Love Life with Matthew Hussey - (Rewind): How To Express Your Needs In Early Dating

Episode Date: August 26, 2022

In the early stages of dating someone we like and feel excited about, everyone is worried about coming across too keen and blowing it. This is a very human experience felt by men and women alike. And it is that very emotion that will have us mute our needs and desires as we go into overdrive to impress the other person. But as we know, people like what they value, and communicating our standards early on is a key part of attraction we often overlook. Expressing your needs in early dating can seem daunting, and in this conversation with my friend Lisa Bilyeu on her channel Women of Impact, we talk about how we can get brave and do exactly that. If you want to know how to have the conversation about getting exclusive with the person you're seeing, I've created a brand-new free guide centered around how to define the relationship. It includes a script you can make your own and a comprehensive step-by-step guide that breaks down exactly how to ask for the things you want in a high-value way. You can get it at LeaveLimbo.com . . . it's totally free and I can't wait to hear what you think. 

🎵 What's up everybody, it's Matthew with the Love Life podcast. So excited to have you here. I believe today's subject is really going to help you with your love life right now. Please let me know what you think over on iTunes. I read all of the reviews, they mean so much to me. And now, let's all of the reviews. They mean so much to me. And now let's get into the episode. Playfulness in the beginning is your friend. When you don't know someone very well, when you're just kind of testing the waters with each other, trying to figure out how much you like each other.

I'm not suggesting that after date one, you send someone a message saying, I didn't hear from you for three days. It made me kind of sad. I do think, however, if someone goes on a first date with you and five days later, they say, what are you up to this weekend? I do think you can be playful about it and be like, I'm, you know, doing this with my friends. I'm not sure about Sunday. By the way, PS, this message was three days late. You know, like playfulness is your friend at that stage. And because we're alluding to something serious, which is that in order for me to invest time in someone I need to know that they like me which is a serious point you don't have to be serious in your communication of that point and that's one of the things that when we lose our confidence we stop being playful when you're afraid I don't know if i want to say this because it might turn

them off i don't know if i want to say this because it might be too intense when we do that that's actually when we get intense we start overthinking everything and then when we overthink we go i'm just not going to say anything because i don't want to ruin it because we're having a nice time and i just don't want to screw it up but what's happening now is you're no longer communicating the things that indicate the kind of relationship you're actually looking for most people who are being intentional about wanting to meet someone they value consistency. Are you actually showing me that you like me? Are you actually making me feel safe in this situation? Or am I constantly second guessing whether you like me?

Before you go, I wanted to give you a free gift from me. If you go to 9texts.com, I have a free guide on texting waiting there for you, where I literally give you nine specific text messages that build attraction that you can send to anyone today you want to build tension with, create attraction, or just have more fun flirting with, check them out at 9texts.com and I will speak to you in the next episode of Love Life. Bye.