Love Life with Matthew Hussey - (Rewind): Unrequited Love is Bulls**t!

Episode Date: September 30, 2022

Yeah, I said it. Have you ever been in love with someone who doesn't share your feelings You live in hope that one day they'll light up your phone with a text that says how much they can't live without you. Or, you fantasize that  they'll leave their partner and run back into your arms. They'll say what a fool they've been and how much they need you by their side. It's romantic, right? Nope. And this kind of "perpetual hope" can be so dangerous for your relationships that I feel I have to say something to anyone out there still waiting for a crush to change their mind. Before you give your heart to someone who doesn't deserve it today, listen to this episode. It could save years of your life. --- Email us! You can get in touch with the show and give your feedback at [e-mail] --- Join our Love.Life Club and become a VIP member where you'll get access to live coaching sessions and our community of thousands of amazing women. Go to ASKMH.com and sign up today. Download my FREE guide >> Go to MoveOnStrong.com

Hey Hey guys, it's Matthew. Welcome back to the Love Life podcast. We've been trying to mix it up lately and give you an assortment of different kinds of episodes, something that we think can help you that's a little more bite-sized. So check this one out. This one is from the archives. Also, don't forget, leave us a review on iTunes. We really appreciate it. All right. Enjoy the episode. that's masochism right there that's what it is it's this weird thing we do to ourselves unrequited love unrequited love like it's a romantic thing I love him

I love him I love him what's the problem he doesn't love me back what the fuck is wrong with you that's not love that's worship and we've become attached to this idea of unrequited love

because it somehow gives us a righteous cause to chasing someone who treats us like shit. I am ruthless with ditching people that don't give me energy. There are 7 billion people on this planet. I have zero time for flakes, for people that don't try very hard. I know so many women who they get a guy for an hour a week or they get a guy for an hour a week or they get a guy for one night a week and then they're like I just want to see him more.

But you don't understand we have an amazing connection. We're you know we're great together when we're together it's you know it's there's fireworks there's chemistry we have such a great time well that's a really dangerous thing to base investment off of. When I invest a little bit does he meet me there? Oh I'm attracted to you okay let me invest a little. Do does he meet me there? Oh, I'm attracted to you? Okay, let me invest a little. Do you invest back? Oh, you did? Okay, let me invest a little bit more. I don't think relationships are easy, but the part where you say, I want to see you, and he says, yeah, I want to see you,

that should be fucking easy. Relationships aren't always equal but they can't always be unequal in the same direction he says he has no time but I see him doing all of these fun things well guess what that's what he's choosing to do with his time let's see what happens aren't we having fun this is amazing isn't it is it magical for you too can is magical for me let's keep going no one can waste your time only you can waste your time I'm gonna allow you to put in that 5% of of amount of effort that allows you to get

5% of my trust then 10% of 15% and so on that's how any relationship is built you don't start with the trust you build the trust you need two people who actually are willing to construct a castle together and it takes effort and it takes investment and it takes two people who really want to do it and as you build the castle it becomes more and more beautiful it becomes more and more yours the weather starts to erode the stone in beautiful and unique ways that make that castle unlike any other castle in the world and a castle you can only get by finding a genuine builder you don't have a builder you just just have a connection. The right question is, where do I sit right now on his list of priorities? But there is a difference between

liking someone and respecting someone. And when you talk to guys, measure them based on their investment, not based on what you want them to be. The message is so important that it will save people decades of wrong decisions. women who are working on their confidence, not overthinking and just feeling amazing in their own skin, you can join that community. And it's a beautiful place to be by going to askmh.com and be part of my exclusive coaching experience. I'll see you there. you