Love Life with Matthew Hussey - (Rewind): How To Love Ourselves Like It's Our Job (with Lindsey Sterling)

Episode Date: January 6, 2023

I truly loved this conversation my friend @lindseystirling . So often in life we’re told how important it is to love ourselves without any explanation of what that actually means or how to practically apply that advice. If you’ve ever found yourself struggling with this concept, one practical tool is to recognize how we love other really important people in our lives. Our parents, children, siblings, nieces, nephews, old friends . . . our love for them doesn't have anything to do with whether they have a good day or a bad day today. We love them because they’re ours, even though they can sometimes be difficult or don't always realize their potential. And that’s how we have to start viewing ourselves. We don’t need to find all of these amazing things about ourselves to start valuing ourselves more. We love ourselves because we’re ours. WE are the ones responsible for looking after us. Love yourself like it's your job; because it IS. --- Download your free guide on how to get back into dating after heartbreak. Go to 3SecretsToLove.com and get your copy.

🎵 Hey everybody, it's Matthew Hussey with the Love Life Podcast. I am excited to share this clip with you today. Let's get into it. One thing you say over and over again is, I think it's being a woman of high value or a man of high value like like living your life um knowing that your value is infinite and amazing and you're special and you know as Paris Hilton say walk as if you have a tiara on your head you know just like um I think that's a really important point to remember and and, you know, no one needs to start by trying to find all of these amazing things about themselves to start valuing themselves more. You know, one of the keys to self-love is actually to recognize how we come to love other really important people in our lives. If you imagine, you know, Lindsay, do you have siblings? I do.

And are you close? Yes, very close. When you think of your love for your siblings, is it anything to do with whether they have a good day or a bad day today? Yeah, you're right. No, not at all. It's just, you just love them because they're yours. You know, well, that's my brother.

That's my sister. You know, you just love them because they're yours and because, you know, it's like these are my people. And I think the same way when it comes to ourselves. We don't have to try to conjure up all of the impressive things about ourselves in order to love ourselves. And if you do, then it's actually dangerous. Because what if today you don't do any of those things that make you impressive? What if today you get a C in your life grade, you know, and you're going to now finish today and go, I'm worthless today because I wasn't impressive in all the ways that I have to justify loving myself by. Instead, what we have to say is I am responsible for me in the same way that if someone has a child, you're responsible for that child. We are the child we are responsible

for. And that child doesn't have to be impressive to, to, to get love from us. It's our, we have to love ourselves like it's our job because it is our job. I hope you enjoyed that episode, everybody. Don't forget to leave us a review on iTunes. I will be reading them. We read them out on the longer episodes of the podcast, so maybe yours will be read out and I will speak to you in the next episode. Thank you.