Love Life with Matthew Hussey - (Rewind): Don't Be Afraid Of Your Weirdness...

Episode Date: September 22, 2023

Many of us feel the pressure in life to be "normal". Especially in love where we may want to sand off our edges for dating apps and appear like everyone else. But I'm here to tell you... It's ok to be weird. In fact, it will probably be what makes you stand out and do interesting things in the world. Or maybe it's the secret to your creativity, your productivity, or what makes you charismatic. If you copy everyone else, you end up safe, watered down, generic. So if you struggle with the social pressure to conform, this is the episode for YOU! --- Follow Matt @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey --- ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in 6 Magical Days. Learn More About The Matthew Hussey Retreat at. . . . → http://www.MHRetreat.com

We underestimate how many different things have gone into making us who we are, and the special cocktail that that makes us. We are our own blend. Hey everyone, it's Matthew Hussey with the Love Life Podcast. I wanted to share this important idea with you today. I think you're really going to love it. So check it out and let me know what you think. I don't feel that enough people embrace being a bit weird. I think there are forces in society that are always trying to get you to conform to anything that's a bit out of the box, a bit strange about you. You do things a little differently. You don't really subscribe to that social custom. You're kind of made to feel either ashamed or like, oh, that's too weird. You

shouldn't do that. You should just do something conventionally the way everyone else does it. And I feel like people need to be nudged to be more weird. What do you think of that? I think everyone is weird already. I think the problem is we don't express it. I think it's not that people need to be nudged to be weird. It's that people need to be nudged to be vulnerable with their weirdness because they already are. Everyone's got their thing. Everyone's got like those little things they do when they're on their own or the things they think no one else does, or the things that they're a little quirky passions, things they geek out on. I just think that we, we're not very good at being vulnerable enough to show them to other people.

But I do think that that's where those are the little things that often people fall in love with is our, our little weird things. You know, a lot of the frustration people have, or, you know, the self-torturing, it's like, they're just not being courageous enough to embrace their unusual idiosyncrasies or talk about them in public or put them out on their content. When they like, if they put stuff on social media, they feel they have to conform, right? There's just all these like subtle forces trying to sand off your edges and make you be like oh i better just do stuff like everyone else does it because i'll be weird otherwise

and it's always feels like the unique people are more brave in their weirdness i just think that's your part of your unique value proposition is the fact that you are different from other people in certain ways. You're a unique blend of traits, a unique blend of interests, a unique, you know, people, I think we sometimes overstate how special and unique everybody is from each other, right? We're all 7 billion people on the earth. There's a lot of similar people, but we underestimate how many different things have gone into making us who we are and the special cocktail that makes us. We are our own blend. And whether it's in dating or in business, representing fully the aromas of your unique blend are very important because that's otherwise you are the same. How many personal trainers are there online?

How many? A lot, Steve. How many coaches are there online? How many? You know, I mean, you name it, your profession, there's a million of you online. What makes you different? I often think it's interesting when people talk to me about like, Matt, you know, I have many different passions. Which one should I go for? I'm like, well, firstly, whatever it is you go for, whatever thing you decide on to do with your time,

bring your other passions into that. That's the whole game, isn't it? It's figuring out what your, you know, Tim Ferriss was all, you know, originally it was all about figuring out what it looks like for you to live a lifestyle you want. And then once you've figured that out, don't try and keep doubling up from that point, create that lifestyle and then enjoy it. And I think you've figured that out, don't try and keep doubling up from that point, create that lifestyle and then enjoy it. And I think that it's the same as true of happiness is figure out what happiness actually means to you. Get very self-aware about it. What does happiness mean to me? And now let me put the blinkers on and, and get out of this mindset of constantly comparing my happiness to somebody else's and feeling strange that I don't seem to need that same thing that somebody else does, or that chasing that thing doesn't fulfill me. It's very, very important.

Yeah. Yeah. And that's where you have to like divert, right? You have to get out of copying people or thinking they want that car, so I want want that car or they want to spend money on this so i must want to spend money on this whatever um it's like know your things and then you can ignore the superfluous stuff that's the kind of your freedom you get is to ignore all the stuff that doesn't really matter to you and kind of double down on the things that you care about. Before you go, the MH Retreat is happening again this October, and we now have a date. It is from the 9th to the 15th. It's taking place in Fort Lauderdale, Florida. We normally have more tickets left by this stage.

There's less than normal. So if you know you want to come, if you want to do that deep work that is going to allow you to have a successful love life and be happy in yourself, you need to be there with us. Go to mhretreat.com to get your ticket and to find out all about the event. I really do hope to see you there in October so that we can spend six days together in person.