Love Life with Matthew Hussey - The Best Way to Prepare Yourself for “The One”

Episode Date: March 25, 2016

When you think back on your past romantic relationships, what do you feel?  Regret? Disappointment? Shame? You may be surprised to hear this, but dating lots of “Mr. Wrongs” is actually the best thing you can do to prepare yourself for your Mr. Right. I explain why in today’s episode of LOVE Life…

Welcome to Love Life, I'm Matthew Hussey. Now do you ever feel like you're stuck in a rut? We all do from time to time. The problem is just going through the motions cuts off our ability to grow and increase our happiness in life. Now what would happen if you actually began living each and every day with purpose? Let me tell you, it is possible to transform your life from ordinary to extraordinary, and it doesn't have to take months or years, but just a matter of days. Stick with me till the end of the show, and I'll tell you exactly how to do it.

Today, I'm talking about the subject of practice relationships, not a very popular concept, especially amongst the romantics in the world who are all about waiting for the one who are all about holding back, never going and engaging in anyone until they meet that one special person. And I actually think there's something very dangerous about the way people go about this. Now, the way I'm going to talk about this is possibly going to offend certain religious people and tread on some toes there. It's also going to tread on the toes possibly going to offend certain religious people and tread on some toes there. It's also going to tread on the toes of some of those people who aren't religious, but are real romantics in the way they go about meeting someone. But I want to put forward a case

here because I know that in my lifetime, the relationship that I'm in today is served by the relationships I was in yesterday. I know that the learning that I took from them, the heartbreak that I've had, the habits that I have formed from getting better at relationships have all taught me something. I also know that by being with different types of people, I know who I'm trying to be wary of. I know when I meet someone and they start showing me certain signs, I can recognize a bad pattern when I see it. We don't know those things when we're 17 or 18 because we're not ready for them. You know, when we're in our first relationship, we get caught out by everything. Why is it we

often get our hearts broken so badly the first time? It's because we didn't see it coming. And yet we also live in a world where a lot of parents dissuade their kids from being in relationships, even if they're little playful relationships or practice relationships, as I would call them. People, when they get into college, there's a lot of pressure to never be in a relationship. Hey, this is about playing the field, being silly, being yourself, doing whatever you want to do. This is about being free and fun. Don't get into a relationship right now. But the danger of that is that because they've not had a relationship, they get to a point where the first person they then meet, they just jump for, you know, they, they end up in a

long-term relationship with that person with no real instinct of what's right or wrong, whether the person is right or wrong or whether their behavior is right or wrong. Practice relationships teach us so much. The perfectionist attitude of always waiting, waiting, waiting, waiting, never engaging with anyone. And by the way, look, if you're in that religious group who says, I don't want to have sex till I'm married, that's fine. You can still fit my philosophy into that. You can still have practice relationships and keep to your morals and your rules for yourself, but having that experience and practice will serve you. The last thing you want to do is get to the person you want to spend your life with and not be able to bring your best to the table

because you never learned how. That's like me giving you your dream job today, the job you've always wanted, and you're not ready for it because you've had no practice runs. You've not done any job related to it. You've not actually engaged in that job before. You don't know what you're doing. And now you're in danger of losing your dream job because you really don't know what you're doing. You don't know how to engage in it. Experience can be a really wonderful thing. It's not something that makes us wrong. It's not something that is to look back on and be ashamed of or to be regretful of. Experience can be a wonderful, wonderful thing. And if you engage in it in the right way, it doesn't mean you have to be reckless and throw yourself into

every scenario, but if you engage in it in the right way and allow yourself to experience someone without being a perfectionist the whole time, then you're going to have so much more to bring to the table later on. And who knows, the person you're with may even surprise you and be someone that you think is really amazing because you gave them a shot. But the point is you allowed yourself the learning curve. And I think that's what life is all about. Experience, learning, growth. And guess what? You can only get those three things by living. So my friends, go out there, have a good time. Don't be too brutal on yourself and don't be too harsh on other people. See what's out there. And if nothing else, take that learning to the next person who is right for you. So earlier we were talking about being stuck in a rut. If you want to discover the secret to

living a life of purpose and experiencing a level of joy that most people don't even dare to dream about, I have an invitation for you. I want you to apply for my Matthew Hussey retreat. Now, I say apply because this is an exclusive program. There are a limited number of spots, and I handpick the women who I think are ready for this radical transformation. But I can promise you this, if you are accepted, I'll take you by the hand and lead you through a life-changing experience that will give you every tool you need to quickly achieve the things that you want most in life. To claim your spot for a phone interview with one of my expert mentors, just go to lovelifepodcast.com forward slash retreat.