Love Life with Matthew Hussey - (Rewind): Text Him This ONE Word To Get His Attention

Episode Date: August 19, 2022

Is there someone in your life who keeps going hot and cold with the attention they're showing you? One minute they want to see you, and the next, you feel them pulling away... What's up with that? When someone you like disappears and then reappears, it's easy to drive yourself crazy trying to work out the BEST way to get their attention again. You think, "Do I ignore them to teach them a lesson? Do I play it cool and pretend it was no big deal? Or do I show them I'm hurt that they disappeared?" In this clip, I share with you an exact text message you can send them that will demonstrate your standards in a really attractive way. If you want more of these texts, head over to WhatToTextNext.com, where you can download my FREE guide that gives you my 'Relationship Reframe Text' and helps you move from casual text exchanges to real emotional connection.

🎵 Hey everybody, it's Matthew Hussey with the Love Life Podcast. I am excited to share this clip with you today. Let's get into it. The other day I was told a story by someone who had a guy coming in and out of her life constantly. And she got to a point where she was so sick of him showing investment and then disappearing that one day when he texted her asking her to go to dinner after having disappeared for weeks, she just messaged him back and said, Hey, listen, I like you, but this dynamic we have where we start things up and then things go away again and then we start them up again,

it's just become boring to me. Like it's no longer interesting. So if we're just gonna do the same thing again, let's not bother with this. When I heard that story, I thought that it's such a powerful word to use in that context. Because so often people get angry,

they get upset, they get hurt, and then they communicate all of that. And when we do that, in a way, we're still building up someone's ego. We're still showing them that they have a handle on our emotions. You know, you either come back and you get my excitement or you come back and you get my anger and my frustration. I'm still making you very important in my life, even though you haven't been investing and you shouldn't be important in my life. But when you tell someone this dynamic we have is just boring now, you're shooting down their ego. You're no longer validating that behavior. And so what happens is someone either disappears or they realize in order to attract you, they've got to start showing you a very different kind of investment. So either way you win, they disappear or you get better quality investment. Try it. The next time

someone comes back into your life, instead of rewarding it with either a positive excitement, which they haven't earned, or a negative energy, a negative emotion, which shows them that they're still too significant in your life, try simply telling them that what's going on between you is just boring. I hope you enjoyed that episode, everybody. Don't forget to leave us a review on iTunes. I will be reading them. We read them out on the longer episodes of the podcast, so maybe yours will be read out and I will speak to you in the next episode. Thank you so much for listening to the Love Life Podcast. We'll see you soon. you