Love Life with Matthew Hussey - (Rewind): Being Single Does NOT Mean You're A Failure

Episode Date: April 8, 2022

Sick of being asked "why are you still single?" Tired of society deciding people are more successful just because they are in a relationship? Me too.  Here's why you should never judge anyone or yourself by their relationship status, and what really matters when thinking about your current stage of life. --- Let's Create Magic in Your Life, Together. Join Me In-Person for the Return of The Matthew Hussey Retreat → http://www.MHRetreat.com --- FREE download: “9 Texts No Man Can Resist” http://www.9texts.com FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You” http://www.SayThisToHim.com --- Email us! You can get in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts at [e-mail]

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Being single, oh, you're still single? It's just not... It's just not an interesting comment to me some of the most interesting people I know are still single some of the most amazing people I know are still single and maybe they'll meet someone at some point and well you know then when they're with someone you know you create a story around that. Of course, they've found someone. They're amazing. But we don't think of the whole time that they were single and we could easily have gone, you're so amazing. How come you're still single?

I just don't get it. If someone like you could be single, I'm fucked. Right? Life is, you know, on that level, life is long. Like, I think life is ridiculously short, and I wish there was more of it, but on that level, we're going to live many lives, most of us. And Esther Perel, someone I love,

she said we're all going to have many different relationships, all of us. It's just some people are going to have it with the same person and other people are going to have it with different people. So even the people you know that are in relationships are constantly having new relationships because the relationship evolves every year. It changes. The people change. That's the one thing you can never take for granted in a relationship is someone's going to stay the same. They're not. So even within relationships that we might envy, those people change over the course of that relationship. It's not easy. It's not just

smooth sailing. Those things, they're always adjusting to a new norm. So we just have to lose this, you know, it can't be that you feel like a failure because you haven't found someone. That cannot be the case. The wins have to be more interesting than that. The wins have to be who you've become, what you're capable of adding as value to someone's life, the opportunities you create, the person, you becoming a person that would be incredibly valuable in a relationship, you recognizing what is valuable about you in a relationship

and giving that to people even when you're not in a relationship, whether it's friends, family, and so on. All of that, those are all interesting wins. Finding a partner, you know, that's amazing. But whenever someone comes to me and says, Matt, I found this amazing guy because of you. I love it. I love it. It brings me a lot of joy. But also, I'm like, I'm just as excited when someone says, I've become this amazing person because of your videos, but I haven't found anyone yet those two things are equivalent to me that one

that one doesn't win because that person found someone because the other person if they've done the work if they've got the growth out of it they could be two days away from meeting that person they could be three months away from meeting that person so what I'm gonna to judge, oh, almost there. Almost there. Just tell me when you've got the person. No, I don't get, I don't care. I don't care. I don't use that judgment for myself and you shouldn't use that judgment for you. Hey guys, Matthew here. I hope you enjoyed the episode. Listen, we're really putting a lot of effort into building this podcast right now so it can help more people. One of the things that you can do that would really help us do that is leave us a review and tell the rest of the world what

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