Love Life with Matthew Hussey - (Rewind): Don’t Settle For Less. Settle On What You Want

Episode Date: September 9, 2022

There's a huge difference between settling FOR something in life and settling ON something. When we "settle for" something, it's often the result of us lowering our standards. We accommodate bad behavior and accept less than what we truly desire because we don't think we're worthy of it. We think "this might be as good as it's going to get" whether in our love life, family, or career. But when we "settle on" something, we take control of it.  At this point, we're deciding that at the very least, this relationship or situation has the potential to meet enough of our criteria for true happiness.  We choose it and actively commit to making it great. What happens next is that we feel connected to it, and as a result, we enjoy the process of sculpting it (even if it's not perfect at first). In this clip taken from my latest Virtual Retreat, I explain why I'm a big believer in this concept and how it can change your relationship with life. And if you want to spend 3 days of immersive coaching with me, then I'd love for you to join me for the final Virtual Retreat of the year happening November 11-13. Here we'll get to work together to help you decide where in life you're "settling for" less than you truly want and where you want to "settle on" sculpting the best version of yourself, your relationships, your career, and your confidence. Just head over to MHVirtualRetreat.com to learn more. #DontSettleForLess

🎵 Hey everybody, it's Matthew Hussey with the Love Life Podcast. I am excited to share this clip with you today. Let's get into it. I don't believe in settling for, I believe in settling on. When you settle on something, you resign yourself to making that thing great. Now, we can't settle on anything in life. We can't settle on anyone in life. I certainly wouldn't be telling you to settle on someone who's abusive, and I certainly wouldn't be telling you to settle on someone with whom you have absolutely zero sexual chemistry.

Or with whom you have nothing in common. With whom you have completely opposing life outlooks. That aren't compatible. I don't believe that you can settle on any profession. In a company that has a culture of assholes. Or in work that is completely devoid of meaning to you. Or doesn't cater to a single aspect of your personality or strengths or what you might be interested in. But do I think you can settle on many more careers than you ever truly acknowledged? I absolutely do.

So the antidote to that feeling of, oh my God, there's not enough time and there's so much to do. And if I truly understand that there isn't time, then I have to start making real choices instead of just trying to mindlessly cram it all in. I need to start making real decisions. The good news, the antidote to that is that those decisions aren't the end of the world because when we settle on something, which by the way of the world because when we settle on something, which by the way can change, but when we settle on something, as long as that thing, and this is where I bring the retreat back to you,

as long as that thing has the potential to meet enough of our criteria, we can be happy sculpting that thing. But great relationships are sculpted and great careers are sculpted and they don't start perfect and the expectation that I'm supposed to walk into it and it's supposed to feel like that instantly in every way,

that's the part that makes us incredibly unhappy. That's the part that makes us endlessly search for a feeling instead of bringing a certain feeling, bringing a certain intensity to our lives. Hey everyone, before you leave this episode, don't forget we have the virtual retreat date set for November. It's the last one of the year. People are going to be joining from all over the world for three days of transformation. If you are ready to take charge of your life, to make the most of every second of your life and to feel the best you've ever felt, come join us by going to mhvirtualretreat.com.