Love Life with Matthew Hussey - (Rewind): What Their Confusing Text REALLY Means . . .

Episode Date: November 10, 2023

Have you ever been so frustrated by someone's mixed signals that you just decided to finally confront them and ask where you stand? It’s a scary moment. You feel like you’ve thrown your heart into the air, and you’re hoping they'll run to catch it instead of letting it fall and splat on the ground and make a huge mess. (I know, not the loveliest metaphor I’ve ever written…) And then… They reply. You hear their words. Read their text message: “Hey, I think you’re amazing and have such a great time with you. I really hope we can make things work and I’ll think about what you said.” Huh? If you’ve ever had an answer like this, in today’s video I’ll tell you exactly what this ambiguous language means so that you know how to confidently respond to their message... --- ►► Discover the 4 Secrets for Escaping Casual Dating Traps. Claim Your FREE PASS for My Dating With Results Training at. . . → http://www.DatingWithResults.com

He did the politician thing. He said, I hear you. You know, you, you're really giving me something to think about. What you're saying, I'm hearing. what's up everybody welcome back to the love life podcast we have a clip from the archives today that i think you're really going to enjoy check it out The following is based off of a real text exchange. Many of you know we have an entire membership program where people every month on webinars with me get to ask questions.

Well, I had one member who said that she had been seeing a guy for a few months who wouldn't make plans with her in advance. She finally got around to sending him this message. Hey, I like you and I feel we have a great chemistry, but I don't really have a clear understanding of your intentions. I'm not really sure where we stand in our relationship and I don't get the impression that you're open

to something more meaningful in the way that I am. Not bad, right? Here was his response. Hey, totally hear what you're saying. I'm sorry if I've been creating confusion in any way. Things are a little crazy at the moment. I'm figuring things out right now and I'm taking to heart what you said. Hope you had a great week and are enjoying your evening. Fair enough. Hey, seems reasonable. A well-lettered response? Except he didn't answer sh**. He did the politician thing. He said, I hear you. You know, you, you're really giving me something to think about. What you're saying, I'm hearing.

This is a wonderful exercise in maintaining confusion. Now, why would a guy create more confusion? Because if he gave her enough of an answer for her to say, you know what, screw this. I appreciate your honesty, but I can't do this anymore. Then he would lose the option altogether. That door wouldn't be open for him three weeks from now on Friday night when he wants to fire off a little message after his second beer. Beer number three, I love you. So instead, he gives her just enough ambiguity that he can leave the door open for himself.

Now she can go and obsess over what his answer means. The guy for you, the guy you want to be with, is not going to give you an answer that you have to obsess over and analyze and play detective with to get closure. He's not going to do that. Anyone who is certain about you is not going to want to leave you in any doubt about that. Why? Because he doesn't want to risk you going out on a date with Chad on Friday. He wants you to know he wants to take it somewhere. That ambiguity is all the certainty you need about what you should do next. So look, trying is trying is trying is trying is trying is trying is trying. You know trying when you see it. It takes the form of someone saying, hey, I want to see you again. Hey, I really like you. Hey, I'd like to

go out with you. I don't want us to see other people. Trying is trying. And when you get something that feels a little bit too confusing, it's probably because someone is avoiding telling you the thing that would shut the door on you completely, but doesn't want to invite you into their life in the way that you actually want. So remember, trying is trying is trying is trying. Before you go today, I have something for you if this year is the year you want to meet your person. It is a free training I did called Dating with Results that shows you how to avoid the early mistakes that people make in dating finally meet your person and get the safety and the commitment that you deserve with them go to dating with results to watch this free training

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