idea of what it is in their head. And too many people make it so complicated. So I want to give you the 3 crucial, foolproof flirting tips that any women can use to get a guy’s attention. If you’re out of practice, this is where to start... --  ►►  Grab your in-person or virtual ticket to the Weekend Retreat: MHRetreat.com   ►► Join the Love Life Club: JoinLoveLife.com

We're terrified that we're going to come over and misread that look and that you are going to annihilate us in front of your friends and we're going to have to do the walk of shame back to where we came from. Every day people walk past each other in the street. He's single, she's single, both think the other one is attractive, and then they walk straight past each other and neither does anything about it. I had a woman recently at my event in Chicago. She told me that she keeps meeting guys online and that they don't turn into dates and she ends up incessantly in a texting conversation with them. And I said, well, why don't you get out there in the real world?

Why don't you meet people there? And she seized up a little, because for most people, the eye of actually meeting people in real life is scary. But it doesn't have to be so scary if we don't take ourselves as seriously, if we stop censoring ourselves, and if we actually get a little more free and easy with the interactions we have.

So to get out of this paralysis of playing it safe and not flirting with people, I'm going to give you three simple things you can do to flirt more with the guys you like. Let's begin. Number one, look more. look more. I know what women do. They go out, they look at a guy once. Then they look back at their friends and they say, okay, he knows. Ladies, I'll let you in on a little secret. We don't

know. We have no idea. We're terrified that we're going to come over and misread that look and that you are going to annihilate us in front of your friends and we're going to have to do the walk of shame back to where we came from. We need more than one look. So as a general rule, I want you to look four times more than you think you need to. Strategy number two, mouth the word. Whether you're walking past someone or you're standing next to them in a line and you catch their eye for the first time, you doing more than making eye contact and actually mouthing the word high. It doesn't even have to be audible. In fact, it might even be more cute if it's not audible, but that moment shows that you're sweet and warm and kind and inviting

and like the first example, just gives a guy that extra license to start talking to you. Number three, when you have a date with someone, express that you're looking forward to seeing them. Be honest about that. So on the day of the date, if it's a first date, text him and say, I'm looking forward to meeting you tonight. Or if it's your second or third date and you have a bit more of a bond or a connection by now, text him and say, not going to lie, I'm excited to see you tonight. Those moments of not only flirtation, but warmth and sweetness, are something that elevate your character. Because he now realizes he's going on a date with an authentic person, not someone who's trying to play hard to get, not someone

who's a game player. And by the way, playing games just invites other game players. But he sees now that he's with someone who's willing to just express themselves honestly. I actually think that's what all three of these little secrets do. The multiple eye contact, it's mouthing high to somebody, expressing the excitement that you have about seeing someone. They're all actually a form of greater authenticity. This to me is what kids are like. Kids don't get in their head about things all the time. You see kids when their first day of school, they look at each other and they're like, you want to be friends and the other person like, yeah, I remember my best friend. My best friend in life literally,

when we were eight years old, we looked at each other and this guy came over and he said, are you two friends? And we looked at each other. We'd never spoken and we went, yeah. And that was how our friendship started. Kids are playful. They don't censor themselves all the time. So let's make a deal today. I want you to get out there and return to that childlike state of playfulness, not censoring yourself and start to actually flirt more without judging yourself for the things that you say and do. thanks for listening everybody and before you leave if you are struggling with commitment right now because you feel like no one wants to commit or worse no one wants to commit to you and you always feel like the person before the person they end up with i have something for you it is called from

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