Love Life with Matthew Hussey - (Rewind): 6 Texts That Lead to Real Dates

Episode Date: December 6, 2024

It’s happened to the best of us. The flirty text banter that used to cause a surge of adrenaline has become pedestrian. And pretty soon “How was your day?” becomes “How was your week?” Or perhaps they initiate a text conversation and tell you what they’re up to, but never actually ask you out. Fortunately, all it takes is one small shift to turn it all around. If you’ve lost momentum with someone, feel your momentum is headed in the wrong direction, or just want to improve your communication, this week’s video is a must-watch. I give you 6 specific text messages you can use or adapt to transform your current situation. The great news is that you only need to try one of these 6 texts to change your dynamic right now. Be sure to let me know which one you try first in the comments! --- ►► Ask Matthew AI Your Biggest Dating Question for Free Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► FREE Video Training: “Dating With Results” → http://www.DatingWithResults.com

Have a great week says, I'll talk to you next week. Have a great meeting says, we'll talk later today. There's something personal about that. There's something that recognizes what they're doing right now. Hey everyone, this episode is a rewind episode, one from the archives. I think you're going to enjoy it. Let me know what you think. Send me an email afterwards, podcast at matthewhussey.com and now onto the episode. There's a particular problem people are having in dating today. It's been going on for quite

some time and it's the problem of things never really going anywhere. You start talking to someone on a dating app, you start texting them, but you either get no momentum with them or it plateaus at a certain point and doesn't go anywhere after that, or the momentum completely dies. Now, I know you guys like it when I bring you something practical, something you can use today. So I'm going to give you six specific text messages that you can use, or you can just take the principle behind them and craft something of your own that utilizes that principle. Because what this is all about is getting momentum. Number one, add a human detail to your text messages.

It's one thing for someone to say, how's your day going? And you say, it's going well, thanks. How's yours? It's another thing to say, it's going well. I'm about to go on a run. That gives someone a detail, something they can craft a conversation out of. Or you could go one step further and say, it's going well, thanks. I'm about to go on a run. I'm dragging my little brother with me. That now gives them a human detail on top of it. Something that paints a more three-dimensional picture of you. In a world that is 2D, we have to make ourselves three-dimensional. Number two, I'm calling this principle shorten the time frame. If you're talking to someone on a Monday and they happen to be leaving the conversation to go into a meeting, don't finish

that little chapter of the conversation by saying, have a great week. Say, have a great meeting. Have a great meeting is an interesting phrase. Or if you say, have a great workout or have a great whatever they're doing right now, because it's something you send to someone you actually know. You may have only met this person yesterday, but when you say have a great meeting, there's something familiar about that. There's something personal about that. There's something that recognizes what they're doing right now. And it also makes it easier to pick up the conversation by them telling you how the meeting went or by you asking, how did the meeting go? Have a great week, says I'll talk to you next week. Have a great meeting, says we'll talk later today.

Number three, create a shared reference together. If someone tells you something like their favorite TV show is Ted Lasso. In a matter of minutes, your relationship dilemma will be in the past. Then the next time you have a moment of banter, fun conversation, find a gif that fits what you're talking about from Ted Lasso. That's a joke. I love it. That then creates this moment of, A, I know you a little bit. B, I was listening. And C, we now have a shared reference together,

something that builds our story. Side note, when you send a GIF or GIF, Harry, it's a form of pattern break in a conversation. So it's been text, text, text, text, text, and then this GIF, Harry, it's a form of pattern break in a conversation. So it's been text, text, text, text, text, and then this GIF comes through. And it's just like this little moment of animation. It doesn't have to be a GIF. You could be a voice note. It could be a picture. But when you do something like that, it's a pattern break that grabs someone's attention. The intrigue compliment.

Give someone a compliment that's specific, but begin it with this phrase. Do you know what I like about you? First, you're signaling that something interesting is coming. How do I know it's interesting? Because it's about them. And that's the most interesting subject in the world to that person, right? So do you know what I like about you? Pause, right? You can even not put it in that message. Just put one message. You could do this in conversation too and just take a beat. But in text, you say, do you know what I like about you? And then you can wait for them to respond. Or just take a few seconds or a minute and then send the next part. That creates this moment of suspense, intrigue,

curiosity, and it then allows you to give a specific compliment that shows not only a generous nature, but it also shows confidence because you're confident enough to actually embrace and speak out loud about something specific you like about another person. Number six, the accelerator text. The idea behind this message is just to keep things moving. We have to have an unwillingness to stand still, an unwillingness to be in a situation where there is no momentum. And that means if you keep getting texts from someone that don't go anywhere, someone keeps sending you superficial details of their day or what they're up to, asking how you are, but it never culminates in a date.

You have to have a low tolerance for things that don't go anywhere. So, I mean, we had this example, Stephen, who's in the back. Hey, Steve. We had this example a week ago where someone said, this guy, he'll literally text me and he'll tell me he's making soup, but he never asks me on a date, but he's the one who proactively texts me. So here's what you do. You ask him what soup he's making soup, but he never asks me on a date, but he's the one who proactively texts me. So here's what you do. You ask him what soup he's making. He says, chicken soup. You then say, you know, it's even more fun than chicken soup, chicken soup on a date. And you see what he says to that. That's you calling him out for the fact that he hasn't asked you on a date is give is firmly putting the ball in his court

and saying, your turn. That may be playful. It's not aggressive, but it shows an unwillingness to ignore the fact that right now, this isn't progressing. for listening, everybody. Before you go, if you haven't already watched my masterclass, my free masterclass, Dating With Results, go check it out. It is a one-hour free training, my most popular free training of all time. Over a million people have now been through this. That's literally over a million people have now been through this. And if you haven't seen it it is packed with advice on how you can start

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