Love Life with Matthew Hussey - Take Advantage of Other People’s Time

Episode Date: August 17, 2016

We all need other people to help us achieve our goals in life. But the more successful our adviser, the more likely he or she is to be insanely busy! So how can we get on their radar… and even more challenging, their calendar? I’ve got a sneaky tip for you that may be just a tiny bit unfair but, hey – you gotta do what you gotta do to get ahead! Plus, it will make your mentor feel like they’ve done something good with their day too. In the end, it’s a win-win for everyone.

This is Love Life and I'm your host, Matthew Hussey. It's so exciting to hear feedback from women who say things like, Matt, I tried the advice from your podcast and I met someone incredible that same night. But occasionally, I'll hear something like, when something finally starts to go right in my life, I have trouble trusting that it's real and I just can't enjoy it. If you can relate, I want you to stay tuned until the end of today's show because there's something really exciting I

want to share with you that has the power to change your way of thinking forever. But first, let's get to the episode. I have an interesting and short little show for you today. And it is to do with achieving your goals when you need other people to help you. There are many times in life where we need someone else to either do us a favor or to give us a break, to give us an opportunity. And many people are wondering, well, how do I actually get on other people's radar? How do I make sure that other people do actually help me towards my goals? Most of us, our definition of trying to get someone else to help us or trying to get someone else on board is to send them one email and then to be hurt and dejected when they don't get back to us and then just leave it at

that and perhaps resolve not to do that again with anyone else. Well, the message for this video is going to sound a little harsh, but I'll qualify it afterwards. Take advantage of other people's lack of organization. Now, here's what I mean by this. Most people are not as organized as we think they are. I think a lot of us, we spend our time in life thinking we're the disorganized ones. We're the ones who don't have it together. And everyone else has their day mapped out. They know every single day what it is they want to achieve, what they want to make happen. And it's just not true. I think we give people too much credit for how organized they are. And we forget that actually a lot of people, even if they're busy in a day, it doesn't mean they're organized and it doesn't mean they've set their priorities for the day.

Now, this gives us a unique advantage in being able to draw their attention to things that matter to us, to things that can help us move forward. So when you ask someone for something or when you try and put yourself on someone else's radar with a phone call or an email, yes, they're busy, but they haven't always set their priorities. And I know that there are times in my life when someone has emailed me, and they may have already emailed me once, but maybe they emailed me a second or a third time. And because that particular day when they emailed me, I hadn't decided what my priorities were. In other words, I was just being busy, but not really productive on my own goals. When someone put what they wanted in front of me,

I just decided to do it because it was in front of me. I just said, oh, okay, I'm, you know, this is something I can be, make myself busy with. Let me just get on with this. So in other words, I made someone else's priority my urgent work to do because they put it in front of me at the right time. So the message here is simple. Instead of overestimating how organized everyone else is and how unable to get back to us they will be. Instead, remember the reality that most people, even successful people, haven't on that particular day clearly identified what their priorities are. If they had, by the way, it would probably be bad news for us because if they knew what all their priorities were and they'd really crystallize them, when they get that email or that phone call from us, they'd have a laser beam focus that said,

sorry, can't deal with this today. Got to focus on my priorities. Luckily, that's not the case. Most people have not set these priorities. So when we put what we want in front of them, we might just be their way of feeling like they got something done that day, which is good for them. But it's even better for us because we know that what we put in front of them really was a priority for us. So keep knocking on those doors. Don't give up by overestimating other people.

Instead, put what you want in front of them, not in an obnoxious way, but put what you want in front of them, and you just might find that you benefit from someone else's lack of organization today. I'll speak to you soon. Come join me on Facebook, facebook.com forward slash coach Matthew Hussey and keep listening to Love Life. Now, if you can't enjoy the good things that come into your life because you don't feel worthy, I have an incredible opportunity for you. I want you to apply for my Matthew Hussey retreat. On this powerful program, we'll go way beyond the tips I teach you in my podcasts, straight to the core of your deeper issues so that you can overcome them once and for all. I'll give you the tools to change the relationship you have with yourself,

so that you can finally achieve the core confidence you need to get the love, the success, and the happiness you deserve. Right now, there are extremely limited spots available on The Retreat, but one of them could be yours. To book your phone interview with one of my expert mentors, just go to lovelifepodcast.com forward slash retreat.